How to live knowing you may never have sex? ways to make up for it?

[bcrogerParticipant 113]

Hey, I am a 21 year old. I workout 5 times a week, dress nice etc. but never had a G.F, nor am I really that interested. I am only interested in getting sex from females because almost all women are dumb bitches who just want things from men. Due to my social anxiety and unwillingness to have a relationship with a female I may never actually get laid.

Also , as a black American man, I have been invited out by many black females, but honestly I have very little to no attraction to them at all. Latino and white females don’t seem to be that interested in me, some of them do but they are looking for a relationship and not just sex. Also I have mild social anxiety when it comes to bitches, so its nearly impossible for me to approach them.

What can I do (besides masturbate) to get over this? What are some fun activities I can do now or in the future that can can partially fulfill a sexual relationship with a female? Not trying to brag, but I have a pretty good gpa as a finance and accounting major. I also am learning the art of investing and saving and have fairly wealthy parents who support me throughout college and of course I plan to live alone so ideally I should have quite a bit of money to spend. I know that going out with friends and drinking is a no brainer, but I am trying to get creative. I was thinking about traveling all over the u.s and eventually other parts of the world, golf, video games etc.

I have not graduated college yet, but I am trying to think of ways to entertain my self and keep my self busy when not working to make up for lack of sex and interaction with bitches. Thoughts?

[MyselfParticipant 353]

Well, you’re a young buck, so your sex drive will be going strong for maybe the next 15 years.  Mid-thirties it starts to diminish a bit for some of us guys, which is a welcomed phase in life and brings some clarity.

Doing extreme sports can be a good substitute for sex.  Maybe look getting into a hobby that gives you a huge adrenaline rush.  For me I have been building and driving a race car for the last few years.  Learning how to drive a car truly fast on a race track is an outrageously intense experience – it makes sex look like baking cookies.

 

 

[Anonymous 12]

Work on yourself, studying whatever interests you and make yourself a better person. Out of curiosity what is that makes you unattractive to black women?

[bcrogerParticipant 113]

^^^
No, I am just not attracted to black women.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

bcroger wrote:

What can I do (besides masturbate) to get over this? What are some fun activities I can do now or in the future that can can partially fulfill a sexual relationship with a female?

I don’t understand the questions. You don’t HAVE to get over it. Sex is far too easily attainable for you to even entertain this thought. That’s not bulls~~~. If you want to have sex, pick up the phone and order it like PIZZA – tonight. It will even come to your house – delivered. With blonde or brunette hair. Made to order. Don’t even THINK like this.

You’re TWENTY ONE. You can’t see the future yet. I promise you that:

Listen very carefully and listen TWICE… because in 5 minutes your “anxiety” will be CURED:

/video/women-over-the-hill/

bcroger wrote:

Due to my social anxiety and unwillingness to have a relationship with a female I may never actually get laid.

The system is DESIGNED to make you feel that way. It’s also designed to make you think that “getting laid” is some kind of accomplishment – or NOT getting laid is some kind of “failure”. It’s a bunch of bulls~~~. Don’t for a minute believe that s~~~:

/video/women-are-parasites/

“How to live knowing you may never have sex” is not even a question.
You have NO idea what kind of possibility lay before you.

In the next ten years you could be next TuPac. Don’t laugh.
And THEN your problem will be… trying to GET RID OF THEM ALL.

This is one of the reasons we exist. Because I am tired of seeing 21 year old guys feeling like this. I’m tired of watching young men full of promise with their ENTIRE futures ahead of them — who haven’t even BEGUN conceptualize their own potential — beat themselves up over something like this. I won’t let you do it.

I won’t.

You have WAAAAAY too much to look forward to. Let’s put it in perspective. You’ve been an adult who is “legally” permitted to make up your own mind for 3 years. You know what kind of spit in the ocean that is? By the time you hit 30, you will have been an adult 4 times as long…. and MANY successful men will tell you that’s just when they got STARTED! That’s just when the pussy STARTED coming in the door.

It wasn’t until I was 32 and all of a sudden I was dating TWO 19 year olds. These chicks would NEVER have dated me when I was 21. Are you kidding? NEVER. The girls my age wanted men who were 27!!! But I knew one day I would be 27 . And ON that day….. when I date an 18 year old, I will rub it in the face of every 27 year old woman who has a problem with it. Then when I showed up at the theatre with a hot young 19 year old when I was 32, the single bitches around me gave me nothing but s~~~ for that. They used words like “pedophile”…. and inside I was laughing my mother-f~~~ing head off.

“OMG she’s 19!!! What could you POSSIBLY have in common with her???”

“Well… we both really like it when I bang her – hard.”

The smoke and fire that shot from that bitch’s eyes I will never forget. I remember exactly where it took place. Girls START this game. And they have no problem living in that little world – behaving like 17 / 18 / 19 / 21 year old guys aren’t “good enough” for them. Make SURE you remind them. MAKE SURE.

