It's called child support. I call it paying my ex to babysit my kids.

[Point Of No ReturnParticipant 4074]

I’m forced to pay child support. I can’t get around that. So, why don’t I just twist this fact around a little bit like some kind of idea that I can play with? I’ll see it as paying the babysitter (the ex) to take care of my kids (maybe during some pumping and dumping even). At moments it feels better to think of it that way. Have any of you ever thought of it that way in order to soften the blow?

Know when it is your duty to give them zero explanations for your actions.

[HitmanParticipant]

You make a kid you gotta pay.
I do too.
Let it be a lesson to the guys who have avoided it.

[MattNYCParticipant 2329]

Point Of No Return wrote:

pay child support.

That sucks man. I never had kids so no experience with child support. Mind if i ask what you’re paying?

[bladeParticipant]

My bones are that clean and pollished by my ex wonder c~~~ there is completely nothing left but still continues to try all tactics to get money . I am on a disability pension . The welfare of my children is my most concern . Mind you when my kids lived with me for three years i never recieved one cent. She did a grab and snatch to prevent herself from going to jail . I havd known so many single mothers and i still laugh at two topics that was always been brought up . CHILD SUPPORT AND BABY SITTING .

I would live under a f~~~ing table just on principle the way i was treated by child support. That is speaking as a payer and a receiver as a MALE . Another government feminist c~~~ sucking department.

THE PLANTATION HAS NOW TURNED INTO THE KILLING FIELDS . WOMAN ARE NOW ROLLING CAMBODIAN STYLE .

[bladeParticipant]

I do pay child support but it’s f~~~ all because of my pension .

THE PLANTATION HAS NOW TURNED INTO THE KILLING FIELDS . WOMAN ARE NOW ROLLING CAMBODIAN STYLE .

[HitmanParticipant]

17% of your gross income for 1 kid.
25 % for 2 kids. .

[HitmanParticipant]

Like a crowbar in your wallet. .

[Nice Guy EddieParticipant 527]

I pay $2500 a month, which allows my ex-wife to maintain her lavish lifestyle whilst working minimal hours as well as collecting child allowance from the government.

She is perfectly fit and well, her skills are in high demand, and the kids are at high school so she has no reason not to work more, other than the fact she is a lazy, entitled c~~~.

I asked the magistrate why I was not legally able to audit how she spends my child support; I got a steely glare but no actual verbal response.

NGE

[BeerParticipant 11832]

Hitman wrote:

17% of your gross income for 1 kid.

Lol I don’t think I even spent 17% of my gross on myself this year. Its such bulls~~~ how they do it as a % of income…its just a backdoor alimony payment. I might not be so against having kids if a default settlement was you both get the kid 50% of the time and it cost xxx dollars per year to raise a kid, both parents are 50% responsible for that amount regardless of what you make. But that would be equal…we know that won’t happen anytime soon.

[TwistParticipant]

Hitman wrote:

25 % for 2 kids. .

Yep. For two kids I have seen for less than 10 hours over the last 4.5 years.

And I paid probably over 100K to get this swell deal.

Don’t get married.

Any questions?

[bladeParticipant]

2 businesses destroyed . Burnt the wallet she was going to feed of . When there is nothing they still don’t f~~~ing comprehend .

THE PLANTATION HAS NOW TURNED INTO THE KILLING FIELDS . WOMAN ARE NOW ROLLING CAMBODIAN STYLE .

[~BSParticipant 3266]

Hate to put it harshly, but it’s actually paying your ex to babysit your kids PLUS paying her for absolutely no reason.

There is ZERO accountability for child support. My friend pays $800-900 a month for child support. How does he know the money is actually going towards them? Is the ex required to submit receipts of the food and clothes purchased for the child?

If both parents are willing and able to take care of the kids, then it should automatically be a 50/50 arrangement with NO child support or spousal support (in the case of divorce). Only in a case where a parent chooses not to be involved with the child, should some form of child support be required. And in that case, should be set for a fairly nominal amount.

Hypothetically speaking if you took away the child support and financial incentive, I would guess that a lot of mothers wouldn’t be so keen on keeping custody of children. Instead, they’d gladly give them up so they have more free time to ride chad’s c~~~.

