Hey all, asshole here. (intro)

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  • #458098
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    GreenBurst
    GreenBurst
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    Hi, it’s great to meet you all. Sorry if this story is a bit long, but I really need to get this off of my chest.

    I really am a good person deep down, but my life has conspired to force clarity upon me in regards to the hamster, hypergamy/branch-swinging, and female nature. Still young and with most of my 20’s ahead of me, I’ve lived the blue-pill dream up until now. Met her in high school, pretty girl. Took her v-card. long-term relationship from then on out. I was faithful and honorable, as was she. Rescued her from her messed-up home life. Cohabitated. Went to college together. Worked my ass off, but she was always there to support me. Watched her cringing in pain from menstrual health issues – couldn’t go to the doctor because she had no health insurance. Swore that I would get it for her. Graduated. Got a great job in silicon valley, full benefits. Got married and moved across the country for it, thousands of miles away from her messed-up family. Sunshine and short-sleeve weather every day out here. Got an amazing dog, even. Bought her a car (I took the train and walked to work in order to save money) so that she could run errands and go to job interviews. Lived in an expensive gated community with heated pool, sauna, and full gym in a good part of town – because that made her feel safe. I wanted to keep her from suffering because of her anxiety.

    I miscalculated on the budget due to cost-of-living – on just my one income (nearly six figures), we were losing about $1,000/month. Out of nowhere she started accusing me of “hiding away money”. Started saying that it wasn’t working between us. She said she was thinking about leaving. Started yelling at me. Said I wasn’t emotionally there for her. She was going “stir crazy” from being alone at home 8 hours per day. We had been together for 8 years or so at that point, this was all a first. Saw what happens when her “schedule” for children and a future, her aspirations of motherhood, is threatened. The hamster is real guys…

    She uses her humanities degree to get a clerical position at a company out here. Pays decent, less than half of what I was making but I didn’t expect her to be the provider or anything. Things are good for a while. Then work gets more stressful, it becomes hell for me. Lots of layoffs. What did I sign up for out here… I’m wasting my time and ruining my career. At her job, she is smiling eating omelettes and pancakes in the morning while talking with her new girlfriends. At my job I am learning to shut the f~~~ up because the high-power corporate environment is merciless and takes no prisoners. This continues for a while. She gets a $3,000 “upgrade” ring in order to show off to her co-workers.

    I was so unhappy here. It was a mistake to come out here. My aging parents need me back home. After adjusting for cost-of-living, we are actually doing really bad out here (houses cost at least $1,000,000, rent started at $2,500/month and kept rising) and brought this up to her. She didn’t really understand. To her, it was warm out here, far away from her troubles, and she was more than happy to settle here and never visit my family. But I was miserable, so I convinced her to let me quit. So I did. But they wanted to keep me on, so they moved my from a boss that made my life a living hell over to a different one. Okay…So I told her that we had some time, she can get her certifications/exams done with and then we are out of here.

    Despite continuous reminders from her boss/co-workers, she does not study or work towards these goals for more than a year while I suffer at the grind. I am watching the days pass by in the hope that at some point this will end. I hate my life. Suddenly her boss quits, NOW she tries to study because this would open up the door for her. Too little, too late. She fails the exam. Takes no responsibility for the failure. After talking with her, I quit my job for real this time. We are moving back to where we started.

    I don’t want to be this cold. I don’t want to be the bad guy. But this has gone on long enough. I know that the blue-pill dream is an illusion, now. I thought that if I “grew my own” woman so to speak, I could have a traditional relationship and be happy. Someone that I grew up with, like family. But I know that despite years of hard work she will abandon me as soon as I stop producing, because she did it immediately after we got married and moved to SV. So, I make my moves.

    Enough men have fallen. It’s time for a victory. It’s time for me to be an asshole, for the sake of the suffering men that created this board.

    She will not be the one that divorces me, and she will not win.

    #458107
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    FrostByte
    FrostByte
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    Welcome
    Homelessness and divorce are always two missed paychecks away.

    If you rescue a damsel in distress, all you will get is a distressed damsel.

    #458110
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    PistolPete
    PistolPete
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    That is an all to common story, but no less painful to read every time! Welcome!

    #458111
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    GreenBurst
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    Thanks man. Your quote is spot-on, by the way:

    If you rescue a damsel in distress, all you will get is a distressed damsel.

    I once hit myself with expired mace to make sure that it still worked, before we went to her mom’s house to collect her stuff. I also legitimately saved her life once. She hates it if I ever bring either of these up.

    It really feels great to connect with other guys that know what the truth is. I feel like I’ve been lied to my entire life.

