I need some real advice

[xgreenlanternoxParticipant 253]

Hey all,

I need some real advice. I am not sure what to do to be honest and i’m sure you all have been down this road before. We all know that anything involving a woman is toxic and bad for your health (besides simply getting laid and moving on of course), but I have a problem. I am able to blow off and ignore pretty much all women………. except one.

There’s thick chick that lives a few apartments down from me and for some reason I just have this damn soft spot for her that I can’t seem to get rid of. We started hanging out like 6 months ago and became good friends quick. I really liked the person she was, she was very physically attractive and always very nice and complimenting to me. She also never expected me to pay for anything and actually tried to pay for me on multiple occasions when we would go out/hang out and would provide the food at the end of a night of drinking too (one night alone, she spent over $100 out of her own pocket on us).  I spent the night at her house many times and by my choice didn’t sleep with her because A) My overwhelming disgust for women was more of a turn off than her a turn on and B) I didn’t want to risk growing any stronger feelings for her because thats simply asking for trouble.

I thought I was out of the woods because I kept my distance for a few weeks, but I ran into her again last night and I quickly realized I still have that damn soft spot… What do I do and how do I make this go away?

[uchibenkeiParticipant 7965]

i don’t see anything wrong with being in a relationship if you really like this woman.  just don’t get married.  if you live together, get a cohabitation agreement.  do what makes you feel happy but protect yourself from the worst happening.

I bathe in the tears of single moms.

[MOWsince95Participant 1446]

I don’t get being disgusted by women at all – if you find a chick hot, then she is hot.  The only advice regarding a soft spot is to keep your senses about yourself at all times, always be safe and always cover your ass.  Every one of us has been in the situation where we think this is the one, and if you just wait it out a little you’ll see how wrong that impression will prove to be.  Even if she is cool today, tomorrow she will change, guaranteed.  Have seen it happen time after time … patience is an educational virtue.

Personally, I’ve learned to save the soft spot for cats, dogs, and the deer, raccoons, birds, foxes and other wildlife that run around my property.  None of them will drag me thru the mud.  Thick chick will get you muddy, remember that. It’s just a matter of time, so direct that soft spot at something that deserves it and not at some woman that will abuse it.

If you are MGTOW when you are young you have no heart.
If you're not MGTOW when you are 20 you have no brain.

[Cipher HighwindParticipant 1144]

Lets examine what can go wrong if things go sour and the chick goes crazy, as is often the case:

1) crazy -> you
2) crazy -> landlord -> you
3) crazy -> legal system -> you

1 – Physical proximity in the same building cannot be to your advantage. Shared laundry facilities would be a possible vector for a bleach attack upon your clothes.

2 – This is a special case of (3), but can be particularly troublesome as it could result in eviction and a refusal to provide favourable references to the next landlord. Lease agreements have all kinds of “catch-all” provisions in there, and the courts are known to favour landlords.

3 – Restraining orders are handed out like candy. If one is granted, you would have to move from the building. One could be held liable for rent for what is left of the lease in addition to any utilities.

Conclusion – I would advise against anything more serious than a peck on the cheek. Blowing one’s load a few times is not worth playing with fire.

[experiencedParticipant]

You know speaking of myself, there’s a shortage of old talent at this site, so I say go for it! She’s a NAWALT and you should just see how things unfold. The sex’ll be unbelievable, you’ll have two to four kids, life will truly be great. It’s just like meth or coke, you can do just a little, no harm no foul. A quick pick me up, think of all that energy. You have enough self control to succeed where a gazillion bazillion [yes gazillion bazillion]have failed at finding the nawalt and everything will work out wonderfully.   Flash forward and we’ve got a new ‘old writer’ for this site.

Ignore all my BS above, study this site, pretend a friend is coming to you for advice…….what would you tell him?  that is what you need to tell yourself. it’s not easy, but you’ll get better results than asking someone else. If you want a job done right…….you’ve got to do it yourself. If I ‘give’ you the answer it will carry no weight.       actually, I wrote out the answer and then deleted it.           Best wishes.  In any tough decision, keep gathering information and data and sooner or later the answer will come through loudly and clearly to you.

"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

[BuddhmonParticipant 5]

If you like her keep doing what your doing,  she’s attracted to you because of it! Just remember what you have learned, and protect yourself with the knowledge you’ve gained. Also remember you have support!

