I stand up for friends wedding, and owe money because of his email – advise plz

[LightBringerParticipant 440]

It is kind of a complicated story but essentially there is a friend I have known a while, long friends but not close friends. He was a wedding on east coast, and asks me to stand up in it. I do, speaking about 1.5k to get out/hotel etc, I give him 200$ for gift, my sis flies out and does the same.

Before hand he asks for measurements for suits, I give them. At wedding he gives us suits to keep, I thinking this is a gift since he comes from huge money (both are lawyers). Anyway, I get an email ‘bill’ a few weeks later how I owe 550$ for the suit, but as his gift he covered the socks/pocket square.

I call him out huge on email about how he is cheap, unexpected etc. Never hear from him again till about 3 days ago when he says he sent an email with the link with the prices and it was ‘never a gift’.

Get tons of emails a day, and while I never saw the email, he might have sent it, does this change anythign? Because I was ready to write his ass off. I still feel its way wrong to get me on the hook by email. I am losing a lot of friends over this s~~~, not that they were good ones to begin with but still.

[Faust For ScienceParticipant 22562]

You did not agree to a suit. You only gave your measures. If he tries to take legal action sue his ass into oblivion.

[UntamedParticipant]

Where’s the damn suit now?? Just e-mail him and tell him that if he wants the suit you’ll be happy to give it back since you never expected to get a suit out of the whole deal and he’ll have to come pick it up himself.
That way he can’t sue you – it’ll be pointless since you are agreeing to give the suit back – and you’ll teach him a lesson as well: say what you mean otherwise shut up!

PS:
It doesn’t surprise me that this mess was started by a lawyer.
Never trust a lawyer, never ever ever trust one word out of a lawyer’s mouth! They are one notch down from C~~~s and many of them are pure unbridled Menginas!

Don't let them Blame, Shame or Tame you!
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[Mister Man SmithParticipant 285]

I really don’t think he can charge you for this, check your spam folder just to make sure.

Who is sending you daily emails with the bills? The tailor? I’d just reply with:
“There must be some mistake, I’ve never bought a suit from you.”

If it’s your “friend” with the daily mails, and there isn’t an email from him before hand telling you you’d have to pay for the suit, tell him to drop the s~~~ and you never agreed on buying the thing.

If he did send you then I think it’s a matter or word, so really triple check if he sent you or not, if not, the hell with it.

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[Banks Control The WorldParticipant 242]

I myself have no desire to get married anymore. If I did get married though, I wouldn’t expect people to pay for their own stuff required at MY wedding unless we clearly talked about it and it was agreed to. If I myself don’t want to get married and spend money on it, why would I want to spend money on someone else getting married?

Sadly, having been a simp and gone through the motions of relationships, I recall a similar scenario in Bridesmaids that I watched with a girlfriend in the past. The bride expected all of the maids to pay for their dresses but the one girl couldn’t afford it so a friend offered to pay for it. Then the mullato chick took a crap in the street while Doctor Eggman’s twin sister Melissa McCarthy stole a bunch of puppies. This really had no relevance to the story other than Paul Fiege is a cuck and I’ll never see the new Ghostbusters.

Ultimately, I’d say do what you feel is fair. Sucks losing a friend over money but seeing as your friend got married and is under the influence of his now bride, it may best to let him go. If he wants to return in the future after realizing he’s made a horrible mistake, be a bud then. Truth be told, if he’s now married and you guys don’t live in the same area, how likely are you going to continue getting together in the future? Hanging with him once a year when he can get away from his wife? Not like you’re going to be hanging out on the weekends with your friend and his wife.

[Anonymous 42]

Box up the suite folded nice and neatly with a polite thank-you card for handling the suite rentals. Send it return receipt signed.

Then wash your hands clean of those sleazy muthaf~~~ers!

[LightBringerParticipant 440]

Yeah he lives on other side of country so other than a few calls a month there wouldn’t be anything else. I am thinking about saying that with my 200 and my sis’s 200 that is 400, and I will give him the 150 and then be done with it.

[UntamedParticipant]

LightBringer wrote:

Yeah he lives on other side of country so other than a few calls a month there wouldn’t be anything else. I am thinking about saying that with my 200 and my sis’s 200 that is 400, and I will give him the 150 and then be done with it.

So you would let your sister be ripped off along with you without so much of a fight?
Say… I got a seafront property in Arizona to sell ya 🙂

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[TaxGuyParticipant]

So, when he asked you to be in the wedding, he expected you to buy a $500 suit so that all the guys would match. But he didn’t make that crystal clear?!? What a dick. You owe him nothing.

A little side story. When my first college friend got married, he paid for half the tux rental for all of us in the wedding. We told him not to, but he did it anyway.

Second guy is getting married. He asks me to be in the wedding. I say of course. Then they (she’s there when he asks) tell me that they can’t do what the first guy did. I tell them no big deal, he shouldn’t have done it anyway, and all’s good. Then the lovely, soon to be bride pipes up with “Yeah, we have better things to spend our money on.”

