Feeling too lonely !

[Christophe_1985Participant 72]

Hello !

I like the philosophy of the MGTOW, I watch many videos on Youtube from Sandman and others…

In fact I agree with almost every part of their arguments !

BUT…

I am lonely as f~~~ !

At only 32 years of age I really don’t see myself living like this for many years !

I have family and I have friends but I cannot see them everyday…

Before I had no problem of being alone, but more and more I can’t stand it !

How do you cope with loneliness in your life ???

[Anonymous 1]

It’s a great question. I look at it like there are many temptations out there to screw up ones life that start out feeling good, such as drugs, booze etc. If you can avoid these things thats great, but if not and you get too much, you will have to enter into a recovery stage for the rest of your life. Company with harpies is the same, great at first, but goes south in time and you will be punished for your lapse of judgment.

I have dogs and am lucky to have female friends that tolerate my attitudes. I and they are good loyal friends, but of course we are never intimate.

Intimacy is important and not the same as sex though sometimes you can try and get on with the other, I have yet to make that happen at this stage. I have branded squarely on my soul, no woman allowed.

[Anonymous 6]

I know how you feel OP, monk mode about 3 years now, trying to harden myself to this way of living for a while now, when i have doubts I ask myself would I really want go back in time and marry my ex and have kids with her? The answer would still be no, and when you think about it isn’t it really only freedom disguised as loneliness?

[JustAnotherGuyParticipant]

It’s a harsh and unforgiving world we live in. Learning to be alone but not lonely is not something everybody can do. I think it largely depends upon how analytical you are. The more reason and evidence govern your life, the more you’re able to accept that being alone is the only safety out there for men right now.

Civilization is a s~~~ show. You might have some rights on paper, but unless you’re in the “aristocracy” those rights are not enforced or enforceable. You have even fewer rights when it comes to women.

If you absolutely cannot stand it, you need to accept that your life is going to be a revolving carousel of short-term indulgences. Remember that she’s not yours, it’s only your turn. For the more Chaddish, it’s basically a dream come true as women will burn through relationships like they’re going out of style. However, remember that you’re always, all the time, 100% accountable for everything you do AND everything she does. If you’re both drinking, for example, you’re still responsible.

Going your own way is the only safety you have. But if you can’t handle that, then you need to find things to distract yourself. Be too busy to obsess over loneliness. Pick up time-consuming, arduous hobbies. Work out all the damn time (my vice). Try to get onto a professional e-Sports team or something. Learn skills.

It never really gets easier, you just learn to spend less time obsessing over it.

Remember, take care of yourself because nobody else will.

Cupcakes are Cold. MGTOW is Absolute Zero.
“Let us wait a little; when your enemy is executing a false movement, never interrupt him” –Napoleon Bonaparte, 1805

[HermitParticipant]

Christophe_1985, are you lonely because you crave to be around people, or are you lonely because you want the companionship of a woman in your home?

I suppose I really don’t understand loneliness, because I can’t stand to be around most people and being home alone is probably when I’m most happy and content. I am forced to be around people I don’t like every day because of my job. I very much look forward to going home and the thought of being home alone gets me through the day.

If I was the only person on the planet Mars and I had everything I have here and could survive there and I had no way of every seeing or speaking with another person for the rest of my life, maybe I would get lonely then, but I’m not sure. Even people I get along with most of the time, say and do stupid s~~~ to irritate me. I realize I’m guilty of the same thing as I am only human as well, but this is why it’s so much easier to be alone.

Once a week I go to a place to hangout for drinks and good food and there are the regular people I see there most every time and even the strangers are pretty friendly, but by the end of the night, I’m ready to say goodbye and get back to my solitude at home. I have a friend or two I meet at the shooting range every now and then, but again, once we’ve practiced enough, I’m ready to get home. There are maybe one or two other friends I see even more infrequently, maybe less than once a month.

If I didn’t have to have a job and I didn’t have to go to the store to buy things I need, maybe I would get lonely. However, the older I get, the more I enjoy being alone. Also, I just can’t stand to have people in my house for very long. My friends my family, I don’t mind them visiting and maybe watching a movie, but then, I’m ready for them to leave so I can have my privacy back.

