I came across my friend's girlfriend on Tinder…

[Sam FisherParticipant 206]

Need I say more?

I think it’s time to have a beer with him. I’ve known both of them for several years… what a shame.

[Soul ManParticipant 1856]

Get screen shots, create a new anonymous e-mail that sounds girly on yahoo, google, etc.  Email the link and screenshots to him anonymously.  Play dumb if ever asked about it.  Trust me….

HISTORY...learn from it, memorize it, DON'T repeat it...

[LiveFreeParticipant 172]

Wow, that’s f~~~ed up! I’ll bet it’s his fault because he wasn’t paying her much attention. J/K. But she might pull that. A real shame indeed.

For every man truly going his own way, some woman, somewhere, has to pay her own way through life.

[RoyDalParticipant]

This article seems to fit.

Betas In Waiting http://therationalmale.com/2015/03/24/betas-in-waiting/

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[Sam FisherParticipant 206]

Yeah, I’m thinking hard about this. There are possibilities that she could have fallen victim to the whole bot account stealing your details thing, but there are other factors and ideas that come to mind. Wobbly situation.

Has anyone here ever had to confront their friend about possible infidelity? Did they lose them in the process? This is f~~~ing hard, man… there’s an obvious thing that I want to do, but at the same time, there’s a lot to lose. I’ve know this guy for 10+ years.

[LiveFreeParticipant 172]

The former is highly unlikely. If your friend is too much into her and is the forgiving type, you’d be out because it would be awkward for him to have you around. You just cannot predict how a person would react under different circumstances. I’ve never been in that situation but if I were you, I’d tell him even if it were to cost me his friendship. He’s gotta know.

For every man truly going his own way, some woman, somewhere, has to pay her own way through life.

[Solid SnakeParticipant 255]

If its who I think it is then tell your friend.

Soul Man is on the money, tell your friend, even if you do it anonymously.

He deserves to know, if he did that to her it would be unfair and the end of the world she would be complaining.

[RusskyParticipant 13503]

To find out sooner is always better than later in such cases. Think of this as saving years of your friend’s life

proud carrier of the 'why?' chromosome

[BurgundyParticipant 1525]

Ask him, when is the last time he got checked for STDs. And he will probably figure it out.

[experiencedParticipant]

Do it.  Show him directly on the app,  “I’m truly sorry Joe, but get a load of this.”   Or indirectly, so if it’s photo theft, you’re not public enemy #1.

If every guy did this immediately, it would do a world of good.

If he’s a true friend he’ll thank you for it.

"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

[Governor Megachris%Participant 3584]

I agree with revealing it, even if it’s anonymously.  I would think if he’s really a true friend, he wouldn’t even mind it face-to-face.  I would prefer to know these kinds of things are happening before I would be involved any further with a woman like that.  I doubt she’s the victim of details being stolen (that’s such a rare occasion, and most fake pages on Tinder and other sites like it use pictures of little-known Internet models and such from what I’ve noticed).  He has a right to know, that’s for sure.  The sooner he’s told, the less of a heartbreak it will be to him.  It seems to be the only logical solution to me at least.

[StargazerParticipant 12505]

More agreement here. You do NOT want to be the guy who outs your buddy’s cheating girlfriend to him. He will take it out on you, one way or another. Find a crafty way to make sure he discovers it but never admit that you knew anything about it. Seeing him get the picture and move on from her is all the reward you need.

[BrainPilotParticipant 7640]

Find a way to tell your friend.  This is not negotiable.

She is either planning to cheat on him behind his back, or looking for the next branch.  So she is either going to screw around on him while continuing to date him, or she is going to dump him as soon as she finds it.  Your friend is going to be hurt.  The longer it takes him to find out, the worse it will hurt, (the more time you allow her to hurt him).  Stay quiet long enough and this bitch may end up pregnant and naming him as the father.

