Let it go

[Jan SobieskiParticipant 28791]

At some point you have to say “LET IT GO”. If you let every little thing bother you it will chew you up. Just let it go. Just let it go.

I say that 50 times a day. Just let it go. really.

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[ConstantineParticipant 4420]

The problem is that I’m one of those people who can’t stand to leave things unresolved. It drives me nuts when something gets started and I can’t find a way to finish it.

So as you can imagine, I have a hard time letting things go. Because once I get a thought in my head, I can’t do anything else until I’ve completed that train of thought. That’s why I used to have insomnia and am now on a course of sedatives to correct the problem. Before now, I would be up all night. Once I started thinking about things in life that bugged me, I couldn’t relax until I’d mentally examined the entire situation.

Sounds weird I know, but I’m being treated for it.

To see what is in front of one's nose requires a constant struggle. -Orwell

[The_Mad_PirateParticipant 1278]

I can’t pay alimony no more,
And my ex-wife got the kids.
And I better pay child support,
Or jail would be the next thing for me.

Let it go!
Let it go!
Can’t stand it up anymore!
Let it go!
Let it go!
I am free again to do my own

MGTOW says I should rule myself,
That no one should decide for me,
The red pill has been swalloed,
I am free to be the man I want to be.

Let it go!
Let it go!
I am not a mangina anymore!
Let it go!
Let it go!
My own way is the way gooooooooo

"We didn't start the fire. It was always burning. Since the world's been turning" "A world that vilifies men only breeds a generation of men that feel no empathy towards women" “In a woman’s mind , there is really no such thing as a ‘we’. In her eyes, earth allways revolves around her, not the other way around. So thinking that your needs , aspirations or desires are valid enough to be persued, or even that you are entitled achive such goals, is like asking your boss for a pay rise in your very first day at the job.”

[AFTParticipant 2726]

Constantine wrote:

Once I started thinking about things in life that bugged me, I couldn’t relax until I’d mentally examined the entire situation.

Sounds weird I know, but I’m being treated for it.

Sounds totally normal to me, what’s the alternative? Give up and die?

Jan Sobieski wrote:

At some point you have to say “LET IT GO”.

Yes and NO, I DO NOT under any circumstances let infractions upon my rights and dignity go unnoticed because that undermines MY RESPECT FOR MYSELF, which is the foundation of being peaceful and content.

The world is full of miserable, arrogant, confrontational c~~~s that just love drama, to dominate others, and make others miserable.

The problem I used to have is trying to fix those miserable c~~~s, to make them see the error of their ways and come to some sort of peaceful solution. I let that idea die, and decided to set an example and focus on myself and let others fix themselves.

So yeah I let go of worry and decided that miserable c~~~s have a responsibility to fix themselves, as we all do. All these realizations bring me closer to that zen like state I have heard about and the red pill rage is like a distant memory as I float further away from the past, on a new coarse set for the MGTOW state of ZEN.

When the war cemeteries are half full of the corpses of dead conscripted women, only then will women have earned the right to speak of equality. Sidecar “A man is a success if he gets up in the morning and goes to bed at night and in between does what he wants to do.” - Bob Dylan

[Anonymous 54]

If saying 50 times a day helps,I’m gonna try it.I can be tanatios, agressive,and I never f~~~ing give up. But that’s not always a good thing. Let it go, let it go let it….

[the roadParticipant 3125]

Wise words brother Jan. It’s an excellent piece of advice for MGTOW men. I believe it is the only way to progress and rise above.

I have had a problem letting go for most of my life but I am getting better at it as I get older.

#MANOUT

[Prefer Peace to PieceParticipant 10809]

Jan Sobieski wrote:

At some point you have to say “LET IT GO”. If you let every little thing bother you it will chew you up. Just let it go. Just let it go.

Jan-

This is the best advice I’ve heard in a while.

Agree completely.

Thanks.

[RennieParticipant]

I try to put things like that out my mind quickly, so I don’t dwell on them too much.

[Anonymous 3]

This is what I have learned: you can’t let go of something until it no longer affects you. First you have to be free of it, then and only then can you begin the process of healing and moving on past it. But you should not forget the lesson it taught you, you should be able to avoid getting into the same mess.

