Marry me, or leave! You guys saved me…

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Total Lee wrote:

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Not really a laughing matter because this sort of thing was not easy.

It’sallbs wrote:

I don’t want to be too doom and gloom but watch your back. Many women in similar circumstances have had people arrested on fake battery or rape charges et

Hell be OK because he handled it like an adult, was well prepared, thought ahead, took measures and calmly said “I choose “leave”.” at her instruction.

When a woman says “I need space” you give her the goddam galaxy… and within 24 hours she blows up your phone wondering where you went.

Key here now is to not cave and stand his ground.

The level of respect she has for him now is YUGE.
(whether she hates him for it or not).

That’s owning your s~~~.

“What a terrific advantage man can have over women if he only knew the cold and calculating thoughts going through her mind while her eyes are brimming with tears”.
– The Manipulated Man

Some quotes stick with you for life the first time you hear them.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

XSDBS wrote:

I have personally have this happen to me three times.

It’s everywhere, and it’s very revealing. How is it possible to be a man and have no interested in marrying ONE…. but she will marry the very next one… or the next one…. or the next one. I swear, it’s like women don’t give a s~~~ who he is.

I also saw it in a movie once, exactly this line delivered by Glenn Close:
“My dear….. when it comes to marriage, one man is as good as the next”.

Blew my mind and confirmed this attitude.

The movie was “Dangerous Liaisons”.
Great film. A must. John Malkovich rocks in it.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[TrapperParticipant 2912]

Anonymous wrote:

imagine coming here in 3 years, a broken man, spent thousands of dollars in court to protect yr property and visitation rights to a kid or two, maybe a contempt charge on yr record up to yr neck in debt, living in a tent in south west Kansas looking for a job…oh wait, that’s what happened to me

never mind

Oh damn ?

[FermatParticipant 3478]

Finally some good news around here. Welcome brother.

I have discovered a truly remarkable list of reasons why women are not necessary for a happy life, but alas this margin is too small to contain it.

[Joey AlfioParticipant]

That’s got to be the best intro in mgtow history. Welcome aboard!

Δεν υπάρχει τίποτε αδύνατο γι’ αυτόν που θα προσπαθήσει. - Μέγας Αλέξανδρος

[RockmaninoffParticipant 1641]

Keymaster wrote:

How is it possible to be a man and have no interested in marrying ONE…. but she will marry the very next one… or the next one…. or the next one. I swear, it’s like women don’t give a s~~~ who he is.

If I had to guess, it’s probably biology. I’d reckon that the women who waited to see if their man was acceptable (which takes a really long time) got old, their eggs dried up, and never passed on their genes. Modern humanity are descended from women who were really really determined to have children really young.

". . . elle, suivant l’usage des femmes et des chats qui ne viennent pas quand on les appelle et qui viennent quand on ne les appelle pas, s’arrêta devant moi et m’adressa la parole"—Prosper Mérimée

[SolidParticipant 7520]

Keymaster wrote:

“My dear….. when it comes to marriage, one man is as good as the next”.

Blew my mind and confirmed this attitude.

I’ve seen this four times in my life, it was disgusting ! And one of those ones was me, not married, but assumed a relationship. Two were girls that I know in my social circle, and the other was another ex with her “next” boyfriend.

You know what is worst from it ? You were the second place, not “the best deal”, so, if in a normal situation she will think that she can do better, now she will think that she can do 100x better, and need to prove to anyone that you are better than the “first choice”. She will start everything bitching like you were 10 years together. And as you were the silver medal guy, she will request more effort, because in her point of view, she being with you, is already a great deal to you, better than anything that you deserve.

AWALT, but if you are the silver medal guy, it’s even worst !

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Solid wrote:

You were the second place, not “the best deal”,

THAT’S IT!!. Explained right there.

Even Chris Rock said it: “Wanna know the #1 reason why your woman is always p~~~ed the f~~~ off? Because you ain’t her first choice“..

And then C~~~ington Post said it too:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/yourtango/i-wish-my-husband-was-the-love-of-my-life_b_9857420.html

So there you go, gents. All the information you’ll ever need in one thread. When she gives you a choice to “marry her or leave”…. LEAVE. And don’t even think twice about it.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[MGTOW_MedicParticipant 184]

Keymaster wrote:

Solid wrote:

You were the second place, not “the best deal”,

THAT’S IT!!. Explained right there.

Even Chris Rock said it: “Wanna know the #1 reason why your woman is always p~~~ed the f~~~ off? Because you ain’t her first choice“..

