Female Friends: Yes or No?

[Knights Templar RisingParticipant 5106]

I have only one female platonic friend.  I generally find women mentally unstable, or downright dumb. It was platonic from the beginning, because she was dating one of my friends many moons ago. She is fairly close to some sort of red pill woman, never had kids and owns her own house etc.  She lives out of state now, but sometimes she comes back to visit relatives and few of us meet up for a some beers etc.  After 47 years she is the only female worthy of being a platonic friend.

Sovereignty above all else.

[RennieParticipant]

None, do not believe in being “friends” with women.

[Omega 3 Snake OilParticipant 29]

I sometimes but not often keep female friends. When I was younger (say, 15-25) it was usually me secretly wanting her, or wanting one of her friends and hoping she’d help me to that end… today it’s usually her wanting me. I’ll keep the friendship for as long as it works for me, while staying aware of exactly how her mind works and what she’s most likely after.

I had a good convo with a girl I dated recently the other day. I’m going through a rough patch and she was good to talk to. I didn’t mind listening to her bitch about her latest BF for a few minutes because she was there for me as well. Quid pro quo. P

[RusskyParticipant 13503]

friends is a male concept

proud carrier of the 'why?' chromosome

[Anonymous 9]

Every female friend of mine who I considered somewhat attractive I f~~~ed.

Then afterwards that just ruined everything between us, but who f~~~ing cares?

They knew exactly how I’d interact with women because we talked about it, and they always called me a “dog”, or would hand out some other compliment.

So if they already knew about my views on having female friends, then why stick around?

Because they knew I would eventually f~~~ them.

There’s a hot Latina waitress at a restaurant that I often frequent, and she speaks to me every time I come in, and she also gives me this seductive eye. But she’s married, and her husband owns the place; when I walked in a few weeks ago he ushers me to my seat, and then his wife was nearby and he gives her a kiss – as if he suspected something.

Talk about a blue pill pussy…smh.

That story may not have relevance to this thread, but I brought it up as this guy’s wife is not to be trusted; if we were to see each other I wouldn’t have any trouble f~~~ing her at all because the tension is that great. But I don’t mess around with married chicks, and for that reason I’ve kind of stopped going to the restaurant. Insecure dudes are not cool to be around, and when it’s the manager there’s no telling what he could do to my food out of jealousy.

Now, I wouldn’t have a girlfriend, let along a friend who uses me as a confidant in when her current boyfriend is making her very emotional.

[Cap285Participant 6007]

They have zero use beyond their fun parts.

Fuck this planet.

[BDParticipant 1146]

Aitsu wrote:

If so what benefits do you see?

No benefits.

Prior to Mgtow I used to keep several close girl friends,

Now I literally can’t stand the verbal diarrhoea that exits their mouths,

And they constantly try to ambush(set you up) you with their friends, no thanks,

Their hypocrisies are exposed every visit, and the men in their lives are getting f~~~ed over,

I’d rather spend time with the bros that are not manginafied, or the dog, or the four walls.

Because in order to be able to think, you have to risk being offensive.

[IGMOW (I Go My Own Way)Participant 2572]

Myself, with any women, I strip them of their identity as women, before I deal with them, and see them as humans.  I only relate and so on, if it is of benefit for me, and connects somehow.  I know such at a Church I attend, and I just know some.  I generally keep to myself.  I have done off and on corresponding over the Net with some women, but that is more penpal stuff. I can be agreeable, but it doesn’t.

I believe it is possible, if they respect your boundaries.  If they can’t, then they aren’t a friend, but someone you know who can be a pain and is tried to be avoided.

Of course, other MGTOW can deal with women differently, if they choose to do so.

"I am my own thang. Any questions?" - Davis S Pumpkins.

[Mango IngawayParticipant 2264]

Russky wrote:

friends is a male concept

Men have friends.
Females have servants and tools.

That’s pretty much it.

It is a common failing of childhood to think that if one makes a hero out of a demon the demon will be satisfied.

[Anonymous 11]

For the most part, they are not worth having as friends. Mr. Fix it or emotional tampon what you are usually getting out of it, nothing.

If you find one that reciprocates, then it may be worthwhile. I’ve removed all female “friends” except for one. She was first to warn me to bail on my last relations~~~. She was there for me when my dog and mother died. She invites me over for dinner a few times a month basically cares for me as a human being. I even do things for her. She’s post wall and much more humble than she was 23 years ago. No kids either so that makes it easier too.

