"I'm Sick of Your S~~~! I Want A Divorce" • Whoops! I Showed My Hand • Greetings

[MEFISHTOParticipant 16]

OK. Been married before but only lasted a couple of years. This one lasted 15 with two wonderful kids, both beautiful girls. Without a long diatribe, I’ll explain our problem. The ex is pretty but has occasional moments of pure stupidity. When those moments occurred, I yelled, cussed, derided and bitched. When she wrecked my Truck, I yelled. When she wrecked my car, I yelled. She’s wrecked 7 times and totaled 3 vehicles including a top-of-the-line luxury SUV. When she bought s~~~ty, overpriced furniture, I yelled. When she took out thousands of dollars in credit without telling me, I yelled. When she dropped out of College (and tried to prevent me from finding out) I yelled. When I told her she’d be responsible for paying back her student loan in full by herself because she was trying to be covert, I yelled. When she didn’t pay it back, I yelled. When the Feds put a lean on our tax return because she didn’t pay the student loan money back, I yelled. When I was relatively sure she was f~~~ing somebody,

I DIDNT YELL

. But I was occasionally inquisitive which would elicit a fit from her which inevitably would lead to yelling. She yelled to. So we get to court and she’s claiming I’m Abusive because I yelled, cussed, derided and bitched. So I had to go to classes whereby I was taught that stupid isn’t necessarily stupid and even if it is stupid, you cannot exercise your first amendment rights. Not even in your own stupid house! My only question to the instructor in approximately 30 weekly meetings was, “When she does something dastardly, what am I to do?” The answer was to divorce her. That was the only “safe” answer they’d give. I stayed too long because I have kids. My reasoning was simple. Kids. Our relationship is a little better now. She goes to her mother when she needs money (needs her ass pulled our of a crack) because she’s done something else stupid! She’s still manipulating me some, especially with the girls, but it’s getting less frequent. I’ve joined this community for insight into others situations to determine a way forward or perhaps, consider some other avenue that I would not have thought of. And I’d like to Thank my friend “Bob” for telling me about this resource otherwise I may not have found it! Note: I’m an alpha. A no nonsense, no bulls~~~ kinda guy. I suppose that has been part of the problem from the beginning.

[Anonymous 18]

MEFISHTO wrote:

Note: I’m an alpha. A no nonsense

Nothing alpha about sniffing another man’s cum in your wife puss puss bro.

But married men need their own delusions to make the ass-f~~~ing they get a bit more tolerable.

There is no advice beside dump the bitch when your daughters are independent/out of house/off to college.

Don’t alpha too hard – its not working for you.

[Will RobinsonParticipant 3479]

/yelling – well the people behind courses like that are f~~~ing idiots. Yelling is a safety valve that lets off steam. Stopping people from being able to yell creates a greater risk of violence. halfwit feminists.

Now if a person is yelling “I’m going to kill you” – maybe.

But if a person is yelling “stop acting like that, you know it will give me a heart attack” – I say the female is the abusive one.

Common sense is a trait women and feminists lack.

And by the way – welcome.

May you walk in peace and happiness, May you and all mgtow, near and far walk in peace and happiness.

[MarketWatcherParticipant]

Great intro. Welcome!

[Anonymous 54]

There is no place in this world for Alfas any more.

Your ” Toxic Masculinity” is the scourge of the Universe!! Hahahh

They dont even like it here! Haha

She wrecked 7 times? Hahahaj

Welcome Mefishto!

[MEFISHTOParticipant 16]

Anonymous wrote:

Nothing alpha about sniffing another man’s cum in your wife puss puss bro.

Ha! Now that’s funny! You’re assuming I cared at that point, yes? What she does with her puss isn’t any of my business. That is alpha friend. She’s degraded herself with her own actions. I’ve tried not to jump into the mud with her is all. Thanks for your view.

[RomulusParticipant 4667]

Welcome.

I use to yell and shout a lot when I was upset with someone. Never did a thing for me, never solved any problem we were having, never left either of us feeling better.

I would often try to justify why the idiocy of the other person drove me to scream and yell. It wasn’t my fault, the other asshole did some stupid f~~~ed-up thing, and that made me yell…….so its their fault.

Then I got married (second marriage) to a woman who would get right up in my face, inches from my face, when she was upset, and scream and call me names and generally tell me off in no uncertain terms. Very over the top and more a comment on her lack of control then anything else.

My reaction when she treated me like that…..I wanted to punch her face in.

One day I thought, well if that’s my reaction when someone is in my face yelling at me, for what ever reason, why would I expect that when I yell at someone their reaction will be any different.

It isn’t communication in any type effective way. Its just one person venting at the expense of the other. Yelling and belittling someone is rarely effective.

