Ex wife wants to take my 50/50 custody away!!

[Anonymous 54]

Listen to chaff.Think long term, the relationship you will have as two adults. Part of your life may end up being diffecult, but its temporary.

[uchibenkeiParticipant 7965]

Just be a good dad. If you can, get it recorded the next time your daughter tells you that. What her mother is doing is a form of child abuse. In Canada, if you can show that the other parent is trying to block you from seeing your child, you can sue for custody yourself.

I bathe in the tears of single moms.

[Anonymous 42]

bigboy83 wrote:

Im glad i dont have one of these creatures from the black lagoon called ex wives.

I’m with Bigboy on this one! I don’t like praying for lightning to strike a woman!

It’s f~~~ing sad how much damage has been done to men children and the tattered family since feminism poisoned just about everything.

I would swallow a hollow point before I would bind myself to a modern toxic female! I mean that!

[Anonymous 0]

bigboy83 wrote:

She needs the money, thats why. The kid is used for the excuse.

Preface
OK, I will say what others have not said. It’s going to be nasty and you will have to respond with overwhelming shock and awe if you want to win. You can not be a nice guy. Your opponent’s are your ex, her feminist/white knight lawyer, and the gynocentric court system. End preface

Exactly! If she wins you are going to end up paying. If she gets very little in the way of child support payments, screwwing you over will become less important. Secondly, four years is a long time. She may not even be alive at that point(think breast cancer, overdose)
In addition to the above suggestions. Since you have 4 years to prepare; can you work out a situation where you reduce your income at the time child support is discussed.(have cash or gold and silver in a safe deposit box that only you know about for living expenses?). Sell off or hide as many assets as you can and don’t tell anyone and convert the money into gold or silver. Appear to be destitute as you can because when the time comes that is exactly what she will do and the courts will say “oh, poor baby, let’s make the man pay”)
In the meantime, get ALL the dirty information you can on your ex including having someone follow her when you have your daughter and record everything with timers and dates. If she is seen to be hanging out with drug dealers, it will not look good for her and at the very least could be used as a bargaining chip ie) I won’t bring this up and ruin your reputation around town if you back off. Sound ugly??? Women brought this on themselves. I have no pity for them.
I have said enough.

KeyMaster. if you want to discipline me for this let me know. I am no longer going to stand by and see other men get divorced raped without speaking up especially when they are asking for help. Thanx

[AwakenedParticipant 35211]

singledad984 wrote:

My daughter is about to turn 8 and she informed me the other day that her mom told her that when she turns 12 she going to make her go tell the judge that she wants to live with her mom and then move about an hour away…

OldBill wrote:

You’ve already got a lawyer. Pay him for more advice.

Talk to your attorney, and see if you can’t have your daughter talk to him as well. Hopefully, he would be able to “officially” document and/or record this “plan” that your wife is trying to coerce your daughter into. Once it’s documented, Do you share it with the wife and her council as a kind of an I gotcha or just hold on to it quietly ? Is this even legal ? These are the types of questions and scenarios that I would ask of my attorney.

In a World of Justin Beibers Be a Johnny Cash

[Prefer Peace to PieceParticipant 10809]

singledad984-

I’m sorry you are going through this.
Not surprising.
The ex saw a pile of money and she wants it.
You will probably be on the hook for around 86,400 until your daughter turns 18. If you saved around 21,600 for 4 years, you would have it covered. When this happened to me, I just bought an annuity that paid my ex every month for a few years. That way, I didn’t have to deal with the ex. Or you could just pay as you go.

Your ex doesn’t care about you or your daughter.
It’s about the money.

You’re not alone. A lot of us here have paid our ex’s a small fortune.

Don’t worry about the money. You’ll make more.
Enjoy your daughter. Have fun with her. Teach her. Good luck.

[Chaff/FlareParticipant 3235]

Prefer Peace to Piece wrote:

Your ex doesn’t care about you or your daughter.
It’s about the money.
You’re not alone. A lot of us here have paid our ex’s a small fortune.
Don’t worry about the money. You’ll make more.
Enjoy your daughter. Have fun with her. Teach her. Good luck.

Good stuff, love the annuity, I’m going to do that…thanks

Guys are right about women really not caring about the child. They will destroy a kid in the blind short sighted fury of being “wronged” (whatever that is to her). So she will step on her labia and take the easy way out especially when the kid becomes smarter than her, which, if you teach her will be soon.

When you find yourself in the majority, it's time to reflect.

[Nathan R. JessepParticipant 1102]

Chaff/Flare wrote:

Listen to me and relax. I mean it, relax. You burn all that bulls~~~ that you put on to the pages and listen to me for a couple of sentences.

You be the best dad you can possibly be. I know you are because you fought for 50%. Teach your girl her times tables, fishing, camping. Teach her how to cook, take care of herself. Teach her that if she tells you anything,anything, anything, before you find out from somewhere else, she cannot get in trouble. Open up your heart and be the dad they are trying to stop you from being.

You do that, and never talk badly about her mother, your worst fears are an impossibility. Done it, trust me, relax and be a dad.

This x1000.

[TwistParticipant]

Single,

There are some warning signs you have to be alert for, particularly the creating of a Cross-Generation-Coalition (see below link). Supporting issues like any hint of a personality disorder, and childhood attachment trauma in your xW.

