How my confidence was destroyed

[LonelyBrotherParticipant 22]

Hey Guys, i am new here, have been lurking for a while though.
I am from Austria (not Australia) and well women are terrible here as well, i am so glad that i finally woke up.
For the last 3 years i have been in a relationship with my depressive girlfriend, at first everything was allright, she showered me with compliments, always wanted to come over to my flat and told me she wanted to be with me forever… The worst thing is, she was not even physically attractive, yet i was moved by her loving attitude.
At the beginning i was a very confident man, with a lot of friends but she started to take that away from me. Always nagging when i went out that she is so afraid that i betray her, since i am good looking(she said)And throwing a temper when she saw that i wrote with a female friend… Soo i slowy started to change so we could live happily together, all i wanted was love, tried to satisfy her. Well end of the story was i got emotionally attached, she betrayed me with a work buddy, treated me like dirt even though i did so much at the end of the relationship for her, i even cleaned and washed her s~~~.

The breakup was 4 weeks ago, and slowly my confidence comes back and i realize that she was the cause why it was gone. Yet i still feel sad, always believed in a forever lasting love, now after seeing women true nature i have to accept that its something that will never happen…
So now i am at the cross road, should i just give up on women alltogether or just have regularry ONS?(which isnt really my thing to be honest)
My life without women isnt bad after all, i have my own small house with garden, study happily and have a part time job. Yet i still miss the hugs and the emotional bond i had. Guess i have to work on my self confidence and make a lot of male friends since i cant trust females anymore. Lies everywhere and no matter how much a man did for a female, if he lost his value in her eyes… shes gone

Well its only the beginning of my road and i am still young(25) so perhaps something will change? I noticed that a lot of guys these days realize that feminisn treats us men as s~~~ and so do women. But men gather, even on german websites, they are commenting on those feminist s~~~ blogs and calling them out.

What a hard time to live in as a romantic man, yet i believe that we all will achieve our happiness, even without women.
Well thanks for reading this and a big thumb up to all my brothers here, helping men to wake up.

[Anonymous 13]

Welcome to MGTOW.

Women are a lie.

[It’sallbsParticipant]

They do that deliberately-destroy your confidence.

AWALT

http://www.leavemeansleave.eu

[joetechParticipant]

Change girlfriends every three months, just like you would change the oil in your car. Relations~~~s with women these days are dangerous traps. If you want a long term lasting relationship, get a dog.

"Don't follow in my footsteps...I stepped in something."

[Anonymous 2]

Welcome Brother!

LonelyBrother wrote:

My life without women isnt bad after all, i have my own small house with garden, study happily and have a part time job. Yet i still miss the hugs and the emotional bond i had.

You have a great life at 25.
For hugs and emotional bond, I suggest massages or going to prostitutes once in a while.
Also a good swim loosens the need for human touch.

[JimBoLeaParticipant 1891]

LOST ROMANTASISIUM, AT THE RATE THAT THIS LAST FEMINOTZI MOVEMENT HAS PUSHED ITS WAY THRU WESTERN CULTURE IN THIS PAST 8 YEARS, I WOULD SAY THAT THE ONES LEFT HURTING ARE THE POPULATION AND THE GIRLS THAT HAVE F~~~ED THEMSELVES OVER BY BELIEVING IN SUCH DRIBBLE. YOU, MY, FELLOW MGTOWIAN HAVE A UNIQUE OPERTUNITY TO MAKE THE REST OF YOUR LIFE FULFILLING AND UNTAMPERED WITH BY NOT HAVING ANY INFLUENCE WITH THE SLOT-C’S OR C~~~S C AN’T, U NDERSTAND, N ORMAL, T HINKING. BEING HAPPY IS THE MAIN OUTPUT IN MGTOW, FOR ME AT LEAST, OTHERS HERE WANT TO TRY THIER LUCK WITH THE F~~~ING BLACK WIDOWS BUT NOT I. IT IS YOUR CHOICE, MY BROTHER. TO BE ENCUMBERED OR TO BE FREE.

LILITH IS THE HEAD SUCCUBUS AND SHE LIVES ON THE DARK SIDE OF THE MOON

[Anonymous 1]

Welcome, brother. Joetech is right. If ONS (pump and dump) isn’t your style, get a dog. Thank us later.

It’s very important for you in your young age to realize that there’ll be no unicorns, no NAWALT, no special someone who finally came along and made you happy forever. They may look that way at first, but after marriage, after 2 children, they’ll show their true self. Your life will be destroyed. Look around in these forums and see for yourself that it’s not a matter of if, but when.

