How was your mother?

[14_Peter_88Participant 129]

My mother is/was cold, self-centered, manipulative, shamed me when i didn’t make her happy and stopped me from doing boy stuff, due to “danger”, or id “hurt myself”

The more i look back, the more sick it makes me, I know she never loved me, and i used to look for explanations, like diagnoses such as Narcissistic personality disorder, or her being bi-polar. But the truth is she’s just a woman, thats the only explanation i’ll ever really have.

So how were your mothers? Like mine? Or did they nurture and care for you?

[foolsgoldParticipant 5649]

My mother was June Clever. Enough said.

[Silpheed1975Participant 355]

My mother was/is respectful. She would be ashamed to see the full scope of what feminists have become. She is the nicest, most caring woman I have ever known. Modern day women would have a lot to learn from her on how to be respectful and as my mother once put it: “PMS is not an excuse to act like a bitch.” lol

Silpheed's Mom Quote: "Having PMS is no excuse to be a bitch.."

[14_Peter_88Participant 129]

foolsgold wrote:

My mother was June Clever. Enough said.

sorry, i don’t know what you mean by that

[megatoad69Participant 449]

My Mom was a stay at home Mom.
She always wanted a fur coat. (My Dad never did get her one, wait, yes he did I think, spent a lot of time in the closet)
She criticised low wage earners.
My parents argued a lot, I learned then to ignore a crying woman (they are big f~~~ing babies)
Divorced my Dad when I was in my 20’s, he bought the house, he moved out (4 boys) then she kicked me out (she probably wasn’t getting child support for me)
She seemed cold and heartless at times, like when we came home and realised she gave away our budgies without even consulting us kids.
Then when she started dating she only dated the money.
My Mother is very intelligent, anything she does she does it well and better, she was a top Avon earner, she made knitting needle holders and sold a load of them, she was a correctional officer for a stint, she drove a school bus.

All in all she was a good mother, but her bad points were nasty.

And there is much more I can’t recall.

But even to this day, the stigma over how she treated my Dad still lingers like a fart in a closet. And that was 25 years ago.

You can't reason with unreasonable, there; women, figured out, there is nothing to reason.

[megatoad69Participant 449]

14_Peter_88 wrote:

foolsgold wrote:

My mother was June Clever. Enough said.

sorry, i don’t know what you mean by that

The Beav’s Mom.

You can't reason with unreasonable, there; women, figured out, there is nothing to reason.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

This question pops up frequently. I’m not sure I understand why.
Why is it always about the MOTHER – “how was your mother?”.

The detractors ask it too. “Do you hate your mother?” to which I reply “WHAT? I bought her a new computer for Christmas last year is that what you mean?”. They never know what to say to that. It plays no role, really. I think it’s totally irrelevant.

She’s my mother…. like the sky is blue. It’s not really an opinion. She’s a woman so she’s manipulative (and very often doesn’t even realize it). She tries to pull s~~~ but she’s also been lovely and generous. Did the BEST she could. She wasn’t really supportive of ANY decision I made and I made many that she didn’t agree with… but she also agrees and if I told her I was marrying Kim Kardashian she would f~~~ing kill me. Mind you, if I told her I bought a motorcycle she would kill me too. She’s my mother. That’s all there is to it, really. Don’t know what else to tell you.

If you’re after a criticism, I would say it would be a tendency to be a control freak and it drives her crazy when it doesn’t work.
But that’s like criticizing a kangaroo for hopping.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[Anonymous 11]

My Mother was an awesome woman. She’d be 91 if she were still with us today. Unfortunately, she never lied, cheated, manipulated too badly, abused substances, stole, got divorced, raged, tattooed, pierced, incurred debt, practiced materialism, and lived in reality. She would get overly emotional on occasion as she was a woman.

She set a very poor example for me in how to deal with modern women. In her later years, she would tell me she fully understood why I never married.

[FunInTheSunParticipant 8283]

I couldn’t ask for a better mother. She took care of me and was very responsible. I didn’t have to do much to please her. One thing I admire about my parents: they never cursed me out—even when I behaved badly enough to deserve it. Basically, as long as I did my homework, house chores, and practiced the piano (ugh!), I was good to go.

"I saw that there comes a point, in the defeat of any man of virtue, when his own consent is needed for evil to win-and that no manner of injury done to him by others can succeed if he chooses to withhold his consent. I saw that I could put an end to your outrages by pronouncing a single word in my mind. I pronounced it. The word was ‘No.’" (Atlas Shrugged)

[MIKETOWParticipant 757]

My mother is a very kind, caring person.

[TheOneWhoBeholdsWisdomParticipant 58]

My Mother is an amazing women and surprisingly the only women I could put up with…

[Mango IngawayParticipant 2264]

I’m lucky enough to have a mother who is caring, of course she’s a bit annoying sometimes, but overall she’s a good person. My only gripe with her is that she tends to be a bit over-protective, which made me have a hard time when I got into uni and had to do everything on my own. Fortunately I’ve grown up now, and I’m fine.
I can’t say I don’t feel somewhat lucky when I see the turdpiles some of my relative’s mothers are.

It is a common failing of childhood to think that if one makes a hero out of a demon the demon will be satisfied.

[FunInTheSunParticipant 8283]

Here’s June Cleaver:

Notice how she kept herself & her house neat & clean.