 

[bigboy83Participant 11312]

During my experiences, women are “ok” for like the first 3 months maybe 6 but that’s a stretch. But once they have their “Girls Night out,” they go against you, it’s like their friends influence them. Because you know, women are envy, and jealous of their peers (other women).

The point is, the only way it will go,is down, from here.

P.s. your little crush, probably already knows you have a thing for her, and ready to use you, for whatever her heart desires.

Shit Tested, Cunt Approved.

[TheReaperParticipant 27]

Yeah I’ve got to go with leaving it alone to be honest, if it was a girl that you see outside your building then maybe hit it and leave but in the same apartment block? nah, not a good idea for reasons stated by other posters.

 

after a couple of months it will be “its silly we have 2 apartments and only spend time in one, why not let yours go and move in here” then your f~~~ed, theres no unicorn, no perfect matches anymore, only timebombs with varied fuses

[xgreenlanternoxParticipant 253]

Thanks everyone for the advice. I took a long walk and did some thinking (bonus exercise too, cant go wrong) and I realized that i’d be out of my mind getting involved with this person. I highly doubt she is trustworthy just from things I didn’t really think of beforehand (none of them are regardless, but in this case I think it’s already very evident) and therefore I will be going with nay.

And I am sure she probably already does know about my interest and will be ready and willing to use that to her advantage anytime I let it happen because again, thats just how they all are.

Appreciate your help!

[Puffin StuffParticipant 24979]

I say go for it. And if you do, go all the way and give her the ride of her life.

I have never had any real trouble, I always have one foot out the door. There is always an exit strategy. Do not, repeat, do not ignore the red flags…lol.

#icethemout; Remember Thomas Ball. He died for your children.

[BrainPilotParticipant 7640]

I’m a little late to the discussion here. ‘Sounds like you made your decision already. All I can add is that if she puts you on the spot, and requires you to reject her to her face, be VERY careful here. Women are not accustomed to hearing the word ‘no’ from a man, and the reaction to it can be anything from quiet acceptance and withdrawal to aggressively bats~~~ crazy in ways that can land a man on the 6 o’clock news…

Look, it's not my fault that tornado dropped a house on your sister. Now get back on your broom and get your ass out of here... and take your monkeys with you

[PlatoParticipant 48]

DITTTO

[BeerParticipant 11832]

I’d only go for it if you are in a position where you could move to a different apartment in a few months if need be.  You don’t want to be getting stuck living a few doors up from an ex.  Be smart about it if you do…from my experience with women, the more amazing one appears to be at the start, the more of a f~~~ed up c~~~ bitch they ultimately end up being.  Sometimes they’ve just played the game enough times to be good at it, just make sure you are 1 step ahead, don’t get duped into doing anything stupid, and make sure you have an exit strategy if the need arises.

[Puffin StuffParticipant 24979]

Yeah, if you go for it you must be prepared to move out quickly if things go south and she decides she wants you to move. One false accusation by her and your toast and she knows it.

#icethemout; Remember Thomas Ball. He died for your children.

[xgreenlanternoxParticipant 253]

Nah, im just not gonna do it. It’s a lot easier and lot less stressful. She is extremely pretty and seems to be a sweetheart yes….. NOW…. but I already know what’s to come so there really isn’t any point. It’s a lose lose. F~~~ing her and then snubbing her equals revenge and she has plenty of opportunity to do it since I live so close and can’t just up and leave. If I date her I will ultimately be the asshole anyway as all guys are with women which equals revenge and she has plenty of opportunity to do it since I live so close and can’t just up and leave. The situation itself is a giant red flag. If I get that overly hard up for ass, there is a very easy way of getting it without any effort and we all know this.

[Puffin StuffParticipant 24979]

That’s why I only ever went on one date in 25 years working the same job. That one date, the second I saw this beautiful 26 year old latina at my door…to my home…I was like, I’m not gonna touch this. I needed my job.

She ended up sleeping with her head on my lap making for a very uncomfortable evening, but fun never the less. A sweet young thing anywhere near my lap is fine with me.

At work the next day all the hens were clucking about how things went. What got around to me was that I was “worried about what people would think”. I’ll go along with that. When thought can be a crime that can get you fired.

#icethemout; Remember Thomas Ball. He died for your children.

