Feeling too lonely !

[Gravel PitParticipant]

Wonderful topic, glad to see all the good guys here to post.

I’m 32 years old as well. 5 years celibate/monk through simply not chasing women.

I love tuna but I hate fishing. Easy way to explain my sexless existence. Do I want affection and sex, sure. It costs…. I will not pay; neither time, money, interest or anything… its too cheap for such high cost.

Solution: A wealth of hobbies, acquaintances, mental/physical/’spiritual’ health are all important. Good luck with it.

These last couple months, I was actively trying to throw in the monk towel and flirt/date/talk to women and get sex… what I encountered is just more reasons to stay the heck away from their two-faced crazy neurotic messy lives. They’re all a mess. You may come to find out, your loneliness is a small price to pay to keep your life as good as it is right now. And trust me, the longer you stay away from women, your tranquility, wealth, aquisitions, health and more ALL increase. The second you start devoting time and mental energy to a c~~~…. your life enters BEAR MARKET

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

Christophe_1985 wrote:

How do you cope with loneliness in your life ???

Go outside and play.

Spend enough time around other people and you learn to appreciate the time you get to spend alone.

Stop giving a f~~~ about women, stop chasing them, and they will start chasing you. The more they chase you, the fewer f~~~s you’ll give about them.

[Anonymous 38]

To live alone is the fate of all great souls.

There is in life only the choice between loneliness and vulgarity.

~Arthur Schopenhauer (often dismissed as a total pessimist but he had a very accurate view on women).

Loneliness, the wolf that is ever at the door. It comes and gos, just remember that no woman will not cure your loneliness beyond a few warm nights. Keep busy.

[Anonymous 18]

The silliness of group-think is the presumption that MGTOW is for all men. It is not. Some men don’t mind enjoying a woman’s companionship regardless of her immorality and his emotional/financial disposability.

If you can’t find hobbies and philosophies to indulge in at your leisure, may be MGTOW isn’t for you.

Most of us are natural solitude-friendly and had an inkling for some form of mental dialogue that doesn’t overlap with mainstream ideas of women and relationships. GYOW – even if its to be a beta husband.

No hard feels man. Sanity over ideology is what I say.

[ShineParticipant 1696]

Christophe_1985 wrote:

Problem with me is that I live in a small appartment (studio), so I cannot have any animals…

Furthermore I am depressive since long time and I have already lots of trouble to get to my job… :-/

Some great support already show on how to feel less lonley in this world.

I think in your thirties you still have alot of aspirations and thinking about what you want to achieve in life. It gets a little easier once you hit forty, as people around you slow down and if you can keep yourself in good shape you stay well ahead of the pack.

I’m a loner by choice, partly as I work alot of w/ends, so my social time is often limited to during the weekdays, so options become limitted.

My stratergy is to keep busy everyday with hobbies, usually as simple as taking a gym class such as yoga, MMA, or I might head out with some mates for some recreation.

A few hours makes a big difference to feeling alone, the rest of the day I’m happy to chill and rest up and recover, or go for another gym session (eg yoga in the morning, rest, meal prep, MMA in the evening).

I also found myself stuck in an anxiety / depression kind of loop where one was feeding the other, and it was mostly caused by external sources, hanging around f~~~wit men acting like highschool jerks. Mostly through work, but also mangina syndrome where blue pillers simping for their wymn and being agressive narcs trying their alphatard routine on a bro.

A change of circumstances freed me from this, and I slowly moved on from being a loner surrounded by agonists, to just being a loner surrounded by awesome hobbies that I could focus freely on, and not be picked apart and riduclued for being me.

This allowed me to grow in my fitness pursuits, and also to think clearer, more freely, and also to elevate self worth.

A few other things happened in this time, I found MGTOW, which gave me a voice, which helped turn on the NFG and just enjoy living.

A few years back I was just at the turning point of getting back my confidence and emerging from the darkness, and I bought a sex doll. I’ll spare most of the details, but I had been pulling the plonker ALOT and even after escaping the clutch of my depressed state, I was still tossing off and didn’t really know why (grass greener with thot?).

Fast forward to this year, and I was doing pretty good elevating from the darker days I’d be stuck in for many years, the doll was helping break a little of the isolation, but I was still fapping madly awell as doing the doll. I also was hitting the grog sporadically.

It was the middle of this year I decided to upgrade the doll, what I ended up with was a little unexpected, but ultimatley the latest silicone dolls are pretty damn good, so good that I don’t miss the real thing. This is an ace up the sleave, asexuality – or the choice to say f~~~ it I don’t need to hunt for c~~~ any more.

