Married men suffered from dead bedroom sexual voilence

[aeragoanParticipant 1186]

I think I found the most depressing Reddit ever.i.e. DeadBedroom.I am single and never wanna be married at all..But i wanna know experiences of married men about deadbedroom here who become mgtow recently…

[HitmanParticipant]

Not sure about reddit ‘ s definition. .
I can tell you that the honeymoon don’t last forever. .
Then your stuck with a cold ass bitch who is then pretty much worthless.

[Mr. SpockParticipant 10907]

It is true. After the first year of marriage it wasn’t bad. I had sex every other day but every year that passed after that, the frequency of sex would become less and less. By the 7th year I was getting sex once a week and every once in awhile a 10 day sexless streak would show up. I tried telling my wife how disappointed I was in the decline of sex and she justified it with several comments;

“Jesus, you act like you NEVER get laid!”

“What’s your problem, you still get laid more than most guys your age.” I was 38 at the time.

“Well, I’ve talked to other married couples and it’s normal for the frequency to go down as you get older.”

I also started cheating around the 4th year of our marriage and one of the factors was the declining sex.
For those reading this who are on the fence about MGTOW, marriage does not guarantee sex. Before you get married she’ll be every porn star you ever witnessed all rolled up into one. She’ll do that just so she can get you to believe that THAT is what the rest of your life is going to be like with her and all you have to do is get married or at least let her move in with you.
Don’t take the bait. The moment you say yes is when she’ll start saying “no” and there isn’t a thing you can do about it without it costing you some major bucks.
And she knows it too.

Feminism isn't about equality with men, it's about leverage over men.

[narwhalParticipant]

From what I am experience and what other’s have told me, it tends to follow a variation of the following stages.

1 – Man and woman have good sex.
2 – Woman stops the sex once commitment is achieved.
3 – Man accepts the sex is over.
4 – Woman starts wanting sex again, but man has already moved past that.
5 – Woman divorces man because she ‘feel out of love’. Sometimes she may stick it out for the kids or if the husband makes good money.

Ok. Then do it.

[ILiveAgainParticipant]

The sex reduction clock starts from the first date, doubles up on engagement ring and then goes hyper on marriage.

[GeraldParticipant 3620]

As a recent addition to the site, am happy to add my story. My wife, when I first knew her long ago (long before marriage or even considered) was a bit of a nympho. She was notorious for taking guys home from the bar. Fast forward 15 years and we get together, she is aggressive, horny all the time, into ‘f**king’ not ‘lovemaking’ and this continues through the first year of marriage or so. Then, as it does with all familiarity, it begins to die off. I will state that I didn’t mind, as there was no emotion there (yes, I know, what a little blue pill bitch I was) but there was no connection, just do me and get off.

Now… it is rare… I’m 9 years in and we only occasionally have sex, maybe once a quarter year, and then I hear ‘you don’t hold me afterwards’ and s~~~ like that… when it used to be just do it and get it over with… and she has always complained about my not being able to get her off… yet her vibrator works… and in the past few years she hasn’t even wanted to use that.

Wow… sounds awful. Yet… I don’t mind the dead bedroom. I don’t have to try to please her and I know I can please myself, and do when I need it.

No longer can we walk away, we must run. Remove the motive power.

[BadgerParticipant 2277]

When I was still working, I often noticed that a few of the married men appeared to be obsessed with sex. They constantly brought it up in conversations with others, including sometimes with women. These explanations are apparently why they did that.

[bigboy83Participant 11312]

I’ve been told, it can take a effect after only 6 months, these days.

C~~~s are probably ready for a cuckold.

Shit Tested, Cunt Approved.

[Anonymous 5]

Gerald wrote:

she has always complained about my not being able to get her off… yet her vibrator works

They all have their vibrators, dildos and beads and things they stick up their arse. Some have whole draws full of them.
There’s no embarrassment or guilt what so ever. They brag about them.
BUT just watch them go into overdrive with ridiculing shame tactics when they talk about men using sex aids, a fleshlight,,,,,hahaha

[Biggvs_DickvsParticipant 3725]

Gerald wrote:

Wow… sounds awful. Yet… I don’t mind the dead bedroom. I don’t have to try to please her and I know I can please myself, and do when I need it.

Dude, sorry to hear that. Have you thought about just ending the marriage? I suspect she will eventually or at least she’ll be off banging “Chad” (as we like to call him) behind your back.

bigboy83 wrote:

I’ve been told, it can take a effect after only 6 months, these days.

Never been married, but it seems to be human nature. If you’re getting the same sex for an extended period of time, it like hearing the same piece of music over and over. “Money for Nothing” sounded f~~~ing awesome the first few times you heard it. After you bought the album and listened to it for the 63rd time? NotSoMuch.

