"I'm Sick of Your S~~~! I Want A Divorce" • Whoops! I Showed My Hand • Greetings

[IRuleMeParticipant]

ForeverDone wrote:

MEFISHTO wrote:

OK. Been married before but only lasted a couple of years. This one lasted 15 with two wonderful kids, both beautiful girls. Without a long diatribe, I’ll explain our problem. The ex is pretty but has occasional moments of pure stupidity. When those moments occurred, I yelled, cussed, derided and bitched. When she wrecked my Truck, I yelled. When she wrecked my car, I yelled. She’s wrecked 7 times and totaled 3 vehicles including a top-of-the-line luxury SUV. When she bought s~~~ty, overpriced furniture, I yelled. When she took out thousands of dollars in credit without telling me, I yelled. When she dropped out of College (and tried to prevent me from finding out) I yelled. When I told her she’d be responsible for paying back her student loan in full by herself because she was trying to be covert, I yelled. When she didn’t pay it back, I yelled. When the Feds put a lean on our tax return because she didn’t pay the student loan money back, I yelled. When I was relatively sure she was f~~~ing somebody,

I DIDNT YELL

. But I was occasionally inquisitive which would elicit a fit from her which inevitably would lead to yelling. She yelled to. So we get to court and she’s claiming I’m Abusive because I yelled, cussed, derided and bitched. So I had to go to classes whereby I was taught that stupid isn’t necessarily stupid and even if it is stupid, you cannot exercise your first amendment rights. Not even in your own stupid house! My only question to the instructor in approximately 30 weekly meetings was, “When she does something dastardly, what am I to do?” The answer was to divorce her. That was the only “safe” answer they’d give. I stayed too long because I have kids. My reasoning was simple. Kids. Our relationship is a little better now. She goes to her mother when she needs money (needs her ass pulled our of a crack) because she’s done something else stupid! She’s still manipulating me some, especially with the girls, but it’s getting less frequent. I’ve joined this community for insight into others situations to determine a way forward or perhaps, consider some other avenue that I would not have thought of. And I’d like to Thank my friend “Bob” for telling me about this resource otherwise I may not have found it! Note: I’m an alpha. A no nonsense, no bulls~~~ kinda guy. I suppose that has been part of the problem from the beginning.

Alpha would had been putting her in her place at the first moment of discourse. If that failed, offer to work on it for the kids. When that failed (which it would had), then you file for divorce. Yelling or reprimanding a “partner” is hearing your words go in one of her ears and out the other. She knows, because you have kids, she’s got a money ticket regardless. If you are really Alpha, then you’d not allow her to do anything else to get more time or money from you. You give what the court of lies ordered you to give and that is it. Then, you’d see a change in her behavior. In a way, she still has you tied around her finger.

Alphas are leaders. They don’t follow the situation and tag along like a beta. Sorry, but that’s what’s being done here. You MAY be alpha in most of your actions (I don’t know you, and haven’t seen you in action so I can’t say) but allowing the female to dictate the direction of relationship isn’t alpha. That’s beta.

[LionOnTheLooseParticipant 1315]

Welcome, brother. She sounds a right piece of work. I hope you find reassurance from these forums that she’s not unique: women never take responsibility for money. They never respect your stuff.

If you had to go to “don’t yell” classes, why doesn’t she not have to go to “don’t trash your husband’s truck” classes? I’ll teach the class. Lesson 1: don’t trash your husband’s truck. Lesson 2: don’t f~~~ing trash your husband’s truck, you skank.

I agree with IRuleMe: it’s dumb to stay for the children. They’ll know what’s going on earlier than you think, and it just teaches them that relationships are about being fake. For their sake, don’t live a lie.

Again, welcome brother. It all gets better from now on!

There aren't holes in your pockets. It's called marriage.

[experiencedParticipant]

As a warning to other men, know that taking such a course can be viewed as an admission of guilt.
I’d tried to contact a marriage counselor, no response. Then, when my ex to be, hires him, he contacts me, introducing himself, to get me to take an anger management counseling.
Stupid Twit didn’t recall my initial request to ‘save’ the mirage.
Never took his counseling because it wasn’t needed and it was not applicable, would have been paid for by me and used against me.
Hope this helps.

