My marriage ended in the best possible way.

[LurchParticipant 3866]

She died!

I know this is blunt and I am only now, a year on, just getting out of the grieving process. However when you consider the alternatives (Divorce rape, Vengeful Ex, etc.) you have to admit this is the best outcome a married man can hope for, to regain their freedom without the consequences.

Now before you ask… No, I didn’t have a hand in it. I only found out later from the ER Doctors, that she was overdosing on Tramadol, which caused the seizure that caused her to fall face first onto the bathroom floor. The blow to her head caused Traumatic Subarachnoid Hemorrhage and she was pronounced brain dead a few days later.

It was after her death, that I found MGTOW. So today when people ask if I intend to remarry, I state…

“My wife is dead! I’ve gone MGTOW”

Blue-Pill Virgin: Women hate me! That's what it is.
MGTOW Man: Hate them back; it works for me.

[Truthseeker82Participant 6406]

Did you love her? If so I’m sorry for your loss. You are taking a positive step in moving forth in the MGTOW mode

[Anonymous 54]

You got me man! I didnt expect that. Im sorry for your loss.But now an opportunity to pic a new life path.

[LurchParticipant 3866]

Truthseeker82 wrote:

Did you love her?

Yes I did and I do miss her to this day. I know there is no such thing as a NAWALT, but she was damn close. (Loved to play Gears of War & HALO, watched Firefly to the point she could quote lines from the show and was what we would consider a gamer nerd… not the stippers you see today, posing with game controllers draped over their “assets”. Thank TFM for bring that to my attention.)

With the good, came the AWALT behaviors, like hiding her prescription drug addiction until it was too late. I knew she took a lot of prescription pain killers, to deal with her end stage renal disease, but not to the levels the ER Doctors found in her system on that fateful night.

Despite that, I still can’t bring myself to consider dating, it still feels like I’m cheating on her, even if it’s in her memory. However, with what knowledge the Red Pill has given me and the stories I see here, I know that MGTOW is the only way I can go, if only for my sanity and well being.

Blue-Pill Virgin: Women hate me! That's what it is.
MGTOW Man: Hate them back; it works for me.

[Anonymous 54]

Loyalty is an admirable quality.You can go Mgtow and not have to wrestle with loyalty issuses when being invovled with new women.Time will ease the pain .

[StargazerParticipant 12505]

“She died.” is exactly what I expected when I read this post title.

Now I have to wonder if that says something rotten about me or about the sad state of divorce proceedings in this country.

Seeing someone die is nothing to gloat over, but I can understand how being a widower is, strictly for you, a better state of affairs than being raked over the coals for the rest of your life by a bad divorce settlement.

[LurchParticipant 3866]

Anonymous wrote:

Loyalty is an admirable quality.You can go Mgtow and not have to wrestle with loyalty issuses when being invovled with new women.

Indeed. Some people say that me hanging onto the memories of my wife is living in the past and that I need to “move on”.

I have moved on but I choose to still honour her memory, as such I have no desire to remarry or get to know another women on a romantic level. That was reserved for my wife alone and while she may be gone from this world, my commitment is still as strong as ever.

There is irony to this sad tale. I am committed more to a marriage with a ghost, than I could ever hope for with a woman alive today. It is this commitment that fuels my motivation to go Monk Mode.

However this does have a positive effect for my future life, in that there is ZERO chance of getting baby-daddy trapped with another predatory woman, enslaved in the bonds of a second matrimony.

Blue-Pill Virgin: Women hate me! That's what it is.
MGTOW Man: Hate them back; it works for me.

[LurchParticipant 3866]

Stargazer wrote:

…but I can understand how being a widower is, strictly for you, a better state of affairs than being raked over the coals for the rest of your life by a bad divorce settlement.

I agree. I’ve seen horror stories here and I know, especially that during the time of our marriage I only had my Green Card (Originally from Australia, now nationalized American Citizen), not only could I have been emotionally, financially and probably criminally f~~~ed over… I’d probably get deported to boot.

Side Note: I came to the US on a E-3 work Visa, so I didn’t need a Green Card to work, that was her idea. In the end I am grateful she pushed me to get it, one of the few positive outcomes of our time together.

Blue-Pill Virgin: Women hate me! That's what it is.
MGTOW Man: Hate them back; it works for me.

[Anonymous 54]

People that tell you to move on,dont live in the past,have obviosly never been thru this. There opinion is irrelevant.

[LurchParticipant 3866]

The more I read here, view MGTOW videos (Sandman, TFM, Thinking Ape) and let the Red Pill take effect, the more I do realize how lucky I am.

We never had any kids, so I’m glad I that is one complication that I am not burdened with. However I did “inherit” my late wife’s 4 Chihuahua’s, but they have really helped keep the loneliness at bay. Now that they’ve got used to just me around the house, things have settled down.