And then C~~~ington Post said it too:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/yourtango/i-wish-my-husband-was-the-love-of-my-life_b_9857420.html

So there you go, gents. All the information you’ll ever need in one thread. When she gives you a choice to “marry her or leave”…. LEAVE. And don’t even think twice about it.

Now I am in the period of thinking: “Why didn’t I see this before?”

MGtOW_Medic - EMT - P, Firefighter Lvl 2, Hazmat Ops

[xlrsnbrgParticipant 1786]

Trapper wrote:

That was the “it” moment for me. Doubts were gone, I was doing the right thing. I did as I said and left, don’t get me wrong I miss her, but I couldn’t stay! Cave on that and she owns me and loses respect for me in the same blink of the eye.

A man shouldn't make his life's objective to be on the side of the majority, but to avoid finding himself in the ranks of the insane. (Marcus Aurelius)

[Binary LogicParticipant 2351]

So good… I had to come back and read your intro twice. I lie to you not… its pure gold I tell ya…PURE GOLD!

Funny, isn't it? How women thrive on a mans time, attention and resources, while simultaneously telling him he isn't enough...

[Binary LogicParticipant 2351]

Stargazer wrote:

So much win. The force is strong with this one

Funny, isn't it? How women thrive on a mans time, attention and resources, while simultaneously telling him he isn't enough...

[Anonymous 0]

Welcome home, Trapper
Many of us have had that “AHA” moment; unfortunately some, like myself, had to get divorce raped before we got it. Kudos to you for seeing it first and being so forthright about your intro. I look forward to your posts.

[BadgerParticipant 2277]

Congrats, Trapper for escaping the ultimatum trap. You looked before you leaped and learned from the old vets here who give you the straight truth.

Please let us know if she tries to contact you again to “explain” that she really “didn’t mean it that way.”

[Anonymous 3]

This is awesome! Great intro.

[Blackagar BoltagonParticipant 64]

Having been in the same situation twice myself, allow me to add that you made the right choice. This is the classic female endgame. We all know how it would have gone if you had caved.

Speak softly, strike accurately and hit with the force of a thermonuclear bomb

[VarunParticipant 2981]

You sir are A-W-A-S-O-M-E.

I’m so happy that this site actually made a difference.

One more life saved.

Mr. Trapper, sure you’ll have your doubts, but never ever regret this decision.

You only get one shot in life, and you have the full right to live it as it pleases YOU, not someone else.

You’re an epitome of freedom, my friend. Millions aspire to be like you, have the b~~~~ you have to show the middle finger to this gynocentric society and break free of your shackles.

Peace to you, brother. Rest assured, you’re gonna have an awesome life from now on…no doubt about that.

A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush.

[Ain’t No RomeoParticipant 119]

Congrats, brother! You definitely made the right choice.

I got the same ultimatum tonight, parked at the lake. I wasn’t as smooth as you. I just didn’t respond. She told me I didn’t have to answer until after the holidays. I love her. I’ll miss her. I’ll keep my assets intact.

Signing a f~~~ed up contract for ‘unconditional’ love is absurd.

[Anonymous 43]

See Mark Mac…you are not the only one going through what you just experienced.

You watch out for the backlash from that c~~~ of yours…she has a lot of time and energy invested in you and got ZERO Rate of Return. You were her meal ticket and it was revoked until the next guy she meets…next week. Her standards will be lowered out of desperation and frustration. I guarantee it. You will look at the man she trapped and wonder wtf is she doing with that loser….its the best she could do, and he thinks he is the luckiest man alive and found his special snowflake. Prolly thanking God for bestowing this wonderful woman upon his miserable life. She will never ever tell him about the lake incident, but make up some lie that you are some drunken meth head woman beater and she just had to get out of an abusive situation and the tears flow, hold me Chad Thunderc~~~ while I gently grind my self on you a little.

Mark Mac and Trapper….You earned the Distinguished MGTOW Cross for self preservation under extreme emotional fire and saved yourselves many days of heartbreak and ruin. A grateful MGTOW nation celebrates with you in your victory.

SALUTE!

That post about you were her next choice is so f~~~ing true.

[BadgerParticipant 2277]

Whenever either of you feel a tinge of regret for your decision, log onto MGTOW and read the stories of the men that have gone through a divorce or are in a marriage that they desperately want to get out of. Take out a coin, flip it and realize what your odds of divorce will be. Even if you might have no divorce, the stories of those who don’t divorce will sober you enough to realize that they are no better off than you are being single.

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