Need Advice….

[FitzBonesParticipant 304]

I stayed with my ex for six months after I got the distinct urges to get the f~~~ out, I stayed for her state of mind and those protective instincts; from my experience all it will do is drag you down. I was so depressed and destroyed after those six months I attempted suicide, so hear me now: Its not worth it!
Whats more is that most women are incredibly manipulative but also very perceptive. If she thinks for a split-second that you’re staying because of her state of mind then she WILL maintain that state of mind to keep you chained to her.

"If you can fill the unforgiving minute with sixty seconds' worth of distance run,"

[BrainPilotParticipant 7640]

A pregnancy (that may never have existed to begin with) is exactly the kind of pressure that is grounds for annulment. Given the quotes that you just put up, adding the false quote “I’m pregnant” would certainly fit right in with other things she’s said. Is there any evidence at all that she was actually pregnant? Positive pregnancy test result can be bought on craig’s list for 20$. Is there any pathologist report that there was a pregnancy? If it goes to court, and the pregnancy is the basis for the marriage, then I would ask her to prove that the pregnancy actually existed, AND THAT IT WAS YOURS. She’s gonna have a pretty big job in court proving all that if she doesn’t have some really good medial records. Lawyer will argue: no certainty of pregnancy and paternity = no marriage.

As for her being suicidal: you stay with this girl 5 more years and YOU will be suicidal. It’s hard when your head is all scrambled up like it can be with women sometimes, so lets try some logic and reasoning. Marriage either lasts the rest of your life (40-50 more years), or it ends in divorce. If she couldn’t make it 30 days without cheating on you, what are the chances she will make it 30 more years? This time you know about it. Next time, you may not. But there WILL BE a next time. Now that you know that, you just have to decide when you are getting the divorce. But you, and everyone else here knows that the sooner you get a divorce, the cheaper it will be and the sooner you can recover from it (assuming you actually do end up paying her something to get rid of her).

Next thing to consider: If she really is willing to kill herself, what makes you think you’re safe? She says she’ll commit suicide if you leave… how do you know she won’t commit homicide if you stay? You wanna bet your life that as she plans suicide that she doesn’t change her mind and realize that if she chooses to kill you instead of herself… she gets 100% of your money instead of just the fraction she would get in divorce court.

Get out as fast as you can, and if you ever do consider another relationship, try to remember a couple little bits of this wisdom
You don’t owe anyone a relationship
All healthy relationships are mutually voluntary (is this something you’d volunteer for?)
When someone SHOWS you who they are, believe them the FIRST time

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