My one-year divorce anniversary

[HammerheadParticipant 362]

There were times that I wasn’t sure that I could survive the divorce process. It was brutal, more expensive than I could have imagined, emotionally damaging and depressing. I used to sit in the courtyard of my apartment building, smoking a cigar, trying to conjure up an image of a livable future. She dragged it out to make it as painful for me as possible, nearly bankrupted me, all for my having the audacity to leave her. The financial toll will be difficult for years to come, but at least I’m a doer, not a spender…I have enough “toys” to enjoy my free time and no expensive luxury tastes or hobbies.

My health has improved in the past year, my mental state is very good, and my financial prospects are better than I had hoped. The monthly alimony is a painful permanent cost, particularly since the ex-wife has NO obligation to do anything to support herself, but it’s the deal with which I was stuck. Long-term marriage? Permanent alimony, at least until I can retire. That’s the system, and I had no choice. But at least she doesn’t get any part of my annual salary increases.

This past weekend was my one-year anniversary of the final divorce decree. I spent it enjoying a trip with a woman who is more than a decade and a half younger than me, who eagerly had sex every evening and morning…and any other time that I want it.

Another woman of long acquaintance (*ahem*), closer to my age, has asked me to join her for a holiday night together at a nice hotel, at her expense. Like the younger one, she will ensure that I am well-satisfied anytime that I like.

Neither of them expect – – nor will receive – – any expensive gifts for Christmas. I have a strict limit of $100 per woman for the holiday. That will be spent on activities, not trinkets. They both thoroughly understand that I will never marry again, nor cohabitate, and that any discussion of the “Where is this relationship going?” or “Where do you see us in xx years?” will be cause for immediate relationship termination. It keeps things simple and enjoyable.

This isn’t what I had expected my life to be like, a year after the final decree, but it’s a good life…one that I want to live, that fills me with optimism again. Not the “I won the mega-bucks lottery!” type of happiness, but a warm pleasure in knowing that life can be simple and enjoyable again. I will be able to enjoy my hobbies and activities with no one at home to have to account to for my time, to nag me, to lessen my enjoyment of a peaceful, productive and satisfying life.

For those brothers still trapped on the plantation, I can assure you that the difficult journey was worth the trip. I wish you all of the best luck in your own transition. For those young bucks who haven’t yet fully accepted the red pill, think about this…my divorce will cost me about half a million dollars, counting everything. My retirement lifestyle will be much more frugal than I had hoped. Do you think ANY woman is worth that expense?

[LexParticipant 117]

Glad to hear you have found happiness as you continue your journey brother.

Cheers on the anniversary and moving forward

[Solo MAN’S WisdomParticipant]

My respect for you sir you are a true mgtow who can advices other’s men’s of marriages and divorces unlike other’s on here who claim and brag they are mgtow and still married

Tuna alert.

When women lead, destruction is the destination. -- Me.

[AwakenedParticipant 35200]

Hammerhead wrote:

I will be able to enjoy my hobbies and activities with no one at home to have to account to for my time, to nag me, to lessen my enjoyment of a peaceful, productive and satisfying life.

This and some NSA sex, It’s not such a bad life after all. Far better then the nightmare that I am still enduring, but my time will come as well.

In a World of Justin Beibers Be a Johnny Cash

[AwakenedParticipant 35200]

My respect for you sir you are a true mgtow who can advices other’s men’s of marriages and divorces unlike other’s on here who claim and brag they are mgtow and still married

You know nothing of which you speak. Maybe you should read A LOT more before you make yourself look as ignorant as you do in this posting.

In a World of Justin Beibers Be a Johnny Cash

[Jeremiah JohnsonParticipant 2219]

Congrats sir—-I have been through it—Was one of the hardest thing’s I have ever had to endure…This is a lesson for our young brothers here…NO MATTER WHAT—YOU MUST AVOID MARRIAGE AND KIDS IN THESE TIMES—It will cost you everything…There is no woman that is worth it, NOT ONE!!!! Trust the one’s that have already endured this—THEY WILL TEAR YOU TO PIECES UNTIL THERE IS NOTHING LEFT—THEN THEY WILL TRY TO STEAL YOUR SOUL!!!!

