How to eliminate my desire for closeness with women

[Back in BlackParticipant 1732]

It’s brain chemistry. I’m still a little bit afflicted. The smell, sight, or touch of a young attractive woman sets off a chemical reaction in my brain.
For some reason watching Netflix shows with women can trigger me a bit.
It’s like detoxing from a drug.
Eat healthy, exercise, occupy your time and continue to regularly read this site, listen to you tubers (I like Sandman) to strengthen your resolve.
Just know that getting involved in a relationship nowadays will almost certainly destroy you.

"Women are directly adapted to act as the nurses and educators of our early childhood, for the simple reason that they themselves are childish, foolish, and short-sighted—in a word, are big children all their lives, something intermediate between the child and the man, who is a man in the strict sense of the word. Consider how a young girl will toy day after day with a child, dance with it and sing to it; and then consider what a man, with the very best intentions in the world, could do in her place.” Quote from Arthur Shopenhauer, 17th century philosopher

[Anonymous 1]

Do anything you want, my friend.

Sleep with women -. I still do.

Don’t get married, or have kids. U

Beyoned that, who gives a f~~~?

[bladeParticipant]

Buy a nice cuddly english sheep dog .

If you want a cuddly pussy try a persian cat . Lol

There are two safe options

THE PLANTATION HAS NOW TURNED INTO THE KILLING FIELDS . WOMAN ARE NOW ROLLING CAMBODIAN STYLE .

[JVBParticipant]

007 (Reborn) wrote:

The thing that I enjoyed more than sex was holding a woman close, cuddling, passionate make out sessions, etc.

I like the f~~~in part from time to time but I don’t want em there before or after the deed is done, so I guess I’m the opposite.

Over time you will enjoy your space more and your need for that female closeness will diminish not only for the physical but all others.

Peace is > piece.

[Anonymous 5]

Use your imagination I have fantasies to help rub one out.with my wife was never intimate with me .so I pleased myself with fantasies Itmight do you good . but physical closeness can be done with a pillow or fleshlight.

[Silver FoxParticipant 2766]

+1 for immersing yourself in something creative, especially a musical instrument.

There are few things in life I love more than playing piano. I can sit for nearly an hour just going through piece after piece and then finishing with some improv. I can almost literally feel the stress and anxiety melting away.

"Are you loosed from a wife? Do not seek a wife." --Apostle Paul

[LowKeyParticipant 702]

Build Value upon yourself. Whether its reading books or taking up a hobby

If you’re too busy building value on yourself, how can you have time worrying about women?

Don't let defeat, defeat you; Let defeat be your greatest teacher.

[Joey CusackParticipant 1044]

007 (Reborn) wrote:

So basically what I’m saying is that I miss intimate closeness.

How can I eliminate this desire?

You can obviously temporarily eliminate the desire by engaging in it – say once per week with a hooker or other female friend which will quiet the urge for a week or whatever it may be for you.

Or, if you wanted to completely eliminate a desire from your mind you would have to work a little psychology on yourself. Most of us seek out pleasure and try to avoid pain. You need to make intimate closeness painful, or at least less attractive by focusing on what you don’t like about it. Imagine cuddling and then it getting out of hand, sex occurs, pregnancy, a tongue lashing from your fellow MGTOW, child support, etc. Make it ugly. Make it scary. Then you need to find something to fill the void that caused you to seek out the intimate closeness to begin with. Lots of suggestions for that already posted here. Gotta find what works for you.

[TwistParticipant]

Build a wooden boat

On my list.

I used to build Craftsman style furniture, mortise & tenon, spindles, etc. Cherry instead of Stickley Oak. I just like Cherry. Gave me peace. Last decade my brain and life has been c~~~ed, but I will get back to it. A sharp Stanley block plane can give hours of joy.

A man used to be be judged by his books and tools. Going back to that.

[~BSParticipant 3266]

the older you get, the easier it gets, since your drive tends to settle down as you get older.

i dont think I could have gone mgtow in my teens or early 20s.

"He didn't marry until now, so he won't ever do it. Think about it, why would a man like him ever marry? It's too late to catch him. " ~some cunt

[Pedal, run, rowParticipant]

I used to have the same weakness, and I call it a weakness because that is exactly what it is: a weakness. It is not some virtue, or makes you better than other men etc.

