Leaving my girlfriend; What would you do?

[AttonParticipant]

alchemist wrote:

Spank The Misandrists wrote:

I know as a man it’s not something we are proud to do, but hey let them taste their own medicine, call the cops and say you fear to go back and get your stuff, because she’s abusive. Ask them to come with you, get your stuff, and try to p~~~ her off, or even better try to make her hit you, so they cops have a reason to arrest her.

I broke up with her once before but caved in because she begged me not to go, but when I initially broke up with her, she hit me, she lost her s~~~ and started screaming and hit me and grabbed me and got quite physical. I don’t expect rationality, I expect uncontrolled anger… and as mentioned above, vindictive spite.

You know, I never considered that this is actually a situation where I may have to call the police. If a random man were going to destroy my possessions I’d be on the phone to them in a heartbeat (maybe I’d grab my axe first)… f~~~ing hell, I was in making exceptions for her because she’s a woman…. holy s~~~ this is a red pill moment.

From everything you have posted she seems insane and honestly she has to be treated as such. Record your interactions and minimize contact, take whatever you truly value and leave and tell her nothing about where you plan to go.

A MGTOW is a man who is not a woman's bitch!

[Bob BashboshParticipant 160]

Alchemist, it pains me to see a good man facing a painful but inevitable situation. Just know that you have the moral high ground, you just can’t rely on it, those days are long gone. Like all good, honest men, you may feel reluctant to resort to subterfuge but I’m afraid, where needs must.. We don’t set the rules any more, we’re playing with an alien rule set but we’re resourceful enough to turn it to our advantage. Document your experiences here and let us brainstorm your next steps. collectively, we wield enormous power.

p.s. came across this tune as I was reading your post… it seems somehow apt, if you’re into classical..

[MemberParticipant 323]

People who have never dealt with a situation like this cannot understand why this would be such a dilemma for the guy. However, those that have been through these predicaments know all too well how they got roll out of control very quickly.

– Move all the stuff that she doesn’t pay attention to a little at a time.
– Make sure all your mail is forwarded ahead of time to another address
– get any bills at the address out of your name right after you move out (same day). Any sooner and she may catch wind of it.
– make sure you change passwords to any bank accoutns or internet accounts she may have seen. You never know what she is aware of and try to mess with you.
– Try to do the final move some weekend where you know she will be out of town with friends or something for a few days. This will buy you more time.
– Take pictures of the place when you leave and time date it somehow so that in case she destroys the place she cant blame you for it (witness would be great for this)
– Leave her a voice message or letter after you are long gone and give her a BS story…..any story that you think might work. You could just tell her the straight facts but since she is nuts you might have better luck just BS ing her ( gma is sick and I have to take care of her etc).

Sucks that you have to be deceptive but unfortunately it doesn’t pay to be truthful in some of these situations. Just make sure you get your stuff and yourself out of there before she flips out. Oh and don’t forget to change your phone number, email, too. You will get all kinds of nasty messages and its best to cut her off.

[Anonymous 5]

Not having money is not an excuse. It will only cost you a couple hundred dollars to do this move. You can get this money in many ways with a tiny bit of effort. Working and loans will do the trick. Or even selling some stuff. You can justify selling some of your stuff because the crazy c~~~ was going to destroy it anyway! 😛

You move all this stuff to a storage shed or pay someone to hold it.

Most storage places go by the month. So this would give you 30 days to get a job or find another way of earning money to keep that stuff in storage. Or it gives you 30 days to find a new home for this stuff.

If the family you are going to live with have actual property they own, you can just put all your stuff in the backyard and cover it securely. Hell, build a make shift shed.

If your family lives in a s~~~ty apartment…then yeah that sucks.

I am not saying you should go all hardcore fightclub and get rid of everything, but you will probably have to let go of some s~~~ because of your situation. Take this as a learning experience. You will learn to live within your means and not rely on living with some dumb c~~~..

[Anonymous 6]

Rent a uhaul & storage… Get some friends swoop in get it all at once.

[narwhalParticipant]

Just another suggestion, take an inventory, including pictures of all the stuff you value. That way you can make sure you leave nothing behind, but have a record of what condition your things were in.

I would also record the interaction you have with her when you give her the bad news. You can even tell her your recording it, just to make sure it’s legal. Record that you are taking the items from your inventory, and may not get them all out today, but they are yours. Get her to consent if she will. Ask her if she intends to damage any of your stuff. Ask her if she is going to strike you like she has done in the past. Record every conversation you have with her after this point. If she does damage any of your stuff or hit you, you have something to provide the police other then your word.

Just an aside, who owns the residence where you live? Are you renting under her lease, your own, or joint? Will you need to pay to get out of the situation?

And most importantly, learn from this. Don’t ever get caught in this situation. Besides avoiding trusting women, living with women, don’t get caught in a situation where you have no cash to get yourself out of a jam like this. Don’t buy more stuff if you don’t have the means of protecting it. Maybe find a way to find some friends you can depend on, as well as being someone a friend can depend on. You may make changes to avoid this situation in the future, but there will be other times, and you should be prepared.

Ok. Then do it.

[hollowtipsParticipant 681]

2 options
Option 1
You either need some friends with a decent car/truck or rent a uhaul for the day, with or without workers. Plan to make your move when she is gone for the day, be it at work, school, with friends, out for the night partying, visiting family. Whatever. Know exactly when she plans to leave. Have moving equipment prepared in advance and if need be leave behind replaceable possessions.

Option 2
Over the course of weeks or months get rid of stuff little by little. Hopefully she doesn’t notice. You should only have clothing, electronics and hygenals left by the end of it. (this is a way more risky option as she could catch on at any point). Get your valuables out first, have excuses ready for why things are disappearing like you’re getting them repaired, or tuned up. Personally all I’d take is my computer, my clothing, and important documents. The rest can be replaced eventually.

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