The evil in women’s hearts leaves them no moral bounds as to inhibit them from descending to the lowest levels of darkness to acquire their self entitled desires.

[Nags4CashParticipant 1163]

Actually this is easy to solve if you’re desperately lonely. Just friend zone yourself with a chick and keep your feelings in check. Then you get all the s~~~ benefits of women’s friendship without the risk of having your money taken.

For me being alone comes natural, I get annoyed when I have to talk to people to order coffee which is the majority of my human interaction in a day.

Murph ~ There is nothing brave or manly about entering into a contract with somebody which allows them to take your money, assets, children, and decades of your future income on a mere whim.

[TaxGuyParticipant]

I posted a topic on this a week or two ago. Some suggestions that I remember:

Get a pet, hobby, second job, investments, volunteer, take a class, play an instrument….

Order the good wine

[ArcturisParticipant 2819]

Hi OP;

Interesting topic because it’s something I’ve been experiencing too for the past few weeks.

What turned it around was spending quality time with quality people who I can have a real conversation with.

They know what I’m like and appreciate me for it. It was just 2 days. Each with a different person but it re-charged me. 2 of my closest friends who for some reason or another we only meet every 12-18 months or so.

I love spending time alone, but it was important for me to balance it out with some quality ‘people time’. People who you don’t have to ‘pretend’ around and an environment where you can just be yourself.

I write a journal every week about my goals and thoughts etc.

After this I actually wrote ‘Alone but not lonely’. Now I’m happy to be ‘alone’ for another year before I need a bit of companionship again.

My 2 cents.

Protect Your Sovereignty. Women WILL TRY To Manipulate You. #NOCONTACT #ICETHEMOUT

[Christophe_1985Participant 72]

Anonymous wrote:

It’s a great question. I look at it like there are many temptations out there to screw up ones life that start out feeling good, such as drugs, booze etc. If you can avoid these things thats great, but if not and you get too much, you will have to enter into a recovery stage for the rest of your life. Company with harpies is the same, great at first, but goes south in time and you will be punished for your lapse of judgment.
I have dogs and am lucky to have female friends that tolerate my attitudes. I and they are good loyal friends, but of course we are never intimate.
Intimacy is important and not the same as sex though sometimes you can try and get on with the other, I have yet to make that happen at this stage. I have branded squarely on my soul, no woman allowed.

Hi !

No drugs and just alcohol for fun but never by myself… 😉

Problem with me is that I live in a small appartment (studio), so I cannot have any animals… Furthermore I am depressive since long time and I have already lots of trouble to get to my job… :-/

Sometimes I am thinking about women who have children because they have had their time of glory with marriage and kids, and now they maybe just want to share life with a simple guy… I precise that I will NOT take the children on my side ! LOL

I know this is not very MGTOW but still I wanted to have your opinions…

[Christophe_1985Participant 72]

Anonymous wrote:

I know how you feel OP, monk mode about 3 years now, trying to harden myself to this way of living for a while now, when i have doubts I ask myself would I really want go back in time and marry my ex and have kids with her? The answer would still be no, and when you think about it isn’t it really only freedom disguised as loneliness?

Hello !

In fact, for many years I was just happy living by myself, I was working and since I got home I was very happy ! Same for the weekends, I was happy not to see anyone unless I wanted to…

But nowadays things have changed for me… I am tired of being always by myself… This sucks in a way because I still love being alone but deeply inside I need something else…

[HermitParticipant]

Arcturis wrote:

Hi OP;
Interesting topic because it’s something I’ve been experiencing too for the past few weeks.
What turned it around was spending quality time with quality people who I can have a real conversation with.
They know what I’m like and appreciate me for it. It was just 2 days. Each with a different person but it re-charged me. 2 of my closest friends who for some reason or another we only meet every 12-18 months or so.
I love spending time alone, but it was important for me to balance it out with some quality ‘people time’. People who you don’t have to ‘pretend’ around and an environment where you can just be yourself.
I write a journal every week about my goals and thoughts etc.
After this I actually wrote ‘Alone but not lonely’. Now I’m happy to be ‘alone’ for another year before I need a bit of companionship again.
My 2 cents.