It’s more like emotionally vomiting on the other person.

What I now understand is, if someone is driving me to that point repeatedly, I should be somewhere else. That simple.

How can a woman be expected to be happy with a man who insists on treating her as if she were a perfectly normal human being.

[Anonymous 54]

MEFISHTO wrote:

Ghân-buri-Ghân wrote:

Nothing alpha about sniffing another man’s cum in your wife puss puss bro.

Ha! Now that’s funny! You’re assuming I cared at that point, yes? What she does with her puss isn’t any of my business. That is alpha friend. She’s degraded herself with her own actions. I’ve tried not to jump into the mud with her is all. Thanks for your view.

Alfa!

Watch and learn Brothers!

[ArcturisParticipant 2819]

You fell into the same trap like a lot of us here. In some ways you’re still in it.

MEFISHTO wrote:

I stayed too long because I have kids. My reasoning was simple. Kids.

You were MANIPULATED to stay because of your kids. They were likely used against you and they’ll continue to be.

Women cheat. Women Lie. Women manipulate men like a game and discuss and shame us amongst themselves.

MEFISHTO – Were you actually happy in your relationship? My guess is you spent your time earning and providing for them WHILE SHE GAVE NOTHING IN RETURN.

MEFISHTO wrote:

When I was relatively sure she was f~~~ing somebody,

All that matters now is you’re here. Grab a beer, pull up a chair. Welcome Brother.

Protect Your Sovereignty. Women WILL TRY To Manipulate You. #NOCONTACT #ICETHEMOUT

[Anonymous 54]

Anonymous wrote:

There is no place in this world for Alfas any more.

They dont even like it here!

See what I mean! Hahah

Lay a bunch of Alfa on this place.

It needs it!!!

[The Manipulated ManParticipant 1856]

Trying to get my taxes done and your Introduction just popped up in my Inbox.

I needed the break. Your writing is good stuff. Thanks.

MEFISHTO wrote:

The ex is pretty but has occasional moments of pure stupidity…..

Amen Brother!

The following post is an attempt to discuss women in the Trades. Your feedback there is appreciated:

/forums/topic/women-in-the-trades-blue-collar-jobs/

MEFISHTO wrote:

…When she wrecked my Truck, I yelled. When she wrecked my car, I yelled. She’s wrecked 7 times and totaled 3 vehicles including a top-of-the-line luxury SUV. When she bought s~~~ty, overpriced furniture, I yelled. When she took out thousands of dollars in credit without telling me, I yelled. When she dropped out of College (and tried to prevent me from finding out) I yelled. When I told her she’d be responsible for paying back her student loan in full by herself because she was trying to be covert, I yelled. When she didn’t pay it back, I yelled. When the Feds put a lean on our tax return because she didn’t pay the student loan money back, I yelled….

It is like reading my autobiography.

MEFISHTO wrote:

So I had to go to classes whereby I was taught that stupid isn’t necessarily stupid and even if it is stupid, you cannot exercise your first amendment rights. Not even in your own stupid house! My only question to the instructor in approximately 30 weekly meetings was, “When she does something dastardly, what am I to do?” The answer was to divorce her.

You got off easy.

One of my pals at work had to spend a month in jail and he had no kids.

Here is a post about the last words of Thomas Ball who wrote the most accurate report on the problems married men face:

/forums/topic/thomas-ball-died-for-your-sins-too/

Here is a post about something that happened to me many years after my divorce and I foolishly believed that I was Savvy. Your feedback there is appreciated:

/forums/topic/the-domestic-abuse-machine-as-an-apparatus-for-mens-enslavement/

Here is a Post to help newcomers. You will enjoy the book recommendations at the end:

/forums/topic/list-of-unacceptable-blue-pill-baggage/

What happens when a man finally comprehends the cold and calculating thoughts that are going through a woman's mind, while her eyes are brimming with tears?

[IRuleMeParticipant]

Getting away from someone with no actual future is the best move. Coming from someone who watched their parents split, and who watched aunts and uncles split… The kids will get over it.

Eventually

Don’t find yourself staying for the kids. That’s the biggest waste of time and something you’re likely to regret down the road. Do the best thing for YOU. Eventually the kids will understand when they come out from the cloud of marital smoke that is your relationship with s~~~ head. I certainly wouldn’t want my parents sticking together JUST for me. That’s a selfish thing to do. And for what? So I can be stuck for years in an awkward situation with two people who CLEARLY don’t want to be together, or shouldn’t be together? Nah, f~~~ that! Is the awkwardness of child exchange worse than the awkwardness of two people being “passing ships in the night” in their own house in front of their kids? I’d say the second scenario is worse. Esp if you know the end result will be the same.

