New member, long time follower

[DBCooperParticipant 200]

Hello all. I finally joined after reading so much over the last two years. I just really wanted to say thanks to everybody.

My story is like a lot of men here. I was trapped in a 12 year marriage that was a living hell. We had one child, a dog, and a house. One day I searched the internet on how to deal with my “crazy” wife. Between this site and several others, I realized what I was married to. A borderline personality disordered woman. It took about a year for her to realize that I was on to her and I was not going to put up with her s~~~ anymore. That is when things came to a head.

Looking back I would have done a lot of things differently. One thing I am glad that I did do was that I recorded some of her rage. That would later help me. I also made backups to everything on my computer, including our quicken file. Thank goodness for that.

One night after drinking too many beers, she came at me. I am now certain that her goal that night was to get me to hit her. And unfortunately for me, she succeeded. I am not a violent person. I have never even hit a dude, much less a woman. But I think 12 years of putting up with her abuse finally took it’s toll. I finally told her that if she hit me again, that I would hit her back. She clawed my face. I hit her one time, and then realized that I just messed up. Cops were called, and fortunately I was not arrested or ever charged with a crime. My dad picked me up and I left.

The next day was the beginning of a year of hell. Returning to the house, she had taken all financial information, computers, titles, etc. I knew then and there it was not going to be pretty. On the advice of a lawyer I removed as much as I could that was worth value from the house. That night she pulled into the garage followed by the cops. I was served ex parte orders not only on her, but on my child as well. I had 5 minutes to gather some clothes and leave. I would not return for almost a year.

I could go into great detail, but the moral of the story is it took me 1 year, tens of thousands of dollars in lawyer fees, and a lot of stress to fight all of this. And fight I did. I gave it everything I had. I had to endure lies, manipulations, harassment by the police and the family court system. I would be arrested on false allegations and have the custody of my daughter taken away from me. I didn’t give up.

The good news is it was worth the fight. I was able to get 43% custody of my child. I got my house back. I got 50% of my assets back. I got my dog back. I have reasonable child support (mainly health insurance) and no maintenance. Luckily my ex had a decent job and was unable to get alimony. I feel for those not so lucky.

All I can say now is divorces are expensive, because they are worth it. I am finally free and happy and I just wanted to thank you all for letting me read your stories and take your advice. It really helped.

Thank you.

[ArcturisParticipant 2819]

Thanks for sharing your story DirtBike.

DBCooper wrote:

The good news is it was worth the fight. I was able to get 43% custody of my child. I got my house back. I got 50% of my assets back. I got my dog back. I have reasonable child support (mainly health insurance) and no maintenance. Luckily my ex had a decent job and was unable to get alimony.

That’s a win in my book. Welcome 😀

Protect Your Sovereignty. Women WILL TRY To Manipulate You. #NOCONTACT #ICETHEMOUT

[Anonymous 13]

Women have become nothing but COP CALLING C~~~S.

They’re f~~~ing LETHAL to a man’s WHOLE well being, physical, financial, mental and spiritual.

I’m glad it all worked out Bro, I and many others got badly burned and lost everything because of C~~~ LIES and manipulations.

As I always say,

GET OUT.

STAY OUT.

AND GET THE DOG OUT.

Oh and WELCOME.

[Anonymous 13]

DBCooper wrote:

One night after drinking too many beers, she came at me. I am now certain that her goal that night was to get me to hit her.

They all do this, it’s standard M.O. with all these C~~~S.

It is as predictable as the f~~~ing sunrise.

Even if they fail, they still just make the call and LIE anyway.

They don’t need to get you to hit them.

They only have to SAY you did.

BOOM, you’re in JAIL.

ALL C~~~S ARE LIKE THAT.

ACALT

[DBCooperParticipant 200]

I realize how lucky I was. I know a lot of you were not. I hope I am an inspiration to those going through this. There is hope. My advice is record, record, record. Never have any conversation with a soon to be ex other than email or text. Something that can be brought into court. Be prepared for the worst lies you will ever hear. They will be told to the judge, your family, and your friends. I am lucky my family and friends saw through the bulls~~~. I am lucky I had a GAL that saw through it too. Good luck all.

