61 YO, 4 times divorced; 4 Long Term Relationships. Seems all I can find are Sluts, FemiNazis, PsychoBitches, and Users. or a combination there of. I feel like I have "Welcome" tattooed on my back, and "Sucker" on my forehead. Waited to long to go my own way, but now I am DONE! Time to flesh out my profile a bit. Here is the story of my last divorce.... We had no children, and no real property. We were married for 16 years. In that 16 years she may have brought enough income to the marriage to equal my best year. I raised her daughter and for a couple of years, took care of her eldest with her kids and full-time-permanent-student husband. Anything she wanted, I did my dead level best to get it for her. After 10 years, she flat told me she could no longer stomach sex with me, but insisted she still loved me. I never strayed; never even seriously looked at another woman. For the last 2 years of our marriage, she decided she was “disabled” with fibromyalgia. Of course the best treatment for that is to stay as active as possible, but she took to the bed, and stayed there playing on the computer. She never got up unless she wanted to do something. She came home moaning like a cow, and swore she would never do that again… till the next time. I did the shopping, the laundry, the house work (bear in mind I am, and was retired on disability), and the cooking, much more often than not served her meals in bed. The last 6 months of our marriage, I tried to convince her she wasn’t disabled, and she had just given up on life, all to denials and no avail. I finally gave up. I couldn’t stand to see her give up. I didn’t want to hurt her. I still cared for her, and knew if I left her, I would lose my step-daughter and my grandchildren. It was a terrible decision, but I had to choose myself. By the time I left, I felt truly beaten and abused. I made it quick, and painful. As someone else put it, I had to just “rip the band-aid off”. In the end it was the best decision. Since we separated (and later divorced) she has had heart bypass surgery, and survived cancer. Even now, she does more every week than she did in the last two years we were married. It was the best thing for both of us. We got past the separation and divorce, and remained amicable. With her illnesses, I still help her on occasion, as needed. I did lose the love and respect of my step-kids and am denied access to my grandchildren. My steps feel I abandoned their mother in her time of worst need (though they don’t lift a finger, or spend a dime to help her).. My older step thinks I am an absolute piece of shit (she has told me so) and broken all contact. I am the only grandfather my grandkids have ever known. I truly miss them, but it would not have been a reason to stay. If I had, I think we might both be dead.