So for instance, if you are in debt, you can’t “let it go” until you are out of it. You will be reminded of it at all times otherwise. Then after you “let go” it doesn’t mean get right back into debt, learn and don’t go into debt again (unless it’s an asset gaining debt, and the numbers and terms are in your favor—for most people it won’t be).

[Tiga KParticipant 1693]

Yes, a man should have control over his mind. The mind shouldn’t control the man. Planning for things is good to an extent, but excessive worrying is just unhealthy. That’s why I like meditation. I used to be an insomniac and my thoughts would keep me up at night. Then I learned to let it go.

[BeerParticipant 11832]

MGTOW and the idea of retiring early and living abroad certainly have helped me “let go” of a lot of the things in life that were bothering me. Its like its gone from this being the society I’ll be in til I die, to this is the society I just have to tolerate for a few more years. Yeah wherever I go will have problems as well I’m sure, but I’ll basically be on extended vacation, not working to hand over 1/3 of my money over to a f~~~ed up government to perpetuate the stupidity of this f~~~ed up society.

[Anonymous 0]

Jan Sobieski wrote:

At some point you have to say “LET IT GO”. If you let every little thing bother you it will chew you up. Just let it go. Just let it go.

I say that 50 times a day. Just let it go. really.

Studies have shown that men are slower to recover from the stress of an argument than women. Once they get stressed by conflict or a sudden danger, men tend to remain distressed for longer and think negative thoughts that keep them in a state of distress. Women, on the other hand, recover from distress quicker: They self-soothe after a distressing incidence.

The experts say that this probably goes back to early society, where men had to be hyper-vigilant for danger while women had to be nurturing.

As for men: At any sign of danger, men get flooded with adrenaline. Stress levels remain high and men brood and try to anticipate ways that danger might attack and how the fight will go. Blood pressure will stay elevated until the man can retaliate.

As for women: When women are lactating, milk flow is affected by how relaxed they feel. So natural selection would favor a female who could quickly soothe herself and calm down after feeling stressed. She can’t feed her children when stressed, so she de-stresses as quickly as possible for the sake of her children.

How does this work out when men and women interact in the modern world? Women will be the ones to raise sensitive issues (nagging) while men tend to be conflict-avoidant and then stonewall when confronted. Men tend to get defensive quicker and carry grudges for longer. Meantime, women are casual about creating conflict and drama because they aren’t as affected by it. Women can nag or argue for a bit and then de-stress quickly and be relatively unaffected by the conflict.

Anyway, here’s the bottom line: Men tend to stress out under pressure. We’re geared toward getting stressed by conflict or worries, and we’ll often brood and try to anticipate all kinds of problems, that is, take a pessimistic approach and anticipate the worst-case scenario. To deal with this, men need to work on managing anger and stress. One traditional stress management technique: Let it go.

[Anonymous 18]

I imagine letting go as a process where you drop a heavy rock in to the water.

The holy man asks ‘Do you feel how heavy the rock is?’ and to which the response is ‘No, I just let it go’.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Anonymous wrote:

Studies have shown that men are slower to recover from the stress of an argument than women. Once they get stressed by conflict or a sudden danger, men tend to remain distressed for longer and think negative thoughts that keep them in a state of distress. Women, on the other hand, recover from distress quicker:

I agree with that first hand, and especially because women intentionally CREATE stressful situations for men — and they ENJOY DOING IT. It makes them “happy”. They get satisfaction out of creating problems, irritation, interrogation and disputes.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-2111203/Seeing-man-upset-makes-women-happy–shows-relationship-strong.html

In order to “let it go”, you let go of HER.

Personally I have tried a million times to ignore s~~~ tests, shrug and to laugh things off, not take it all so seriously, but some people deliberately prod JUST to upset. Even a negative reaction is satisfying to them. They live to provoke and irritate. “How long can I talk before this f~~~er snaps”.

Women are more capable of “letting it go” more easily….
because they are never c~~~s to themselves.

Take for example the female obsession with having “the last word”.