That’s probably why I’m never lonely……….once a week at the hangout, shooting with friends…………that and the thing where I can’t stand most people.

The evil in women’s hearts leaves them no moral bounds as to inhibit them from descending to the lowest levels of darkness to acquire their self entitled desires.

[Christophe_1985Participant 72]

JustAnotherGuy wrote:

It’s a harsh and unforgiving world we live in. Learning to be alone but not lonely is not something everybody can do. I think it largely depends upon how analytical you are. The more reason and evidence govern your life, the more you’re able to accept that being alone is the only safety out there for men right now.
Civilization is a s~~~ show. You might have some rights on paper, but unless you’re in the “aristocracy” those rights are not enforced or enforceable. You have even fewer rights when it comes to women.
If you absolutely cannot stand it, you need to accept that your life is going to be a revolving carousel of short-term indulgences. Remember that she’s not yours, it’s only your turn. For the more Chaddish, it’s basically a dream come true as women will burn through relationships like they’re going out of style. However, remember that you’re always, all the time, 100% accountable for everything you do AND everything she does. If you’re both drinking, for example, you’re still responsible.
Going your own way is the only safety you have. But if you can’t handle that, then you need to find things to distract yourself. Be too busy to obsess over loneliness. Pick up time-consuming, arduous hobbies. Work out all the damn time (my vice). Try to get onto a professional e-Sports team or something. Learn skills.
It never really gets easier, you just learn to spend less time obsessing over it.
Remember, take care of yourself because nobody else will.

Thank you for your message !

The last sentence you wrote is very correct ! But I still haven’t assimilate it… :-/

[Christophe_1985Participant 72]

Hermit wrote:

Christophe_1985, are you lonely because you crave to be around people, or are you lonely because you want the companionship of a woman in your home?
I suppose I really don’t understand loneliness, because I can’t stand to be around most people and being home alone is probably when I’m most happy and content. I am forced to be around people I don’t like every day because of my job. I very much look forward to going home and the thought of being home alone gets me through the day.
If I was the only person on the planet Mars and I had everything I have here and could survive there and I had no way of every seeing or speaking with another person for the rest of my life, maybe I would get lonely then, but I’m not sure. Even people I get along with most of the time, say and do stupid s~~~ to irritate me. I realize I’m guilty of the same thing as I am only human as well, but this is why it’s so much easier to be alone.
Once a week I go to a place to hangout for drinks and good food and there are the regular people I see there most every time and even the strangers are pretty friendly, but by the end of the night, I’m ready to say goodbye and get back to my solitude at home. I have a friend or two I meet at the shooting range every now and then, but again, once we’ve practiced enough, I’m ready to get home. There are maybe one or two other friends I see even more infrequently, maybe less than once a month.
If I didn’t have to have a job and I didn’t have to go to the store to buy things I need, maybe I would get lonely. However, the older I get, the more I enjoy being alone. Also, I just can’t stand to have people in my house for very long. My friends my family, I don’t mind them visiting and maybe watching a movie, but then, I’m ready for them to leave so I can have my privacy back.

Good question !

I like seeing my friends and family but I don’t want them to see that I demand some companionship, I don’t want to bother them if I begin to ask for too much…

Thing is that only a woman would agree to be around me most of the time… But do I want this much ??? I am not sure ! LOL

Actually I was exactly like you for many years ! But now I have changed, something has changed inside of me… And I cannot keep the life I used to have…

Have you always been a solitary man ?

[Christophe_1985Participant 72]

Nags4Cash wrote:

Actually this is easy to solve if you’re desperately lonely. Just friend zone yourself with a chick and keep your feelings in check. Then you get all the s~~~ benefits of women’s friendship without the risk of having your money taken.
For me being alone comes natural, I get annoyed when I have to talk to people to order coffee which is the majority of my human interaction in a day.

