Introduction – Second Attempt

[FocusParticipant 123]

I closely read each and every response I’ve received to everything I’ve posted here so far, and based on some of that feedback, I’d like to attempt my introduction again.

I’m 43, in the middle of my second divorce after having been with my current wife 11 years and this is what I have to say today:

I always made a big deal out of the 4th, and other holidays too such as Halloween. I made them a very big deal. And so spending yesterday completely alone sucked. That being said…

I have been completely fine today. I’ve been so ok it worries me. I am afraid that I’m somehow burying my head in the sand and avoiding my grief. I’m afraid I’m ignoring what’s happening because I should be upset… and I’m not. At least I would expect to be way more upset than I am based on what’s going on.

I still feel like I can very much identify my fears of going my own way. I’m not sure how every little detail of this is going to play out. I’m still afraid there are going to be more bad days ahead… and there probably will be. But today wasn’t one of them.

I feel a sense of trepidation, because I’ve never done what I’m doing before. I feel like I’m in uncharted waters and I’m now actively making up my story minute by minute, hour by hour, day by day. It’s a little scary not knowing what life will look like six weeks, six months, or six years from now. Life has been fairly predictable for me for the last 20 years and I find myself having no idea where I’ll be or what I’ll be doing in two weeks.

Whatever it is and however all this turns out, good or bad, the one thing I’ll be able to say is that I turned off the autopilot and started consciously deciding what I’m going to do, or not do, each day, and I’m going to make those decisions based on what I think and believe is the correct course of action, the right thing to do, the thing that needs to happen to make my life the best it can be, to make me the best man I can possibly become, to squeeze the most joy out of the days I have left on this side of the dirt, without considering if it will be difficult or painful or will require patience and time.

We’ll see I guess, and I’ll own whatever outcome I get from this or anything I do after this because I’ll be able to say I made the best decision I could given the information I had at the time. No regrets. And no matter what… I’m going to be ok. I’m shooting for a lot better than just ok, believe me, but no matter what, I will be. I thought I had LearnedTooLate. I believe I learned in time, thankfully, and now I just need to Focus.

There… that probably sounds a little more like a man going his own f~~king way.

43, two marriages, second divorce kicked off 6/22/18. Wife already moved out... I was the best white knight I've ever seen and I still wasn't enough.

[bladeParticipant]

Focus wrote:

There… that probably sounds a little more like a man going his own f~~king way.

First lesson . NFG . Learn to give no f~~~s .

If you give a f~~~ about mean words or what people think of you . You will fail .

Self confidence . You dont need people to validate yourself . This is part of loving yourself . Nfg

NO F~~~S GIVEN . In time you will call me master . Lol just kidding .

As time goes by on here you will understand and will be impervious to what anyone says or thinks of you . Be strong dont be a pussy . Nfg

Nfg

THE PLANTATION HAS NOW TURNED INTO THE KILLING FIELDS . WOMAN ARE NOW ROLLING CAMBODIAN STYLE .

[Jan SobieskiParticipant 28791]

Welcome home brother.

Love is just alimony waiting to happen. Visit mgtow.com.

[DorkShitParticipant 4353]

Yep. Like a lot of us, you never had a time when you were on your own.

It feels hollow foreign to you.

All normal.
Know that every thought you have is Satan in your head.

Try to do nothing. Relax in it. Once you can quiet your brain you will discover peace. Can take a long time or be pretty quick. But, know that you were institutionalized.

You can’t just walk out of the prison of a woman and slide into peace.

Welcome brother

Peace brothers

[The Manipulated ManParticipant 1856]

Your second attempt at an Introduction is also pusillanimous and you have doubled down on stupid.

You have demonstrated yourself to be a coward by ignoring the recommendations and avoiding responding to replies in the first Introduction:

/forums/topic/learned-too-late/#post-837171

Furthermore, you have changed your name from Learn too late to Focus which is flaky.

Here is a link to a Post that attempts to discuss the importance of establishing Bonafides in a newcomer’s Introduction:

/forums/topic/troll-troubles/

Focus wrote:

I always made a big deal out of the 4th, and other holidays too such as Halloween. I made them a very big deal. And so spending yesterday completely alone sucked. That being said…

………………………… I am afraid that I’m somehow burying my head in the sand and avoiding my grief. I’m afraid I’m ignoring what’s happening because I should be upset… ……

I still feel like I can very much identify my fears of going my own way. I’m not sure how ……. I’m still afraid there are going to be more bad days ahead… and there probably will be. ……..

