This is a long story but it’s a story how I as a MGTOW handled a very difficult problem and came out on top.
I don’t know if I was born MGTOW or it developed over a period of time but I have always gone my own way. I have to say it’s not always been easy but I have no regrets.
My plan was to do everything I wanted to do and then try the family thing knowing the risks and doing my best to protect myself from them.
So I did, I moved to LA started a business, flipped a few houses, learned to fly airplanes, tore up the desert on dirt bikes and more or less had a blast. Never going into a long term relationship but has some “fun” along the way.
At about 30 met someone I really liked. Understood the risks and went for it anyway.
More or less the same story as everyone else. Over time my wife became abusive over spending, destructive and lazy not to mention the lack of sex.
Until about 5 years ago I was able to minimize the damage of her bad behavior and she did try to keep things working for the most part. Then it was over.
She did everything possible to find a good reason to divorce me and take the kids and as much money and stuff as she could get her hands on.
What she did not understand was I was ready for this. I had been working on plan B form the second I said I Do.
We did not have joint accounts. We had plenty of debt. The value of my business was less than when we got married. The equity in the house was my personal property not hers. I was very involved in my kids life, education, and activities and I was never going to give her the satisfaction of loosing control and abusing her or cheating no matter what she did. I recorded all her rages and documented her bizare behavior.
After a year and a half of counseling that was really simply her raging and me simply stating that she had to stop behaving badly I filed for divorce presented her with an over generous settlement and 50/50 custody of the kids with the stipulation that she let me have them when she was unable to take care of them. She signed it and that part was done.
I will spare all the bloody details here but things got worse and harder. She used my determination to spare my kids from here poor and dangerous choices to further degrade my situation.
I ended up rehabilitating and liquidating nearly all of my assets and changing my entire lifestyle to accommodate my kids. Little by little I took her cards away and reduced the amount of support she was receiving.
Where am I now? Well I have an awesome paid for house in the country, I day trade for a living, I have money in the bank and don’t owe anyone anything. My kids are mine. She takes them on weekends because she has to work for a living now and for the fist time in 10 years I am at peace, my home is peaceful and my kids are doing really really well.
I still date on and off but I make it clear that I will get remarried or let someone move in when it snows in Houston in July. They take it as a challenge and try to use their womanly ways to change my mind. After a few months they give up move on trying to find their next meal ticket. It’s extremely entertaining.
Would I take the risk again if I could go back in time? I think so. First off there were a lot of good times. The act of fathering a child is awesome. The end game was hell but I not only survived I won not only the war but the respect of that women I married. We have a fairly good working relationship now.
Varun 3 years, 5 months ago.
