My introduction, red pill recovery.. Back to how it should have always been

[RhinoParticipant 3477]

Brother when I started to read your intro I was starting to cringe when you wrote single mother but as I kept reading I was surprised to see that you dodged a major bullet and you know this which is even better. Great read thanks for sharing you got the red pill in you and are well on your way to a better life. You are still young and you have a great life waiting for you with this knowledge you have it can only get better from here. Welcome to the forums look forward to reading more of your posts.

[Dashing Young DissidentSpectator]

ExpendableYouth wrote:

Thanks guys. I wish I was making all of above up, but man…..I was nothing but a spectator towards the end and I was able to step back and just see “the turn” they all talk about. Oh, “it’ll never happen to you, NAWALT..)…bahahaha….no, they are. If not 4 months, 4 years…maybe even 40?? (My god almighty)….it comes out.

Today is actually a year exactly when she decided I was of no utility anymore and decided to end things via text message. It’s been an interesting 365 days. Worry not, my good friends…I never once asked to get back together or anything. In fact, I contained myself in the Master Bedroom and counted down the days until she was gone, going to work and everything as normal that I would do regardless. It has been about 7 months since everyone has been gone. Now I tell you all, it is so f~~~ing quiet and peaceful around here. You can hear a pin drop. And that’s important to me.

Now do not get my words twisted. This did in fact, f~~~ me up pretty badly. And truth be told, I was actually more concerned with the added bills that I will be taking on, than losing someone who obviously did not care for me at all once I had served a purpose. I am pretty behind now, when I add everything up I would have about an extra…..I don’t know, 7 or 8,000 dollars AT LEAST saved up. I do not have that now, which really set me back getting out of debt (Let’s not forget, having a lease together meant both of us putting down the F.L.S deposit, I paid her 1,500 upon leaving so I will eventually get that if I ever stop renting this place via landlord). I would say this whole 2 years I spent, and the 1 year aftermath set me back about 2 years. But I THINK 2 IS BETTER THAN 20. Now I just work more and try to make up for the difference in person leaving. It is IN MY CONTROL, I am controlling my own destiny.

It’s possible. You do not need that in your life. You will be happy once you finally rediscover YOURSELF. Remember who that was, guys? He was pretty f~~~ing bad ass…what the HELL happened? Oh yeah….you “needed that in your life”. How’d that workout for ya? Oh….LOL. And you know it. I am glad more people REMEMBERED and went back to what makes THEM HAPPY. I love women, but I know better and I just happened to make a mistake. Watch them be crazy….FROM A DISTANCE. You got to ask yourself this…“What did I do for me today?”. Get into a habit of that…..and smile knowing you aren’t asking yourself “What am I going to do for her, her kids, the ex husband,her mom who you know should see a therapist, and don’t forget how you are going to pay for them”.

Cheers

Dude, I very much look forward to hearing ‘a pin drop’ when its so quiet because i finally have my own place. When i lived with my ex and her wretched little f~~~ing kid, my stress levels were through the god damn roof.

They never shut the f~~~ up and were constantly in my face. Her kid was a vile little c~~~ with an attitude and behavior problem, a self absorbed princess bitch who made my life a f~~~ing misery.

I dont have my own place at the moment but when i do im not going to share it with ANYONE. No one apart from my son who i hope will eventually be able to live with me and get away from his fat land whale uselss bitch of a mother who offers him no quality of life what so ever.

God damn, why do we do this to ourselves guys? All hail the bachelor life.

[ExpendableYouthParticipant 381]

Thanks for the replies, guys. It’s good to share this. This s~~~ really happened, I don’t want it to happen to any of you guys. I have to use it as a reminder for those on the fence….and hope it helps someone from making the same mistake.

Oh I’m young, I am only 30. I am glad I snapped out of it, and realize it’s all just a waste of time I can be spent on myself. I kind of knew that before I got involved with this last one, but damn it— it was just too convenient being in the same house. My mistake on having a women live with me and SIGN THE LEASE (I had lived with 2 other women throughout the years with absolutely platonic friendships…I was only person on lease. I’ve had about….8 or 9 roommates over the years)

On a side note though guys, the kids were not a big problem. They were actually pretty well behaved for the most part, honestly. I was not their dad, I did not do much with them unless they wanted to hang out or play something around the house. In fact, I made it my goal not to do anything with them. They weren’t my kids, I knew this going into it. I was a good role model for them, that was it though. It is not something I want to revisit, ever again. Kids (for the most part, especially at the young ages of about 3-7) are innocent in all this. But when it boils down to it, they will never be yours. You will NEVER be a top priority. And you will be REPLACED when your utility is fulled achieved. And there is always a Chad waiting for you to mess up. I’ve now seen this down many times personally to start actually putting these into statistics.

I see you guys in here, and think about the ex’s former husband. He did not work or make as much as her, and I think SHE actually gives HIM child support. So that may be a rarity, but I remember countless boring f~~~ing legal divorce talk that I have absolutely zero interest in, as it is not my life situations where it was discussed. To my credit, I was never a dick to the guy. I did not know him, only what “she” had “TOLD” me. You have to take it with a grain of salt, but being a BluePiller at the time you try to “rescue” them from a situation… In fact, whenever he came to pick up or drop off the kids, I made sure I wasn’t home or was just doing my own thing.

(Step back a second– did you catch what I just typed? Why the F~~~ would you ever want to put yourself in a position that THIS is a possibility to discuss???????????? You put yourself in the back burner because you will never be number one priority with someone who has children. And then you still have the ex-husband, on top of two kids and her. LEARN FROM THESE LESSONS I HAVE LEARNED, I pass this onto you. These are warning signs, abandon ship!!!!! They WILL replace you, guys it’s almost certain. 1 or 2 out of 100 MAY stay with you for a few years, but once that vagina starts tingling….you are DONE. Do you understand that? Done. And for what? Now you have to start saying “What can I DO BETTER WITH MY TIME, because this was ultimately not worth it???. How will I better enrich my life, and wealth?”. And then, that’s when it hits you. You MGTOW, baby.

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