Is it too late to go your own way?

[VernimatorParticipant 38]

Good Evening Gent’s.

I sit here contemplating the future on the tail end of my fourth, yes fourth, marriage and I am thinking it may be time to resolve this current endeavor and then quietly go my own way. Now mind you I do not hold any ill will against my current wife, or against the other three for that matter. We just have too many things we need to do for ourselves and marriage seems to be getting in the way at this point. It’s a bit strange, but to be honest, she chose to go her own way before I did. No animosity, no anger, not even an argument. It’s been an interesting 13 years together, time to move on.

Now both of us have been around the block with three prior marriages each and our time together was longer then the other six combined. I guess neither one of us were truly cut out for matrimony. Too independent in spirit. But at this point I’m thinking a permanent change in direction is in order and going my own way is at the core.

I actually did this once before where I shunned any involvement with women for almost a decade. This period was after the second divorce and while still serving in the US Navy. Immaturity and being stationed on fast attack submarines pretty much torpedoed the first two marriages in quick succession and that is what triggered my first leave of abstinence. For the the next 8 years I concentrated on my career in the Navy and rose through the ranks.

Then my second ex abandoned our 8 year old daughter. After suing for and getting custody I was in a bit of a conundrum. With my current shore duty coming to an end I was left with the choice of sending my daughter to live with relatives in order to go back out to sea or bring my naval career of 13 years to an end. Discharge papers in hand I never looked back.

By the time my daughter was ten being a single Dad was having it’s challenges. Enter wife number three. Divorced with a daughter a couple years older, who had never had a father figure in her life, we decided to combine forces and give it a go. For a few years all was fine but as the girls got older our relationship became strained and once again it was time to move on.

A couple of years later I met my current wife. Neither of us were looking for number four. In fact we were both still married, although separated, to number three. Imagine the scene at my daughters graduation ceremony were her mother, my second, her step-mother, my third, and my fiancee, soon to be my fourth, were sitting there side by side chatting amongst themselves. Yes my special version of A Christmas Carol starring the wives of Past, Present, and Future…

So thirteen years later, mostly good, I find myself at another crossroads in my life. An entrepreneur with my own business that affords me the luxury of working from pretty much anywhere and a 36′ “Class A” RV next to the house ready to go. I’m thinking of of a modern day RV style “walkabout” starting next spring and get this show on the road. Grow the business, explore more of the world, breathe the free air.

At the age of 54, I think it’s a great time to go my own way.

Thoughts and comments welcome.

"I'll never be back!!!"

[ghostParticipant]

It’s never too late. You have tried this marriage experiment way too many times. I hope you are done now.

Welcome.

[AwakenedParticipant 35203]

You have had enough. In fact, WAY TOO MUCH !!

It’s time to NOT go for number 5.

If ANYONE NEEDS to Go His Own Way, YOU my friend NEED to get to the head of the line !!

In a World of Justin Beibers Be a Johnny Cash

[Heave-Ho MgtowParticipant 1797]

Four is 4 to many. You on on the path. Welcome, help others with life’s lessons. You are among friends

skip the cavernous vag and go your own way

[Anonymous 42]

Velcro stops working after it gets singed by fire and full of debris. Our hearts are the same way, after a while we can’t bond with women altogether, the adhesion is gone.

[JVBParticipant]

Of course not brother. Clearly marriage is not for you. Now GYOW my man.

Peace is > piece.

[AttonParticipant]

Boy you are a glutton for punishment.

A MGTOW is a man who is not a woman's bitch!

[JB BooksParticipant 3182]

Vernimator – You obviously like being married; nothing wrong with that. I’m MGTOW because it’s not worth the time, expense and overall hassle to me. Maybe it’s worth it to you; only you can decide that!

We just don't realize life's most significant events while they're happening. Back then, I thought, "Well, there'll be other days". I didn't realize that that was the only day. - "Moonlight" Graham

[hmskl’dParticipant 6413]

Perfect time .. and essentially nothing really prevents a person from GTOW .. every path a guy chooses for himself and freely follows is a wonderful journey.

[VernimatorParticipant 38]

Thank you everyone for the positive comments. My experimentation days are over and I have certainly had enough. I never intended a third, let alone a fourth dive into matrimony. The third was more about my daughter having a mother figure and her daughter a father. The fourth is, well, different in a very interesting way.

She has been, and still is, my best friend and an inspiration. She is Russian and lived through the collapse of the Soviet Union as a young adult. We met here in the states. She had already immigrated here on her own. She is by far the most fascinating woman I have ever met. She certainly is not a feminist but has a strength of will that is rarely scene here in the states. I would much rather see her continue to grow and succeed on her own then our marriage hold her back, or for that matter hold me back from mine. So we have agreed to help each other set a course for each other to pursue our goals in life. Stagnation is death and our relationship as a married couple has stagnated enough.