Men are at a time when panning for gold in a urinal has a higher probability of success than finding a faithful and loving woman, it is time to go your own way.....

[Truthseeker82Participant 6406]

Happy Anniversary and job well done. You broke free from a horrid situation that appeared to strangle your peace of mind and wallet.
You are now free to live your life as you see fit It’s very sad that you should have to support that wench for even a day,let alone a life. But this is the risk one takes today if he signs that contract. Any man who gets married in the western world is handing over his money and b~~~~. I salute you sir!

[OgreParticipant 5863]

Congrats Hammerhead on making it through the ringer, and keeping your perspective. The money will hurt just by virtue of the number, but remember she used to have access to all of it.

At least this way there’s a set amount she costs you each month.

I failed to realize in my youth that I was the prize. I was going to work. I was going to earn. Little did I realize that due to feminism, that no longer meant I had to share. Road soon, Desert after.

[FrostByteParticipant 19005]

Congrats going on 2 for me and without MGTOW I would be out looking for another one.

If you rescue a damsel in distress, all you will get is a distressed damsel.

[HammerheadParticipant 362]

Awakened wrote:

This and some NSA sex, It’s not such a bad life after all. Far better then the nightmare that I am still enduring, but my time will come as well.

Hang in there, brother. Despite the waiting and the painful transition, it’s worth the climb!

THX 1138 ending

[AwakenedParticipant 35200]

Hammerhead wrote:

Hang in there, brother. Despite the waiting and the painful transition, it’s worth the climb!
THX 1138 ending

Every day is one more rung climbed to freedom !!

In a World of Justin Beibers Be a Johnny Cash

[BadgerParticipant 2277]

Hammerhead wrote:

For those young bucks who haven’t yet fully accepted the red pill, think about this…my divorce will cost me about half a million dollars, counting everything. My retirement lifestyle will be much more frugal than I had hoped. Do you think ANY woman is worth that expense?

Jeremiah Johnson wrote:

This is a lesson for our young brothers here…NO MATTER WHAT—YOU MUST AVOID MARRIAGE AND KIDS IN THESE TIMES—It will cost you everything…There is no woman that is worth it, NOT ONE!!!! Trust the one’s that have already endured this—THEY WILL TEAR YOU TO PIECES UNTIL THERE IS NOTHING LEFT—THEN THEY WILL TRY TO STEAL YOUR SOUL!!!!

Truthseeker82 wrote:

Any man who gets married in the western world is handing over his money and b~~~~.

I just want to extract this excellent advice in one piece for the younger members. Until the marriage laws are amended to stop punishing men and until after women change their current behavior, heed this advice. Do not think you will be the exception.

[TaxGuyParticipant]

Ogre wrote:

Congrats Hammerhead on making it through the ringer, and keeping your perspective. The money will hurt just by virtue of the number, but remember she used to have access to all of it.

At least this way there’s a set amount she costs you each month.

The first thing out of mine and my friends’ mouths when learning of an impending divorce is “Congratulations. You just got half your s~~~ back!” It’s a little tough love between good friends, but it gets the point across.

Order the good wine

[Knight of the ApocalypseParticipant 326]

Congrats and keep moving forward. I’m close to the year and a half mark for my divorce with three years of chilamony to go. She gets half my retirement but only when I retire which I foresee working for quite a long time. For those still wanting to cling to NAWALT, DON’T.

"Just ignore everything women say and nothing will annoy you ever again." - Cu Chulainn

[GrumpyParticipant]

Congratulations on the first parasite free year, may you have many more

There was a time in my life when I gave a fuck. Now you have to pay ME for it

[hadenough1969Participant 539]

This post came at a critical time for me. I am nearly 5 months into a never ending divorce…just what you said, she intends to make me pay forever for having the audacity to refuse to allow her to kill me via stress induced diseases.

