How to end my white knight/codependent streak? break up

[Sessna12Participant 119]

If you can show up to a dental appointment…you can break up with a girl.

keep in mind that your relationship has 2 ppl worried about her feelings!

YOU OWE IT TO YOURSELF TO FIND A WOMAN THAT TREATS YOU NICE in return for whatever she is leeching from you.

 

Sebastian

"We can no more stop him from marrying than we can stop him from making a well researched decision to poke his eyes out with a stick."
-Sidecar

[LightBringerParticipant 440]

The problem is for far too long I put the other’s feelings ahead of my own, out of ‘loyalty’ and to never abandon them etc.  It feels so weird that I cut her off, yet I WANT her attention.

[LightBringerParticipant 440]

She was sending me pictures and stuff last night, I called her (breaking the 2 weeks silence) and talked to her.  She was crying and saying how bad she missed me, wondering if I missed her etc.  I told her I felt deceived that she was still living with her husband (claims it was for kids).  She said she was wrong and thought we were in love and couldnt believe I just walked away.  One funny thing was she said she was mad at me leaving her, and her friend said ‘you are the best thing that happened to that boy, if he doesnt realize it hes a moron’ which is funny, shows how delusional people are.

Anyway…the reality is I DO miss her, and the sex, there is no future but I try to deceive myself I can make a FWB work…but damn the drama and my own weakness….

[BDParticipant 1146]

ILiveAgain wrote:

Do what you must do …. and live with it. There is no other way my friend. End the misery for you both. You can be nice about it … but also be firm. Sometimes you just gotta go do it and stop dithering. Then live with it.

LightBringer wrote:

I told her I felt deceived that she was still living with her husband (claims it was for kids).  She said she was wrong and thought we were in love and couldnt believe I just walked away.  One funny thing was she said she was mad at me leaving her, and her friend said ‘you are the best thing that happened to that boy, if he doesnt realize it hes a moron’ which is funny, shows how delusional people are. Anyway…the reality is I DO miss her, and the sex, there is no future but I try to deceive myself I can make a FWB work…but damn the drama and my own weakness….

Clearly you are thinking with your c~~~ instead of your brain, not enough blood flow to support both.

All women cry, it’s a manipulation technique they master. Single mom living with husband, or still married, what are you doing brother, give your head a shake!

Look at all the risks involved? Seriously, think about it….

Because in order to be able to think, you have to risk being offensive.

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