No friendzone for me thanks ! 😉

Because I have already friends and family… I would need something more deep…

[HermitParticipant]

Christophe_1985 wrote:

Good question !
I like seeing my friends and family but I don’t want them to see that I demand some companionship, I don’t want to bother them if I begin to ask for too much…
Thing is that only a woman would agree to be around me most of the time… But do I want this much ??? I am not sure ! LOL
Actually I was exactly like you for many years ! But now I have changed, something has changed inside of me… And I cannot keep the life I used to have…
Have you always been a solitary man ?

“……demand companionship….”….????….. Man, you make it sound like you’re desperate and you believe they may think you’re being to clingy. If you want to be around them, I’d just be around them. If you’re bothering them, they should be able to tell you if they care about you at all.

I don’t mind being around some women, sometimes, for brief moments. Reckon, you’ll have to weigh that out for yourself. Sounds like you don’t want to come right out and say it, but you want a relationship. God help you if this is the path you’re considering.

When I was younger, in my early 20’s, I “thought” I was lonely, and maybe back then I was, but only because I was too ignorant and immature at the time. Looking back, I had it made. Juggling several hot gals all the time, I don’t see how I could have ever felt lonely. After being married and living with a woman for over two decades of my life, any time alone was precious. I’m in my early 50’s now and as I said, the older I get the more I can’t stand people and the more I enjoy being a “solitary man” as you put it. So no, I wasn’t always this way. When I was younger, I wanted to be around people, but like I said, only because I was immature and didn’t know any better. During that time, I wasn’t a very happy person either. Now that I’ve matured and gained some experience, I realize what I was craving wasn’t good for me. I am now alone and happy.

It isn’t like I spend weeks alone. Like I said, I have a job, I have a hangout, I have friends……….but when I go home, I want to be alone. I don’t want anyone there invading my privacy.

The evil in women’s hearts leaves them no moral bounds as to inhibit them from descending to the lowest levels of darkness to acquire their self entitled desires.

[Christophe_1985Participant 72]

Arcturis wrote:

Hi OP;
Interesting topic because it’s something I’ve been experiencing too for the past few weeks.
What turned it around was spending quality time with quality people who I can have a real conversation with.
They know what I’m like and appreciate me for it. It was just 2 days. Each with a different person but it re-charged me. 2 of my closest friends who for some reason or another we only meet every 12-18 months or so.
I love spending time alone, but it was important for me to balance it out with some quality ‘people time’. People who you don’t have to ‘pretend’ around and an environment where you can just be yourself.
I write a journal every week about my goals and thoughts etc.
After this I actually wrote ‘Alone but not lonely’. Now I’m happy to be ‘alone’ for another year before I need a bit of companionship again.
My 2 cents.

Very interesting answer as well, thanks for it ! 🙂

I totally agree with the quality over quantity ! Anyway with time and depression, I was “forced” to only keep the closest people around me…

Have you ever lived with a woman before ?

[HermitParticipant]

Christophe_1985 wrote:

Arcturis wrote:

Hi OP;Interesting topic because it’s something I’ve been experiencing too for the past few weeks.What turned it around was spending quality time with quality people who I can have a real conversation with.They know what I’m like and appreciate me for it. It was just 2 days. Each with a different person but it re-charged me. 2 of my closest friends who for some reason or another we only meet every 12-18 months or so.I love spending time alone, but it was important for me to balance it out with some quality ‘people time’. People who you don’t have to ‘pretend’ around and an environment where you can just be yourself.I write a journal every week about my goals and thoughts etc.After this I actually wrote ‘Alone but not lonely’. Now I’m happy to be ‘alone’ for another year before I need a bit of companionship again.My 2 cents.

Very interesting answer as well, thanks for it !
I totally agree with the quality over quantity ! Anyway with time and depression, I was “forced” to only keep the closest people around me…
Have you ever lived with a woman before ?

I know you didn’t ask me this question, but I have lived with females twice in my life and it was miserable both times. I’ll never do it again as long as I live.

