My marriage ended in the best possible way.

[Frank V.Participant 2445]

It got to the stage that in the beginning of 2015, months before the end, and after 4 ambulance dashes to the ER I knew if this was to go on she was not going to see 2016. Regardless, each time she got out of hospital, she took her prescribed pain meds and other meds she got from “doctor shopping”, mail-order or “friends”. She was in the full grip of addiction and only a medical intervention would save her, complete with psych orderlies man-handling her to the psych ward.

So then inevitable came to past and even though I feel terrible about the outcome, I’m free of the distress of watching her destroy herself.

I have known a few people have this end far worse for them. The junkie’s decline can drag a whole lot of people down with them. The closer the person, the more the danger. I even know one poor soul who spent a year clearing their name after their spouse did themselves in with a similar “suicide in slow motion”.

When something bad happens, like people dying, the smart ones are the ones who stop, think and learn from it.

Changing direction is far from being a bad thing sometimes. Mourn in your way, in your own time. You have nothing to prove to anyone, but yourself.

Since you may have dodged the bullet this time, take it as a lesson learned and don’t get married again.

Wish more of my clients learned from their mistakes. But then again, I would be unemployed if they did !

Frank V.

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