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Look guys, MGTOW is great but I just can’t control my urge to be in a f~~~ing relationship. I not only like having sex with women I also like it when they’re nice and help you out with emotional stuff or give advice…. Being insecure and horny is a bad combination. You have to acknowledge this simple fact. You are horny. You are afraid of being alone. Both these things are overrated in the sense that if you fulfill either the satisfaction will only be a temporary fix. In regards to their advice, it cannot be that good otherwise you would not be here. Do not mistake advice with being told what you want to hear. This is a facet of a twisted female nature. Women nurture, maybe not in today’s society, but biologically speaking that is what they are programmed to do . Whether for the better or worse a woman will tell you not what you need to hear, but rather what you want to hear. On a personal note, I had women tell me (multiple) that they had no clue what was in my mind. They are far from omniscient. I think you are more open with your emotions than you might care to admit, and this is where your confusion stems from. You think they are smart, when in reality you are probably an easy read for them let alone everyone else. they can be pretty good at it since they’re more in tune with their emotions or whatever and thus know us better than we know ourselves. Everytime I have a deep conversation with a woman I’m connecting with, she makes me introspect and often some good comes of it! I am going to just flat disagree. This is untrue at multiple levels. Women know how to manipulate a man’s emotions because it is an acquired skillset. In regards to the deep conversations I will be frank. Women are not deep creatures, you just might be emotionally shallow. Women rarely, if ever, give good advice that does not backfire in the long term. Very simple evidence is that the more power they attain the more a society begins to crumble. Or that fact that most gang members are raised by their mothers. Do not mistake advice for being nurtured. With that being said, nurturing is not enough. If the devil was cute enough the average woman would be glad to breast feed him. They have no sense of right or wrong with the exception of what was pass on to them by their fathers. A woman’s morality is determined more by her father rather than herself. Getting back to the nature of women: they nuture, and in today’s times poorly. Do not mistake nurturing for a sense of right or wrong. Women know when we are attached and when we’re ready to leave a relationship, I don’t know how they do it. This is untrue. Men know this too. This is not an attribute based soley on “womanhood”, it is a facet of human nature. With that being said, I am under the impression you are a very emotional man. With that being said you probably gave off a lot of signals without knowing it. Your “understanding” of women has less to do with women and more about yourself. So PLEASE tell me how to have the upper hand in a relationship and be in a position to make HER feel bad instead? I mean, I won’t exercise this power, but I would love to be in a position of power you know? Gain control of yourself. You do not need to make her feel bad. As a matter of fact you shouldn’t care what she thinks. Women are always dissatisfied, unless their womb is full. Your focus should be on gaining control over your emotions and passions. You have to face your fear of being alone. And once you face it you will understand being alone is not that big of a deal. Focus less on her and more on yourself. Your falsely placed faith in women underscores your own value as a man. I don’t want her to MAKE me think that I’m in control but really it’s her. Let her think she is in control. Who cares what she thinks. My diagnosis is that you are suffering from severe manginanism, with a very small touch of white knightery. You need more redpills. Approximately a few doses every 2-3 hours for the next six weeks. This should alleviate some of your symptoms. That and find a job or hobby that has meaning to you.
I think society has pressured me into thinking that being without a woman is a bad thing and it’s only for losers. You see the shaming to make me comply here? lol. I take what I said back. The day I wrote this I was completely out of my mind. At the end of the day, the girl didn’t offer me any advice. I also think you’re right about me being open with my emotions. I don’t know how to hide them!!
I disagree with you on the fact that it’s an acquired skillset. I think that it is a biological trait. However the extent to which females can manipulate males today is mostly because of how society is constructed. Pre-feminist society was structured in such a way that it kept female manipulation in check and protected men. It still is in most countries, I might add. However feminism has pervaded and more and more people are getting sick.
Any tips on how to gain control of my emotions? More specifically those relating to feeling “bad”. Your diagnosis is partially right.
Any tips on how to gain control of my emotions? More specifically those relating to feeling “bad”.
The first step is that you are going to have to gain respect for yourself. You have to understand that as a man it is your right to respect yourself. You do not need the approval or disapproval of society.
In regards to feeling “bad”, don’t suppress it. Confront it. If something a woman says or does causes conflict for you, address it. And be frank when you do. Do not worry about sugar coating it or being rude. Remember a woman runs off animal passions. It would be no different than talking to a small child or a dog for that matter. You have to understand this. Women are not meant to be worshipped, nor are they worthy of it. The worship of women is a sickness.
You also will have to understand what exactly bothers you and why. Don’t make general accusations as to what bothers you or what doesn’t. Take some time alone and specifically spend time in self reflection. You have to gain a deeper understanding of what triggers and buttons you have. And when you find out, don’t come here and talk about it. Some personal insights are meant for you alone and can only be dealt with by you alone. With that being said, practice being alone. You are going to have to learn how to quiet your heart and mind.
