My one-year divorce anniversary

[Anonymous 0]

Just hitting the 3-year mark post-divorce and like everyone else says, things improve dramatically as time goes on.

My ex (who was the one that filed) dragged out what should have been a 3 month divorce into a 26 month extravaganza under the direction of one of the laziest, least organized attorneys in the county i live in (he was a year or 2 behind me in high school and I was friends with his elder brother).

My first attorney failed to file my personal property inventory and missed a deadline on an order to produce business records that I’d submitted 1 month prior to the required deadline, and I s~~~-canned him for that. He was a better attorney for my ex than her attorney was.

Hired a second attorney to clean the mess up who promised completion of the divorce in 60 days…..and a year later I’m in his office daily railing at him for doing absolutely nothing. I remember once asking him why things weren’t moving and he told me it was because her atty failed to show for 3 scheduled meetings. When I asked what he was doing about it he told me he has scheduled another meeting…..I went ballistic, asking him if he was aware that the classic definition of idiocy was doing the same thing over and over in the expectation of getting a different result. At one point, I received a letter that the divorce proceedings were going to be dismissed for want of prosecution.

It was only after hiring yet another attorney to do some investigating, then getting my attorney and hers together and threatening legal action against both of them for negligence that things finally wrapped up.

Attorneys…..the most expensive, least productive hire you can ever make…..

[TwistParticipant]

Badger wrote:

Until the marriage laws are amended to stop punishing men and until after women change their current behavior, heed this advice.

I don’t think the second statement means s~~~. Even a change in behavior would be suspect to me. I completely lost the ability to ever trust what a woman says, or even does. Pure mendacity is their game…

Mine took over 3 years. If I didn’t experience it, I would never believe how f~~~ed the divorce process/industry is. Don’t get married. Just don’t get married. Don’t even think about it.

[TwistParticipant]

Twist wrote:

Attorneys…..the most expensive, least productive hire you can ever make…..

This too. Let me add one vignette to this – my crackerjack attorney, a year plus, and easy $50k+ into the agony, HIS wife commits suicide. I should have parted ways at that point, but didn’t want to burn the sunk investment (small potatoes it turned out). From that point on, I wondered who in the world he was working for.

Funny, all my buddies said what I paid him was a bargain, if he would just share what the last words he had said to his wife….

[Anonymous 1]

If you have to Hire a lawyer it is always for something bad that has or will cause you Grief.

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