"He didn't marry until now, so he won't ever do it. Think about it, why would a man like him ever marry? It's too late to catch him. " ~some cunt

[Nice Guy EddieParticipant 527]

I should add that, in addition to $2500 per month of child support, I pay for 100% of their schooling costs, sporting costs and other costs (eg music lessons, bikes etc.).

I do this because a) I work long and hard so I can afford to, and 2) I don’t want to give the c~~~ any excuse to head back to court to lessen the minimal time I get to spend with the kids.

NGE

[TwistParticipant]

~BS wrote:

If both parents are willing and able to take care of the kids, then it should automatically be a 50/50 arrangement with NO child support or spousal support (in the case of divorce). Only in a case where a parent chooses not to be involved with the child, should some form of child support be required. And in that case, should be set for a fairly nominal amount.

This alone would drop the divorce rate in half. At least. Child support is the new alimony.

[HitmanParticipant]

It doesn’t take nearly as much as I pay to raise a kid.
It SHOULD be a 50/50 financial split. ..
But it’s not.

[Prefer Peace to PieceParticipant 10809]

A number of wives married to physicians I know were too emotionally upset by their adultery to work. So in addition to the 25% hit for child support, the docs had to support their emotionally traumatized wives forever while the wives banged chads without number. One guy’s estate had to continue payments for five years after the doc died. “Equitable distribution” is sometimes more than half. So let’s say you spend your whole life working to get ahead and marry your secretary, she can easy divorce rape you and walk away with 60-70% of your assets.
Don’t you just love equality?

[Nice Guy EddieParticipant 527]

Prefer Peace to Piece wrote:

A number of wives married to physicians I know were too emotionally upset by their adultery to work. So in addition to the 25% hit for child support, the docs had to support their emotionally traumatized wives forever while the wives banged chads without number. One guy’s estate had to continue payments for five years after the doc died. “Equitable distribution” is sometimes more than half. So let’s say you spend your whole life working to get ahead and marry your secretary, she can easy divorce rape you and walk away with 60-70% of your assets.
Don’t you just love equality?

That’s exactly what happened to me.

I’m a physician (6 years undergrad, 11 years postgrad training) who sacrificed the best years of my life to establish a base for my c~~~ of an ex (a superficially attractive but lazy and entitled RN) who instantly bailed on the marriage when I had some health issues.

She got 65% of the assets, a 6 figure lump sum in lieu of ongoing spousal maintenance, 80% custody of the kids, and is now crying poor, claiming she has been ‘de-skilled by being forced to be a stay-at-home mom”.

It really is pathetic how someone can just walk away with more than 100k of assets per year of a marriage, claim that they cannot work, and the Family Court takes pity on them showers them with even more cash and prizes.

Lesson: do not get married; and if you must, don’t marry a lazy entitled c~~~, now matter how attractive she is.

NGE

[TwistParticipant]

Nice Guy Eddie wrote:

That’s exactly what happened to me.

Just anecdotal, but I can’t believe how many of these Doctor stories I have heard. Its like there is a f~~~ing formula they pursue…

I feel for you brother.

[~BSParticipant 3266]

^

To me it seems like doctors are the ultimate beta provider, the biggest lottery ticket to these women. Best of all, he’s always working so she has plenty of time on her hands to scheme. Doctors need to work crazy hours, poor wife feels distressed that he isn’t paying attention to her, so she lounges around at home, spends his money, and rides chads c~~~ while he’s at work to cope. Then when he’s finally establishing himself and making good money, she divorces him, taking half his assets and the kids, entitling her to alimony and child support.

"He didn't marry until now, so he won't ever do it. Think about it, why would a man like him ever marry? It's too late to catch him. " ~some cunt

[Nice Guy EddieParticipant 527]

Twist wrote:

Nice Guy Eddie wrote:

That’s exactly what happened to me.

Just anecdotal, but I can’t believe how many of these Doctor stories I have heard. Its like there is a f~~~ing formula they pursue…

I feel for you brother.

Thanks.

In retrospect, it’s obvious i fell into a trap: I was working my arse off, and along comes this pretty, vivacious nurse who was more than happy to kick her current boyfriend into touch to land the big fish.

By the time I figured out what was happening, it was too late: married, kids, working like a one-armed Beirut bricklayer supporting her absurd lifestyle.

I eventually swallowed the red pill, accepted my mistake and what I had to pay for it; doing great now though. Have a number of colleagues who have been through similar if not worse experiences.

NGE

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