"I saw that there comes a point, in the defeat of any man of virtue, when his own consent is needed for evil to win-and that no manner of injury done to him by others can succeed if he chooses to withhold his consent. I saw that I could put an end to your outrages by pronouncing a single word in my mind. I pronounced it. The word was ‘No.’" (Atlas Shrugged)

[MemberParticipant 323]

14_Peter_88 wrote:

My mother is/was cold, self-centered, manipulative, shamed me when i didn’t make her happy and stopped me from doing boy stuff, due to “danger”, or id “hurt myself”The more i look back, the more sick it makes me, I know she never loved me, and i used to look for explanations, like diagnoses such as Narcissistic personality disorder, or her being bi-polar. But the truth is she’s just a woman, thats the only explanation i’ll ever really have.So how were your mothers? Like mine? Or did they nurture and care for you?

If you ever have kids just remember what a bad example she was and try to do the opposite. Sometimes you just can’t figure out what drives a human being (like your mom). A wise person told me once that some people think its their job to make other people miserable……even their own children and husband.

[Cipher HighwindParticipant 1144]

Issues surrounding one’s mother are often used as a fallacy of many questions: if one declines to answer, one is put on the defensive and the opponent speculates as to one’s reticence. If one replies, even with something innocuous, they will put one on the defensive by attempting Freudian analysis.

My strategy is to call out the issue of one’s mother as entirely irrelevant to the subject at hand e.g.
“Irrelevant. My position on this matter is informed by the (information I have already given you / the following data … ).”

However, the best offence is a good defence. It is best not to consort with hostile elements that ask questions about one’s private business, one’s mother included. One’s decision to participate in a conversation is ultimately one’s own.

[Aroused By Her AnguishParticipant 343]

My mother was emotionally and physically abusive. I’m so glad I’m a grown man and don’t have to listen to her anymore. The worst part about this is that she thinks she was the greatest mother of all time.

[ScandinavianParticipant 590]

My mother? Now that is material for a long reply, but I will try to make it short.

My mother is a BSc in Social psychology and an avid anti-feminist. I love her, not because she is the woman that gave birth to me, but because she always tried her best to give me a good life. However; I do for a fact know she loves my brother more than me. She would never admit that, she would rather be tortured to death, but I can see it. This and the fact that me and my mother love eachother in small portions are parts of the reason I went with my father when my mother initiated a divorce. My brother and I were adults at the time but still living at home for different reasons. My father has several years later admitted he was surprised any of his sons followed him. I think this is sad, as he is a fun guy with healthy ideas and a mindset too rare these days. He has recently found a new woman which he has married and I do most definitely love my new stepmother! She is a really great woman and has the biggest heart I have ever seen in a female. Also noteworthy is that she married down financially. She had pretty much nothing to gain marrying my father, so I would have to say it is love, in some form. My father is also an outdoorsman much like me, and she seems happy that he is happy when he goes fishing or hunting not being home for a week or three.

Oh; getting caught up in my own story I almost forgot; my mother is, as I said, an avid anti-feminist, a driver of the bandwagon I would say. When I told her about MGTOW and the analysis of feminism and traditionalism being one and the same she went quiet. Dead quiet, for almost a minute, before she replied; “Yes, that may certainly be absolutely correct!”

[14_Peter_88Participant 129]

Aroused By Her Anguish wrote:

My mother was emotionally and physically abusive. I’m so glad I’m a grown man and don’t have to listen to her anymore. The worst part about this is that she thinks she was the greatest mother of all time.

Yeah sounds a lot like mine, but im still living with her, can’t move out yet.
My dads the same, i have more contempt for him though, i don’t know why, i felt like he could have done more, but he didn’t, whereas my mother is just f~~~ed up and thats that

[14_Peter_88Participant 129]

Scandinavian wrote:

My mother? Now that is material for a long reply, but I will try to make it short.
My mother is a BSc in Social psychology and an avid anti-feminist. I love her, not because she is the woman that gave birth to me, but because she always tried her best to give me a good life. However; I do for a fact know she loves my brother more than me. She would never admit that, she would rather be tortured to death, but I can see it. This and the fact that me and my mother love eachother in small portions are parts of the reason I went with my father when my mother initiated a divorce. My brother and I were adults at the time but still living at home for different reasons. My father has several years later admitted he was surprised any of his sons followed him. I think this is sad, as he is a fun guy with healthy ideas and a mindset too rare these days. He has recently found a new woman which he has married and I do most definitely love my new stepmother! She is a really great woman and has the biggest heart I have ever seen in a female. Also noteworthy is that she married down financially. She had pretty much nothing to gain marrying my father, so I would have to say it is love, in some form. My father is also an outdoorsman much like me, and she seems happy that he is happy when he goes fishing or hunting not being home for a week or three.
Oh; getting caught up in my own story I almost forgot; my mother is, as I said, an avid anti-feminist, a driver of the bandwagon I would say. When I told her about MGTOW and the analysis of feminism and traditionalism being one and the same she went quiet. Dead quiet, for almost a minute, before she replied; “Yes, that may certainly be absolutely correct!”

your mothers an anti-feminist? Now thats rare, and someone who wouldn’t berate you for going your own way? Wow

[14_Peter_88Participant 129]

Cipher Highwind wrote:

Issues surrounding one’s mother are often used as a fallacy of many questions: if one declines to answer, one is put on the defensive and the opponent speculates as to one’s reticence. If one replies, even with something innocuous, they will put one on the defensive by attempting Freudian analysis.
My strategy is to call out the issue of one’s mother as entirely irrelevant to the subject at hand e.g.“Irrelevant. My position on this matter is informed by the (information I have already given you / the following data … ).”
However, the best offence is a good defence. It is best not to consort with hostile elements that ask questions about one’s private business, one’s mother included. One’s decision to participate in a conversation is ultimately one’s own.

Yeah my ex used my bad relationship with my mother and sisters against me. Whenever i called her out on her psychotic s~~~. she’d say im just a woman hater and ungrateful like i am towards my mother and sisters… f~~~ that bitch man

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