"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

[DBCooperParticipant 200]

Don’t stay for the kids. Yelling and screaming is not healthy for them. The best thing I did for my daughter was get out. Now she at least spends half of her time with a calm loving parent. I only communicate with the X through email or text so there is never a chance of a yelling and screaming match and everything is recorded. Life is much more peaceful for my daughter and filing for the divorce was the best thing I ever did not only for me but for her. Get out while you can.

[Anonymous 12]

MEFISHTO wrote:

OK. Been married before but only lasted a couple of years. This one lasted 15 with two wonderful kids, both beautiful girls. Without a long diatribe, I’ll explain our problem. The ex is pretty but has occasional moments of pure stupidity. When those moments occurred, I yelled, cussed, derided and bitched. When she wrecked my Truck, I yelled. When she wrecked my car, I yelled. She’s wrecked 7 times and totaled 3 vehicles including a top-of-the-line luxury SUV. When she bought s~~~ty, overpriced furniture, I yelled. When she took out thousands of dollars in credit without telling me, I yelled. When she dropped out of College (and tried to prevent me from finding out) I yelled. When I told her she’d be responsible for paying back her student loan in full by herself because she was trying to be covert, I yelled. When she didn’t pay it back, I yelled. When the Feds put a lean on our tax return because she didn’t pay the student loan money back, I yelled. When I was relatively sure she was f~~~ing somebody,

I DIDNT YELL

. But I was occasionally inquisitive which would elicit a fit from her which inevitably would lead to yelling. She yelled to. So we get to court and she’s claiming I’m Abusive because I yelled, cussed, derided and bitched. So I had to go to classes whereby I was taught that stupid isn’t necessarily stupid and even if it is stupid, you cannot exercise your first amendment rights. Not even in your own stupid house! My only question to the instructor in approximately 30 weekly meetings was, “When she does something dastardly, what am I to do?” The answer was to divorce her. That was the only “safe” answer they’d give. I stayed too long because I have kids. My reasoning was simple. Kids. Our relationship is a little better now. She goes to her mother when she needs money (needs her ass pulled our of a crack) because she’s done something else stupid! She’s still manipulating me some, especially with the girls, but it’s getting less frequent. I’ve joined this community for insight into others situations to determine a way forward or perhaps, consider some other avenue that I would not have thought of. And I’d like to Thank my friend “Bob” for telling me about this resource otherwise I may not have found it! Note: I’m an alpha. A no nonsense, no bulls~~~ kinda guy. I suppose that has been part of the problem from the beginning.

Bruh you make me laugh, oh you silly Boi.

“i will explain our problem”
YOUR problem fullstop

I’m an alpha. A no nonsense, no bulls~~~ kinda guy. I suppose that has been part of the problem from the beginning.
NO. Alphas dominate by merely existing. YOU? You are not alpha. You are some beta omega zeta kind of Bitch who can do nothing but YELL.
A King does not say he is King.
He IS, and all the ones surrounding … simply know and acknowledge.
Without a word said… they bow.

Welcome.
Buy a Mirror.
Then look at yourself.

If you dare.

You and your loudmouth… It´ll ruin you faster than you can say i´m Sorry.

[MonkParticipant 16994]

MEFISHTO wrote:

OK. This one lasted 15 with two wonderful kids, both beautiful girls.

Wait until they support her lies in court and say you abused them.

Without a long diatribe, I’ll explain our problem.

‘Our’ problem? No, it’s YOUR problem. She’s only doing what they all do.

She’s still manipulating me some, especially with the girls, but it’s getting less frequent.

Chameleon mode is ON. She either suspects that you are about to snap, or is planning to screw you over.

I’ve joined this community for insight into others situations to determine a way forward or perhaps, consider some other avenue that I would not have thought of.

Keep your mouth shut and start planning to get out. If you stay you will end up penniless and in jail.

[Anonymous 12]

I think we might have p~~~ed the demon off.

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