Get rejected in pursuit of love? Ah well, probably saved alot of hassle anyway, doll will be there and bangable when in the mood.

MGTOW.com getting bombarded with kittylitter, yeah it’s cool to chat to the bros, and have a little bit of talk to the some others out there struggling or just looking to get some motivation to put more effort in. Just laugh to myself and think that crazy bastard really could use some sex, take a doll for a roll and give the site a break for a while.

I also have stopped looking at porn and masturbating, which has been a habbit I have been battling for a HELL of a long time, haha, but now it’s a weight off the mind. Have doll, will f~~~ it.

To be fair to the doll community, dolls are alot more than just Alternative Intimate Partners. They offer companionship for many around the world. It’s pretty cool just having a chill with one and having that presence like someone is there for you.

"Society is to blame" Denton

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

Anonymous wrote:

The silliness of group-think is the presumption that MGTOW is for all men. It is not. Some men don’t mind enjoying a woman’s companionship regardless of her immorality and his emotional/financial disposability.

Going Your Own Way is not whether or not you enjoy the company of women any more than it’s about enjoying a day playing golf.

Going Your Own Way is NOT PAYING for women.

There’s a difference.

Going monk is one way to not pay for women. Another way is simply not paying.

No marriage. No cohabitation. No children.

Everything else is up to you.

[JustAnotherGuyParticipant]

sidecar wrote:

Going Your Own Way is NOT PAYING for women.

There’s a difference.

Going monk is one way to not pay for women. Another way is simply not paying.

They may get to choose who they bone in their twenties, but we get to pick who gets our money and time. If you haven’t yet put together that women have officially priced themselves out of the market, you need to keep lurking and absorbing.

My guess? Probably a solid third to half of MGTOW fall into what DDJ calls the “reluctant” category–if they rationally, logically thought they actually had any options or rights, they would not be on this path. The rest are the pure bloods and the ones that got sniped and later realized the juice was not worth the squeeze.

Men are reflective creatures (women are generally not). Testosterone, it’s a helluva drug.

Cupcakes are Cold. MGTOW is Absolute Zero.
“Let us wait a little; when your enemy is executing a false movement, never interrupt him” –Napoleon Bonaparte, 1805

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

JustAnotherGuy wrote:

If you haven’t yet put together that women have officially priced themselves out of the market, you need to keep lurking and absorbing.

The thing of it is, though, now that children are completely off the table for men, women are left with only one thing to sell in that market. They have only one thing to offer men, but they, themselves, need men for everything. So once you walk away from the table, “No Sale,” they come chasing after you. What else can they do? Like a drug dealer they start throwing free samples at you hoping to get you hooked and turn you into a paying customer once again.

Don’t get hooked.

Never pay.

[JustAnotherGuyParticipant]

sidecar wrote:

The thing of it is, though, now that children are completely off the table for men, women are left with only one thing to sell in that market. They have only one thing to offer men, but they, themselves, need men for everything. So once you walk away from the table, “No Sale,” they come chasing after you. What else can they do? Like a drug dealer they start throwing free samples at you hoping to get you hooked and turn you into a paying customer once again.

Don’t get hooked.

Never pay.

The average “modern” woman started having sex at 13, has been brainwashed that she needs a career but kids are only going to get in her way, and convinced that all men everywhere are rapists while they pass out sex like it’s the Halloween candy nobody wanted but it’s 11:00 and you need to get rid of it Or spend the next week eating it.

Don’t take the midnight candy.

Cupcakes are Cold. MGTOW is Absolute Zero.
“Let us wait a little; when your enemy is executing a false movement, never interrupt him” –Napoleon Bonaparte, 1805

[kbbroilerParticipant 886]

My advice would be get a pet like a dog or a cat. As far as people goes, do you work out at a gym? You will generally start to talk to people there if you work out regularly. Then how about these meet up groups on wwww.meetup.com. There is different interest groups which you can join and meet people. Don’t get involved with a woman because you are lonely. A woman should compliment your life not be your life.

[coolthingy450Participant 1223]

Nags4Cash wrote:

Actually this is easy to solve if you’re desperately lonely. Just friend zone yourself with a chick and keep your feelings in check. Then you get all the s~~~ benefits of women’s friendship without the risk of having your money taken.
For me being alone comes natural, I get annoyed when I have to talk to people to order coffee which is the majority of my human interaction in a day.

Did exactly that with my best friend. She herself though because she claims that she is ugly or average looking said she perfers to live alone. If i was forced to marry though at the very least she got a brain and respects me. But im not lonely though. I can only handle one best friend and a selection of a few close friends that’s it.

Actions have consequences and consequences have prices. Cause and effect at work.

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