I will take half

[Tired-CopParticipant 116]

Greetings gentlemen. Time for an update. If you have followed my posts, you know that I am currently married to a crazy BPD female. She is the one that is trying desperately to get me to quit my job here in the Midwest and move to Florida for her reasons. Long story short. We have only been married for a little over a year. I am in year 17 of a 20 year pension. After much argument today she drops the bombshell that she will take half my pension, and go on a huge expensive cruise. This after all along saying that she was not like all the other women (Ha!). She thinks she will be entitled to 1/2 of everything I have in the pension. I have done research and she will actually be entitled to only 1/2 of what I have contributed for the duration of the marriage, a little over a year. I was very calm when she told me this. She is actually very bright and cunning but she has slipped on this one. I feel a sudden detachment seeing that she is in fact AWALT, and I am so looking forward to breaking that off in her during the divorce.

Just don't care anymore,,,,

[Anonymous 3]

It is idiotic to give women this level of power or tell them they have it.

And it’s not just women. Take the wimpiest, nerdiest guy you’ve ever known, and suddenly give him immense power. It will not be pretty.

Women are very weak and never face adversity in their lives, they can not handle power, they don’t understand the burdens and responsibilities of it, they only understand how to be selfish and claw for themselves every which way.

[experiencedParticipant]

Sorry to hear of your c~~~ behaving like a c~~~, and I do not use that term lightly.
It’s great that you know of the “overlapping” rule.

DO NOT show your cards on this to ANYONE. She will rest, fat in the thoughts of her ignorance.

Another factor may be that while you weren’t hitched to her, you earned more retirement credit during some major activation like in the military. I would research this further as it can make an even greater effect in your favor.

Awaken to the fact that she is a c~~~, entitled as they say, like the rest of them.
SHE WILL take out unknown credit cards, run up unknown debt, and perform ALL SORTS of tricks equal to and greater than what she’s just dished out.

See the top 5 lawyers and hire the pit bull. You can always play Santy Claus later.
I’d consider hiring a private investigator if there’s child custody type issues at hand.

You’re in for a long BUT WINNABLE AND SURVIVABLE fight. It’s much easier and more effective if YOU FILE for the divorce. She’s shown her colors and made her bed. NOW you have to fight the war to win it.

Again, sorry for your situation. Stay in touch with us here. File FIRST.

"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

[Anonymous 1]

Tired-Cop wrote:

I feel a sudden detachment seeing that she is in fact AWALT

I don’t want to p~~~ on your chips but there are no sudden detachments from people you’re emotionally invested in.

It will take time, distance and a fist full of red pills.

This is why men DON’T get involved with BPD’s or most women in general.

I hope this helps.

I speak from experience – LTR’s with 2 BPD’s.

[Jeremiah JohnsonParticipant 2219]

YOU FIGHT BROTHER!! DO NOT LET HER HAVE A GOSH DAMNED PENNY!!! You get a crazy gash lawyer sir and FIGHT with everything you can…These women, I WANT HALF…UNBELIEVABLE!!!! I don’t know you at all sir, but I am being screwed over something fierce by my x-wife…DON’T LET THEM HAVE NOTHING…Lawyer up as best as you possibly can, and fight until you cannot fight no more…just my thoughts sir…

Men are at a time when panning for gold in a urinal has a higher probability of success than finding a faithful and loving woman, it is time to go your own way.....

[PistolPeteParticipant 27143]

Your story makes me furious. I would ask her why she thinks she is entitled to YOUR pension. Did she contribute to it? Is her name on it?

A cruise HUH? Let me guess a cruise out of either Jacksonville or Miami. In the same state she wants to move to. Sorry Tired-Cop there is definitely a Florida based Chad in the wings.

Get a lawyer fast and dump this…this….unholy creature.

I know what you’re thinking and it is tempting but don’t do it!

[Freeman_KParticipant 3524]

Good luck, rooting for you. When i was involved with BPD the biggest issue was the mental state damage inflicted by her psychological warfare involving army of white knights, orbiters, manginas and of course her hive control room. You sound ok, i was in no way able to think red pill then, but be careful, they can and will try to suck you over the falls. Even more so if she senses that you have read her intentions.

The choices we make, not the chances we take, determine our destiny

[experiencedParticipant]

ONCE YOU”VE FILED for divorce, you must stop putting anymore money into that pension until she’s gone, THEN immediately resume contributions/make up contributions.

If you try to stop it now, it may somehow alert her. Be Careful.

"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

[Anonymous 0]

Tired-Cop wrote:

I have done research and she will actually be entitled to only 1/2 of what I have contributed for the duration of the marriage, a little over a year.

Exactly right. Being married only a year means that her claim on your assets isn’t going to be all that much.

On the other hand, she can make the legal process of the divorce itself quite costly. I have two recommendations:

1) Read “Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone With Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder,” by Bill Eddy, LCSW, JD and Randi Kreger

A spouse with BPD or NPD is the nightmare scenario, because they’re combative and uncooperative every step of the way. So the book “Splitting” really walks you through every step, giving you lots of detail on how to handle things when the spouse is uncooperative or downright hostile.