I feel a sense of trepidation, because I’ve never done what I’m doing before. I feel like I’m in uncharted waters …….. It’s a little scary not knowing what life will look like six weeks, six months, or six years from now. ……

UGH!!!

This second Introduction is cringe worthy and you need to fix it.

Too much feelings.

Too much Fear.

You behave like a woman.

Where are your B~~~~?

What happens when a man finally comprehends the cold and calculating thoughts that are going through a woman's mind, while her eyes are brimming with tears?

[NerdTunnelerParticipant]

That is what freedom feels….Either you embrace it or you run away from it…There is no template to life, you will have to make a conscious decision each and every minute you live… Welcome home…

I stand with feet apart and let my balls hang free...Manginas dont have balls...See how they stand and sit at the whim of their masters...

[RorschachParticipant 2083]

Some of us are assholes… but at least we dont try to sell you a bulls~~~ story. That being said.. you dont have to be any certain way bro.. thats the glory of it all.. let it go and start being who you want to be.. no apologies no pandering to us or anyone.

The accumulated filth of all their sex and murder will foam up about their waists and all the whores and politicians will look up and shout "save us!"....... and i'll look down and whisper "No."

[FocusParticipant 123]

The Manipulated Man wrote:

You have demonstrated yourself to be a coward by ignoring the recommendations…

Yeah… not much use for recommendations these days. I’m doing wtf I want to do regardless of what other people think I should do.

The Manipulated Man wrote:

Furthermore, you have changed your name from Learn too late to Focus which is flaky.

Whew! Good thing your approval of my name isn’t exactly on my list of things to give a f~~~ about today. Maybe tomorrow, but probably not.

The Manipulated Man wrote:

This second Introduction is cringe worthy and you need to fix it.

Eh, I donno man. These days I feel like I’ll decide what I need to do. Pretty much all set on other people telling me what I need to do. So thanks, but not thanks.

The Manipulated Man wrote:

Where are your B~~~~?

Probably tasting a little salty about now… you tell me.

43, two marriages, second divorce kicked off 6/22/18. Wife already moved out... I was the best white knight I've ever seen and I still wasn't enough.

[The Manipulated ManParticipant 1856]

Your reply, F, demonstrates the behavior of a rotten C~~~.

Rotten C~~~s hate men who are respectful, honest, and helpful.

C~~~s are Evil, Profane, Liars, and Narcissistic.

And C~~~S have no Honor.

What happens when a man finally comprehends the cold and calculating thoughts that are going through a woman's mind, while her eyes are brimming with tears?

[FocusParticipant 123]

The Manipulated Man wrote:

Here is a link to a Post that attempts to discuss the importance of establishing Bonafides in a newcomer’s Introduction

Yeah, I skimmed your post that you linked to. I’m not going to say it’s entirely without merit, but I will say that you don’t make up the rules and decide what and how dudes, especially those new to it, should do their own thing. The fact that you don’t recognize the laughable irony of telling someone going their own way HOW to go their own way speaks for itself.

Apparently you have control issues because you spend at least half your post there making up your version of what you think someone’s own way should be and how they should describe it. That sounds to me like YOUR way and I don’t think it even bears mentioning how most guys here are going to respond to being told how to do wtf they want to do.

I really can’t get over the irony of this guy…

43, two marriages, second divorce kicked off 6/22/18. Wife already moved out... I was the best white knight I've ever seen and I still wasn't enough.

[Anonymous 42]

Rorschach wrote:

Some of us are assholes

Some of us?

[HitmanParticipant]

welcome.
keep that skin of yours thick,
and do what you must to survive each day.
i’m glad you are here.
incoming gets some flack…

DON’T LET THIS BE YOU.
and again,
welcome !!!

[Anonymous 43]

Seriously guys after 2 divorces this guy is more than a little wrecked.

Show a little grace ffs

[Knarley BobParticipant 2219]

First of all, welcome.
Second of all, nobody knows what is next. Get used to it, it never changes. I was in a job interview once, the gal asked where I saw myself in 5 years. I told her I didn’t know where I was going to be in 45 minutes! I later called her and told her I had accepted a job else where. So much for that plan.
The sun rises on a new day, every day. Flying by the seat of your pants can be a fun ride some times. Been out puttin’ on my scooter, people would ask where ya headin’? I’ll tell them I’m just following the front wheel. You’ll get used to it, trust me. Every day can be a new adventure, if you let it.

Knarley

OATHKEEPERS, not on our watch. MOLON LABE

[Solo MAN’S WisdomParticipant]

Welcome Focus. S M W.

When women lead, destruction is the destination. -- Me.