With that being said, get religion. However that is a problem for many, because of several reasons. Some have misconceptions of religions. Some do not know what religion to go to or why. That and almost all places of worship are overrun by feminists and manginas. With that being said. Simply ask God for help. Be frank about it. Your conversation doesn’t have to be intricate or poetic. Nor does it have to be lengthy. You don’t have to be happy or sad or spend time on your knees. Just be frank. Ask for wisdom and strength and keep asking. If you don’t believe in God, get over yourself. Worshipping yourself won’t get you anywhere. Neitzche went to an insane asylum. I really don’t care if my advice is politically correct or MGTOW, it is something you are going to have to do.
With that being said, you are going to have to practice self discipline in its many forms. Practice self discipline through physical exercise and/or refraining from certain pleasures. Practice, practice, practice. And once you fail, and you will get back up again. Dn’t beat yourself up over it. Guilt solves s~~~. Gaintheability to control your body will help you gain control over your emotions.
With that being said, learn to identify and understand your emotions. You cannot feel “happy” all the time, but being miserable is not good either. You are going to have to find the in between and practice maintain it. A constant quiet/calm/vigilance would be a good goal to start. When you start feeling “bad” or even to “happy” try to tone both back a bit. Seek to “feel” quiet. If a situation proves too difficult for you emotionally, just walk away. Although I advocate self discipline, no one is perfect and to walk away from a emotionally compromising situation is wise, not cowardly or weak.
Hopefully this will provide a little clarity.
Any tips on how to gain control of my emotions? More specifically those relating to feeling “bad”. The first step is that you are going to have to gain respect for yourself. You have to understand that as a man it is your right to respect yourself. You do not need the approval or disapproval of society. In regards to feeling “bad”, don’t suppress it. Confront it. If something a woman says or does causes conflict for you, address it. And be frank when you do. Do not worry about sugar coating it or being rude. Remember a woman runs off animal passions. It would be no different than talking to a small child or a dog for that matter. You have to understand this. Women are not meant to be worshipped, nor are they worthy of it. The worship of women is a sickness. You also will have to understand what exactly bothers you and why. Don’t make general accusations as to what bothers you or what doesn’t. Take some time alone and specifically spend time in self reflection. You have to gain a deeper understanding of what triggers and buttons you have. And when you find out, don’t come here and talk about it. Some personal insights are meant for you alone and can only be dealt with by you alone. With that being said, practice being alone. You are going to have to learn how to quiet your heart and mind. With that being said, get religion. However that is a problem for many, because of several reasons. Some have misconceptions of religions. Some do not know what religion to go to or why. That and almost all places of worship are overrun by feminists and manginas. With that being said. Simply ask God for help. Be frank about it. Your conversation doesn’t have to be intricate or poetic. Nor does it have to be lengthy. You don’t have to be happy or sad or spend time on your knees. Just be frank. Ask for wisdom and strength and keep asking. If you don’t believe in God, get over yourself. Worshipping yourself won’t get you anywhere. Neitzche went to an insane asylum. I really don’t care if my advice is politically correct or MGTOW, it is something you are going to have to do. With that being said, you are going to have to practice self discipline in its many forms. Practice self discipline through physical exercise and/or refraining from certain pleasures. Practice, practice, practice. And once you fail, and you will get back up again. Dn’t beat yourself up over it. Guilt solves s~~~. Gaintheability to control your body will help you gain control over your emotions. With that being said, learn to identify and understand your emotions. You cannot feel “happy” all the time, but being miserable is not good either. You are going to have to find the in between and practice maintain it. A constant quiet/calm/vigilance would be a good goal to start. When you start feeling “bad” or even to “happy” try to tone both back a bit. Seek to “feel” quiet. If a situation proves too difficult for you emotionally, just walk away. Although I advocate self discipline, no one is perfect and to walk away from a emotionally compromising situation is wise, not cowardly or weak. Hopefully this will provide a little clarity.
I’m not worshiping myself and I certainly can’t believe in God. Though I may be worshiping women at a mental level that even I am not aware of.
That is pretty sound advice though otherwise, thanks for this! Though I may confront it and even know what the exact issue is I won’t be able to resolve it unless I have the necessary tools. By this I mean the right attitude or coping mechanism. The right mindset that will equip me with the tools to handle it by seeing things in a new light. I doubt I can do this myself. I’ll need to do a lot of reading and get advice from alpha males. At least, that’s the only way I can think of.
Physical exercise definitely helps. So does increase in T levels. Self discipline is very hard to inculcate, but I’m on it!!
