Never an apology

[MGTOW@50Participant 225]

I was thinking back over both of my marriages and several LTRs and found a common thread. I honestly don’t recall any of them ever apologizing for any of their actions. Maybe it happened and I just don’t recall…any.

Last week I confronted my wife on an outright lie which she readily admitted. Completely ‘fessed up. She actually then turned it around and blamed me. Contorted the situation and justified it by essentially saying she had no choice. And it was a pointless lie over something of little or no consequence. No apology.

The one thing I do get from my wife occasionally is the ‘conditional apology’. Something like “I’m sorry IF that offended you.”

I think the ‘no apologies’ thing is pretty common. Anyone else notice this or am I in left field on this one?

[ghostParticipant]

MGTOW@50 wrote:

She actually then turned it around and blamed me. Contorted the situation and justified it by essentially saying she had no choice. And it was a pointless lie over something of little or no consequence. No apology.

Normal operating procedure for women. This might be the 9,000th such case I’ve heard about. You are NOT alone. This is female nature. It is NOT your fault. Our biology works against us in the modern world.

Women will do what men and the broader society will allow them. Blue pill men have created an environment for women to act like this. They get what they deserve with these women. We have OPTED OUT.

[MACHOParticipant]

MGTOW@50 wrote:

I honestly don’t recall any of them ever apologizing for any of their actions. Maybe it happened and I just don’t recall…any

Men always remember when women apologize, nope your mind isn’t playing any tricks on you!

MGTOW@50 wrote:

Contorted the situation and justified it by essentially saying she had no choice

Perfect example of females nature at work! ⬆

You must own a better Crystal ball than I

[Anonymous 42]

MGTOW@50 wrote:

She actually then turned it around and blamed me. Contorted the situation and justified it by essentially saying she had no choice.

Women shed responsibility and blame just like a child. Why? Because they have the mind of a child, the good lord gave them a smaller less powerful motherboard. That’s why everything they do for their own independence is an utter failure, only now the runaway child has no home to return to, she’s an orphan of the STATE!

[ghostParticipant]

Anonymous wrote:

Women shed responsibility and blame just like a child. Why? Because they have the mind of a child, the good lord gave them a smaller less powerful motherboard. That’s why everything they do for their own independence is an utter failure, only now the runaway child has no home to return to, she’s an orphan of the STATE!

Pure gold.

[Truth-seeking-missileParticipant 94]

In my experience I have noticed the conditional apology and the immediate citing of a time I lied about something. Usually this entails me lying about something very trivial like if took the trash out vs how much student debt she has.

[TheDudeParticipant 724]

I had a thirteen year relationship, and don’t remember her ever saying sorry.

It drove me crazy for the first five years, then like any blue pill simp, I just accepted it and stopped pushing.

Even when she was 100% in the wrong, “THAT WORD” would never cross her lips.

[Anonymous 13]

Why would a woman say she’s sorry when she’s NOT sorry.

She’s NEVER sorry.

Not even if you top yourself because of her years of abuse.

She does NOT give a f~~~ about you.

She’s not sorry.

Stay the f~~~ AWAY from them.

[ghostParticipant]

Anonymous wrote:

Stay the f~~~ AWAY from them.

[AufladenParticipant 105]

100% accurate. For me it took some time and distance to see all the examples, being fully immersed in blue pill waters.

The firecracker of an example in my last (ever) relationship was ‘I’ve done nothing wrong’. After seeing/communicating/f~~~ing another guy for who knows how long, and eventually deciding to cash me in after the affirmative road testing was completed.

No apology. ‘I’ve done nothing wrong’. There’s the mentality right there for you gentlemen.

Now I make no apologies either. For living my life for myself, NFG.

'You can achieve more and be happy avoiding the wrong women than you ever could searching for the right woman.' - KM

[RusskyParticipant 13503]

Apology only makes sense within honor framework, and since honor is men-only concept, women never feel the need to apologize or accept apologies. It’s alien to them. They think of men as idiots for falling for this honor nonsense, missing the part where honor is the foundation of social cohesion. Men evolved by being honorable, women evolved by being self-serving.

