New girlfriend worries.

[CynicalScotsmanParticipant 32]

Hello everyone, as its my first thread on here I would like say how much I’ve enjoyed browsing through these forums.

I will just give you a short backstory on how I met my current girlfriend and problems that I’ve already experienced.

It was around two months ago that I was browsing through POF, I know, its not the best website! Anyway, I saw this girl that I found rather attractive she was slim, good looking and had lovely long black hair. After a week or more of talking on and off Skype we decided to arrange a meet. We arranged to meet near a cinema close to were I live and just see how it went.

The day of our meet I got quite excited to finally meet this girl. I got up had a shower, put on a nice shirt and made myself look decent. I decided to text her and see how things were going…. No reply. I then decided to call her to see whats up.. no answer. I was starting to think I had been stood up. Hours later after we were supposed to meet she sent me a text that went something like this “my mum has been rushed into hospital.. blah blah blah. I’ve have been stood up before, so I wasn’t going to believe any bulls~~~ like that. That night we Skyped and I gave her my doubts on the authenticity of her story.. she didn’t like that.. She turned into a complete psycho shouting and swearing at me. I told her to f~~~ of and never contact me again.

Less then 5 hours after telling her to f~~~ off she texted me saying how sorry she was..etc. I’ve saw girls personalities change quickly, but this girl made me worried. I decided to give her one more chance, which is something I would rarely do. We arranged to meet the following week at the same location. Same thing again, I wake up get dressed yadayada. I then receive a text from her saying how she’s nervous about meeting me the first time. I tried best to calm her down and she agrees she’ll be there on time… she “promised”. I text her to ask if she is on her away… no reply… no reply… you know were this is going. She sends me a long text hours later saying how her ex’s abused her and lots of different stuff I can’t be bothered typing.

I asked her something along the lines of “so you think I would I would hurt you?” she writes me a long text again how she really likes me… blah blah.

As this point i’m getting p~~~ed off and want to shout at her. I call her and voice my concerns, once again! She goes crazy again and starts calling me every name under the sun and I respond by calling her a crazy bitch or something like that.

Couple of hours later after shouting at each other and her not turning up again she send me another text about “that she likes me…”

I thought to myself I would give her one more chance to make it up to me. I said be there tomorrow or I’ll block you and we’ll never speak again. She said she will be there 100%. It’s not like if I had to travel to her anyway.

Next day comes and she actually turns up this time. She is petite and very cute. She’s is really shy though… which I don’t mind.

I will try to end this here.

My question is to you guys – What would you do?

We’ve done sexual things together, but she still won’t let me have sex with her. I also think she’s slightly mental.

I want to go out with her, but at the same time I want to run as far away as possible from her.

I probably made a 100 spelling mistakes, but I think I got my point across.

[CynicalScotsmanParticipant 32]

Her personality also seems to change all the time. I think she might be bi-polar, or just your average crazy bitch.

[chirParticipant]

Ask yourself this question. If you think she is “slightly” mental, what would the odds be that if you have sex with her that she has a mood swing and calls the cops and says you raped her.

Is sex with her worth risking jail time and having your asshole stretched out by some rapist in prison?

It is by caffeine alone I set my mind in motion, it is by the beans of Java that thoughts acquire speed, the hands acquire shaking, the shaking becomes a warning; it is by caffeine alone I set my mind in motion.

[CynicalScotsmanParticipant 32]

chir wrote:

Ask yourself this question. If you think she is “slightly” mental, what would the odds be that if you have sex with her that she has a mood swing and calls the cops and says you raped her.

Is sex with her worth risking jail time and having your asshole stretched out by some rapist in prison?

Thanks for the reply.

Thats a worry that I have everytime I touch her. I want to be with her, but at the same time I don’t want to speak to her ever again.

I tried to break up with her a couple of weeks ago telling her that we need to do more sexual stuff or I can’t stay in a relationship. We ended up doing much more sexual things together and I guess that makes good in a way.

I want to tell her straight about what I think about her, but I have a feeling she’ll go full psycho on my ass.

I have no idea what to do… My mind tells me to get as far away as possible, but at same time I want to stay with her. I’m not in love with her, just attracted to her sexy body.

[CynicalScotsmanParticipant 32]

I should stop thinking with my dick rather than my head.

[XSDBSParticipant 3598]

CynicalScotsman wrote:

I want to go out with her, but at the same time I want to run as far away as possible from her.

“I want to run as far away as possible from her.”

I’d say you’ve already answered your own question…

[WarratahParticipant 895]

Hoots laddie – you got s~~~-tested before even meeting her! Do you think its going to end there?
Major red flag is when they start mentioning their ‘abuse’ and ‘trust’ issues. Are you going to heal her fragile little soul, be her Daddy, solve her problems?
Impossible!
You’re setting yourself up for a BIG disappointment.
Kick her to the curb, leave her to be repaired by some other fool.
And if you really have to, go back on the old POF.

...And in our own despair, against our will, Comes wisdom to us by the awful grace of God. - Agamemnon; by Aeschylus

[WarratahParticipant 895]

http://www.borderlinewaif.com/waif/25-bpd-symptoms-borderline-waif/

See if that rings any bells.