I can’t put my finger on any one thing, but like other have said just accumulation of relations~~~s with women, and understanding it really means nothing to them beyond the comfort of that very moment. Did you ever have one tell you after the relationship was over and she had moved on to another man, how much she appreciated all the hugs, hand holding, holding, kissing you gave them? I know I never did.

Now when I look at other men holding some unhappy woman’s had in the grocery store etc. I just see a little boy clinging to his mommy, threatened by all the other men in the area, and it sickens me.

[MGTOWmonkey aka No More Fucks To GiveParticipant 6635]

She’ll sleep with you.

Never lose sight of what brought you here.

[experiencedParticipant]

Anonymous wrote:

Thinking about her c~~~ count helps too.

This

Also, beware of those who have made it their life’s goal to learn how to manipulate men with Every man they’ve been with. They have a professorship with tenure at this sort of thing, but sooner or later with the shark ones, their actions speak louder than words. They are all the f~~~ over you “except for the fact that…” Call them on their bulls~~~ mentally, silently.
Another cold phrase that works is “when it seems too good to be true, it usually is too good to be true”, then time will tell you their truths… but to discern it before they wreck you is key: they are in a race to tie you down from as many mental/physical/emotional points as possible, BEFORE you see the truth via their “slip ups” – a race in which participant men devolve more and more retarded until they’ve got your sperm, your finances or goodness forbid my saying this… your heart.

Keymaster wrote:

007 wrote:

How can I eliminate this desire?

Someone call the sisterhood because at least ONE man doesn’t seem to have “a problem with intimacy”, like they love to pretend.

( Of course I’m being facetious. )

But you don’t need to eliminate it. You can certainly start by understanding you’ve been socialized to think you can’t function (or are “incomplete”) without it.

Think Jerry Maguire: “you complete me”.

[[[[[programming = the same for sports manager/bartender/pilot/stock car driver – – All the same, a pretty good manager/bartender/pilot/driver but then he has a crisis of confidence, but meets a girl and becomes a better manager/bartender/pilot/stock car driver.
I didn’t see this until a comedian pointed it out. How many other patterns of programming have I not seen!!!!]]]]]]]]]]]

…. as if he’s not a whole person without her. Oh yeah, it’s not “just a movie”. It is designed to remain ensconced in your head and you’ve been conditioned to believe it. The interesting part about that scene, was that he just walked into a women’s discussion group meeting who just finished saying “men are the enemy”.

How lovely is that.

Women decide and unanimously agree “Men are the enemy”.
Man walks in and says “I miss my wife. You complete me”.

You see the gross imbalance in that?

Now look around. Who are the ones who lay themselves down – and kneel – making grandiose displays of affection, huge offerings, and outrageous theatrical proposals? Seen a woman do that lately?

Men are constantly bombarded with that, and when you realize that it’s just NOT NATURAL, you begin to reevaluate and notice where it all comes from. Like a food commercial at 11:30PM. If your TV was off, you wouldn’t crave pizza just before bed. Certainly not Red Lobster.

from getting a ‘real doll’ or a giant stuffed bear, seek out a woman that doesn’t want any strings attached. Be up front with what you want out of the companionship.

Also a while ago i heard about ‘cuddle’ parties where men/women meet up to cuddle. NOt sure if those are still a ‘thing’ or what, but couldn’t hurt to look into it.

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I agree and then the left side of my brain says cover myself in honey (pick up artist techniques) and climb into the zoo cage with a fully grown female grizzly bear. All licks hugs and kisses and then the feast of the participants flesh)
What the f~~~ did he get into the cage for? Was he out of his mind?

Women don’t want “no hand”.
They relentlessly go after, “the upper hand”
I recently lost 10 f~~~ing pounds of lean mass by allowing ‘one’ just ‘one’ of them access to my attention during which she acquired a key to the back door of my thoughts.
The door’s been welded shut, with her outside.

Marvelous topic BTW.
AND: a marvelous “F~~~ off”, no. Not duck off, but “F~~~ off” to all lady lurkers and mangina support cast members.
You see, you two faced c~~~s, there are ################’s men out there who prove you wrong. You’ll get what you asked for and what you deserve…. nothing.

"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

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