I too sit here tonight and cannot conjure up a vision of what life would be like to finally be free of this evil creature. It is all I can do to survive 1 more day….sometimes 1 more hour.

If I could ask, what state are you in, how long did the divorce take and how old are you? I am in my late 40s, wondering if I have enough time left to recover if this ever ends. Praying the last 25 horrible years of my life are not all there was to my adult existence. Hoping that in the midwest there might still be some sanity left in a judge to actually be fair…but scared to death there isn’t.

[Won'tGetFooledAgainParticipant 3293]

Hammerhead wrote:

For those brothers still trapped on the plantation, I can assure you that the difficult journey was worth the trip. I wish you all of the best luck in your own transition. For those young bucks who haven’t yet fully accepted the red pill, think about this…my divorce will cost me about half a million dollars, counting everything. My retirement lifestyle will be much more frugal than I had hoped. Do you think ANY woman is worth that expense?

Congratulations bother, I am slightly further down the post divorce road than you and I can confirm it just keeps getting better and better.

My divorce cost me a similar amount to you, and there were times when it all got too much and I seriously thought about doing something stupid and ending it all. But for all of brothers currently going through hell, keep going as there will come a day when you wake up and realise that everything is actually going to be OK.

So I am 18 months post divorce although this is actually over three years since we first separated. Life is fantastic, never been happier and I feel exactly like I did in my very early 20’s when I was single. I have been saving every penny I could over the last three years and yesterday I had an offer accepted on a house. This is one of the major goals in my post divorce plan and I am very pleased to have achieved it after only three years.

My mental state has never been better now I don’t have some nagging bitch spending all my money and I am dressing better and looking better than I ever have. I am banging a woman 8 years younger than me who is way, way hotter than my ex wife and will do anything I want to please me. I also have the confidence to know that if she starts p~~~ing me off I can dump her and there are a million other women out there.

Ex wife has just got engaged to her wallet so that means she is totally his problem now which was fantastic news. I get the impression she is bored with him, doesn’t really want to marry him but she is massively financially tied to him now and has no choice. This is a car crash waiting to happen and I can tell exactly how it is going to end.

Ex wife is also being very flirty with me at the moment and I suspect she realises the massive mistake she made. She is now in a much worse position than she was with me, while I on the other hand are happy, free, have money, just bought a new house and banging hot women.

Guys, just don’t get married it wastes a lot of time and costs an awful lot of money.

For women, everything eventually boils down to Alpha Fucks, Beta Bucks.

[CombatRollParticipant 2594]

hadenough1969 wrote:

This post came at a critical time for me. I am nearly 5 months into a never ending divorce…just

I too sit here tonight and cannot conjure up a vision of what life would be like to finally be free of this evil creature. It is all I can do to survive 1 more day….sometimes 1 more hour.

Hang in there. You and I are the same age and you are ahead of me in the process. I’m still planning and preparing.

I hate you are in divorce hell. What would you have done differently to prepare, if you had it all to do over again?

[HammerheadParticipant 362]

hadenough1969 wrote:

If I could ask, what state are you in, how long did the divorce take and how old are you? I am in my late 40s, wondering if I have enough time left to recover if this ever ends. Praying the last 25 horrible years of my life are not all there was to my adult existence. Hoping that in the midwest there might still be some sanity left in a judge to actually be fair…but scared to death there isn’t.

The divorce was unfortunately handled in the state of Maryland, a heavily gynocentric state.
I’m nearly 60.
Believe me, the hellish journey was worth it, finally. As they say, “When you’re going through Hell…keep going!” My divorce took almost two years, and it seemed like forever.
Sorry for your suffering, brother. Hang in there.

[TiredofbsParticipant 485]

Damn good post Hammerhead (your original post that started this topic) thanks for sharing. Very inspirational. Wish you continued peace and freedom from the slave plantation.

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