Anonymous wrote:

BUT just watch them go into overdrive with ridiculing shame tactics when they talk about men using sex aids, a fleshlight,,,,,hahaha

I told one chick I was with that I had two different Fleshlights. She asked me why I had two of them and I told her it was “so I can have a threesome if I want.”

"Data, I would be delighted to offer any advice I can on understanding women. When I have some, I'll let you know." --Captain Picard,

[Anonymous 54]

There is no sex after marriage. That’s the plain simple through. For the reasons listed. Youll be made to jump thru hoops for just enough to not satisfy you. Married guys don’t talk about this cause they don’t want to admit it.Spent most of my youth feeling like a nuisance. F~~~ that. You get the most,the best sex in the first year or so then it’s over.You get a steady flow of sex with a new girlfriend every year or so.

[ChuddoxParticipant 585]

I think most married men are fine with the lack of sex from their wife. Many probably welcome it. What bothers women is that those men stop pussy begging. Those women don’t have the same degree of control that they used to. These men start looking elsewhere for satisfaction (not just sexual), and they find it. Women (who can never seem to be satisfied with anything) in general don’t seem to have this ability. They stay dissatisfied in perpetuity. They then wonder what is point of being married if they can divorce and get money and have Chad at the same time. They think this will make them happy. So they take his money, and his kids, and most of his stuff, and then chase after Chad in search of happiness which is, of course ever elusive. She’s older now, so she is in the position of a man where her finances (his old finances) are now more attractive to a jobless Chad then her actual looks. When the money dries up, so does the affection from Chad (Hows does that feel bitch? Its what you just did to your ex) and soon enough she is broke, post wall, with no skills and no prospects. Meanwhile the kids are grown, the support has dried up, and the man is now living happy and free. Kind of poetic.

“Civilized men are more discourteous than savages because they know they can be impolite without having their skulls split, as a general thing.” - Robert E. Howard

[Oz-BlokeParticipant 3233]

#ManOut

[Biggvs_DickvsParticipant 3725]

Anonymous wrote:

You get a steady flow of sex with a new girlfriend every year or so.

Brilliant.

Chuddox wrote:

She’s older now, so she is in the position of a man where her finances (his old finances) are now more attractive to a jobless Chad then her actual looks.

Wow, my daughter’s mom is in exactly this position. Let a (mostly) unemployed karayoke DJ / part time bartender(apparently) move into her house just this last month.

I left because I got tired of working a full time IT job and then coming home to start my second job around the house cooking, taking care of the kid, and doing all the maintenance etc.

I’m a picky eater so I prefer to cook. Basically all I needed her to do was help with cleaning and her share of kid duty, but instead I got the “I
m not your maid” bulls~~~.

Even though I mostly did the dishes. It was almost like she was trying to play out a script from a bad drama sponsored by Cosmopolitan magazine.

Only I wouldn’t play along.

I did everything right, and acted generally selfless (for the sake of my kid) contrary to what her women’s magazines and similar sources led her to believe I would. I just kept trudging along, but refused to surrender the living room etc to the feminine norm.

I paid the rent on the f~~~er.

So I had computer parts around, O gauge train tracks running around, beer brewing stuff, etc.

I was a model babydaddy / would-be husband or whatever in pretty much every way. Did my share of the kid work: fed her, changed her, washed her, held her, all of it. Cooked, did dishes, earned and paid the bills. All basically so I could be around my kid as much as possible in the early formative years.

But I refused to surrender to her ideas of decorum and how the house should look or be organized. I paid for the f~~~er, I’ll leave my s~~~ where I feel like it, as long as it isn’t a health hazard or dangerous for kiddo.

When I didn’t go along with her scripted domestic drama, eventually she picked up and left – following right along with MY script. By that time, my kid knew exactly who her daddy was and there was no going back.

No marriage, no divorce, no alimony. To keep things friendly, I agreed to a reasonable child support payment. Her family really liked me a lot(still do), and wouldn’t let her get away with any shenanighans. That was key BTW: If you’re ever thinking about having kids, make sure you get in good with her family and that their opinion of her matters to her. So far it’s allowed me to have unlimited unrestricted access to my kid. Within the bounds of common courtesy – we try not to step on each others plans as long as there’s fair warning of them in advance.

Bottom line: Don’t get married, even if you want to have kids.

"Data, I would be delighted to offer any advice I can on understanding women. When I have some, I'll let you know." --Captain Picard,

[Biggvs_DickvsParticipant 3725]

I should also add that when I said “I left” at the beginning of my dreadfully long post, I really meant that I played it out so that she would leave of her own accord yet keep things friendly.

“We’re just not compatible.”

The money I saved when I left that house for a smaller apartment basically covered my child support.

Had I been married, I wouldn’t have had the option.

