Male Tears in the workplace

[MajinParticipant 56]

Hi guys,

I’m on my 2nd day at a new job, one which I already knew my colegues and my boss, since I had my internship here for quite a long time while I was graduating.

I think it’s a recent thing (otherwise I would have noticed it before), but one of my co-workers has a “Male Tears” cup. I was familiar with some of them being open feminists, but I hadn’t noticed the shaming cup before.

I don’t think I should just sit in front of the cup and do nothing, since it’s clearly demeaning to men. But I also don’t want to overreact, since despite being a sexist provocation, it’s still just a cup.

I would appreciate suggestions on what I should do about it, what would be an appropriate response? A friend of mine suggested bringing a tit cup as mockery.

There’s a detail: I’ve been dating another co-worker (she got admited recently but we were dating long before that) for quite a long time. This girl I’m dating is somewhat anti-feminist and likes some anti-fem channels on youtube, but she’s very non-confrontational and would never call out a feminist, especially in the workplace. I also have no intention to involve her in the matter.

As long as co-workers don’t engage in intimate acts in the workplace, the bosses have absolutely no problem with co-workers dating; there have been other couples in the past and it was never a problem.

So, any tips?

There's no fate but what we make for ourselves.

[RemovedParticipant 4676]

I always role reverse it. Ask them if they would mind if you get a Women’s Tears mug. You can toast to the crying people together. It will lose its meaning to her, and she will either blow up and get rid of the mug, but you did nothing wrong, or she will play along, in which I would get the mug and play along until other women force both mugs to be removed. Make the women fight themselves is the best way, in my opinion. The whole time, you are just playing along and a person that understands.

[RemovedParticipant 4676]

By the way, there is no such thing as an anti-feminist woman. There is only a woman who has a man on the fishing line, and she needs to play with the hook until he fully bites. Women will never fight to equalize rights between men and women. It is all lip service.

[narwhalParticipant]

I disagree with Uly. You should do nothing, because you’re the new guy. Your boss doesn’t want you to come in start disrupting things. You’re already a risk since you are dating a coworker.

The best thing you can do is give this feminist nothing. She wants male tears, so give her none. You could freeze her out, but even that feeds into her game to an extent. I’d treat her just let everyone else. Let her wallow in her own issues.

At some point in the future, maybe a year from now, you could make an anonymous complaint to HR, but I really don’t think it’s necessary. It’s a dumb mug. You just don’t want to draw attention to yourself in the workplace.

Ok. Then do it.

[Anonymous 38]

Etch “FE” on the mug before the word “Male”. Or steal it, or smash it. Whups I knocked it out the cupboard, sorry.

[TaxGuyParticipant]

narwhal wrote:

It’s a dumb mug. You just don’t want to draw attention to yourself in the workplace.

Amen. She’s an idiot for having a mug like that at work. Don’t make yourself the bigger idiot by responding.

Order the good wine

[RemovedParticipant 4676]

Narwhal, That is not a bad approach, but if you must do something, go with the play along. It keeps you from being the one making the waves. It makes you look like you are going with the flow. Narwhal’s approach is the safest bet, however. I am just someone who enjoys messing with people’s minds, and watching them implode.

[AwakenedParticipant 35201]

Who Cares ?

Steer Clear of Em, and keep on Ghosting !!

If YOU draw ATTENTION to it, in your TYPICAL Blue pill World all of the ATTENTION will be on YOU.

What do YOU have to Potentially Gain ?

What do YOU Potentially have to Lose ?

In a World of Justin Beibers Be a Johnny Cash

[MajinParticipant 56]

Removed wrote:

By the way, there is no such thing as an anti-feminist woman. There is only a woman who has a man on the fishing line, and she needs to play with the hook until he fully bites. Women will never fight to equalize rights between men and women. It is all lip service.

Being anti-feminist doesn’t make her a NAWALT. Conservative/traditional women are mostly anti-feminist, but still expect men to do all the work; playing by female nature and being a feminist are not always the same thing.

narwhal wrote:

I disagree with Uly. You should do nothing, because you’re the new guy.

I suppose I should do nothing indeed… but man, it’s hard to let them spit on your face like that and just stand there.

