Fantasy skanks?

[CombatRollParticipant 2594]

When I was younger I was “approached” more, but the girls were way more subtle. There were numerous times I did end up going out with a girl and they would ask what took me so long to ask them out. I missed the signals.

Flash forward to now: women in their late 30’s – 40’s and early 50’s are way more forward and desperate! I’m not saying that they come up and grab my crotch and say lets F.

I’ve been married and wasn’t in the single scene – so mainly married mom’s were who I was in contact with. When they’ve thought it was safe, they’ve made advances and very pushy ones.

One girl came on strong and was texting me wanting to meet, etc. I told her my phone wasn’t safe, that my wife would see (I told her this to get her off of me).
10 minutes later she had created an email account and sent me the username and password and said – problem solved – use this. WTF

Now that I’m moved out (all of 9 days) I’ve been hit on once by a girl 9 years younger than I am, divorced with no kids and very pushy. She blurted out after finding out I was separated “Wanna go on a date?”.

Not sure if maybe you just have a guarded personality or what that may make you less approachable? Or maybe who you come into contact with?

[Subcomandante SantiagoParticipant 149]

Thanks for your message, CombatRoll – you have definitely set me thinking.

When I launched my initial post, it was largely an academic exercise, as well as a snorting reaction to ludicrous posts along the lines of “I’m so alpha I have to literally wade through piles of desperate pussy…..”

I have always existed in a universe where the concept of women approaching men relationally just does not appear to exist – I have never witnessed it, let alone experienced it, and have never heard any other man of my very wide acquaintance describe having witnessed it, let alone experience it.

All I have ever seen is women, individually and in groups, waiting for men to approach them, and rejecting every single one who is not Brad (Pitt) / (The Sultan of) Brunei, with varying degrees of ridicule, anger and disgust.

I have therefore clearly come to believe, almost fanatically, that such a concept CANNOT exist, and that anyone who claims that it does is deluded.

And I have also come to believe the corollary of this, namely that women are essentially un-approachable unless you are Brad Brunei.

Another poster talked about how he got plenty of snatch when he was an active drug addict, and but it dried up completely when he got clean. The same is true for me – in my specific case I was an alcoholic for 30 years. I just fell around the place, and every so often would end up in a physical relationship with a woman, although don’t ask me any details on how any of these came about.

Now that I am sober, I feel like I have returned to a world where there are effectively no women at all – that’s how non-existent my game, or frame, or state, or whatever you want to call it, is after a lifetime of never working on developing it.

I have become an obsessive convert to the wisdom of the mantra “Own Your S~~~”, and so I will now apply this to how I relate to women, alongside everything else I am trying to sort out in my life.

Gentlemen - we are at war.

[CombatRollParticipant 2594]

Subcomandante Santiago wrote:

Thanks for your message, CombatRoll – you have definitely set me thinking.

When I launched my initial post, it was largely an academic exercise,

I have become an obsessive convert to the wisdom of the mantra “Own Your S~~~”, and so I will now apply this to how I relate to women, alongside everything else I am trying to sort out in my life.

A very insightful post. I bet when you were drinking your inhibitions were reduced and you were much more social, flirty and funny?? This is probably why you were picking up more girls- and while you may not realize they were approaching you – they were probably waiving you in for a landing.

Now consider having a more outgoing and jovial personality when not on the sauce. This would probably be more attractive to women looking to hook up.

Just a theory- I don’t know you, but I do know that alcohol makes otherwise straight laced and non flirty girls step out and cheat b/c I’ve seen this first hand and it makes shy dudes come out of their shells and hook up more.

[Subcomandante SantiagoParticipant 149]

http://www.allposters.co.uk/-sp/Beer-Helping-Ugly-People-Have-Sex-Since-1862-Funny-Retro-Poster-Posters_i8837485_.htm

Gentlemen - we are at war.

[Subcomandante SantiagoParticipant 149]

I lived in a parallel universe for decades, and let’s face it, when I was p~~~ed (i.e. drunk, as we say in Britain), IDGAF was a permanent state of being.

So if women found that attractive, then I was set fair.

The problem always came when the following process kicked in:

HER [Initially]: You’re like Jekyll and Hyde – and I’m REALLY attracted to Hyde!

ME: F~~~ aye! (Hic….)

HER [Later]: Hmmmm, actually, I think I might prefer a more sensible Jekyll……

ME: OK then – I’ll stop drinking, and get on with work etc. sensibly.

HER [Later still]: On second thoughts, Jekyll is really boring…

ME: Fair enough – I’ll turn back into Hyde.

HER: Nah – the spell is broken with you. I’m off to look for a new Hyde.

Gentlemen - we are at war.

[BeerParticipant 11832]

One thing I’ve noticed with pretty much all the guys I know who have gotten a lot of pussy is they have low standards. They’re willing to f~~~ single moms, tinderellas, a skank from the bar who hooks up with a different guy every weekend, or a land whale. Its not really anything to be jealous of.

[CombatRollParticipant 2594]

Subcomandante Santiago wrote:

I lived in a parallel universe for decades, and let’s face it, when I was p~~~ed (i.e. drunk, as we say in Britain), IDGAF was a permanent state of being.

So if women found that attractive, then I was set fair.

The problem always came when the following process kicked in:

HER [Initially]: You’re like Jekyll and Hyde – and I’m REALLY attracted to Hyde!

ME: F~~~ aye! (Hic….)

HER [Later]: Hmmmm, actually, I think I might prefer a more sensible Jekyll……

ME: OK then – I’ll stop drinking, and get on with work etc. sensibly.

HER [Later still]: On second thoughts, Jekyll is really boring…

ME: Fair enough – I’ll turn back into Hyde.

HER: Nah – the spell is broken with you. I’m off to look for a new Hyde.

Reminds me of a buddy who was a raging drunk/pot head. He still managed to be incredibly successful in his business and lavished his c~~~ wife with everything she wanted. Huge house. Big diamond. Fake t~~~.

She stayed on his ass to dry out.

He dried out for 4 years! Then she said he was boring and judgmental at her for having a drink.

She kicked him off the wagon and he turned into a raging drunk again – surprise!

Then she kicked him out for being a drunk.

Get this: Now he has married up (dumbass) but she is prettier and has money. He is dry again. But the ex c~~~ is now a raging drunk and seeking help.

Bitch got what she deserved. She’s getting alimony, but can’t earn s~~~ other than that. Washed up and hit the wall.

[Subcomandante SantiagoParticipant 149]

Excellently put, Beer!

Whilst I wouldn’t describe myself as having had a “lot” of of pussy, I have had some, and every woman was of pretty low quality.

Looking back, my only real criterion was that she was willing to have sex with me, as opposed to calling the police because I had the temerity to speak to her.

Gentlemen - we are at war.

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