How Can I Save My Best Friend? Poor Guy Is Destroyed.

[MgtowWaveParticipant 4352]

Not getting married = missing a bullet.Been there done that.Wished to God and everything else that i didnt.Im talking about a woman who usto buy me clothes.Come and get my dirty laundry when she was washing clothes and cook for me at the very start of out relations~~~.Her pussy was so tight our first times we had to use lube.

My friends and family were soo impressed.

It didnt take her long tho to start mentioning marriage .She did pick out a ring that cost about $1200

About a  year later we were married and a few weeks after that she started finding things to bitch about.At first i was able to crack jokes and make her laugh to stop her little temper outbursts.But it got worse and worse.She made my life into a living hell.Made me wish i were never born.And just around the time i had had enough of enough we were separated and she calls me up a couple of times after we had had sex one last time and says meet me down town i gotta tell you some thing.

“Im pregnant ,Now what are you going to do”?

The smartest way to go MGTOW is before she puts her finger in a ring.

The smartest way to go MGTOW is before you put your dick in her.

Hind sight is always 20/20.

Wisdom and foresight is always better.

Yea it destroyed me but your friend has no idea how bad it can get YET.

Love is a bunch of chemistry and chemicals going on in the brain.

Some of the same things if not the very same things going on in the brains of heroin and cocaine addicts.

frankly my dear i don't give a damn

[Anonymous 42]

KeyMaster is totally right about the worthlessness modern women. I balanced the equation with every relations~~~ I ever had. I never saw so much uselessness anywhere else in life, they were all about themselves, look pretty to attract other guys, and be the center of attention. I never felt as if ANY ONE OF THEM were actually interested in my future or bettering my life in any way possible. Did I better their life? ABSOLUTELY, help over here, help over there, do this, do that, FOR WHAT? I felt as if they expected me to better their lives, like it was MANdated.

I heard the term “disposable utility” and it rung clear a bell! It’s like this sick society has brainwashed men into thinking that wearing a yoke of slavery is being a “REAL MAN”, not for me! My relations~~~s didn’t last more than a couple of weeks, to three months, the longest was a year.

Looking back at the one night stands, they were the least complicated, I never got to know them. The two week relations~~~s  usually did something that was unacceptable, like being c~~~! The three month relationships, were whores in disguise, monkey eyes looking at new branches, or terminated for THEIR cheating. I never cheated on a woman EVER, I treated each and every one of them as I expected to be treated, “my reward” the in depth knowledge of the ruthlessness of modern women. I NEVER was a SAP that went back to sucking some c~~~s ass; OVER was OVER, ENDED WAS ENDED, weather or not they abandoned me or I abandoned them, I NEVER took one back!

One thing’s for sure, they got the best of me. You can’t expect anything more than a whore when you’re with a modern woman.

Thanks feminism, especially feminazis; you really thought me valuable lesson:

#1 F~~~ society, let it burn to the ground!

#2 Deprive women and society of any and all assistance, directly or indirectly.

#3 Warn this generation of unwary men the monstrosity that feminism has created.

#5  Shed light on the legal slavery of marriage, divorce, children, and the broken home; the byproducts of this broken and corrupt gynocentric judicial system.

#6 Give absolute favor to men over women, discriminate against women for the sake of men.

#7  Never place trust in a woman; expect the worst, and you won’t be surprised…

#8 Be heartless and callous to all things feminist; don’t just let them hit the wall, help them SLAM the wall!

 

[Sam RavenParticipant 181]

experienced wrote:

He will get over losing her… when he wants to. Gregory Peck in The Yearling, “It seems like there’s times a body gets struck down so low, there ain’t a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don’t even want to get up again. But he does.” Man, I’m not qualified, but if you can get a hold of brainpilot i’m certain he will be able to help.

Nice one.

I had an experience somewhat similar to what the best friend of the OP went through. The only time I had gotten close to an actual girlfriend got cold feet when I became the unpopular one in High School. Later found out after being discharged from the army that she was married. Still I blamed myself somewhat, because I believed in the big lie called real love.

It kind of dissipated over time, reasoning that if she really wanted me she would have tried to keep contact with me. By then I had discovered porn (when internet went above Mbps) that catered to my specific fetishes involving subdued, submissive women served me better than even prostitutes that varied in satisfaction and required going out and taking time and cost more.

As an ex-infantry trooper who by law had to serve 2.5 years in the military and sleep in mosquito infected jungle without washing up for days at a time (and women here aren’t forced to do all this), I by default reserve the right to look down on them.

By default the men-only compulsory conscription makes women here Second Class by default in my view because they haven’t suffered enough.

