In need of advise

[PhantomParticipant 3328]

SuperBee wrote:

Thanks for the video.

Any time brother.

[SuperBeeParticipant 65]

Update 🙂

This weekend, despite it was her turn to keep the kids, she asked me if I could do her a favor and keep them (again), because she had plans for the weekend with the new guy.(OK…she will keep the kids the next 2 weekends continuously).
Leaving aside the fact how devastating this demand can be, my question is:
How is it possible that woman can be so heartless and emotionless asking such a thing from their ex-husband.
I discussed the matter with over 10 different guys,and got from all the same answer…that they wouldn’t even think to ask for such a favor their ex ,if they were in the same situation.
It is not polite, and that you can’t hurt in such a way the feelings of another person you dumped.Common sense.
But NO…for her…it was f~~~ing logical to humiliate me this way.

P.S. (of course I took the kids and spent a nice weekend with them,despite the fact I couldn;t sleep at night…thinking of that s~~~ty behavior)
🙁

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[BadgerParticipant 2277]

SuperBee wrote:

she asked me if I could do her a favor

Learn to say NO. It is a magical word that MGTOW vets have mastered.

You can get a used copy of Donald G. Smith’s THE JOY OF NEGATIVE THINKING on Amazon.com. Smith tells how to improve your life with the use of that simple two letter word — NO. Walgreen drug stores sell Amazon gift cards if you can’t pay any other way.

[SuperBeeParticipant 65]

Badger wrote:

SuperBee wrote:

she asked me if I could do her a favor

Learn to say NO. It is a magical word that MGTOW vets have mastered.

You can get a used copy of Donald G. Smith’s THE JOY OF NEGATIVE THINKING on Amazon.com. Smith tells how to improve your life with the use of that simple two letter word — NO. Walgreen drug stores sell Amazon gift cards if you can’t pay any other way.

I see it the other way around.
Maybe in the future I’m in the same need…who knows.
I just can’t believe that someone who messed up your life dares to ask for favors.

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[Anonymous 11]

SuperBee wrote:

How can I leave her behind and start a new life?

This post is quite different than your other post, forget what I said about your avatar.

[SolidusXParticipant 854]

@superbee It is super easy, well for me anyway, if someone has wronged me greatly or has betrayed me I become a heartless asshole to them. I would have simply said NO and moved on, your ex will probably get all p~~~y at you but it as simple as hanging up the phone or walking out the door. You have to put women in their place sometimes and stick to your guns no matter what as they think their magical t~~~ and soft voice will make men do whatever they want for them. As an added bonus you can always get a little giggle at seeing their face when you say no.

Knowledge is power..... Don't waste your brain on bullshit

[SuperBeeParticipant 65]

Anonymous wrote:

SuperBee wrote:

How can I leave her behind and start a new life?

This post is quite different than your other post, forget what I said about your avatar.

No hard feelings, mate.
We don’t know each other, so you can’t judge me so quickly.
But I will not give up on playing cat and mouse with girls, just because of the s~~~ty outcome.
In contrary with most stories I read here, I didn’t have any complaints from my wife the last 15 years.No serious fights, no nagging all the time, at least 3 times sex the week and all that for 15 years.
So what if it turned out bad?

What about the other 15 years where almost anything was ok?

I’m focusing on that.
You can’t just stop drinking beer, because a couple of times it tasted bad.
Just don’t give body & soul in a relationship next time.

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[narwhalParticipant]

As far as the favor asking, you have to get your head out of the mindset of doing what you think she will like. You need to change from:

“I do what I can”

to:

“I will do what I want whenever I want”

Actually tell that to her. Repeatedly. It will p~~~ the s~~~ out of her because she will realize she’s losing a resource. You have no obligation what’s so ever to make her life better in anyway. Even when it comes to the kids, she has no right to dictate to you what you think is best for the kids.

As far how to cope, I would get in the practice of speaking the truth whenever possible. Admit to yourself and others all the mistakes you made. Do not hold back in telling her how losing you think her cheating was. Do not hold back in letting her family and friends know the truth.

You’re a man, you are built to handle the truth. Lies and manipulation are her only strengths. Her world is very very fragile, because it’s built on lies. Let it crumble around her. In all honestly, it’s the best thing you can do for her.

Don’t involve your kids, depending on age, but again, don’t hold back on the truth. You said it yourself that you think it’s messed up for her to ask a favor of you, so don’t do it. You have no obligation to do so, and certainly does not mean you don’t love your kids (she’ll claim it does).

I know this still hurts, but it will get better in time. The more you live in the truth, the more you will recover, the more she will respect you, and so on.

Ok. Then do it.

[OldBillParticipant]

SuperBee wrote:

I just can’t believe that someone who messed up your life dares to ask for favors.

And I can’t believe you did a favor for someone who messed up your life.

You haven’t quite “grokked” what MGTOW and the Red Pill are all about. You can make all the right “mouth noises” but your words don’t translate into your behavior.

When you’re ex wanted you change the legally binding custody agreement, you should have said NO. Believe me, if you’d asked to change weekends she would have told you to go f~~~ yourself.

In the future when you ex asks you for anything, your first response should be NO. She should get nothing from you, NOTHING. In the future the only conversations you should have with her should directly involve your children. When she starts to natter on about herself, her life, and her needs, you should immediately and without question shut her down. You should tell her you’re only interested in the children and that you have no interest in her. If she continues, you end the conversation.

She should learn from your words and actions that she means nothing to you.

Only then will you become a man going his own way instead of just another beta orbiter simp.

Good luck.

Do not date. Do not impregnate. Do not co-habitate. Above all, do not marry. Reclaim and never again surrender your personal sovereignty.

[Anonymous 11]

SuperBee wrote:

at least 3 times sex the week

Who were you banging the other 4 days of the week?

[NWIslanderParticipant 4]

SuperBee, I’m a brand new member here to this site myself. I know that simply hearing from fellow men, “I’ve been there man, I know how you feel,” may not really help that much, but I’ll say it anyways…I was where you are 2 years ago. It seems almost the exact same situation from what you are describing. All I can say is, 2 years later, doing quite well. Kind of like with the death of a loved one, the wounds heal, the pain lessens, both with time. The obsession with mental images of your wife/exwife with another man fades. Hopefully you can find support and brotherhood in this forum and with other men in your life. Best wishes to you. You’ll survive this, and you’ll look back and hopefully, like I feel now, that you’re a better man for having gone through it.

[SuperBeeParticipant 65]

Anonymous wrote:

SuperBee wrote:

at least 3 times sex the week

Who were you banging the other 4 days of the week?

I guess my palm 🙂 🙂 🙂

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[SuperBeeParticipant 65]

NWIslander wrote:

SuperBee, I’m a brand new member here to this site myself. I know that simply hearing from fellow men, “I’ve been there man, I know how you feel,” may not really help that much, but I’ll say it anyways…I was where you are 2 years ago. It seems almost the exact same situation from what you are describing. All I can say is, 2 years later, doing quite well. Kind of like with the death of a loved one, the wounds heal, the pain lessens, both with time. The obsession with mental images of your wife/exwife with another man fades. Hopefully you can find support and brotherhood in this forum and with other men in your life. Best wishes to you. You’ll survive this, and you’ll look back and hopefully, like I feel now, that you’re a better man for having gone through it.

I really appreciate your words and those of all guys here.
Everybody keeps telling me the same…so I have to trust them.
🙂

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