...And in our own despair, against our will, Comes wisdom to us by the awful grace of God. - Agamemnon; by Aeschylus

[CynicalScotsmanParticipant 32]

Cut her off from your life, no contact, I hope she dosnt know we’re you live, if she dosnt know, don’t tell her. POF is trash, your digging threw garbage, on line dating is garbage, just like Facebook.

Yeah, she knows where I live.

[CynicalScotsmanParticipant 32]

Thanks WarHar for the link. She does most of those things, but there’s a few she doesn’t do..

[NerevarParticipant 8040]

Run away, right now. No looking back. RUN, FORREST!

"One of the best things internet exposed is just how insane women are." - Freeman_K

[NeroParticipant 1466]

I think you are just in a moment of weakness right now, perhaps feeling lonely. Your body and mind have given you all the signals. This girl is wrong for you. You are just in this right now because she’s attractive and you’re horny. I have had to cut ties with a most-charismatic, beautiful and passionate ex three times in my life. It was extremely hard to do for me, but it must be done. These type of women will never work out or change.

[NeroParticipant 1466]

Warratah wrote:

http://www.borderlinewaif.com/waif/25-bpd-symptoms-borderline-waif/

See if that rings any bells.

Dude, I could qualify almost every girl I’ve dated has most of these traits.

[globemasterParticipant 443]

1. The reason she was not able to meet you was, she would have been with her bf, such girls are not good at planning.
She would have been struck with him somewhere.

2. She is looking for plan b, that is you now. She saw you keep on giving her chance so she likes you, but soon she will go to her ex.

3.Not a good advice but you better have sex with her, that is what she is worth for, never have without condoms. Dont get her pregnant,such personalities will sometimes want to become pregnant and next they want to abort.

4. She will leave you on her own, but will come again soon. When she comes back tell lies like you are in financial mess, bad health, legal problems etc. She will leave you permanently.

5. Girls like her have a very dark side which is full of vengeance and hatred, if you dump her and live happy she will find and f~~~ your life so use above option 3 and then 4.

[CynicalScotsmanParticipant 32]

globemaster wrote:

1. The reason she was not able to meet you was, she would have been with her bf, such girls are not good at planning.
She would have been struck with him somewhere.

2. She is looking for plan b, that is you now. She saw you keep on giving her chance so she likes you, but soon she will go to her ex.

3.Not a good advice but you better have sex with her, that is what she is worth for, never have without condoms. Dont get her pregnant,such personalities will sometimes want to become pregnant and next they want to abort.

4. She will leave you on her own, but will come again soon. When she comes back tell lies like you are in financial mess, bad health, legal problems etc. She will leave you permanently.

5. Girls like her have a very dark side which is full of vengeance and hatred, if you dump her and live happy she will find and f~~~ your life so use above option 3 and then 4.

She also claims to be a “virgin” and wants to wait till she’s ready.

I want to have sex with her, but everytime I bring it up she makes me feel guilty. I’m a man, I have sexual desires and needs.

What do you think about that?

[Anonymous 1]

Look up cluster B personality disorders, sir.

You’re not emotionally involved, YET.

You don’t walk away from this woman, YOU RUN.

“She also claims to be a “virgin” and wants to wait till she’s ready.”

Dude………..come on

[Buller100Participant 2189]

As has been said keep well clear, she is a nightmare so many reasons….

[Anonymous 3]

F~~~, dude, why are you doing this to yourself. You call yourself a man but falters, like a thirsty puppy dog, in front of a fragile, weak little woman, because your penis didn’t get sucked. How f~~~ing ridiculous and pathetic does that sound? What, because she’s sexy? Dime a dozen, in 5 years another crop of attractive young women appear on the scene.

Look, it’s not like I can tell you anything you don’t know already. It’s not like you don’t know what to do. You’ve said it yourself what needs to be done. It’s all you man.

[globemasterParticipant 443]

CynicalScotsman wrote:

I want to have sex with her, but everytime I bring it up she makes me feel guilty. I’m a man, I have sexual desires and needs.

What do you think about that

1. dont f~~~ her.

2. If you really want to do it, you should not ask her. Just start by kissing her and hit the right spots to turn her on, then soon she will be spreading her legs wide open.

She will also tell bulls~~~ like ” iam doing this to make you happy and not for my pleasure” She will even shed some fake tears after sex too.

[CynicalScotsmanParticipant 32]

globemaster wrote:

CynicalScotsman wrote:

I want to have sex with her, but everytime I bring it up she makes me feel guilty. I’m a man, I have sexual desires and needs.

What do you think about that

1. dont f~~~ her.

2. If you really want to do it, you should not ask her. Just start by kissing her and hit the right spots to turn her on, then soon she will be spreading her legs wide open.

She will also tell bulls~~~ like ” iam doing this to make you happy and not for my pleasure” She will even shed some fake tears after sex too.

I have had sex with plenty of girls to know what turns them on.

I’ve tried all that stuff on her and nothing happens…

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