2) Also, during the separation leading up to the divorce your wife can run up a bunch of debts and you’ll be liable for them. So if you haven’t already done so, get a lawyer immediately to draw up some kind of temporary order determining how much support you owe her during the separation period. In a lot of states, this document is called a “pendente lite.” Once you have one of those in place, any debts that she runs up will be hers alone. In other words, this pre-divorce document will protect you from any of her financial shenanigans prior to the actual divorce. Here is a link on the subject of the separation:

http://www.nolo.com/legal-encyclopedia/separation-vs-divorce-30251.html

Good luck!

[ShinyParticipant 2307]

I remember your previous post, brother, good luck with this. Anyone who thinks they can just casually strip a man of half of what he’s worked for his whole life, just to take a f~~~ing cruise, deserves no mercy.

[JimBoLeaParticipant 1891]

MOVES WELL PLAYED BROTHER, I WISH YOU COULD RECORD THE BREAKING OFF BIT, I WOULD LOVE TO HEAR THE WHIMPER OF “OH I DIDN’T THINK OF THAT”

LILITH IS THE HEAD SUCCUBUS AND SHE LIVES ON THE DARK SIDE OF THE MOON

[PistolPeteParticipant 27143]

Be careful—once she figures out you have checkmated her financially and she isn’t going to get the BIG payoff she will whine, and cry and try to make up and get back together so she can burrow deeper into your money, and pull the same s~~~ down the road. KBTC (KICK BITCH TO CURB)

[Masculine_ManParticipant 2735]

You’re doing the right thing, keep calm. If she is working ensure she stays working. Did both of you buy a house together? If so, DO NOT LEAVE YOUR HOME. Depending on the state it can be seen as abandonment. If she leaves you prior to the separations papers it can also be viewed as the same. Depending on the state she can be on the hook for half the mortgage if her name is on it for the period she was gone. (Reference http://www.attorneys.com/divorce/what-constitutes-spousal-or-marital-abandonment) Are any kids involved?

If it costs you your peace of mind, then it is too expensive.

[TaxGuyParticipant]

PistolPete wrote:

Be careful—once she figures out you have checkmated her financially and she isn’t going to get the BIG payoff she will whine, and cry and try to make up and get back together so she can burrow deeper into your money, and pull the same s~~~ down the road. KBTC (KICK BITCH TO CURB)

Also, crazy bitches don’t lose, they deflect. You want to get the f~~~ away from her. The restraining order for your attack on her is right around the corner. Forget the fact that you didn’t touch her or even see her. You might want to file first on her just to beat her to the punch.

Order the good wine

[Anonymous 43]

file first, be the one with a complaint. second filer is defendant, the criminal.

[Anonymous 43]

lawyer. today.

[PistolPeteParticipant 27143]

TaxGuy wrote:

Also, crazy bitches don’t lose, they deflect. You want to get the f~~~ away from her. The restraining order for your attack on her is right around the corner. Forget the fact that you didn’t touch her or even see her. You might want to file first on her just to beat her to the punch.

Thank God Taxman brought this up! Remember as a cop you could lose your job. The Lautenberg Amendment is up for repeal but HAS NOT BEEN repealed yet. If she claims some kind of domestic violence and you are compelled to give up your firearms for LIFE there goes your job as a cop.

I saw this very thing happen to a cop in Asheville NC back in the 90s—he was getting a divorce, and trying to get custody of the kids and she retaliated with a bogus assault charge. He didn’t listen to me and plead out to a lesser charge (just to save money) but a charge that still attached Lautenberg. HE could no longer carry a weapon and the department refused to place him in an administrative position–he was fired for a failure to maintain a condition of employment.

SO PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE BE ALERT TO THIS!

[LastManStandingParticipant 638]

Lawyer and restraining order NOW!

[Mr. SpockParticipant 10917]

Agreed lawyer up IMMEDIATELY!

Feminism isn't about equality with men, it's about leverage over men.

[Tired-CopParticipant 116]

Luckily no kids, she does not and had not worked so she has contributed nothing. We also sold the house a few months ago, In anticipation of a move. She owned it before we met, so it his “hers”. Worse case scenario, I will not make a claim to part of the house, just to get her to be agreeable and sign peacefully. I was divorced form a 15 year marriage two years ago and stupidly got sucked into this. (it was before I discovered MGTOW) That divorce cost me everything but my gun collection and my personal items. First wife got the house, brand new paid for nice SUV, house contents. In return for her getting all that, she relinquished claim on my pension. She would have had a claim because she was with me all those years. I have nothing of worth that I brought into this second marriage. I will get out with my pension intact and the clothes on my back. But I have a good income, a secure pension down the road, and can get an apartment for free or half off in exchange for being a security/courtesy officer. I will live frugal and just do me. In a couple of years or three, hopefully have bankrolled 75,000 to 100,000. This has taught me that I have to be seriously vigilant as a female is a direct threat to my livelihood after I hang up the badge. I have already been seriously injured on the job, and it will cause problems form me later in life. I cant afford to not safeguard my income in my golden years. MGTOW is the only way.

Also, someone mentioned above the toll dealing with BPD female causes. Men, please hear me on this, do not mingle with women with this disorder. I am a big tough guy who did 10 years on SWAT and have gone through so many doors on warrants in drug houses and other s~~~ty places. This girl has caused me more psychological damage and emotional abuse that any of that. No time for all the stories, please I am begging you run from those people. They suck you in like you have never experienced, hook you, then unleash the torment.

Just don't care anymore,,,,

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