You think this is awkward now?  Imagine being invited to his wedding with this bitch in a year or two.  Imagine him inviting you to a birthday party in a few years for a kid that doesn’t quite resemble him as much as it should… are you going to show up and act as if you didn’t know?  If you do, then you are allowing her to manipulate you as much as she is manipulating your friend.  But at least your friend has the excuse of being unaware.  What’s your excuse going to be?

I have a rule: When someone shows me who they are, I believe them…THE FIRST TIME!

This bitch has shown you who she is.  Are you gonna show your friend, or let her degrade him even more than she already has?  The advice of soul man above to find a way to do it anonymously is likely good advice.  That will depend a lot on the relationship you have with him.  But anonymously or not, you stand by and let this bitch carry out her plan for whatever it is that she intends to do to your friend, how can you call yourself his friend after that?

I have several friends that I’ve had for decades.  They are all married, but my friendship with these guys predates their marriages.  If I ever caught any of their wives on tinder, I would not only tell him/show him, I’d do it right in front of her, while they were together in the same room… I would not be polite about it.

Look, it's not my fault that tornado dropped a house on your sister. Now get back on your broom and get your ass out of here... and take your monkeys with you

[VoidraitheParticipant 477]

I just had a friend that has a girl “monkey branch” off of him to his more successful now former friend. During which she claimed she had been raped by my friend, he bought the claim and they are not friends anymore. Women will destroy friendships just to suit them and we all know that. If you want to keep being friends I think Soul Man is right the anon route is best.

[sidecarParticipant 35861]

Women only do this s~~~ because they get away with it.  DO NOT LET HER GET AWAY WITH IT.  Whether to his face, anonymously, or whatever, you MUST tell your friend about her.  Believe me, her monkey branching is one of the BEST possible outcomes for this.  If he remains in the dark he could very well end up paying child support for the next two decades on some other man’s seed.

Whether or not he remains a friend to you is yet to be seen, but if you really are a friend to him you MUST let him know.  It doesn’t matter how he finds out so long as he does find out.

[Sam FisherParticipant 206]

I’ll think over the best ways of showing it to him. Thanks for all the great advice, e-mail won’t be an option though, as I don’t have his e-mail. You can only come across someone on Tinder once. As soon as you minimize the app, it goes back to a startup screen and the person disappears. My other friend has screenshots, so I’ll have to get them off of him. The chances of coming across a specific person again, especially if they didn’t match up with you or gave you a negative rating is next to nil. What doesn’t make sense to me is that Tinder is an app based on people who are within your area. If someone isn’t single and using this app, wouldn’t they be concerned about people who know them, or know OF their relationship?

Anyway, I think a beer (my shout) and a logical explanation of all of this to my friend is the only way. I won’t sugarcoat it, but I’m not gonna cut into him either. I’ll find the best way to tell him.

[Solid SnakeParticipant 255]

Shout him lunch and beers at pub and get to it

[Deus Ex MachinaParticipant 1068]

Just be straight up and tell Him. If you two are best Buds, then there shouldn’t be a problem whatsoever. Bros before Hoes, and if he’s confronted with evidence then everything should be fine.

 

Good luck.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

"If You have the Tooth of a Whale, You must have the Whale's Jaw to hold it". (i.e. One Must have the right qualifications for leadership) -Hawaiian Proverb

[BiG_WeaselParticipant 116]

Hell, I’ll do you one better- Message the GF on the app and see what HER reaction is.  Make her out herself to him, let her know she’s been busted.  That way, you can stay completely out of it.  Just let her know that you know, and the thought that she’ll be found out will likely have her run to him to confess and/or get out of the relations~~~ with him.

[Robert HallamParticipant 696]

I’M SORRY I hate that last suggestion. If the roles were reversed and a girlfriend saw this guy’s dating profile up she would be telling the girlfriend in less than a minute. Women talk and they talk a lot. This is one strategy women use to keep their men in line. The more eyes the better. They all report back.

So my advice is tell the guy right away. Even offer to help expose the bitch for the maximum effect.

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