It's now bad manners for a man to mind his own business?

[bob__Participant 946]

Wow. The rudest cashier I’ve ever had in my entire life told me I had bad manners for not saying “hi” and other crap to her. And of course, a bunch of other people heard. No, I don’t feel like making small talk with you. I don’t feel like saying anything. All I want to do is pay for my stuff and get the hell out. I’m not paying you to talk with me, I’m paying you to scan my items and take my money and give me a receipt. I don’t even want you saying “hi” to me. I don’t want you saying anything except how much I have to pay for everything.

[Anonymous 7]

Ya can’t fix stupid. Good to vent when it happens to you, though, I know.

[Enjoy The DeclineParticipant 1719]

I think that if you actually do talk to her like she wants you to, she might get all nosy and ask you questions that is not really appropriate in a employee/client relationship anyway. So in the end, she is just prepping you up in that sort of scenario that I just mentioned and would also make it like you are the initiator of it all. If that is the case, it looks very unprofessional.

"Question everything" - Albert Einstein

[narwhalParticipant]

It’s polite to respond when someone says hi to you, or to at least acknowledge her existence, and depending on the situation, I don’t see that as necessary sometimes. However, ignoring her is no justification for calling you out, which is very bad behavior for a cashier. I have no doubt she wouldn’t say that in front of her manager.

What p~~~es me off is when a cashier’s decides to make small talk with the customer in front of me, while I sit there waiting. It’s almost funny in hindsight though as they see the look on my face, suddenly get rather meek and timid while trying get me out the door as soon as possible.

Ok. Then do it.

[bob__Participant 946]

The thing is that she knows nothing about me anyway. Maybe I’m deaf. Maybe I’m unable to talk. Maybe I don’t speak English. Maybe I’m thinking about other things. And of course, maybe I just don’t give a s~~~ about her! Shaming me like that doesn’t even come close to working. It just makes me avoid bitches like that even more. In fact, I’m not ever going there again unless she’s fired.

[Big BossParticipant 4496]

bob__ wrote:

Wow. The rudest cashier I’ve ever had in my entire life told me I had bad manners for not saying “hi” and other crap to her.

bob__ wrote:

her.

Bro she wanted your dick

[bob__Participant 946]

narwhal wrote:

It’s polite to respond when someone says hi to you, or to at least acknowledge her existence, and depending on the situation, I don’t see that as necessary sometimes. However, ignoring her is no justification for calling you out, which is very bad behavior for a cashier. I have no doubt she wouldn’t say that in front of her manager.

What p~~~es me off is when a cashier’s decides to make small talk with the customer in front of me, while I sit there waiting. It’s almost funny in hindsight though as they see the look on my face, suddenly get rather meek and timid while trying get me out the door as soon as possible.

Give me a break. Not saying hi is nothing compared to the bulls~~~ women to do men. As far as I’m concerned, I don’t have to say hi if I never told her to say hi in the first place. When a woman says that to a man, it’s actually a question. She wants to know if you’re a “real” man.

[WarratahParticipant 895]

Ermigawd – bob_ got Hi-Raped! #thepainisreal #hi-is-rape

...And in our own despair, against our will, Comes wisdom to us by the awful grace of God. - Agamemnon; by Aeschylus

[Big BossParticipant 4496]

Say “babe, you wanna f~~~”? No? Well no greetings for you.
Or “I didn’t want you to get wet”. Something romantic like.

[Big BossParticipant 4496]

Warratah wrote:

Ermigawd – bob_ got Hi-Raped! #thepainisreal #hi-is-rape

[bob__Participant 946]

Warratah wrote:

Ermigawd – bob_ got Hi-Raped! #thepainisreal #hi-is-rape

No, it’s apparently that when you don’t say hi.

[bob__Participant 946]

I think it’s bad manners to attempt to shame men into caring about women.

[narwhalParticipant]

bob__ wrote:

Give me a break. Not saying hi is nothing compared to the bulls~~~ women to do men.

I never said it was.

bob__ wrote:

As far as I’m concerned, I don’t have to say hi if I never told her to say hi in the first place.

Well you didn’t, so obviously you don’t have to. I’m not understanding why you (not you specifically) would every tell someone to say hi to you.

bob__ wrote:

When a woman says that to a man, it’s actually a question. She wants to know if you’re a “real” man.

“hi” = ‘Are you a real man?” I don’t see that connection at all.

I’ve never worked retail, but I did work in a movie theatre. Management used to get on me all the time for not smiling at the customers and crap like that. I have no doubt that she is instructed to say hi to everyone, and not as some sort of s~~~ test. I see no reason to be bothered by her saying hi to you, just that she called you out for not responding.

And I do agree that as alternative or in addition to informing the manager of her behavior, dropping your patronage is not a bad idea.

Ok. Then do it.

[Anonymous 22]

bob__ wrote:

Shaming me like that doesn’t even come close to working. It just makes me avoid bitches like that even more.

Yes, I agree. This is something women just don’t understand.

[bob__Participant 946]

narwhal wrote:

I have no doubt that she is instructed to say hi to everyone, and not as some sort of s~~~ test.

Fine. Then say “hi” and leave me the f*** alone! Knowing that she’s forced to say it just makes it more meaningless than it already is.

I see no reason to be bothered by her saying hi to you, just that she called you out for not responding.

Wait a minute. I’m not bothered by someone saying “hi”. I’m bothered by other people thinking they can get me to play their games (i.e., make me go someone else’s way) by doing that.

[RusskyParticipant 13503]

You should have started pretending to speak in sign language. She’d be apologizing all the way to the door

proud carrier of the 'why?' chromosome

[WarratahParticipant 895]

Bottom line: It’s a cashier’s job to greet you. Retail outlets include a greeting script in their cashier-training.
Personally, I return all greetings and also offer salutations of my own, irrespective of age or sex.
Cheerfully ‘Good Morning’ one’s enemies is a rather interesting experiment in psych-ops (But then again, I am from a small country town and still live in a rural area where shooting someone without greeting them is considered unsporting)

...And in our own despair, against our will, Comes wisdom to us by the awful grace of God. - Agamemnon; by Aeschylus

[Anonymous 54]

I live in the South (USA)You would not like it here as every one says hi how are you or “doin alrigh?” You would be p~~~ed off all the time.Im origanly from.Boston. That you would like. No eye contact,no speaking.

[bob__Participant 946]

There’s only one solution for me. Total withdrawal from society. I guess 90% withdrawal isn’t good enough. Gynocrats are trying to use that 10% to bootstrap their way back into my life.

[Anonymous 3]

Well men are second class citizens, and as others have stated plenty of women do worse.

I never greet women first, because you never know if they’ll complain about that. But I do return a greeting. Thing is they greet you less and less the older you get and if you don’t look like you have money. Probably you did something to indicate you have money, and are probably in your 20s or 30s, so they’re looking to trap you with their worn out used bacteria holes.

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