[Anonymous 18]

MEFISHTO wrote:

You’re assuming I cared at that point, yes? What she does with her puss isn’t any of my business. That is alpha friend.

I stand corrected.

Do jump the ship when your kids find their own anchors.

[ForeverDoneParticipant 2928]

MEFISHTO wrote:

OK. Been married before but only lasted a couple of years. This one lasted 15 with two wonderful kids, both beautiful girls. Without a long diatribe, I’ll explain our problem. The ex is pretty but has occasional moments of pure stupidity. When those moments occurred, I yelled, cussed, derided and bitched. When she wrecked my Truck, I yelled. When she wrecked my car, I yelled. She’s wrecked 7 times and totaled 3 vehicles including a top-of-the-line luxury SUV. When she bought s~~~ty, overpriced furniture, I yelled. When she took out thousands of dollars in credit without telling me, I yelled. When she dropped out of College (and tried to prevent me from finding out) I yelled. When I told her she’d be responsible for paying back her student loan in full by herself because she was trying to be covert, I yelled. When she didn’t pay it back, I yelled. When the Feds put a lean on our tax return because she didn’t pay the student loan money back, I yelled. When I was relatively sure she was f~~~ing somebody,

I DIDNT YELL

. But I was occasionally inquisitive which would elicit a fit from her which inevitably would lead to yelling. She yelled to. So we get to court and she’s claiming I’m Abusive because I yelled, cussed, derided and bitched. So I had to go to classes whereby I was taught that stupid isn’t necessarily stupid and even if it is stupid, you cannot exercise your first amendment rights. Not even in your own stupid house! My only question to the instructor in approximately 30 weekly meetings was, “When she does something dastardly, what am I to do?” The answer was to divorce her. That was the only “safe” answer they’d give. I stayed too long because I have kids. My reasoning was simple. Kids. Our relationship is a little better now. She goes to her mother when she needs money (needs her ass pulled our of a crack) because she’s done something else stupid! She’s still manipulating me some, especially with the girls, but it’s getting less frequent. I’ve joined this community for insight into others situations to determine a way forward or perhaps, consider some other avenue that I would not have thought of. And I’d like to Thank my friend “Bob” for telling me about this resource otherwise I may not have found it! Note: I’m an alpha. A no nonsense, no bulls~~~ kinda guy. I suppose that has been part of the problem from the beginning.

Alpha would had been putting her in her place at the first moment of discourse. If that failed, offer to work on it for the kids. When that failed (which it would had), then you file for divorce. Yelling or reprimanding a “partner” is hearing your words go in one of her ears and out the other. She knows, because you have kids, she’s got a money ticket regardless. If you are really Alpha, then you’d not allow her to do anything else to get more time or money from you. You give what the court of lies ordered you to give and that is it. Then, you’d see a change in her behavior. In a way, she still has you tied around her finger.

[AttonParticipant]

She sounds like a bit of a domestic abuser, if she ever becomes physical down the line. Use your second amendment right you only get one chance.

A MGTOW is a man who is not a woman's bitch!

[Remove me!Participant]

Welcome.

I had a serious rage problem when I was married. My wife even convinced me I was bipolar, until I went to 3 different doctors to tell me I wasn’t. We got a divorce, and my rage went away. I don’t get angry anymore, except when I’m around her, so I stay away from her. It’s great. Wait till the kids are of age, then I’d suggest going your own way. It’s cheaper to keep her right now.

Like a bird on the wire, like a drunk midnight choir, I have tried in my way to be free.

[Anonymous 3]

I seldom yell about anything anymore. I live alone.

[Anonymous 0]

Welcome home, Mefishto
Beer’s in the fridge

[Y_Participant 4591]

The biggest hold females have on you is getting inside your head and making you the guilty one.

It does not matter how alpha you are – once they get in your head you are f~~~ed. Children aside the only way to get your life back is walk away like Client Eastwood or Humphrey Bogart

Just walk away

No need to convince her or the courts or your friends or the preacher (assuming you go for that) or anyone else. They only want you in the plantation.

Just walk away .

[ForeverDoneParticipant 2928]

Remove me! wrote:

Welcome.

I had a serious rage problem when I was married. My wife even convinced me I was bipolar, until I went to 3 different doctors to tell me I wasn’t. We got a divorce, and my rage went away. I don’t get angry anymore, except when I’m around her, so I stay away from her. It’s great. Wait till the kids are of age, then I’d suggest going your own way. It’s cheaper to keep her right now.

Unless you are in California. After 10 years, LIFETIME EX-WIFEY SUPPORT!!!!

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