And I’m no Tupac. But ho boy, if I were…….

Enjoy the living f~~~ out of it.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[BDParticipant 1146]

Keymaster wrote:

This is one of the reasons we exist. Because I am tired of seeing 21 year old guys feeling like this. I’m tired of watching young men full of promise with their ENTIRE futures ahead of them — who haven’t even BEGUN conceptualize their own potential — beat themselves up over something like this. I won’t let you do it.

Keymaster wrote:

The system is DESIGNED to make you feel that way. It’s also designed to make you think that “getting laid” is some kind of accomplishment – or NOT getting laid is some kind of “failure”. It’s a bunch of bulls~~~. Don’t for a minute believe that s~~~:

Wow KeyMaster,

Thank you,

I think this is the best post I have ever seen on here, amazing!

Because in order to be able to think, you have to risk being offensive.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

BD wrote:

Thank you

10 minutes alone with Elliot Roger and I would have saved 6 lives. Including his own.
I was determined that was the last time I would ever see that s~~~ or let a man ask “How to live knowing you may never have sex”.

SOMEONE needs to tell these guys it’s FAR from the end of the world….
and f~~~ everyone in the ass who perpetuates that nonsense.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[RoyDalParticipant]

@bcroger,
Welcome to the internet land of free men. KeyMaster’s answer gets top marks. Words to think on.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[BDParticipant 1146]

That’s the thing about doing your good deeds KeyMaster,

You have no doubt already saved many lives,

and you are leaving a great legacy,

Well Done.

Because in order to be able to think, you have to risk being offensive.

[TheBardParticipant 974]

OP I used to be in the same situation as you. I didn’t get my first girlfriend until 21 and prior to that I was always worried about the possibility of not having sex. It really bothered me and to make things worse back then I wanted to wait until I was married. However with my first girlfriend I totally did everything else besides intercourse because to me that didn’t count lol. We did oral and mostly a lot of dry sex, either both of us in our underwear or I would be fully naked and either cum in my boxers or on her. My point is that while it wasn’t actual sex just doing sexual activity like that helped me feel better. By the time I actually had sex as good as it felt it wan’t too much of a shock because I was used to being pleasured by a woman. So my point is maybe just being pleasured by woman such as a blow job, hand job, or just dry sex might help ease your curiosity.

However if you like it, it may be hard to get over. I haven’t had sex in 4 years and can’t find another girlfriend and it is really bugging me I am in my late 20’s and not having sex with my high sex drive. Yes masterbating helps, but it can’t replace the emotional contact with a real woman. Like others have said find something to keep your mind off sex. Also try getting a fleshlight. Before I had intercourse I got a fleshlight and I found it did help a little.

[Cipher HighwindParticipant 1144]

In reply to the titular questions:

One lives knowing one may never have sex in the same way one ordinary lives.  Sex is only as big an issue as one makes it.

The most effective way to “make up for it” is to masturbate as needed.

 

[VictorParticipant 124]

I am 37.  I have never been with a woman and now I am suicidal.  I think about killing myself every day, sometimes all the time.

[BeeParticipant 700]

Anonymous wrote:

Work on yourself, studying whatever interests you and make yourself a better person. Out of curiosity what is that makes you unattractive to black women?

I don’t blame him for not being interested in black women. They’re generally the worst of all. Fat, loud, obnoxious. There are some educated and super hot ones but there smv is so high I doubt this guy has a chance.

If I were you I’d just get pros and pay for it. It’s all the same anyway. Whether you’re providing dinners and entertainment or housing, utilities and cars, we always pay one way or another.

[Cipher HighwindParticipant 1144]

If you are so desperate to get your weasel greased, pay for a higher-end call girl and be done with the matter.

Victor wrote:

I am 37. I have never been with a woman and now I am suicidal. I think about killing myself every day, sometimes all the time.

[BeeParticipant 700]

Victor wrote:

I am 37. I have never been with a woman and now I am suicidal. I think about killing myself every day, sometimes all the time.

This is a serious problem. You’re agonizing yourself becaue you don’t have something that will end up ruining your life. Read these forums – she’ll ruin your life by making you a slave to her, debt, your employer, your kids and that’s even before she divorces you.

It sounds like you need a vacation. I suggest something where the weather is nice and the women are abundant like Thailand, Philippines, Costa Rica, Mexico, Germany, Holland, etc.

[VictorParticipant 124]

Cipher Highwind wrote:

If you are so desperate to get your weasel greased, pay for a higher-end call girl and be done with the matter.

I want a relationship, family and children.  I want a real woman, not the plastic version.  That is all I have ever wanted.

[BeeParticipant 700]

Victor wrote:

I want a relationship, family and children. I want a real woman, not the plastic version. That is all I have ever wanted.