[The Manipulated ManParticipant 1856]

Just got done reading some of your other Posts in the Forums. The I want a divorce conversation is excellent.

It is not my intention to rub salt into any of your wounds.

Rorschach wrote:

Some of us are assholes…

I am NOT projecting my s~~~ onto you.

I am trying to give you a helping hand up, Dummy.

Focus wrote:

The fact that you don’t recognize the laughable irony of telling someone going their own way HOW to go their own way speaks for itself.

Apparently you have control issues because you spend at least half your post there making up your version of what you think someone’s own way should be and how they should describe it. That sounds to me like YOUR way and I don’t think it even bears mentioning how most guys here are going to respond to being told how to do wtf they want to do.

I really can’t get over the irony of this guy…

You are sadly mistaken.

In your other Posts, you provided some Bonafides when you wrote that your marriage has isolated you from friends and caused you to be fifty pounds overweight which too many of us former Blue Pill Slaves can relate to.

Your knowledge and love of fireworks is a legitimate Bonafide which definitely separates you from a woman.

No one is grading you here.

I don’t care what you do with your free time.

I do care when women and their Blue Pill Slaves infiltrate this web site.

Here is a hint: Going your own way does not mean you are free to behave like a woman in MGTOW territory.

You have not really Introduced yourself and your so called Introduction is cringe worthy. Deal with it and stop shooting the messenger.

What happens when a man finally comprehends the cold and calculating thoughts that are going through a woman's mind, while her eyes are brimming with tears?

[743 roadmasterParticipant]

Rorschach wrote:

Some of us are assholes… but at least we dont try to sell you a bulls~~~ story. That being said.. you dont have to be any certain way bro.. thats the glory of it all.. let it go and start being who you want to be.. no apologies no pandering to us or anyone.

This sums it up.

mgtow is its own worst enemy- https://www.campusreform.org/

[Anonymous 7]

Welcome home.

If you are lonely get a puppy.
The puppy will grow into a dog and will show you affection and loyalty, always.

Also, if you get the right sized breed it will take a mother f~~~er out for you. Something about 50 lbs or bigger should do the trick.

The unease you feel is freedom. It will get better, at least that is what the other divorced guys here say.

[FocusParticipant 123]

That works TMM. I don’t have all your definitions down of bonafides and whatever other labels and stuff you apply to whatever aspect of some dude who’s had his ass kicked and found the strength to haul himself outta the bulls~~~ pool. I’m just here man, same as the rest of you. I’m doing my best and appeasing some random swingin’ dick on an f~~~in’ internet forum, of whatever flavor, barely registers on my give-a-s~~~-o-meter these days.

Maybe your life has been so easy you can be all academic and profound and whatever the f~~~ else, but some of us are just here looking for a little oxygen to survive on.

Cringe away or whatever floats your boat man. Thanks for what you’ve posted here. I did the proper MGTOW thing and considered what you offered that had value to me and blew off the rest. As I’d think any man going his own way would do.

The Manipulated Man wrote:

Here is a hint: Going your own way does not mean you are free to behave like a woman in MGTOW territory.

I guess I’m mistaken then. I thought going my own way meant I was free to do whatever I damn well please without worrying what someone else thought about it. I’ve told the closest members of my family to eat a bag of dicks based on that premise, and I don’t even know you.

I see where you’re coming from in your last post, and I appreciate it. Beyond that… it was just my attempt at an intro man. Didn’t mean to get your c~~~ all in a waffle about it. I’d say sorry, but I’m not. My takeaway, if any, is that between your insta-criticizing judgement and your higher-than-thou attitude you made me feel almost exactly like my STBXW, which is why I kicked her c~~~ to the curb.

So there’s that.

43, two marriages, second divorce kicked off 6/22/18. Wife already moved out... I was the best white knight I've ever seen and I still wasn't enough.

[FocusParticipant 123]

Anonymous wrote:

Welcome home.
If you are lonely get a puppy.
The puppy will grow into a dog and will show you affection and loyalty, always.

Also, if you get the right sized breed it will take a mother f~~~er out for you. Something about 50 lbs or bigger should do the trick.

The unease you feel is freedom. It will get better, at least that is what the other divorced guys here say.

Too right Grue. I have a 3 yr. old 85 lb. Czech working line GSD I raised from 8 weeks to testify. He did and he does. Unlike the XX chromosomes I’ve known.

Side note on your comment to me in the other thread, you’re exactly right, as I’m sure you already knew. My turn is over.

43, two marriages, second divorce kicked off 6/22/18. Wife already moved out... I was the best white knight I've ever seen and I still wasn't enough.

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