When you are successful in your late 20s and 30s, female will flock around you and you’ll question if maaayyybeeee you’ll try a relationship. Nope. It’s all lies. They attracted to successful men because of their wallets.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Hallo EinzigenBruder und herzlich wilkommen bei MGTOW.

LonelyBrother wrote:

Always nagging when i went out that she is so afraid that i betray her

This is a cheap & common manipulation.
“I’m afraid you’re going to leave me.”

Who has the self-esteem issue here? SHE does. But don’t be fooled by it, because it’s a mask. She should be working to keep you, NOT making you appease her because she’s worried you’re going to leave.

Sie sollte arbeiten, um dich zu behalten, NICHT, dass du sie beschwichtigst, weil sie sich Sorgen macht dass du gehen wirst.

EXAMPLE: When I call my mother, she says “I’m glad to know you’re fine. I was SO WORRIED!”. It’s supposed to sound well-meaning like she cares, but if I am not careful, I end up phoning JUST to tell her I’m not dead. I have no interest in calling for that reason. I call because I WANT to.

Same kind of thing – appeasing whatever is going on inside her head is not your job.

You don’t want to be doing all kind of emotional gymnastics just to “prove” that you’re not going to leave her. It’s up to HER to make you want to stay. It’s not fun to be a in a relationship like that.

LonelyBrother wrote:

since i am good looking(she said)And throwing a temper when she saw that i wrote with a female friend…

Perfect example. Spending time wth another female is NOT the same as “treating your girlfriend badly”. Women need this straightened out for them on a regular basis. It’s remarkable.

LonelyBrother wrote:

The breakup was 4 weeks ago, and slowly my confidence comes back and i realize that she was the cause why it was gone.

Understand completely. When you are APOLOGIZING when she pretends to be so insecure, you find yourself apologizing for NOTHING. She likes it there

“YAY!!! I can get him to be sorry for something because I said I’m afraid he’s gonna leave”.

She’s LAZY.

LonelyBrother wrote:

Yet i still feel sad, always believed in a forever lasting love

EVERYTHING — >> is temporary.

When you accept this, everything changes for the better. You no longer EXPECT anything to last “forever”, and therefore, you cannot be as devastated when it ends.

EVERYTHING — >> is temporary.

… especially female affection. You couldn’t even expect a woman to want YOUR love “forever”. So you definitely can’t expect it to be mutual “forever”.

“Happily ever after” are just stories that haven’t finished yet.

LonelyBrother wrote:

So now i am at the cross road, should i just give up on women altogether or just have regularry ONS?

Don’t even think that.

“Should i just give up on women altogether?”

Leave it up to HER to make you WANT to be with her. It’s a minor change in attitude, but it makes a big & immediate difference.

You don’t need to make any efforts to “give up on (pursuing) women” at all – when you leave it to them to make themselves worth pursuing.

Women are like those knife-sharpening stools. As long as you pump the pedal, you will see something happening. You may even see sparks!! But when you STOP pedaling, very little happens. So if you find that not much happens unless you make the effort, then re-evaulate.

LonelyBrother wrote:

Well its only the beginning of my road and i am still young(25) so perhaps something will change?

Some very successful men will tell you not even THINK about having a “girlfriend” until you are 26+, and well on your way to achieving your dreams. When you achieve your dreams, you won’t have to pursue women. They will will pursue YOU.

It’s not even “the beginning” yet. At 25, you haven’t even BEGUN to conceptualize (Konzeptualisieren) your own value and potential. Think about it.

… and welcome to MGTOW.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[FrostByteParticipant 19005]

Welcome

LonelyBrother wrote:

Always nagging when i went out that she is so afraid that i betray her

She was projecting. Whenever a woman accuses you of something chances are they are all ready doing it.

If you rescue a damsel in distress, all you will get is a distressed damsel.

[JVBParticipant]

Welcome brother. I would suggest at your age to focus on yourself. Health,career and harmony in your life. If you meet a girl you like feel make sure it’s on your terms but don’t marry, breed, or cohabitate. Good luck.

Peace is > piece.

[The Manipulated ManParticipant 1856]

Hello LB,

Thanks for writing about your Red Pill.

In the reply box below, write more details about what YOU are doing these days.

What does YOUR life look like?

Do you know any MGTOWs in Austria?

What kind of work are you doing?

What kind of fun things do YOU do?