Why would you need an apology anyways. Even if it comes – it’s nothing but some manipulative words. How is that going to change anything?

Stop projecting manly qualities on women and your cognitive dissonance will subside

proud carrier of the 'why?' chromosome

[MGTOW@50Participant 225]

Aufladen wrote:

100% accurate. For me it took some time and distance to see all the examples, being fully immersed in blue pill waters.

The firecracker of an example in my last (ever) relationship was ‘I’ve done nothing wrong’. After seeing/communicating/f~~~ing another guy for who knows how long, and eventually deciding to cash me in after the affirmative road testing was completed.

No apology. ‘I’ve done nothing wrong’. There’s the mentality right there for you gentlemen.

Now I make no apologies either. For living my life for myself, NFG.

It’s absolutely delusional. Mix in some narcissism & cynicism, remove all responsibility and accountability and PRESTO…..you have every woman I’ve been with.

[MGTOW@50Participant 225]

Russky wrote:

Apology only makes sense within honor framework, and since honor is men-only concept, women never feel the need to apologize or accept apologies. It’s alien to them. They think of men as idiots for falling for this honor nonsense, missing the part where honor helped humankind to evolve and thrive

That’s one I’m going to have to digest for a while. Crap, that sure explains a lot.

This mindset must also prevent any feelings of guilt or remorse regarding relationships.

[AttonParticipant]

If they actually took accountability they should shoot themselves or go forbids reform themselves.

A MGTOW is a man who is not a woman's bitch!

[Ranger OneParticipant 16836]

Apologizing would mean that a woman feels like she should be held accountable for her actions.

Remember the quote from the movie. “How do you write women so well?”

“I think of a man, then I take away all reason and accountability.”

All my life I've had doubts about who I am, where I belonged. Now I'm like the arrow that springs from the bow. No hesitation, no doubts. The path is clear. And what are you? Alive. Everything else is negotiable. Women have rights; men have responsibilities; MGTOW have freedom. Marriage is for chumps. If someone stands in the way of true justice, you simply walk up behind them and stab them in the heart-R'as al Ghul.

[Ranger OneParticipant 16836]

Dated for 2+ years, married for 11. Not ONCE did the ex ever apologize for anything. EVER.

I would remember. I remember one-off occurrences particularly well.

All my life I've had doubts about who I am, where I belonged. Now I'm like the arrow that springs from the bow. No hesitation, no doubts. The path is clear. And what are you? Alive. Everything else is negotiable. Women have rights; men have responsibilities; MGTOW have freedom. Marriage is for chumps. If someone stands in the way of true justice, you simply walk up behind them and stab them in the heart-R'as al Ghul.

[BigvernParticipant 1983]

MGTOW@50 wrote:

The one thing I do get from my wife occasionally is the ‘conditional apology’. Something like “I’m sorry IF that offended you.”

EXELLENT POST MGTOW@50, yes, WIMMIN, NEVER APOLOGISE, AND CERTAINLY NOT TO A MAN, and PARTICULARLY NOT TO ‘HER’ MAN, (she’ll apologise to Chad, after she nearly snapped his c*ck, through too much bouncing)

Wasn’t it the tagline from that soppy film “Love Story” with Ryan O’Neil and Ali McGraw,……’Being in Love means, NEVER having to say you’re SORRY!?’ I guess they took it to mean, “Being In LOVE, means NEVER having to say sorry, AS LONG AS YOU HAVE A VAGINA”
(could someone clever here, get hold of an online film poster for Love Story, and do a clever edit, for that tagline!?)

When I was the mortgage payer and worker drone, under sentence of 20 years of marriage, my ex would NEVER apologise. Hold on!, wait, she DID aplogise to me once, (F*CK ME; NAWALT!), but only when I had to petition myself bankrupt, cause of her spending, so SORRY BROTHER, you’re wrong about them they doooo apologise! 😉
But It’ll be an apology of such non-sincerity, that it wasn’t even worth her wasting her breath, and CERTAINLY NOT WORTH LISTENING TOO!!