    #458115
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    GreenBurst
    GreenBurst
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    Thanks PistolPete! Glad to join the community. Hopefully this story will become less common over time…

    #458121
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    BlacqueJacqueShellacque
    BlacqueJacqueShellacque
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    Welcome GreenBurst. Best of luck with it all.

    #458126
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    TaxGuy
    TaxGuy
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    Enough men have fallen. It’s time for a victory. It’s time for me to be an asshole, for the sake of the suffering men that created this board.

    Dude, don’t do ANYTHING for me. I don’t need a victory and I don’t need you to be an asshole. Do what you have to do to be able to look yourself in the mirror in the morning. If that’s staying with her, then do it. If that’s leaving her, then by all means leave her. But you certainly don’t need to “take one for the team”.

    Oh yeah, and welcome. Look forward to hearing from you.

    Order the good wine

    #458133
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    GreenBurst
    GreenBurst
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    Welcome GreenBurst. Best of luck with it all.

    Thanks Blacque! It’s not going to be easy, but I have a plan on how to “win” in all of this. More of a “draw” honestly, but at least it’s not a defeat.

    #458138
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    GreenBurst
    GreenBurst
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    Enough men have fallen. It’s time for a victory. It’s time for me to be an asshole, for the sake of the suffering men that created this board.

    Dude, don’t do ANYTHING for me. I don’t need a victory and I don’t need you to be an asshole. Do what you have to do to be able to look yourself in the mirror in the morning. If that’s staying with her, then do it. If that’s leaving her, then by all means leave her. But you certainly don’t need to “take one for the team”.

    Oh yeah, and welcome. Look forward to hearing from you.

    I appreciate it TaxGuy, but I’m not sabotaging myself here I promise. I was just trying to say that all too often women are getting their legal ducks in a row behind the man’s back, and hitting him with divorce out of left field. That’s not going to happen this time!

    She is making me choose between her and my own family – really activates my almonds as to who I am going to pick… 🙂

    #458166
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    Nerevar
    Nerevar
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    Welcome, brother! Sit down, help yourself to some scotch or beer, have a cigar and join the rest of us in intelligent conversation!

    "One of the best things internet exposed is just how insane women are." - Freeman_K

    #458171
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    Anonymous
    13

    Welcome.

    She doesn’t care if you see your family because she doesn’t care about YOU.

    You’re young with a good job and years of good earning potential ahead.

    She would not see me for dust.

    #458174
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    Anonymous
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    Once she made that accusation about you hiding money, you two were done!

    It means she has no trust in you and thinks you’re deceptive.

    Know what that means? It means she’s projecting.

    It means you’re with a deceptive c~~~.

    She’s going to get REAL NASTY one day.

    RUN!

    #458198
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    Truthseeker82
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    Welcome and your story touches a familiar theme with many of us. You must do what is best for you – because you know she’ll do what’s best for her. Whatever you do – you’re another man and that makes you part of our family.

    #458241
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    Anonymous
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    Welcome home, Green Burst
    Beer’s in the fridge

    #458299
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    SilverOne
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    Homelessness and divorce are always two missed paychecks away.

    I never even missed one when my third wife threw me out. I had been law enforcement, and got injured on the job. I had to quit. When she found out, she told me she wouldn’t support a jobless man, and ordered me out of my house. To add insult to injury, she threatened to have the Sheriff escort me out if I wouldn’t leave.

    I don’t believe in female magic anymore. And will never again gut myself to make room for it. --Narwhal--

    #458316
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    PistolPete
    PistolPete
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    When she found out, she told me she wouldn’t support a jobless man, and ordered me out of my house. To add insult to injury, she threatened to have the Sheriff escort me out if I wouldn’t leave.

    HOLY S~~~!

    #458369
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    Mr. Man
    Mr. Man
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    Women, no matter how loved, pampered and coddled, are never happy. They are incapable of being happy. That simple truth has brought me so much clarity and sanity. And it’s stories like yours that reinforce it time and again.

    That was a helluva introduction, GreenBurst. Thanks for sharing it. Welcome.

    #458388
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    K
    Hitman
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    great intro,
    have that plan brother.
    and stay away from her as much as possible!
    welcome,
    your’e in the right place !

    #458395

    Anonymous
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    I’m glad I don’t have an asshole with a c~~~ living two inches away!

    Welcome to the merry band of asshole marriage thieves!

    #458498
    Atton
    Atton
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    She will not be the one that divorces me, and she will not win.

    Haah you f~~~ing fool.

    A MGTOW is a man who is not a woman's bitch!

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