Any future projects or plans for YOUR life?

I enjoy the YouTube videos of a European MGTOW known as Red Pill Germany. I would like to one day meet him in person and thank him for his great videos.

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCWcbn1OURjNxx8kr4FJ4Y-w

The link below is a Post I created last year in an attempt to start a discussion about places where men can find some real comradery.

Anything that you would like to add to that discussion will resurrected that thread in the Forums and your contribution will be greatly appreciated:

model-aeronautics-clubs-are-a-sanctuary-for-mgtows

LonelyBrother wrote:

…What a hard time to live in as a romantic man……..

Here is a link to something I posted about another way to look at “Romance:”

Blue-Pill-men-are-really-pheremone-addicts

What happens when a man finally comprehends the cold and calculating thoughts that are going through a woman's mind, while her eyes are brimming with tears?

[Can’t Stump TrumpParticipant]

Sometimes it takes a kick in the b~~~~ to see the truth. Take the hit to your confidence as your wake up call and then rebuild it in light of the truth which you now behold.

Women are better at multitasking? Fucking up several things at once is not multitasking.

[Greg HondaParticipant 6406]

Wilkommen Brüder! Wie Laüfts bei Dir Heutzutäge 🙂

Keine Sorgen haben, Dein Selbsbewúst wird sicherlich wider da sein. Vertrennen Sie sich von Frauen, und erlauben Sie sich Zeit zú Erwachen. Es ist die Frauen ganz egal ob Du glücklich oder traurich sind.

Am wichgtigstens sorgen sie nur über wie viel Geld Du Hast. Du brauchst diese Hexen nicht, aber sie brauchen Ihr Geld sehr!

Wir, als Männer, haben Zeit zu wachsen und lernen. Unsere Lebens werden immer besser als alleinstehender. Die Frauen aber mussen ein Man finden un sein Geld und Stärke zu stehlen.

Der Weg steht klar da vorn.

Du hast das erste Schrit gemacht.

Sei Glücklich 🙂

Greg Honda!

It's Time to get Wise

[SilverOneParticipant 440]

LonelyBrother wrote:

Well its only the beginning of my road and i am still young(25) so perhaps something will change?

I am 61, and a real veteran of the wars…. 4 marriages, an multiple LTR’s. I kept hoping it would change. I kept expecting it to change. I just had to find the “right” woman. Trust me, there is no right woman, and it never changes.

I don’t believe in female magic anymore. And will never again gut myself to make room for it. --Narwhal--

[SilverOneParticipant 440]

Keymaster wrote:

EVERYTHING — >> is temporary.

… especially female affection. You couldn’t even expect a woman to want YOUR love “forever”. So you definitely can’t expect it to be mutual “forever”.

“Happily ever after” are just stories that haven’t finished yet.

Oh MAN! Truer words never spoken. I wish *I* had realized this at 25!

I don’t believe in female magic anymore. And will never again gut myself to make room for it. --Narwhal--

[Manspread MansplainerParticipant 4222]

LonelyBrother wrote:

Well end of the story was i got emotionally attached, she betrayed me with a work buddy, treated me like dirt even though i did so much at the end of the relationship for her, i even cleaned and washed her s~~~.

Glad she didn’t take away everything you own!

We are programmed to provide for them. Our society breeds woman who will take every last drop of blood in your body yet still be unhappy.

Live for yourself.

Welcome!

If women ran the world = It would become the shithole you are seeing.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Greg Honda wrote:

Wilkommen Brüder!

Greg Honda wrote:

Wir, als Männe

Greg Honda wrote:

Sei Glücklich

@ Greg Honda. Ist doch garnicht WAHR!! Ich wusste nicht das du Deutsch sprichst. ( Wie ist das den möglich? ) Holy s~~~.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[SolidusXParticipant 854]

It has probably been said already I am just too lazy to read all the comments but…. I learned my lesson a long time ago that women are a ‘dime a dozen’ or in other words they are everywhere. They may all be different shapes, colors, and ethnicities but they in the end are all the same… whiney, only in it for themselves, costly, and will always bring you down and some point. My recommendation to you is just date for 6 months and move on to the next. This will get your emotional stuff taken care of until you need it again or better yet get a dog.. they will stay loyal to the end.

Knowledge is power..... Don't waste your brain on bullshit

[AttonParticipant]

Feel the power of the force flow through you.

A MGTOW is a man who is not a woman's bitch!

[Anonymous 0]

Welcome home, Lonely
Beer’s in the fridge

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