[WallyParticipant]

Welcome brother, glad you made it.

"what a waste of a life, to marry, give up your freedom, just for the hope of not dying alone. Don't get married Son."

[Anonymous 43]

Welcome amigo, we are drinking Jan’s beer, if you can find his fridge.

[Anonymous 43]

lol divorce is expensive…I was $300,000 in debt, and she spent $400.000 trying to crush me. Joke is on her…

[TheSpiceParticipant 2644]

My ex-wife was abusive too. I don’t know if she was trying to get me to hit her back. Thankfully, I never found out.

Welcome aboard!

"I've been thinking about what it would be like if we got back together."
"You know it's too late for that."

[AwakenedParticipant 35200]

Remember, Just Remember EVERYTHING that YOU went through, and REALIZE the NEXT ONE could be WORSE !!

Welcome……….

In a World of Justin Beibers Be a Johnny Cash

[Anonymous 7]

Welcome home.

[UntamedParticipant]

My X was verbally and physically abusive as well.
Her siblings were 2 C~~~s and one mangina.
The Court and her lawyer were so evil that they arranged that I wouldn’t even be able to be present during divorce proceedings so they could slap me with whatever amount of CP they felt like stealing regardless of my income and on and on and on…

I learned a great lesson from marriage and divorce:
Men are resources to be mined until death does part him with his life.

Marriage is a death sentence for any freedom-loving self-respecting man.

I’m glad you joined us here, DirtbikesMM.
One more guy Going His Own Way means one less sucker left into the clutches of these vicious evil monsters.

Welcome to mgtow.com, brother. You’re among friends who know your pain.

Don't let them Blame, Shame or Tame you!
Give 'em NOTHING, not even an answer!
#GenderSegragationNow!

[IRuleMeParticipant]

Welcome dirtbikes. It’s sad that men have to go through the types of things you, and others like you went through to such extents to learn female behavior and the bulls~~~ that comes with it from the police to the courts. When my parents got divorced, my father had zero access to the house. He wasn’t even able to come by and get his things. I got stuck in the middle of the s~~~, having to play intermediary for my own parents. Which, looking back in hindsight was a major mistake on my part. It’s a s~~~ty situation for everyone involved. Esp the kids. Which doesn’t really matter what their ages are. Kids are still the biggest losers in the situation, and the ones often manipulated. Keeping the other parent in the children’s lives can be very difficult, so kudos to you for still being able to keep your (roughly) half custody.

[PistolPeteParticipant 27143]

Welcome DirtbikesMM; you’re a survivor and that will serve you well in the future. I thank God every day that I never made the mistake of getting married.

[Anonymous 0]

Welcome home, DirtbikesMM
Beer’s in the fridge
Lotsa bikers around here

[Anonymous 54]

You fought back, and Won!

Welcome Dirtbikes MM!!!

[DocParticipant]

Welcome DB.
Your story is a common one but no less painful I’m sure.

This place is our sanctuary – you are home.

The object of life is not to be on the side of the majority, but to escape, finding oneself in the ranks of the insane. Marcus Aurelius

[Old BuckParticipant 3596]

Welcome! It’s really good to hear you made it out alive.
Thanks for joining and sharing your story.
Hopefully we can save many more men from falling into the marriage trap.

Don't chase tail. Turn yours around, walk away, and live free!

[Anonymous 3]

Great intro. Inspiring! Sorry you had to go through it,but you got to the other side intact.
Now that you are free STAY FREE.
Stick with the winners
Stick with MGTOW

[Silver FoxParticipant 2766]

DirtbikesMM, thanks for sharing your story. One of the most chilling parts of stories like this is the sheer speed of the transformation of the woman you thought you knew. Your entire world can be turned upside down in just an hour or two, never to be restored.

To me, that’s enough to make me commit to celibacy for the rest of my life.

F~~~ing c~~~s can just transform into devil harpies at the drop of a hat, and our society just excuses it. Borderline personality disorder has become mainstream and people still think that all is well and women are angels. F~~~ that and f~~~ them.

"Are you loosed from a wife? Do not seek a wife." --Apostle Paul

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