There's no fate but what we make for ourselves.

[RemovedParticipant 4676]

The best advice you can get here, is not to care. Their opinions, feelings and ideas do not matter. Women flip flop more often than an I-Hop breakfast shift. If you let it bother you, definitely do nothing, because you can do something wrong that makes you the bad guy easily. My idea is just for fun, if you have no attachment. I am a trouble maker and always have been. I would also work on learning how not to care about these things.

[narwhalParticipant]

Majin wrote:

I suppose I should do nothing indeed… but man, it’s hard to let them spit on your face like that and just stand there.

It’s not a spit in your face. It’s a coffee mug. As I said before, she WANTS you to be offended. She wants the attention. Don’t give her what she wants.

Ok. Then do it.

[MajinParticipant 56]

You’re right narwhal, thanks for the advice.

There's no fate but what we make for ourselves.

[black_knightParticipant 2602]

I’ve got no idea what you’re talking about. What is a male tear cup?

[uchibenkeiParticipant 7965]

Create a new private email account and send an anonymous email to hr or whoever.

I bathe in the tears of single moms.

[Anonymous 0]

Removed wrote:

I always role reverse it. Ask them if they would mind if you get a Women’s Tears mug. You can toast to the crying people together. It will lose its meaning to her, and she will either blow up and get rid of the mug, but you did nothing wrong, or she will play along, in which I would get the mug and play along until other women force both mugs to be removed. Make the women fight themselves is the best way, in my opinion. The whole time, you are just playing along and a person that understands.

I like this idea!
I would get several Female Tears mugs marked “FREE” and put them in the cupboard for all to use. Then just start using them. Be fun to see what happens, then.

[TaxGuyParticipant]

narwhal wrote:

Majin wrote:

I suppose I should do nothing indeed… but man, it’s hard to let them spit on your face like that and just stand there.

It’s not a spit in your face. It’s a coffee mug. As I said before, she WANTS you to be offended. She wants the attention. Don’t give her what she wants.

She’s actually doing you a favor if you think about it. In order to really practice MGTOW, you have to have opportunities presented to you in order to make decisions. She’s helping you develop your “No F~~~s Given” muscles. Every time some chick does something like this and you are able to walk away, your NFG muscles get stronger.

Learning when to walk away is a skill to be learned. This is a very small example of a time to walk away.

Order the good wine

[DocParticipant]

It’s a f~~~ing nonsense tactic by a woman to shame men.

The best way to deal with it is ignore entirely.
Ignore to the point where even if the cup is mentioned you reply with ‘what cup’. When someone explains default straight back to ignorance of the cups existence.

Her – ‘you know the cup I just told you ablut’
You – ‘Nope, what cup is that?’

She explains and then says

‘Right, about that this cup’

You – ‘what cup’s that?’

The object of life is not to be on the side of the majority, but to escape, finding oneself in the ranks of the insane. Marcus Aurelius

[Anonymous 54]

Swagger. Act Manly.
Make no eye contact with her

[black_knightParticipant 2602]

When you get a moment, replace it with one which says “male cum”. See who cries then.

[narwhalParticipant]

TaxGuy wrote:

She’s actually doing you a favor if you think about it. In order to really practice MGTOW, you have to have opportunities presented to you in order to make decisions. She’s helping you develop your “No F~~~s Given” muscles. Every time some chick does something like this and you are able to walk away, your NFG muscles get stronger.
Learning when to walk away is a skill to be learned. This is a very small example of a time to walk away.

Agreed. Not only that, but you are training her as well. Showing her that cheap attention seeking crap like this doesn’t work. That there are men who don’t give a crap. She is neither the center of attention or the victim. Just lonely.

It’s not the same situation, but I accomplished this with my ex. A couple years back my ex was having trouble with her family and decided to tell me about it while I was picking up the kids. I didn’t acknowledged her saying anything. No response, not even a facial expression. Nothing. If I had shown sympathy, she would have tried to get more out of me. If I was rude, she’d hold it against me and been vindictive. She doesn’t tell me anything anymore, just the way I want it.

Ok. Then do it.

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