FURTHER UPDATE:
Yesterday I got a voicemail from my kids saying they don’t want to come for contact (obviously made to by their mother), although just a week ago (after last contact) they said they like coming for contact (that was mothers words in an email to my solicitor before she blamed me for her passport being seized and told the kids it was my fault). Next due court date would be in 2 months (only another directions hearing). As contact has broken down (mothers fault) the court would most likely say to build up a relationship I’d have to yet again go back to supervised contact at a contact centre! So 4 years + later back to the same starting point again.
SOME QUOTES/STATS FROM THE SYSTEM ITSELF:
When you have senior judges such as Mr Justice Coleridge, in 2010 saying: ‘Family courts are losing their authority because so many people take no notice of their judgments. Around 5,000 new cases a year come before the family courts in which parents – almost always mothers – defy orders to let the other parent have contact. Judges are extremely reluctant to jail such mothers because of the damaging effects on the children, so many continue to get away with it.’
SUICIDE RATE OF NON RESIDENT PARENTS
A recent report appeared in the Sunday Express [UK newspaper], where it had been found that since June 2003, 8,515 non-resident parents have committed suicide due to the distress of not seeing their children. The study found that 94.8 per cent of the deaths involved a male non-resident parent.
HHJ Furness at a seminar on Parental Alienation in 2013. ‘Families Need Fathers had the temerity to suggest that Judges in the Family Court were biased against fathers – and of course they are right’
David Norgrove, the chair of the Family Justice Board, at the Family Justice Network for Wales stakeholder event held in Merthyr Tydfil in 2013 said ‘Let’s cut to the heart of the matter – fathers being involved after divorce or separation simply doesnt work. We’ve looked at this is detail – with the experiences of other countries and I’m telling you it just doesnt work.’
Lord Justice Ward – 2008 Vengeful mothers leave good fathers powerless to see child, says judge
A senior judge spoke out against child access law yesterday, saying that the courts were powerless to help decent fathers to see their children if vengeful mothers stood in the way. “The father complains bitterly, passionately and with every justification that the law is sterile, impotent and utterly useless – we have to acknowledge there is a degree of force in what he says,” the judge told the Court of Appeal Civil Division. “But the question is what can this court do? The answer is nothing. This is a truly distressing case. It may not be untypical of many, but in some ways it borders on the scandalous. It certainly is tragic.”
The more sagas like these drag on, the more I feel this battle needs to be taken to another platform, such as putting actual documents/evidence (minus the names of kids etc) out there on the internet. As many people may not realize how bad the issue of fathers rights re: children contact is until they actually see these documents themselves. The law here in UK now allows social workers to generally be named and shamed. Even if the law here didn’t allow it (not that that would stop me if it was the last resort) the info could be put out there via overseas/bulletproof servers for e.g.
I have some professional experience in book publishing so maybe that could be another outlet. Having just completed a project I am free to and would happily take on that as my next project if anyone would like to contribute/be part of/want their stories featured.
Rebalanced 4 years, 3 months ago.
