I have some experience with Asian women. It’s not because I have any secret code to interacting with them. But over the years, there have been several who have picked me out and approached me. I noticed the trend, but didn’t understand why until someone with a real Asian fetish explained it to me. I have blue eyes, and an Asian girl who’s grown up in an Asian country has likely never seen a guy with blue eyes before. It is as exotic to them as Asian women’s eyes are to caucasian men growing up in western countries. Who knew??? Asian women don’t talk openly about it.
I’m currently dating an Asian girl. It took me almost a year to get her to admit that it was blue eyes that first motivated her to contact me. Asian culture is all about saving face, and none are willing to give up information that might put them at risk of being teased about having a blue eyed guy fetish. But reading articles easily found by google, I learned that among couples dating across ethnic lines, the Asian female + caucasian male combination is the most common. Among that specific combination, older caucasian male + younger Asian female predominates by a wide margin. Several theories for this have been put forward. One likely one is that Asian culture still maintains some respect for their elders. And western male culture still maintains an appreciation for younger women. Asian women are famous for not appearing to be their actual age, and this is true for them at almost any age. American women of any age are famous for having zero respect for men (of any age).
Another theory is that the widespread bad behavior of caucasian women has made available a large supply of caucasian men who still want a woman, but are looking for one as far removed as possible from the caucasian women they’ve known. Asian men, for their part, who confuse being alpha with being abusive, have produced a supply of asian women who want something else as well. Among the Asian women I’ve known, being alpha only requires being firm and consistent. Inconsistency is a sign of weakness and they are not reassured by it. There will still be s~~~ tests, but as long as you recognize them for what they are and don’t over react in your response, you results are more predictable than with caucasian women.
If you are looking for an Asian woman, here’s my suggestion. You’ll need an education and a solid job. If you have blue eyes, get your pic taken against a blue back ground and put it on a dating site that allows you to search for a specific ethnicity. Explain your education and your solid job in your profile. Buddhist cultures equate financial and professional success to be blessings only bestowed on good an honorable people. Asian buddhist women are as likely to be looking for a man who is a good producer as any American gold digger, but that difference in perception is/can be significant. (According to that culture, historically at least, in order to save/maintain face, they are also expected to be good and honorable if they are blessed with a relationship with someone like that…). THIS IS NO GUARANTEE ON THEIR BEHAVIOR.
When you’ve done that, read the profiles carefully. You’re looking for a profile whose grammar is not perfect because this indicates English is not their first language…meaning they probably grew up in an Asian country. That matters…a LOT. Try to find one near the wall 28-30 who recently emigrated from her Asian country, has not yet been married and has no kids. They can still become westernized over time (after marriage) and turn into monsters, but at least you have access to them before that happens. Wether you can prevent that from happening…? Not certain by any means I am aware of.
Asian women who’ve grown up in the US and been subjected to American culture and educational systems are very likely to be as screwed up as any caucasian female. Don’t even bother. Any woman of any ethnicity who’s been through an American divorce, regardless of her background, is essentially ruined – End of story.
Last, know that a marriage contract is a horrible deal for you, regardless of who you sign it with. Also know that if you are determined to have children, any prenup you may have signed will almost certainly be disregarded by the court ‘in the best interests of the children’… and you should know by now how that story is going to end.
I would pay attention to the suggestions above about surrogacy if you are determined to have children. It isn’t cheap, but it will give you ownership. Any arrangement where you don’t have ownership, is going to cost you much, much more. It sounds like you are determined to just reproduce without regard to ownership. I hope you reconsider that.
Good luck…
(offers blindfold and cigarette)
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