If you read through this, you will be able to note the red flags to be on the lookout for: https://drcraigchildressblog.com/2016/09/02/not-a-new-pathology/

In my experience, my daughters both loved me at 8. By the time they were 10 and 12 they were well on their way to being molded by their mother to view me with the same arrogant, dismissive anger as she displayed. At this point I have seen them for less than 10 hours in the last 4+ years.

Make good use of your time with her – if this goes t~~~-up it is a very difficult fight for a father to win.

Good luck.

[Back in BlackParticipant 1732]

This is incredibly painful to go through. I am going through it now. My ex has been working on manipulating my children to try to alienate them from me. I have done quite a bit a research and this is in fact child abuse. Please feel free message me and I will dig up my research for you.

Basically I called out my borderline ex. I informed her she is committing child abuse and if it continues she will see me in court and that I would.fight for 100% custody. She s~~~ her pants. And has been a little nicer. Not that I trust her.

Now I in the.process of trying to rebuild the.trust with my children that she has.destroyed. it is heartbreaking.

I can’t thank the.men of this site enough for giving me the strength and insight needed to continue to fight.

"Women are directly adapted to act as the nurses and educators of our early childhood, for the simple reason that they themselves are childish, foolish, and short-sighted—in a word, are big children all their lives, something intermediate between the child and the man, who is a man in the strict sense of the word. Consider how a young girl will toy day after day with a child, dance with it and sing to it; and then consider what a man, with the very best intentions in the world, could do in her place.” Quote from Arthur Shopenhauer, 17th century philosopher

[GrumpyParticipant]

Read up on a favourite tactic of divorced mothers.
Parental Alienation.
Consult your lawyer, record everything. Prepare for everything you can.
PAS is usually the mother turning the child against the father. It is child abuse.
You have 4 years to prepare.

My daughters mother’s efforts actually turned my daughter against her. I retained sole custody from 18 months to 18 years old.
My daughter said being around/dealing with her mother was like having a retarded younger sister.

There was a time in my life when I gave a fuck. Now you have to pay ME for it

[TwistParticipant]

Some of my recent thoughts on losing my daughters – I was struggling to put my feelings in perspective. If you read through it, thanks for indulging me. In my case, getting divorced was about a “1” on the misery scale, losing my kids in such a vicious way pegged the needle at 11… and I still struggle.

The Choice

Many of us are familiar with the choice offered in the Matrix, to take the Red Pill, or the Blue Pill. This is a story of a different choice.

Consider a woman, a mother, who is offered two choices. Two choices only – there is no “C” or “Other”. Choice A, or choice B.

Choice “A” is for the woman to be raped. Choice “B” is for the woman to lose her children.

No good choices, but like an animal with its paw caught in a trap, there must be a decision made – do nothing and die, or chew off your paw and have some glimmer of hope.

Choice “A” is a horrible one. Rape is a heinous crime, a violation of the self, a theft of the soul. An act of violence that can continue its damage for a lifetime. An act that no person should ever experience.

Choice “B” results in the woman losing her children. She will no longer be able to put them to bed, to wake them in the morning. She will be unable to protect them, comfort them, guide them through their lives. She will no longer celebrate their birthdays with them, or her’s, or Christmas morning, nor Mother’s Day. She will not share in their accomplishments, graduations, or relationships. They will be gone.

Many women, due to their selfless love for their children, will probably choose choice A and be raped. Once raped, they will then be informed that they will be required to send payment to their rapist each month, for years. This will serve to further remind them their violation, compounding the damage done to them.

Unfathomable? Unjust? Unbearable?
Perhaps. But consider the worse case, choice B. The loss of her beloved children, with the same requirement for her to pay the perpetrator who took her children away.

And now consider the thousands of men, of fathers, who have not chosen choice B, but were handed it as their only option. Clearly an option worse than rape, and we know the danger of minimizing the seriousness of rape.

For those studying the suicide rate of men following divorce, I point to the above choice, or rather, lack of choice, as a major contributing factor.

[Anonymous 5]

If you have the money and time hire a savage p.i find out her character. If she has a drug issue/ drinking problem this could aid you. Talk to your lawyer about this. Hope it works out.

[bladeParticipant]

If your ex speaks badly to you record using video camera the phone call .use the camera to show the phone number and have phone on loud speaker.i know here in Australia it is only illegal to record a call if the device is connected or incerted in the phone.chaffs advice is a golden rule to never talk bad about the mum.Teaching your child to pray to god when she is in bed sticks.when i speak to my youngest on phone she still does it but not all the time. My youngest is and have 13 year old. When your daughter hits 12 her hormones will kick in and it will be hard for the mum. Always be nice to the mother so you get a better picture of how she is coping.Cant stress enough on using VIDEO CAMERA ON CALLS.

THE PLANTATION HAS NOW TURNED INTO THE KILLING FIELDS . WOMAN ARE NOW ROLLING CAMBODIAN STYLE .

[bladeParticipant]

My youngest 10 i ment……….good luck dude.hope you stick around.good blokes here.

THE PLANTATION HAS NOW TURNED INTO THE KILLING FIELDS . WOMAN ARE NOW ROLLING CAMBODIAN STYLE .

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