“I’m SORRY” is a phrase that ANYONE can say, yet wimmin rarely do, and why should they?

They have a vagina, and we don’t so there! We as MEN say SORRY, ALL THE TIME, trying desperately to shift their bad feelings onto ourselves, even though we rarely DID ANYTHING WRONG, MEN have been programmed for hundreds, thousands of years to take ANY AND ALL BURDEN’S FROM OFF WIMMIN’S BACKS. INCLUDING THEIR GUILT.
Sort of like taking a bullet, for a comrade in battle.

Recently, my elderly Mother, told me “Your Father Has NEVER Apologised To Me”
I put it straight back to her, “So Mum, WHEN WAS THE LAST TIME YOU APOLOGISED TO DAD!?”
She SMILED and almost CHUCKLED, when she replied “I’VE NEVER NEEDED TO APOLOGISE, TO YOUR FATHER!” That’s when I laughed at her.

BUT, IF US MEN DON’T SEE THAT AS A PRICELESS PEARL, OF A RED FLAG, I DON’T KNOW WHAT IS.

Y’see MEN, WE ARE TO BLAME FOR THIS PARADOX, Because wimmin have made sure that we are too tired from over working, or massively frustrated through PUSSY PORTION CONTROL, that we haven’t the time, the energy, nor the will, to keep arguing about whatever today’s issues are.
WIMMIN KNOW, THAT US MEN ARE NOT INTERSTED IN BAD FEELINGS AND CONSTANT TROUBLE; ANYTHING, for a ‘QUIET LIFE’ RIGHT!?

It’s partly our faults, as MEN, that they are the unfeeling, unsympathetic, dishonest creatures, that they are.

But for FAR TOO LONG, we HAVE BEEN HELD TO ACCOUNT for our failings.

IT’S HIGH-TIME THAT WIMMIN ‘GREW A PAIR’ AND WOMAN’D UP.

IT’D BE A GREAT START IF THEY ACTUALLY KNEW THE MEANING OF WORDS, SUCH AS EMPATHY, AND COMPASSION.

BUT, I fear that HELL, will freeze over, before that happens!

AWALT.

"What made you think, there'd be a livin' in sheep?, Eat, Work, Eat Work and Sleep" - Mark Knopfler.

[BigvernParticipant 1983]

TheDude wrote:

I had a thirteen year relationship, and don’t remember her ever saying sorry.
It drove me crazy for the first five years, then like any blue pill simp, I just accepted it and stopped pushing.
Even when she was 100% in the wrong, “THAT WORD” would never cross her lips.

That’s my point @thedude; we just get tired of the pointlessness of their selfish drama’s.

They know EVENTUALLY, we’ll get fed up, and just ACCEPT THE STATUS QUO.

NEVER AGAIN, the juice just ain’t worth the sqeeezzzzeeeeeee.

"What made you think, there'd be a livin' in sheep?, Eat, Work, Eat Work and Sleep" - Mark Knopfler.

[BigvernParticipant 1983]

Russky wrote:

Apology only makes sense within honor framework, and since honor is men-only concept, women never feel the need to apologize or accept apologies. It’s alien to them. They think of men as idiots for falling for this honor nonsense, missing the part where honor is the foundation of social cohesion. Men evolved by being honorable, women evolved by being self-serving.

BRILLIANT @russky, well said.

"What made you think, there'd be a livin' in sheep?, Eat, Work, Eat Work and Sleep" - Mark Knopfler.

[MGTOW@50Participant 225]

Bigvern wrote:

MGTOW@50 wrote:

The one thing I do get from my wife occasionally is the ‘conditional apology’. Something like “I’m sorry IF that offended you.”

She almost CHUCKLED, when she replied “I’VE NEVER NEEDED TO APOLGISE, TO YOUR FATHER!”

Particularly poignant when we start seeing this in our mothers.

I mentioned in my intro that my mother got 51% of my dad’s 30 year military pension in the divorce. 51%…WTF? Stuck him in the eye pretty good with that one. Or so she thought. Dad let it roll off his back and went back to the business of working for another 20 years.

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