Nofap is actually really good. Try it for 30 days you’ll see.. People’s lives have changed.
I did for 3 weeks once, no positive difference was identified. You wonder why your mind is cluttered with those foolish thoughts you can’t get rid of.
I hope this advice really works!
I’ve felt the urge to be in a relationship too!
When I get that urge, I just whack off…and then I’m back to normal.
MGTOW FOR LIFE, GUYS!!!
The best option is to f~~~ her and leave her.
I'm married to the game,but she broke her vows.
How did you know that I’m in a university town?
You told us yourself you’re going to university, and every university is in a university town. Either the town grows up around the university, or the university changes the surrounding town, but the end result is the same. Even in large cities a university will change the immediate environs into a university town enclave within the city.
Despite the inherently greater risks with women around university, there is one advantage to being in a university town. There are generally a LOT more women at university than men these days, and that means there are a lot more unhappy single women there unable to find men to provide them with time and resources, especially since the more intelligent men know to stay the hell away from them. This makes them especially frustrated and angry when one of the few available men there openly rejects them in favor of pumping and dumping the local townie girls. They express their frustration and anger in shaming attempts. It can be incredibly gratifying to see.
Women only ever try to shame men when men don’t give them what they want. In other words, if a woman tries to shame you, it mean you are winning. Allow me to repeat that:
If a woman is trying to shame you IT MEANS YOU ARE WINNING!I think society has pressured me into thinking that being without a woman is a bad thing and it’s only for losers.
That’s not society telling you that. It’s women. They do it to convince you to give their fellow women and themselves your time and resources for nothing in return. Don’t fall for it. The men around you actually envy an unencumbered man for his freedom and self determination. Even the backstabbing men who also try to shame men into relationships only do it out of spite from their bile and envy to make themselves feel better about their own bitter mistake. You will never see another unencumbered man try to shame you into becoming encumbered; only trapped emasculated ones do that s~~~.
MGTOW doesn’t have a rule about “not allowed to be in a relationship.”
In general, the only rules involved in MGTOW are: “don’t get married, and devote your life to seeking women’s approval.”
some people may want to debate that, but for the most part those rules summarize the PHILOSOPHY that is MGTOW.
That said, many MGTOW (myself included) advocate keeping your interactions with women to a minimum. AND FOR GOOD REASONS; most of which can be seen in about 80% + of the content of this website.
My own advice would be this (if you have a specific woman in mind, or for one in the future).
Go to her facebook and look at her friends list.
On average most females (in my generation at least, older women will have less) will have upwards of 300+ friends.
About 1/3 of those will be male orbiters that she is “keeping in the wings” or as I like to call it “the limit of Plan B + n, where n goes to infinity” or just “plan B” for short.
To put it bluntly, your either plan A or plan B. Plan A is nice because you get sex and stuff, but make no mistake; you are replaceable because there are A LOT OF F~~~ING PLAN Bs.
And they are there. Oh yes, you have probably been plan B at least a couple of times, if you aren’t already plan B NOW.
Women do not really see men as people, they see us as replaceable toys and conveniences. You may be drawn to them because of these feelings you have, but she is much more methodical and calculating than you are (it’s in their nature). Those feelings, if she even has them, mean almost nothing to her.
Why? because you’re just plan A, and she has a lot of plan Bs lined up, and to her its really just a matter of convenience.
Breaking up would be an inconvenience to her, but she has a replacement lined up, In fact; she has 100 of them.
That’s what the fakebook test is meant to prove.
Go on, try it.
Go look at every single one of their faces and remember: your just the next c~~~ in line.
As a side note, Lui Marco had a great video detailing this sort of thing: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6ELYk3Lnvs0
<div class=”d4p-bbt-quote-title”>Dayrep wrote:</div>
Nofap is actually really good. Try it for 30 days you’ll see.. People’s lives have changed.I did for 3 weeks once, no positive difference was identified. You wonder why your mind is cluttered with those foolish thoughts you can’t get rid of.
I’ve also run the no fap experiment. I learned that I wasn’t addicted to sex or porn and had the self control to abstain from orgasm indefinitely.
I also learned that my hormones went absolutely out of control and it brought out my beta simp traits and amplified them. I had a come to Jesus moment when I was putting in my credit card information to spend a couple hundred dollars on a girl that I wasn’t related to or romantically involved in or had any rational reason to be.
I’m going to be in a relationship one of these days. HELP!
Stop that no fap bulls~~~ and you’ll regain your senses. In the no fap FAQ on reddit they even admit there is NO SCIENCE behind no fap.
if a woman tries to shame you it means you are winning.
+1 for sidecar. I love to see a good point well made with minimal number of words. Truth should be delivered like a wrecking ball: simple, direct, and with unrestrained force.
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