The evil in women’s hearts leaves them no moral bounds as to inhibit them from descending to the lowest levels of darkness to acquire their self entitled desires.

[iMickey503Participant 12465]

I was thinking about starting with the image above. I have been working on this post for about.. 4 hours.. Why? Don’t know. But let me show you what I think is more fitting.

But then I thought.. Wait. Are your NOT Dutch? Don’t you LOVE CHOCOLATE! Dutch PEOPLE LOVE CHOCOLATE! Here is a photo of a dutch boy on a Baldwun S CLASS Steam Locmotive. Built in 1903 by the Blawdwin Steam and Locomotive Company. It weights like 456,998 lbs and has a….

So Naturally. I was thinking what kind of man gets lonely this time of year. And What do they do? Well. They try to tell themselves that having feelings or feeling it is stupid. Some try to make memes liek this about it.

Some of them go to this T-Ullys House of PAIN! And G_arments Septic Tank, but others Chose Gay far away places and Some choose to master the LEET speek of Aleutians. ARRRR!!! MGTOW can be Anywhere and No where.

But when the Train Comes, its not a bad idea to Hop On board. It the Journey that you should be taking brother. Life is always with risks.

But when it comes to Life. LIVE A LITTLE! Be BRAVE! And enjoy the small indulgences in life.

When you are Lonely, are you REALLY alone? Think about it! Are you lonely due to company not wanting to be around you?

Or is it that you are trying to avoid people? Or maybe you don’t Talk alot with your freinds. Or People you know. I know we may all seem to be miles away.. But..

MGTOW is by definition the Lonely road to travel. No one said it was going to be easy. But It will get better brother. But that’s up to you. Monk, whatever you want to do. No one is going to fault you for any path you take.
You REMEMBER hat MGTOW means right?

And let me caution you about being alone to much. Bad things can happen.

And then you end up making Snuff films.. about boys going on a train to Ashwitz.. You know.. Stuff like that. But its important to
talk to people. Not leave yourself alone.

Overall do something new each day. Like Drifting a train.

Just be careful of the people and Communities you hang with. You never know what kind of people you will run in to. Just enjoy their time!

Good Evening! </strong
10:27 P
Monday, October 22, 2018 (GMT+2
Time in Switzerland

I will tell you the the problem.

The link is right here.

So I wondered maybe if you are just not talking to enough people or maybe not getting enough laughter in real life. Really bro, we don’t really hear from you. I know.. I know.. We don’t have enough hot chocolate in the fridge.

You are 30 ish. You are in that f~~~ed up life stage. You will get over it.

You are all alone. If you have been falsely accused of RAPE, DV, PLEASE let all men know about the people who did this. http://register-her.net/web/guest/home

[iMickey503Participant 12465]

Christophe_1985 wrote:

Nags4Cash wrote:

Actually this is easy to solve if you’re desperately lonely. Just friend zone yourself with a chick and keep your feelings in check. Then you get all the s~~~ benefits of women’s friendship without the risk of having your money taken.For me being alone comes natural, I get annoyed when I have to talk to people to order coffee which is the majority of my human interaction in a day.

No friendzone for me thanks !
Because I have already friends and family… I would need something more deep…

MOAR DEEP?

I found the SOLUTION!

If Nothing else?

You are all alone. If you have been falsely accused of RAPE, DV, PLEASE let all men know about the people who did this. http://register-her.net/web/guest/home

[Truthseeker82Participant 6406]

Well, I can advise do not play the role of orbiter to ANY hot chick. Been there done that. I am no ones freaking dishrag. S~~~, in my blue pill days I surrounded myself with lots of young hot pussy with the delusion I had even a remote chance of getting some ass. I didnt even get a feel of their t~~~ let alone a f~~~. Meantime, they were screwing every bad boy and rich asshole they could fit into their stretched out holes. As for me, I got to play baby sitter, shoulder to cry on and cuck.

I prescribe a dose of Leykis 101. Yaeh its dated but google it if you have not already.
Wish I had back then.

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