If this is how you really feel, then a bride from the Philippines is probably the answer. If you make at least an average income (40K+), you can make this dream a reality. Just beware that it is not all sunshine and roses.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

No @victor…. Bee is right. This sentence:

You’re agonizing yourself becaue you don’t have something that will end up ruining your life. Read these forums – she’ll ruin your life by making you a slave to her, debt, your employer, your kids and that’s even before she divorces you.

He’s right.

I saw a comment under a video I will never forget. About a man who was destroyed and imprisoned and separated from his kids through no fault of his own. The comment said “you know…. I used to feel really bad that I was not attractive enough, or not tall, or rich enough for a woman to marry and have kids with… but now…. I am inclined to CELEBRATE it”. Rogered that 100 times.

The level at which men are socialized to believe they are “missing out” on all this pretend *awesomeness* by not having some f~~~ing camel in their tent is astronomical. You HAVE to realize that.

Victor wrote:

That is all I have ever wanted.

Interesting statement. But you know, breeding is only “the highest pinnacle of success” for animals. That’s the BEST they can ever do. Human males have left the world FAR greater legacies than that. It doesn’t take any special anything to impregnate a female. I have done it twice in my life. So f~~~ing what. You don’t have any reproductive rights. You can’t even decide to be a father even if YOU DO have a woman in your life and she bears your children. You can’t even raise them properly with your own values. You had better do EXACTLY as she wants or she will use them as leverage against you for her own personal gain.

You would be VERY rewarded to get this myth of a “real woman:” – who will be the answer to your prayers – out of your head. You will NEVER find solace in the bosom of a female. It is a reality every man must accept. You know who really ARE the loneliest men? THE MARRIED ONES. That’s not bulls~~~.

Now.. I have a friend who has TWO BROTHERS who EACH hired a surrogate. They paid ONE woman for the egg, and the OTHER to delver them to term. $40-$50K. Infinitely cheaper than a wife and you call ALL the shots because neither of them can claim to be “the mother”. These guys hold all the reigns and any woman who comes near them and gives them the slightest IOTA of bulls~~~ is tossed aside. They OWN the situation. They each have girlfriends and she has NO power and make NO decisions.

Something to think about.

TRAVEL. There are women across the globe who will give their eye teeth to marry a western man. You have no idea of the world of options for you out there. NOBODY is begging to marry an Ameriskank. But take your ass to the Philippines and you will be writing your own ticket. If its THAT important to you.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[VictorParticipant 124]

Bee wrote:

This is a serious problem. You’re agonizing yourself becaue you don’t have something that will end up ruining your life. Read these forums – she’ll ruin your life by making you a slave to her, debt, your employer, your kids and that’s even before she divorces you. It sounds like you need a vacation. I suggest something where the weather is nice and the women are abundant like Thailand, Philippines, Costa Rica, Mexico, Germany, Holland, etc.

The part in bold is the only thing you say here that I agree with.  I am not really MGTOW but I’m not exactly Blue Pill either.  I’ve always been wise to what women are (though never seen it articulated in the way it is on this site), and that’s perhaps part of my problem.  I have never liked the idea of ‘settling down’, and in that regard women have always seemed conservative and boring to me.  In my outward appearance, I’ve tended to be fairly conventional, but in my heart I’m a rebel, an anarchist, a free spirit, a ‘sail the world’ type, but I would have been willing to give up all my dreams just to be with that one woman who would accept me.  I’ve always liked women and I still have a very high sex drive.  I dread what will become of me if this continues.  I am becoming more and more erratic and neurotic and can’t sleep or think straight.

Bee wrote:

Victor wrote:

I want a relationship, family and children. I want a real woman, not the plastic version. That is all I have ever wanted.

If this is how you really feel, then a bride from the Philippines is probably the answer. If you make at least an average income (40K+), you can make this dream a reality. Just beware that it is not all sunshine and roses.

That won’t work.  I am white and want white children.  Eastern Europe is a possibility though.

[Binary LogicParticipant 2351]

Keymaster wrote:

10 minutes alone with Elliot Roger and I would have saved 6 lives. Including his own.

Not being a feeble attempt to brown-nose the admin. But I am walking proof that this site right here, it works. Without a shadow of a doubt.

I’ve only been here a few months, hell, I forgot how in the hell I even got here to begin with. But I know I was at a really low point in my life. Within 72 hours of being on here, it started to make sense. And by it… I mean EVERYTHING.

From depressed and lost, to a little c~~~y (by my own doing) and exponentially happy. Hell, I’ve gained the testicular fortitude to do just about every damned thing I’ve wanted to in life, but never did. I learned to read sheet music and play the piano in a month. I’m taking diving lessons for then next 3 weeks. Started to make serious move towards educational goals. Hell, even learned to pocket a s~~~ton of extra cash by learning the 1000 different reasons and methods to say “NO” to white-knighting. Increased mental focus on me and definitely less stress worrying about the world.

Hell, I may not be 6… but you definitely saved 1. And to me, that is a job well done.

Funny, isn't it? How women thrive on a mans time, attention and resources, while simultaneously telling him he isn't enough...

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