Unless a woman can serve me at my beck and call in everything, its MGTOW for me. And if they don’t like the idea of that, they can f~~~ off and die alone.

[XSDBSParticipant 3598]

Keymaster wrote:

Because we have been in a dry period, we jump on the first girl that pays any attention to us, or dates us, or starts talking to us. And we start convincing ourselves “she is the one”.

I struggle with this all the time.  When a woman does something nice for me, I ask myself if she is doing it for me, or because she wants something (more) in return?

[Anonymous 11]

Anonymous wrote:

I never felt as if ANY ONE OF THEM were actually interested in my future or bettering my life in any way possible.

Same experience on this end too. I mean with every single one.

As for your buddy, the others gave some very good advice. The question is will he heed it? Is his addiction to that illusion too strong to be overcome? Sometimes experience is our best teacher. If he let’s it happen to him just know you’ve spoken your thoughts and be prepared to pick up the pieces as friends do. I’ve watched many of mine take that flying leap of foolishness and come crawling back many years later torn to shreds.

[Puffin StuffParticipant 24979]

Could be something else wrong with your buddy. Maybe he’s got depression which only manifests its self by this depressing obsession with his ex-girlfriend. There are lot’s of reason’s for things that aren’t apparent on the surface…just sayin maybe your friend should see a psychiatrist about it. Couldn’t hurt.

#icethemout; Remember Thomas Ball. He died for your children.

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

DoinMyOwnThing40 wrote:

Sidecar, yup that is exactly what I tell him.

And he still maintains the fantasy?  Damn.

Hasn’t he had any women since?  Because I can’t imagine how he could be maintaining this delusion except in a vacuum.

[DurdenParticipant 1051]

Your friend is not in love with this girl. He was never afraid to let her go. He doesn’t miss her. If was they would have married her and would have 50/50 being divorced. The telling your buddy “Your right you let that unicorn get away is utter bulls~~~” and very counterproductive.

Your buddy is in love with the fantasy of what could have been. He has been told stories all his life that he should go to college, get a job, get married, have kids and then die. If he does not he will not be happy. Because he has not completed this he is a failure to everyone but you and perhaps a couple of others. There is no definition for happiness that has been prescribed for not doing these things that is acceptable in society. Thus those who still hold the illusion believe that this is the cure for all problems.

It sounds like he is merely between midway between bargaining and depression. More than likely this has to do with the conceptional collapse of the grand illusion. Not just this chick. My advice to take him out as much as possible and lead by example. Grind up red pills and sprinkle them in his drink when possible. Watch movies like fight club with him and go to places with big t~~~. When he does bring the subject up don’t give advice. Ask him questions about why he thinks that way. Keep asking questions so he keeps thinking.

Him/ I screwed up so badly.

You/ Why do you think you screwed up?

Him/I let her get away

You/ Is that what you wanted at the time?

Him/Of course not!

You/Well you did not marry her did you?

Him/Yes, but I was young and stupid.

You/Were you, if you really wanted to you, don’t you think you would have done so? There are 3.5 billion women out there(I know not all are datable) and you are telling me she is special. Why? Special enough to stop loving you at a drop of a hat?

Prescribe this again and again and that’s your best shot

It's only after we've lost everything that we're free to do anything

[BigDParticipant 3024]

Hmmm, do we have a new term to use for our own that are trying to save all the bluepillers?  Captain Savabro?

Don't stick your dick into anyone you aren't willing to put up with for eighteen years and nine months.

[MithrilParticipant 17]

I had a similar experience when I was in college and the same feelings afterwards.  What I did was I tracked her down and got her phone number.  I then called her one night and the experience was life changing.  She was 40 something, living alone with some number of cats, when I located her number I also found a photo of her and she was NOT attractive at all, I clearly got her when she was good, the woman in the picture was fat, dumpy with an unattractive hair cut.  Anywho, I talked to her on the phone and the sheer level of hatred coming across the line was staggering.  Now, when we were together I wasn’t the most attentive boyfriend, but I wasn’t mean spirited or abusive and I didn’t cheat, so it was a real surprise the level of anger I could feel after 20 years apart, I had hoped we’d have been able to talk and clear up any misunderstandings but nope, not happening.

This was very freeing.  She shattered the image I had in my mind.  Whatever mistakes I’d made when we were together it didn’t warrant that level of hostility.  The idea that I’d hurt someone so sweet, and loyal and caring vanished.  I realized I gave her credit for being someone she wasn’t, for having qualities she didn’t have and that our relationship failure wasn’t just me it was mutual.

Perhaps you should have your buddy track her down and get the reality of who she is.  In my case after seeing her picture I felt like I’d dodged a bullet.  In 20 years she went from a 6 to a 2.

-Mithril

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