“Women want the last word, and you could even GIVE her the last word. But she can’t leave it alone. She is still not satisfied with that. She wants to say it AGAIN, and get into a really….. provocative situation”.
– Sean Connery

She can recover from that more easily because she deliberately DESIGNED and ARCHITECTED the situation to infuriate.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[Anonymous 0]

Keymaster wrote:

TwoStep wrote:

Studies have shown that men are slower to recover from the stress of an argument than women. Once they get stressed by conflict or a sudden danger, men tend to remain distressed for longer and think negative thoughts that keep them in a state of distress. Women, on the other hand, recover from distress quicker:

I agree with that first hand, and especially because women intentionally CREATE stressful situations for men — and they ENJOY DOING IT. It makes them “happy”. They get satisfaction out of creating problems, irritation, interrogation and disputes.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-2111203/Seeing-man-upset-makes-women-happy–shows-relationship-strong.html

In order to “let it go”, you let go of HER.

Personally I have tried a million times to ignore s~~~ tests, shrug and to laugh things off, not take it all so seriously, but some people deliberately prod JUST to upset. Even a negative reaction is satisfying to them. They live to provoke and irritate. “How long can I talk before this f~~~er snaps”.

Women are more capable of “letting it go” more easily….
because they are never c~~~s to themselves.

Take for example the female obsession with having “the last word”.

“Women want the last word, and you could even GIVE her the last word. But she can’t leave it alone. She is still not satisfied with that. She wants to say it AGAIN, and get into a really….. provocative situation”.
– Sean Connery

She can recover from that more easily because she deliberately DESIGNED and ARCHITECTED the situation to infuriate.

Yes, absolutely. I’m convinced that women actually get a rush from stressing and de-stressing over and over. They love the drama, and I’m convinced it’s because they like the big ups and downs.

But for us men, it’s just misery. You try to live with a woman when she feels that it’s time for a drama high, and there’s no peace in the house. Her moods are all over the place, but you’re just tearing your hair out wishing for a little peace and quiet. And it’s so frustrating because there’s no substance to it. It’s just her and her f~~~ing mood swings. It’s hamster wheels derailing and hamsters spilling out all over the place. All just for a cheap thrill.

[ConstantineParticipant 4420]

AFT wrote:

Sounds totally normal to me, what’s the alternative? Give up and die?

Lol, interesting point. Thanks for the reassurance.

Anonymous wrote:

f you are in debt, you can’t “let it go” until you are out of it. You will be reminded of it at all times otherwise.

I accept, that’s why that Bobby McFerrin song “Don’t Worry Be Happy” is kind of stupid. Say your rent is three months behind. Your landlord comes to the door to tell you how much you owe, and that you need to pay it by midday tomorrow or somebody will be visiting the flat to break your hands. And you’re supposed to laugh in his face and chortle, “Yeehehehe, donn’t worrry, be haaappy!”?

To see what is in front of one's nose requires a constant struggle. -Orwell

[aeragoanParticipant 1186]

Constantine wrote:

The problem is that I’m one of those people who can’t stand to leave things unresolved. It drives me nuts when something gets started and I can’t find a way to finish it.

So as you can imagine, I have a hard time letting things go. Because once I get a thought in my head, I can’t do anything else until I’ve completed that train of thought. That’s why I used to have insomnia and am now on a course of sedatives to correct the problem. Before now, I would be up all night. Once I started thinking about things in life that bugged me, I couldn’t relax until I’d mentally examined the entire situation.

Sounds weird I know, but I’m being treated for it.

Well i have the same situation of yours..But trust me meditation will help out alot

[Anonymous 42]

Let it go? yes.

Even better yet, don’t pick it up, like water off a duck…

[kbbroilerParticipant 886]

I guess the thing with me is I let things go but I use the Elaine from Seinfeld memory vault. LOL……

Meaning I don’t get mad at things that happened in the past but I do remember them.

Now for me arguments and difference of opinions are forgotten.

Life changing events that has screwed me or others whom I’m close too. That goes in the vault but if someone talks about it. I’ll let my opinion known passionately on how I feel about that person. Then after venting back in the vault.

I’m not mad or upset at all. Letting it go is a process. i really don’t get mad at anything that isn’t major.

The major stuff you have to accept it but if it’s a person they don’t have my forgiveness. I can think of a situation involving a former co-worker who got fired for coming into work late. He said it was a family thing all the time this guy was having sex with who what or whatever. The fact he was married also p~~~ed me off but the fact he was doing this also with hooker infuriated me.

Long story short it effected the place where I work because everything got changed because of this one guy.

Once I found out the truth I blocked his number and email address and never want to hear from this guy ever.

[RoyDalParticipant]

“This too shall pass.”

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