How much longer?

[WorkhardParticipant 343]

It’s been 3 weeks today since she told me she has a “better” guy than me. When will the hurt/confusion end? It’s like nothing I have experienced and is still as fresh as the day she told me sometimes. Deep down I believe I’m better off and I’m not feeling sorry for myself, I just can’t shake the feeling. Guess it proves I cared a lot more than she did.

[TaxGuyParticipant]

In my experience, about six months. But it depends. How long did you date? How long did you know each other before? And about 1,000 other variables.

Just take care of yourself. Work out, get sleep, make little changes every day.

Was there anything you wanted to do that she didn’t want you to do? Well, here’s your chance. Take advantage of being single by tuning to what you want to do.

Order the good wine

[XSDBSParticipant 3598]

Workhard wrote:

It’s been 3 weeks today since she told me she has a “better” guy than me.

I feel your pain…I’ve been there.
She doesn’t have a “better” guy now, just the “next” guy.
She will tell him the same thing when she moves on to the “next next” guy.

Fortunately, you didn’t marry/impregnate her!

You are better off, always remember to care about yourself first.

[WorkhardParticipant 343]

XSDBS I realize that, but I still can’t shake this feeling. Some days I don’t think about it and then other days I can’t shake the feeling. Just wonder when it finally subsides.

[BoarParticipant]

XSDBS wrote:

Fortunately, you didn’t marry/impregnate her!

As usual, XSDBS raises an excellent point. Be on your guard if she tries to bounce back from this better man, especially if you hear the phrase, “I think its yours.”

Keep the armor one and know that there is no going back. She has revealed her true nature. And now that you are hurting, you will also reveal your true nature as well.

Mourn, learn and stay here for a while.

Untamed wrote: Quit complaining and Go Your Own Way in whatever manner suits you best.

[Jan SobieskiParticipant 28791]

Men hurt more because men can love.

Females only are there for the money.

Love is just alimony waiting to happen. Visit mgtow.com.

[JVBParticipant]

Hang in there brother. It will take a little time but in the long run the bitch actually did you a favor. Take that hurt and use it as a reminder to never allow yourself to be vulnerable again. This new guy has no clue what he’s in for. Keep your body moving and your mind focused. It will pass. Cheers

Peace is > piece.

[JVBParticipant]

Don NOT under any circumstances take her back.

Peace is > piece.

[Mr. ManParticipant 2916]

XSDBS wrote:

She doesn’t have a “better” guy now, just the “next” guy.

This could be your mantra. Just go for a long hike or bike ride or road trip repeating this stinging bit of reality over and over and over again.

I’ve been where you are now a number of times. So I feel your pain.

This too shall pass.

[SuperBeeParticipant 65]

Sorry that I can’t help you.
I’m going through the same s~~~ as you, up and downs, but we have 2 kids together, and some conversations or encounters just can’t be avoided.
So if you weren’t married and did not have any kids, it will be much more easier.
Stop every contact.
Declare her as… dead… so simple. Listen to the other MGTOW guys advice.

Life turns on a dime

[DorkShitParticipant 4353]

For six months no contact no matter what. Don’t reply to texts. Don’t answer her calls. Don’t take her back.

Good luck

Peace brothers

[Anonymous 0]

You have an opportunity here to remake YOUR life the way you want it. What will you do?

[OldBillParticipant]

“Radio silence” will help speed the process. Do not answer calls, texts, emails, anything. Don’t even open them. Just delete, delete, delete.

Finding something else to do during your “down” time helps too. This is a good time to join a gym and start a workout program. Or take a college class. Find something that will not only distract you but will also help you better yourself.

Finally, just remember she is nothing more than a life support system for a c~~~. She’s a meat hole and there are billions of other meat holes out there.

Do not date. Do not impregnate. Do not co-habitate. Above all, do not marry. Reclaim and never again surrender your personal sovereignty.

[Back in BlackParticipant 1732]

“she told me she has a “better” guy than me.”

What kind of person would tell someone this^^^^^

A horrible piece of s~~~, that’s who. I would never consider saying something so f~~~ed up to someone.

Whatac~~~.

"Women are directly adapted to act as the nurses and educators of our early childhood, for the simple reason that they themselves are childish, foolish, and short-sighted—in a word, are big children all their lives, something intermediate between the child and the man, who is a man in the strict sense of the word. Consider how a young girl will toy day after day with a child, dance with it and sing to it; and then consider what a man, with the very best intentions in the world, could do in her place.” Quote from Arthur Shopenhauer, 17th century philosopher

[WorkhardParticipant 343]

Back in black, that’s what hurt so damned much, being together 8 years and telling me some bulls~~~ like that, how heartless… telling me how I never did anything for her and how much more happy she is. I wouldn’t do that s~~~ to my worst enemy, let alone someone I “loved” for 8 years.

[WA4SWJParticipant 366]

I agree with all the brothers above. Do not under any circumstances take her back should she make those kinds of noises. A woman only gets ONE CHANCE with a good man and that’s it. No more! Period. Your self respect is worth far more than some c~~~. And of course, why hang with women anyway? I’ve been in your shoes and know how it feels, but the things you are experiencing will diminish. Do not focus on those things – do other things to get back to YOU and you alone. Focus elsewhere. All the confusion and bad feelings you now have will pass and over time. And when you think about what she said to you, you will be very angry for a while. How dare she say things like that? The anger will pass too but I do think it is part of the grieving process that humans go through. Took me a long time the first time around but after that they can come and go and I’m actually glad to see them go. I wish you a speedy recovery and a great journey into a new world of you going your own way!

Ed

[WorkhardParticipant 343]

I hear what all you guys are saying and I certainly appreciate your advice, it’s so nice to have a place to come to without being judged and to be understood. I do have one or two real life friends I can talk to but I feel like they are just taking my side because they are my friends. But you guys know nothing about me and still embrace, I feel much gratitude and I hope I can help out one day the way you guys have helped me out. It feels better just to talk about it.

[HitmanParticipant]

This might not be a popular solution. ..
But I recommend you start drinking.
Alone.
About an hour or so before bedtime.
It won’t fix s~~~, but it will hit the pause button.
Don’t drink and drive.
Come on here and get it out. .
We are here for you.
Make a batch of stealthy s spiced rum. ..
F~~~ing delicious and you’ll sleep like a baby.
Focus on yourself and listen to what the great guys here have said. .

[Hombre LibreParticipant 261]

Brother, the good news is is is is: you do not have to compromise anymore! You own your life 100% your freedom and liberty has just increased! Sieze the day … do whatever the hell you want, buy whatever the hell you want …. to your liberty brother! HOMBRE

[Buller100Participant 2189]

Remember all the bad times , the compromises , her words better man etc..

She was a fraud, you can’t miss a fraud in your life..

Some great advice in this thread ..

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