I don’t let her run my life, but I do listen to her advice. I know this one like a book and keeping it platonic cuts out a lot of the crap.

[RusskyParticipant 13503]

I befriended a gal on the FB who always posted a lot of liberty-oriented content. In other words it appeared we had a lot in common. But she’s not by any means attractive. So I told her let’s be friends, got her number, and we talked several times about what goes on in the world and s~~~. But then out of nowhere she started making sexual advances. I told her I wasn’t interested. She took it really hard and told me I was boring which pretty much ended these conversations. She was never looking for a friend – she was looking for a sucker to take care of her and her daughter of course. So yeah – it’s either you’re f~~~ing or there is nothing. There is no friendship with most women. I heard there are exceptions but I haven’t come across them yet. And I am 36.

proud carrier of the 'why?' chromosome

[VictorParticipant 124]

I’ve always looked at women in a romantic/sexual way, so I don’t want friendship with any woman.  I do think that, as a rule, one follows from the other.  If you want to have sex with women, it’s near-impossible to see them as friends save for very specific circumstances.  I’m not opposed to the notion in general however and have had a couple of Platonic female friends in the past: once in school when very young and then later when a post-graduate student.  Those relationships were relatively brief and developed organically.  They were not formed with any ulterior intention on my part, though looking back I think the first friend did have romantic designs on me, it’s just that I wasn’t attracted to her.

I do like talking to women when it comes to intimacy, feelings, etc.  There’s nothing like it in the world, but I don’t particularly enjoy talking with women about more prosaic things.  I tend to find that women in general are pretty conservative and boring, quite shallow really, and (contrary to popular belief) lacking in empathy.  I also had difficulty relating to women the same age when I was a young man in my middle 20s.  When I struck up a conversation with one that I found attractive, it felt like I was talking to a 14 year-old.  Even ‘intelligent’ women (i.e. educated, good jobs, etc.) seem quite superficial, frivolous and childish with their conversational subject-matter and priorities.  Over the years, I’ve thought about this a lot and come to the tentative conclusion that women are children who want to be dominated.  Where I went wrong as a young man was pedastalising women – having too much respect for them, if anything – and believing that I needed to adapt and adjust to them rather than the other way round.  I wish I had been educated in this subject 20 years ago.  My life would have been much better.

[Anonymous 2]

I had one. I used to have sex with her, but it became platonic (and f~~~ing boring) later on.

 

In the end she just has too many problems caused by her own stupidity. She knows she has a hard time keeping a job with her uneducated ass, always has money issues, and what does she do…? Buys a f~~~ing dog. Later on she asked me to loan her some money because she couldn’t afford the rent. I loaned her the money but she had to pay me back with the money she inherited from her father’s death 6 months later.

I have blatantly stated I’m no longer catering to women that don’t actually have sex with me. That includes her annual sleepover. F~~~ it… I don’t want to be dealing with her broke ass or the sobstories attached to it anymore. I’m just too tired.

[UptownjesusParticipant 95]

I do have a take on this. When I was much younger, I had many female friends. More than male. I wasn’t great with the ladies, and my self esteem was pretty bad. I was extremely lonely and based my sense of self worth on how much attention I could get from women. I wasn’t ever really hanging around them because I truly enjoyed their company. They were really just props I was using in an attempt to confirm that I had value as a human being. Pretty much in every instance. Now that I’m a bit older and a bit more secure, I don’t feel the need to do this anymore. I look back at my younger days and realize the tremendous amount of time and effort I wasted on something that not only failed to benefit me in any way, but that also cost me quite a bit and created a lot of problems for me. When I see other young guys hanging out with their female “friends” I can tell when it’s just an attempt at supplementing what they perceive as a hole in their life, or when they’re just doing it because they have a crush on her and naively believe that “one day she’ll see me for the wonderful human being I am and she’ll realize she loves me, too.” It really disgusts me, now, because I did it for so long and it just about ruined me. I’m positive that there are probably exceptions to this rule, and that’s fine, but as a general rule, female friends will always end up draining you in some way, and it’s smarter just to say no. And if you’re maintaining a friendship with a female because of romantic interests, then you are truly a f~~~ing moron and you obviously haven’t had enough taken from you yet to make the decision to go your own way. Try truly giving the same treatment to your female friends that you do to your male friends and watch how quickly they turn on you. She ain’t your friend, bro.

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