Finding a context

[ConfuciusParticipant 183]

Keymaster wrote:

When you find yourself feeling like a product of your environment, consider switching it up so your environment is a product of you.

Yes, there is indeed no need for the puzzle to already exist.

Keymaster wrote:

Finding a context” is looking to fit into a pre-existing puzzle (the analogy you used) or a pre-defined and specific role.

I still think most of us are happier if we feel that we are part of something bigger. Maybe I am still too blue-bill.

Keymaster wrote:

And aren’t women always trying fit us “square pegs” into their round holes?

My “peg” is certainly not square 😉

"Life is really simple, but men insist on making it complicated."

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Confucius wrote:

Yes, there is indeed no need for the puzzle to already exist.

In many ways yes. A company or business needs to be pre-established in order for you to “get a job”. Conversely, opening your own business means there is no umbrella above you. That’s the difference I was illustrating… being a product & part of an environment, vs. the environment being a product of you.

In personal relationships, we sometimes tolerate certain & toxic people in our personal lives when we can simply get rid of them or remove ourselves.

As an example, I have carved a few toxic people out of my life – just like that. One of the best things I ever did. I assumed control of my social environment and would CHOOSE who I want in my social circle – and who I don’t.

Same kind of thing.

You had mentioned finding “where you fit in” – socially – as a means of fulfillment so that’s why I illustrated the difference. How it applies directly will vary of course.

Confucius wrote:

I still think most of us are happier if we feel that we are part of something bigger. Maybe I am still too blue-bill.

The army / navy is an example of that. Dedicating one’s life to something BIGGER and more important than oneself.

On the other hand, Wibur Wright said “I don’t have time for a wife and an airplane”. He dedicated his life to creating air travel – which is STILL something bigger and more important than himself for the sake of all humanity.

Confucius wrote:

My “peg” is certainly not square

Nor is mine, my friend. I’m more of a Star of Lakshmi, myself. (winks)

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[sidecarParticipant 35851]

Confucius wrote:

To live a fulfilling life a man needs to exist in a greater context.

Unfortunately for women, video games and porn make an excellent greater context.

But that is not our problem.

[ViciouscunningtreacherousParticipant 823]

In a way, every man on this site has illustrated their need and attempts at context. It’s in the wiring of the individual. We, at some point in our lives, wanted or needed to be appreciated and to feel that we matter in the grand scheme of things. We live in a world where men are not appreciated nor valued. This fact has created our modern negative context. What can we do or say to others that have value or necessity when we are perceived as valueless? Mgtow to me, seems as more a defense mechanism that must be employed in an environment of directed hostility. Work by default serves as some form of context in that you are serving others. You get paid to work, therefore it has value. Contributing here is context. Serving those that need to be served is context. Being the entrepreneur that comes up with the next best thing is context as well. Let’s face it. The biological urge to be the kind of men that we are is undeniable. That was most our prevailing context that simply does not exist anymore. I think it is necessary that the inevitable implosion take place because then full context as we knew it can prevail. Until then we as men are limited in our contextual outlets.

For in much wisdom is much grief, and he who increases knowledge increases sorrow.

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