Hi, all – miserable married man here

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    Crowbar
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    Good afternoon.

    Hello to all – new member here. My story – married, late 40’s, two little kids.

    Backstory – never dated much. Never did the homecoming or prom thing in HS, college did fine but never dated. Always been a little bit of a loner. My first real relationship was in my late 20’s with a cute, petite blond – mutual female friend fixed us up. Lasted six months, then for the next five years (into my mid 30’s), never went out on a single date (note that I never dated much before, so I wasn’t one of those guys who went from girl to girl). Had a buddy that I hung with (he never dated much either nor had a GF), and we’d play lots of sports, go to lots of sporting events, shoot lots of pool, and drink lots of beer. It was the good life – had a good job, no nagging woman to deal with, had money, and a buddy to hang out with. We were able to go to some big-time sporting events, and all in all I had it made.

    Then, go to a party with that buddy and other friends, and the worst happens – he meets a woman there who becomes his wife (as an aside, to this day nobody likes his wife – she’s very annoying). Once I realize that he’s dating this woman and it’s getting serious, I panic and start internet dating (now I’m in my mid 30’s). Meet some women, and had a couple that I went out with for a little bit, but nobody marriage material. Had one woman that I met who was divorced with a few kids – the sex was great with her but there was no way that I would have married her as she had major baggage. Once I broke off from her (that one lasted a few months), went out on a date with the woman that is now my wife (she was divorced a couple of years, no kids). We seemed to hit it off, and we got physical right away (big mistake). About a year and a half in, decide to get married and build a house, so we get married two years after we met.

    Fast forward about 15 years – now pushing 50, we have two little kids, and for the past several years I can’t stand to be around her most of the time. When the kids were in the late baby to toddler stage, she was the biggest pain in the ass – always on my ass about how I could do nothing right (kids, driving, etc). I’d hate coming home from work as I knew that I’d catch hell about something (one major mistake that I made in this time was not pushing back on her – I mistakenly thought that if I did, it would make things worse, but I was certainly wrong). She’s not as bad now (I have pushed back some in the meantime, although not as much as I should), but now I fantasize about being single and doing whatever the hell I want to do.

    Last summer, she was gone for several days on a trip with friends, and it was great – just the kids and me having a good time without mommy around. That told me all I needed to know. I knew that, because I always take the kids places without her, as it’s much more enjoyable, but needed the reinforcement.

    As for sex life, lucky to do it once a year. Truth be told, she’s overweight and lazy (she’s not obese, but could lose a bunch) – she talks a good game about losing weight, but as usual with her, there’s no action.

    Sorry for the rambling post – she’s not here now, and just want to get stuff off of my chest. Those of you who think you’d like to get married, DON’T. As much as I love my kids, I’ve actually had dreams about where I’d be now if I was single – have a nice condo, good job (I do own my own business), and do whatever the hell I want. DO NOT GET MARRIED – can not emphasize this enough. There’s a lot more, but that’s it for now.

    #401379
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    Jan Sobieski
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    Welcome home brother.

    Love is just alimony waiting to happen. Visit mgtow.com.

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    BlacqueJacqueShellacque
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    Welcome Crowbar. Sorry to hear life has shown you the red pill this way. Give your wisdom to the younger men and they will be grateful and revel in your awesomeness as a king on this earth. Take care of the blessings that are your children. You are a good man. We notice. Keep fighting the good fight.

    #401383
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    Anonymous
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    Welcome brother

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    Anonymous
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    welcome

    #401393
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    Mister Stealth
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    welcome brother.

    We all have our own journey of how we become enlightened and decide to go our own way. Take your time do some reading here, and make decisions for yourself(and children) that will make you happy.

    Sausage fingers had a recent post about having your own space. If I can find the link I’ll include it later. Its a good read for us MGTOW that are still in that marriage contract.

    Steel sharpens steel

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    Blade
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    Welcome aboard bro

    THE PLANTATION HAS NOW TURNED INTO THE KILLING FIELDS . WOMAN ARE NOW ROLLING CAMBODIAN STYLE .

    #401412
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    Welcome, Crowbar.

    “miserable married man” I didn’t know there were any other types of married men.

    When women lead, destruction is the destination. -- Me.

    #401427
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    Crowbar
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    Thank you all for the warm welcome – sure wish this site was around back in the early 2000’s. Learning the hard way regarding the path I should have taken – now looking to impart my “wisdom” to others.

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    BlacqueJacqueShellacque
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    now looking to impart my “wisdom” to others.

    Don’t bitch air quote it. You have wisdom. Impart when ready.

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    Meister
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    Welcome friend.

    Jesus f~~~ing christ your life sounds depressing!

    Monk

    #401456
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    Repulsive Ralf
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    Dont apologise for the “rambling post”, posts like yours makes me feel less miserable about never finding a woman to marry. At least you have the kids, you will never be completely alone thanks to them. Hope things get better for you soon.

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    Greg Honda
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    Good Intro.

    Welcome to the Free Thought Area.

    I look forward to your posts.

    It's Time to get Wise

    #401541
    53ClicksUp
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    Welcome Crowbar! I have walked a thousand miles in your shoes. Know that you have joined a brotherhood of like minded men here and can post anything you want at anytime day or night. MGTOW spans the globe and one of the benefits is that there are men on here 24 hours a day as a result.

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    Anonymous
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    do some things to prepare for the inevitable. There are websites to tell you how to get ready.

    Good luck brother.

    #401643
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    Y_
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    Welcome Miserable Married Man. 🙂
    I hope you have a happy divorce when the kids are out of the house.
    You have only one life – don’t spend it as a female’s slave.

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    Joey Alfio
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    DO NOT GET MARRIED

    Wouldn’t do it even at gun point.

    Δεν υπάρχει τίποτε αδύνατο γι’ αυτόν που θα προσπαθήσει. - Μέγας Αλέξανδρος

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    Atton
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    Try to wait until your kids are old enough for a divorce else it could be painful.

    A MGTOW is a man who is not a woman's bitch!

    #401746
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    Crowbar
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    Kids just turned five (both boys) and one reason that I won’t divorce now is that I don’t trust what she’ll do when she has them alone. Not saying abuse or anything like that – more along the lines of how she acts around them. She likes to cuss (don’t we all, but not around little kids), and is very lazy (as evidenced by the pile-up in the kitchen sink). She literally just sits on her ass playing her games, surfing Facebook, or watching TV while the kids play – no matter if it’s January or June. She’s also an easy mark for them – she’ll buy them things so she won’t have to hear them whine, which only encourages more whining. If I’m around, I can at least take them places or read to them, and I don’t give in to their every whim.

    I do stand to get a nice inheritance from my mom (not that I’m looking for her to die, just know what she has but it’s her money so she can do what she wants with it), and I’m thinking of having the estate modified to have my brother be the sole beneficiary. If kids are older and my mom passes away, then my brother will get all of the estate and when I file for divorce, she’ll get none of it. Of course, need to discuss with my brother first (he knows I have minor issues with my wife, but not the major issues).

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    Anonymous
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    Welcome Crowbar, I am in the same situation as you. Almost 22 years of marriage. It is hard to get out, we men take our responsibilities seriously.

    At least you have the kids, you will never be completely alone thanks to them.

    Ralf,
    As it says in the masculine principle the order of love is men -> women -> kids -> pets.
    I quite agree with that. I love my kids, and my kids “like” me. I am sure I cannot count on them when they have their own life.
    Dont think you lost a chance of companionship. It may happen, but I guess its when a bond of friendship is established, and not from parenthood.

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