For me I have tasted the best relationship one could ask for and I am content. Time to move on.

"I'll never be back!!!"

[VernimatorParticipant 38]

JB Books wrote:

Vernimator – You obviously like being married; nothing wrong with that. I’m MGTOW because it’s not worth the time, expense and overall hassle to me. Maybe it’s worth it to you; only you can decide that!

Actually, I bloody hate marriage and will never succumb to that humiliating vile institution again in my life…. My current “relationship” has been more about friendship then traditional marriage. The marriage portion of our time together has been hit or miss. I know I am to blame for much of it. Maybe we should have stopped at friendship at the start. Who’s to know.

"I'll never be back!!!"

[Joey AlfioParticipant]

It’s never too late but as the saying goes..

Fool me once shame on you

Fool me twice shame on me

so why the need to get fooled two more times?

At least you’re doing well for yourself. A lot of people from broken marriages and relatons~~~s get screwed hard so I don’t how you did it but you lasted 4 marriages which is beyond what most go through.

Δεν υπάρχει τίποτε αδύνατο γι’ αυτόν που θα προσπαθήσει. - Μέγας Αλέξανδρος

[VernimatorParticipant 38]

I was married and divorced twice by the time I was 24. Took me that long to disengage the little head and engage the one that actually had brain cells. That’s when I took the next decade off of relationships. After I left the Nave and had full custody of my daughter I thought it was the right thing to do for her…

As I had mentioned, my fourth was more of a very close friendship. The “Marriage” seemed always to be a distant part of it.

Can’t change the past but I sure as hell going to put the future in my hands…

"I'll never be back!!!"

[bladeParticipant]

Welcome bro .

THE PLANTATION HAS NOW TURNED INTO THE KILLING FIELDS . WOMAN ARE NOW ROLLING CAMBODIAN STYLE .

[bladeParticipant]

Oh yer and by the way am i safe . Lol

Runs 1:23

Just humor bro . I am pretty f~~~ed up . Lmfao

THE PLANTATION HAS NOW TURNED INTO THE KILLING FIELDS . WOMAN ARE NOW ROLLING CAMBODIAN STYLE .

[Anonymous 54]

Give it up man! Hahah

3 for me. I like havein you around!

Welcome

Vernimator!

[The Manipulated ManParticipant 1856]

Welcome V,

Appreciate your Introduction.

We are in the same age group.
Your future plans sound great and I wish you all the best.

I enjoyed RV life in my early forties and would never change a thing about it.
The highlights were the times I spent in National Forests.

Yes, I also enjoyed my stays at Nudists camps and not just for the savings on laundry.

Alas, it all got old after a decade.
When I turned fifty, I lost my tolerance for poison Ivey, bee stings, and mosquitos.
It seemed like I was spending most of my time repairing my RV and tending to my camp site.

Also, the folks that stayed at most of those camps started looking like a bunch of degenerate alcoholics, drug addicts, sex addicts, and pussy beggars.

Furthermore, there were things I wanted to do like travel the world and have access to a research laboratory.

Now I am setting down some roots. I am ashamed to admit that I now love my comfy bed, kitchen, bathroom, office, garage, and collection of tools. And it feels good to come “home” after a field trip.

Vernimator wrote:

…..Thoughts and comments welcome…..

With all due respect, your Introduction has some NAWALT and/ or “Unicorn” leanings.

Here is a link for a post to help newcomers:

/forums/topic/list-of-unacceptable-blue-pill-baggage/

Understanding and seeing Woman’s Narcissism is part of being on the MGTOW Road.
Getting to AWALT is a MGTOW Milestone.

The following link is about Women’s Narcissism. Your comments there are appreciated:

/forums/topic/an-honest-love-letter/

Here is something I posted last year that happened to me which opened my eyes more to the dangers facing men in our Gynocracy:

/forums/topic/the-domestic-abuse-machine-as-an-apparatus-for-mens-enslavement/

What happens when a man finally comprehends the cold and calculating thoughts that are going through a woman's mind, while her eyes are brimming with tears?

[CarnageParticipant 22113]

4 times?

Damnnnnn

To those following me, be careful, I just farted. Men those beans are killers.

[Modern Day WarriorParticipant 499]

Never too late. In fact it will likely be easy for you, given your experience. Choose freedom.

"One must put up barriers to keep oneself intact." - Neil Peart

[Anonymous 0]

Welcome home, Verminator
Beer’s in the fridge

I’m 65, never too late to go your own way.

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