[xgreenlanternoxParticipant 253]

Puffin Stuff wrote:

That’s why I only ever went on one date in 25 years working the same job. That one date, the second I saw this beautiful 26 year old latina at my door…to my home…I was like, I’m not gonna touch this. I needed my job. She ended up sleeping with her head on my lap making for a very uncomfortable evening, but fun never the less. A sweet young thing anywhere near my lap is fine with me. At work the next day all the hens were clucking about how things went. What got around to me was that I was “worried about what people would think”. I’ll go along with that. When thought can be a crime that can get you fired.

Yep, I know that feeling all too well. Not too long ago, me and this chick I am talking about went out and had some drinks and wound back up at her place. This was one of about 6 times I spent the night at her house. This time I legitimately honestly was SMASHED and passed out. Interestingly enough though in the morning after we were sober she pulled me close to her and one thing led to another and next I know I’m basically fingering her, grabbing her t~~~, kissing her neck and she starts going for my pants. For that brief moment, I was able to put aside a lot of my resentment towards women and was actually very turned on, but then the brain kicked in and I immediately began backing off for the exact reasons mentioned in my last post. I did think it was kinda cool that this all happened when we were sober because that was definitely confirmation it wasn’t alcohol and she actually had something for me (not to mention that there was really no reason for me to stay at her place other than due to her interest because I lived 4 doors down so she wasn’t being the “good samaritan” and letting me sleep it off or something LOL), but like you said, sometimes it is just NOT worth it and this easily one of those cases. I may have been a little cloudy before because I was sort of blind sided by that soft spot popping back up (I won’t lie, she was looking smokin’ hot when I saw her last night), but as I did that night in a much more intense situation, I CLEARLY remember all the reasons why anything with her is nothing but a bad idea.

[BDParticipant 1146]

MOWsince95 wrote:

I don’t get being disgusted by women at all – if you find a chick hot, then she is hot. The only advice regarding a soft spot is to keep your senses about yourself at all times, always be safe and always cover your ass. Every one of us has been in the situation where we think this is the one, and if you just wait it out a little you’ll see how wrong that impression will prove to be. Even if she is cool today, tomorrow she will change, guaranteed. Have seen it happen time after time … patience is an educational virtue. Personally, I’ve learned to save the soft spot for cats, dogs, and the deer, raccoons, birds, foxes and other wildlife that run around my property. None of them will drag me thru the mud. Thick chick will get you muddy, remember that. It’s just a matter of time, so direct that soft spot at something that deserves it and not at some woman that will abuse it.

MOWsince95 wrote:

Every one of us has been in the situation where we think this is the one, and if you just wait it out a little you’ll see how wrong that impression will prove to be.  Even if she is cool today, tomorrow she will change, guaranteed.  Have seen it happen time after time … patience is an educational virtue. Personally, I’ve learned to save the soft spot for cats, dogs, and the deer, raccoons, birds, foxes and other wildlife that run around my property.  None of them will drag me thru the mud.  Thick chick will get you muddy, remember that. It’s just a matter of time, so direct that soft spot at something that deserves it and not at some woman that will abuse it.

 

MOWsince95, this is great advice!

xGreenlantern, if I were you, I would casually booty call and enjoy this girl, but try to keep your distance, keep yourself busy so that you don’t always have to see her. Be very mature about this and never ask her any questions about what she does, or who she spends her time with when you are not around. Do not explain yourself either, be vague and mysterious. Nice guys finish last. Sex is not a big deal unless you make it a big deal, it can just be casual fun when approached properly. If you just want some action, do not give her any indications of jealousy or ownership because she is just a place to hide the weenie. They usually try to shackle you down while using this tactic, but resist, she will still F you when you want unless she has a self esteem epiphany or finds some sucker, either way you win. And when the sucker is gone she will still F you if you treated it properly and for what it was, just fun! Women are always nice at the beginning. My only thought is that you have dragged this on for 6 months, most chicks that I have dragged on for that long usually find some excuse to hate me because I didn’t F them. And don’t kid yourself, if you haven’t been F’ing her, someone else probably has been! Just some thoughts, as with anything there are exceptions to the rule, just be cautious about giving any benefit of the doubt to woman. Always watch for red flags!

Because in order to be able to think, you have to risk being offensive.

[TheBardParticipant 974]

I know you said you made up your mind but if you like her then I say at least go for it to see what happens. If she wants you to move in just say you like your independence and aren’t ready yet.

[RoyDalParticipant]

You have been shot by Cupid’s arrows. It is a disease… Cure it or be ruined by it.

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