Just found out that my father died early last year (2015)

[FunInTheSunParticipant 8289]

Hey Hammerhead. This is a MGTOW topic. Many children in America grow up w/o the encouragement and guidance of a father.

I am sorry you had to experience this, and I hope you someday find peace during your MGTOW journey. I think your positive relationships with other family members will help you get through this. Reach out to them.

Best wishes to you.

"I saw that there comes a point, in the defeat of any man of virtue, when his own consent is needed for evil to win-and that no manner of injury done to him by others can succeed if he chooses to withhold his consent. I saw that I could put an end to your outrages by pronouncing a single word in my mind. I pronounced it. The word was ‘No.’" (Atlas Shrugged)

[revistaParticipant 232]

Thanks for sharing brother.my story similar.my dad finally left when i was 12.he was an alcoholic and was physically and mentally abusive to my mother.he didnt bother with me or my sister.i know he had demons(not excusing him).he returned briefly when i was 18(drunj again).never saw him again.found out 13 years ago from a friend of distant relative hed died of heart attack.i felt nothing at time but wish now i could have spoken to him before his death.im a good father to my kids thats all you can do.all the best brother.

[UltimaThuleParticipant 32]

Anonymous wrote:

We had the same thing with my brothers kids they were taken by cps.a long court battle and five years of fighting for them and my dad and mom never got them I don’t even remember what they look like . It was a because of the women in my brothers life it wasn’t his fault he was working 20 hour shifts but his wife molested the kids and other things . Another thing and I know it may sound stupid I wish the best for you . I miss my brother taken to soon 31 years old.

I’m very sorry to learn what happened to your family.

Did your brother commit suicide? Was your brother’s wife the mother of his children?

[The Skank SpankerParticipant 1372]

Thanks for sharing this Hammerhead. Sometimes all I see is red-pill rage topics and then this pop’s up and reminds us of the value of having good family and proper parenting. Reading some MGTOW’s experiences, I realise this is something which isn’t something you can take for granted in life.

I wish I had the courage to look my father in the eye and tell him I love him and tell him there are things he could have done better, but for what? I hope to do it before he dies, but for whats it worth, everything that happened has happened. Sometimes it’s better to look ahead, but family issues always stay in the back of your head…

[guiParticipant 825]

Sorry for your loss hammerhead. It’s been said here plenty of times but it only gets truer, the best thing you can do is to live well.

I know it is easier said than done but avoid thinking about what could have been. The what could have been is what destroy us all. Just do your best to forgive your father for not being able to understand all that he was missing.

Also, I must say this to both hammerhead and to the brothers that shared they were adopted: By surviving so far you more than proved your parents wrong.

Pity and contempt are siblings. You only feel pity for those you consider weak.

[AttonParticipant]

It sounds like he was completely drained.

A MGTOW is a man who is not a woman's bitch!

[anonymousyamParticipant 4605]

Hammerhead wrote:

I mourn the absence of a father who was never on my side, and made me never trust others, never helped me learn how to make friends, how to be a man, but rather to stay alone. I was lucky that my mother cared so deeply for me and supported me, and that my maternal grandfather helped me survive the mental indifference and cruelty of my father. My grandfather stepped in and helped me understand how to be a man…and that saved my life.

When it comes to fathers who do not talk to their sons it probably has to deal with the realization that he f~~~ed up in life and you are seen as the f~~~ up that prevented him from doing what he wanted to do.

While i do not know anything beside this post of yours my best guess on the matter is that your father probably was some Partier who f~~~ed up his life after he either knocked up a chick or got pressured into marriage and you where seen the cause of the problem because he had to provide for you meaning he lost his freedom.

If i am wrong correct me but this seems like the most logical conclusion to come from this. So while you can’t change anything about your relationship with him you can at least change the path you will head on in life.

Just an east coast asshole who likes to curse, If you get offended by words like fuck, cunt, shit, piss, bitch or any racial slurs then you just scroll down.

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