"Data, I would be delighted to offer any advice I can on understanding women. When I have some, I'll let you know." --Captain Picard,

[Mr. ManParticipant 2916]

I was pretty young during my fist marriage. Naturally, I wanted to f~~~ a lot. However, I got tired of her dead fish routine and never initiating sex. So, I conducted an experiment. I wanted to see how long would it take for her to initiate sex if I didn’t. I was just as affectionate as always, but simply did not initiate.

Eight months.

F~~~ that s~~~. The marriage lasted seven years, but I could not take the dead bedroom. Divorce.

[experiencedParticipant]

Mr. Spock wrote:

It is true. After the first year of marriage it wasn’t bad. I had sex every other day but every year that passed after that, the frequency of sex would become less and less. By the 7th year I was getting sex once a week and every once in awhile a 10 day sexless streak would show up. I tried telling my wife how disappointed I was in the decline of sex and she justified it with several comments;

“Jesus, you act like you NEVER get laid!”

“What’s your problem, you still get laid more than most guys your age.” I was 38 at the time.

“Well, I’ve talked to other married couples and it’s normal for the frequency to go down as you get older.”

I also started cheating around the 4th year of our marriage and one of the factors was the declining sex.
For those reading this who are on the fence about MGTOW, marriage does not guarantee sex. Before you get married she’ll be every porn star you ever witnessed all rolled up into one. She’ll do that just so she can get you to believe that THAT is what the rest of your life is going to be like with her and all you have to do is get married or at least let her move in with you.
Don’t take the bait. The moment you say yes is when she’ll start saying “no” and there isn’t a thing you can do about it without it costing you some major bucks.
And she knows it too.

Her deal:
A) If you don’t marry her now, Gone/she’ll be gone/that’s it/no more sex from her/it’s over/she’ll be frolicking on another c~~~ by sundown!
B) You marry her now, the teeter-totter tips downhill, she’s locked in your resources. Slowly, inevitably, she is gone/she’s gone/she’s filed/no more sex from her/it’s over/she’s frolicking on another c~~~ as it’s sundown “that” day.

A) no sex via immediate consequences.
B) no sex via slow consequences AND your resources are destroyed.

{sarcasm} Obviously the wise decision is “B)”. Put your head in the sand. Enjoy the slow death of sex, and don’t forget to lube your anus as she will sodomize you financially and temporarily mentally. Always give women the upper hand. They will stay truly grateful and life will be a bed of roses. Kiss her ass for giving you the choice. You should be thankful. {end sarcasm}

"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

[Biggvs_DickvsParticipant 3725]

Awesome post experienced. If you want to look cool to the young’uns, that last bit should have read: </sarcasm>

"Data, I would be delighted to offer any advice I can on understanding women. When I have some, I'll let you know." --Captain Picard,

[EyeswideopenParticipant 2930]

Dead bedroom is an understatement. Granted, I work a grueling schedule that involves lots and lots of shift work and long long hours when I am on call. Some of it was a lack of opportunity; but this was a known quantity before marriage.

I not sure if I can put words to the concept but the ex subtly killed my sex drive. She is passive-aggressive and as CPig helped me realize a borderline.

Somehow she managed to give off a “vibe”, I really can’t put words to it, that she did not want to sleep with me; but insist that I was sexually neglecting her and she needed me so bad. I almost always initiated. She would initiate at totally unreasonable times such as after a 75hr work week – I would obviously not be in the mood and she would use this to instill guilt. This fed into a negative spiral of guilt and shame as my sex drive dwindled. Behind the scenes she was getting pipped by at least one Chad.

At best sex was once every 4-6 weeks during the first year of marriage. She then gaslite me once I found out about her affair(s) and claimed that I created the situation and destroyed the relationship.

My friends, there is nothing worse in a relationship then dreading sex.

- Marriage is described as an institution. You would have to be crazy to be commited to it. -"If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal. Not people or things" Albert Einstein

[Dirtydog73Participant 232]

narwhal wrote:

From what I am experience and what other’s have told me, it tends to follow a variation of the following stages.

1 – Man and woman have good sex.
2 – Woman stops the sex once commitment is achieved.
3 – Man accepts the sex is over.
4 – Woman starts wanting sex again, but man has already moved past that.
5 – Woman divorces man because she ‘feel out of love’. Sometimes she may stick it out for the kids or if the husband makes good money.

Mine right there.
In the end it got mechnical….there was good connection and the ability to orgasm together etc all the good stuff….then it went downhill.I would come home from a two week stint away at work ,and yeah she would be up for it ,but she was usually drunk or asleep from drinking.It turned into a chore…not pleasant.I tried various things,especially during the day when it was just me and her at home …still felt very mechanical.like she was going through the motions cause she had to.Sometimes she would cry afterwards….I only recently figured that bit out…she didn’t love me anymore and was only doing what she had to to make the relationship seem real.
She went to the lawyers today .legal letter of separation. It has begun……….

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