Blue-Pill Virgin: Women hate me! That's what it is.
MGTOW Man: Hate them back; it works for me.

[Mr. SpockParticipant 10910]

I am sorry for your loss and I welcome you to the forums. Please keep us posted on how you are doing.

Feminism isn't about equality with men, it's about leverage over men.

[LurchParticipant 3866]

Thanks, appreciate it. 🙂

Blue-Pill Virgin: Women hate me! That's what it is.
MGTOW Man: Hate them back; it works for me.

[Jan SobieskiParticipant 28791]

I am sorry for your loss.

Love is just alimony waiting to happen. Visit mgtow.com.

[Anonymous 0]

Welcome Brother,
Sorry to hear it. Those people telling you how to grieve come under the title “DGI” Don’t Get It. Grieving is a personal journey and takes years to complete. Don’t let anyone tell you how you should feel or when or how to stop wearing your ring.
What was helpful for me was a website “widownet.org”. Check it out. How can I say these things? I lost my second wife after a two and a half year battle with breast cancer. She was a NAWALT but she is gone and I am still here. I tried dating. What a disaster. Read my intro post if you want titled ” Peace at Last”. Anyway, hope to hear more from you.

[MattNYCParticipant 2329]

Hey Lurch, all the best to you.

Welcome.

[HitmanParticipant]

welcome lurch.
must say sorry for your loss.
i am a bit jealous..wish my ex passed away quickly.
the hell she put me through was the worst ..
she can ruin me with a phone call or two, so i humor her and minimize all contact.
thank god she loves to drink and leaves our child with me constantly.
please forgive me if i was too forward.

[experiencedParticipant]

Welcome Lurch.
Enjoy life.
‘Carefully’ for right now because:
http://25.media.tumblr.com/a192bd825ecccd81c86581119daa32f4/tumblr_mk6hf6lAbO1qj0r5qo1_500.gif

Nah, you won’t let that happen.

"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

[TiredofbsParticipant 485]

Very sorry for your loss and as far as people saying to move on, one never moves on from personal tragedy. You are wise in trying to rebuild your life without the hindrance of getting involved with a new woman who probably will be nothing like your deceased wife. Take care and stay strong. Once again, hate to hear something like that.

[LurchParticipant 3866]

Hitman wrote:

please forgive me if i was too forward.

No worries, you’re not.

However I did go through my version of hell, at least for the last three years. As her health declined, as the pain killer doses kept going up, I was really getting concerned about something like this (i.e. Overdose) was going to happen.

She was under the care of a pain management specialist. In Texas and later I found out in Missouri, when you have a pain management doctor, you have to sign an agreement that you don’t take any other pain medication than what they prescribe you. She was getting a “c~~~tail” of methadone, opioids and other analgesics, which was close to the threshold of what a typical person could handle. The last thing the doctor wanted is her taking extra meds without his knowledge, which would push her over the edge.

As bull headed my wife was, she was very AWALT in her attitude with her meds. She kept saying she knew her body, doctors were idiots and she knew better. Sure she worked in medical labs, assisted in drug trials but damn… she is no doctor.

For years I tried to convince her to follow medical advice, but at the time in the marriage, after 3 years of being worn down emotionally, I was her beta bitch, so yea… my opinion didn’t matter for crap. I was hell emotionally, seeing your loved one slowly die and there is nothing you can do or say to avoid the bloody obvious train wreck, screaming down the tracks in your direction.

It got to the stage that in the beginning of 2015, months before the end, and after 4 ambulance dashes to the ER I knew if this was to go on she was not going to see 2016. Regardless, each time she got out of hospital, she took her prescribed pain meds and other meds she got from “doctor shopping”, mail-order or “friends”. She was in the full grip of addiction and only a medical intervention would save her, complete with psych orderlies man-handling her to the psych ward.

So then inevitable came to past and even though I feel terrible about the outcome, I’m free of the distress of watching her destroy herself.

Blue-Pill Virgin: Women hate me! That's what it is.
MGTOW Man: Hate them back; it works for me.

[OgreParticipant 5863]

Lurch, your route here wasn’t typical or fun, but you’ve learned the same lesson. Sorry you had to watch her follow that path, and now that you’ve taken the red pill you’re probably much better off for the future.

Like Doc, I knew from your title. I don’t want to speak for him but I’m a cynical asshole, so no divorce is going to be “good”. I clicked the thread just to find out how she left the Earth. Whether it was intentional or accidental, just from her last act she was a selfish woman.

I failed to realize in my youth that I was the prize. I was going to work. I was going to earn. Little did I realize that due to feminism, that no longer meant I had to share. Road soon, Desert after.

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