What a bitch. I couldn’t talk because I didn’t know if I should be more p~~~ed at her for saying it or at him for telling her to shut the f~~~ up. I would have apologizing for days for her bitchy f~~~ing comment. Now, the truth is, they did have other things to spend their money on for the wedding, but to ask you to pay money to be in the wedding and then tell you that aren’t important sounds pretty s~~~ty when said out loud to your face.

This guy owes you an apology.

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[LightBringerParticipant 440]

Essentially to me the root is this: I get 50 emails a day and when I am working I can be gone for over a week straight, when I come back I am not looking through 100s of emails, I scan titles.

My ‘friends’ argument is that he ‘told me through email’ about the cost. To me, if I am getting something for my friends that is even over 100$ I am going to be damn sure they are on board. I am trying to not be personally biased.

[AnthonyParticipant 2281]

Anonymous wrote:

Box up the suite folded nice and neatly with a polite thank-you card for handling the suite rentals. Send it return receipt signed.

Then wash your hands clean of those sleazy muthaf~~~ers!

I’d do exactly this if I were in a similar situation. F~~~ people who try to screw others over like this. Not only that, I wouldn’t of participated in a wedding to begin with!

Asking MGTOWs to participate in a wedding is like asking feminists to stop bitching about men! It just can’t be done!

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[EekParticipant 1162]

A couple of years back I went and shelled out the money to stand up at some weddings for friends and family.

If they asked me to do it again right now, I would decline even going, much less paying to get in a suit and stand around like an idiot on some post wall princess’ special day.

[experiencedParticipant]

LightBringer wrote:

Essentially to me the root is this: I get 50 emails a day and when I am working I can be gone for over a week straight, when I come back I am not looking through 100s of emails, I scan titles.

My ‘friends’ argument is that he ‘told me through email’ about the cost. To me, if I am getting something for my friends that is even over 100$ I am going to be damn sure they are on board. I am trying to not be personally biased.

He did not address cost with the same clarity as measurements.
He’s like a little kid, mumbling something at the end of a sentence.
It’s was HIS responsibility to address cost as loudly as measurements in his email.
Send him back the suit and forget about it all.
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[HitmanParticipant]

Box it up and send it back.
Return receipt requested.
Wash hands.

[Prefer Peace to PieceParticipant 10809]

So he expects you to pay for a hotel and travel expenses. He expects a gift. And he expects you to purchase a 500.00 suit to attend his wedding?
Wow. You could go broke with friends like that.

It’s partly a communication issue. Attorneys are supposed to be good communicators. Clearly, you did not understand that he expected you to purchase a suit. Otherwise you would have declined the invitation.

I would communicate how much you spent on this affair including the hotel, the travel arrangements and the 200.00 gift.
I would also point out that you either didn’t get the email, or deleted the email, but in any event were not made to understand about the suit.

I would offer congratulations on his marriage and offer him all the best. I would mention that you can’t afford a 500.00 suit. I would return the suit.

As long as you didn’t sign a contract, you should be fine. Being as he is an attorney, he could still attempt legal action, but I doubt it.
Afterwards wash your hands and walk away. Thanks

[RhinoParticipant 3477]

Hope you learned from this experience to never go to any wedding again. You better believe that his new wife put him up to asking for all that money from you guys. Now that he is married you will be expecting to get more bulls~~~ like this from him. Everyone here gave you good advice about the suit situation so I would like to say this. If he is a good friend that you can count on keep him around, but his blue pill ways and with him now having a wife will change him for the worse. Best thing to do is cut him loose and when he gets divorced and apologizes for his behavior all those years later it would be up to you to decide if you want to continue a friendship with him. If it was me though I wouldn’t put up with this s~~~ one chance per life per person. Sometimes a stranger could become your best friend.

[RusskyParticipant 13503]

1 attorney is equivalent to 3 used car salesmen as far as bulls~~~ goes

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[MGTOWmonkey aka No More Fucks To GiveParticipant 6635]

Never go to weddings! Its for women and gays.

Never lose sight of what brought you here.

[Anonymous 42]

Hitman wrote:

Box it up and send it back.
Return receipt requested.
Wash hands.

F~~~ it, toss in a dead fish!

[sidecarParticipant 35844]

According to wedding etiquette you are actually supposed to pay for your suit. But considering what a scam marriage is in the first place, f~~~ that.

What do you need a wedding suit for? This is why rentals are a thing. Do they really think you’re going to keep it forever as a cherished momento of their wedding? How self centered and delusional is that?

I strongly suspect this is all coming from his new wife.

Just send the f~~~ing thing back to him with a message:

This suit deal sounds like the sort of bulls~~~ brides get up to with their bridesmaid’s dresses. Gentlemen should know better.

That ought to shut him up. Expect to hear from him during the divorce.

Rhino wrote:

Hope you learned from this experience to never go to any wedding again.

Nah. It depends on whether there’s an open bar or not.

Just never agree to do anything at a wedding, whether it be usher, driver, photographer, or groom. When anyone asks, just tell them you’re only there for the open bar.

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