Ex wife wants to take my 50/50 custody away!!

[singledad984Participant 201]

My daughter is about to turn 8 and she informed me the other day that her mom told her that when she turns 12 she going to make her go tell the judge that she wants to live with her mom and then move about an hour away…I currently have her half the month and my ex wife pays me $100 a month in child support…I went and talked to an attorney and he confirmed my fears by saying she could have my daughter talk to a judge and if my daughter says she wants to leave it would be hard to stop and then I’d have to start paying $1200 a month in child support…I have 4 years to prepare for this and the impression I got from my daughter is she doesn’t want to move away from me so that a big plus but I know her mom is coaching her and will bribe her to get that $1200 in child support! Any advice or thoughts would be appreciated

[Anonymous 43]

You have 4 years to get your ex c~~~ addicted to meth. You are burning daylight gogogogoogogogogo

[joetechParticipant]

I won’t be able to answer until I exhale. Did you ever think of asking her to trick mommy? Fathers and daughters.

"Don't follow in my footsteps...I stepped in something."

[OldBillParticipant]

You’ve got four years to get ready. She’s got four years to coach or otherwise convince your daughter to make the request.

Please check out this site: http://www.realworlddivorce.com/

Read all the general information, then read about your specific state. You’ve already got a lawyer. Pay him for more advice.

Regardless of whether she’s in the “right” or not, your ex-wife has the laws, courts, judges, and state on her side. You’re going to lose. It’s just a matter of how badly you’re going to lose.

Good luck.

Do not date. Do not impregnate. Do not co-habitate. Above all, do not marry. Reclaim and never again surrender your personal sovereignty.

[Anonymous 43]

old bill is right

3 paths here

1 c~~~ is addicted to meth, you win.

2 you fight c~~~ for the kids right to see you, you spend $50K and you will still lose, still have to pay $1200 a month, maybe more

3 give in now, save your mental health. Start saving up for it now. use an arbitrator. Figure out the total amount you would owe, and start paying now, but lower per month. Think 5 year car loan vs 3 year car loan. Get the agreement in place, then find a better paying job far away. Lock her in to the lower payment.

Do not write the monthly checks yerself. auto pay. auto deduct whatever. do not write the check yerself.

Remember you are the defendant, the criminal in any court proceedings. It is hard to overcome that label no matter how good your reasoning is. Logic will not work in court.

[Oz-BlokeParticipant 3233]

I feel for you bloke. Hopefully your daughter’s mind is strong and not easily poisoned by the mother over the next four years.

Here’s hoping you can get a fair deal in the misandrous legal system.

Unfortunately the feminist movement has made child support and single mothers welfare a ‘career option’ as part of a massive VMS – Vagina Monetization Scam;

Our thoughts are with you.

#ManOut

[~BSParticipant 3266]

translation, you’re f~~~ed in the ass no matter what, the only thing in question is how much lube you get.

"He didn't marry until now, so he won't ever do it. Think about it, why would a man like him ever marry? It's too late to catch him. " ~some cunt

[singledad984Participant 201]

I already got custody out of the divorce bc my ex parties so much but as of now my daughter wants to stay with me…
The good thing is I live in a very small town and seems the court system doesn’t shred guys into pieces as bad as the city courts

[ScarberianMPTGLParticipant 3286]

Dude, not for nothin’ but are you really honestly surprised? Fuuuck man you should have seen this coming the minute she wanted the divorce (I’m assuming it was her). But I feel for ya, dude. Best you can hope for is your daughter knows that she needs her dad in her life no matter what her c~~~ mother says.

I, Lelouch Vi Britannia, command you, all of you, to Go Your Own Way!!

[joetechParticipant]

Remember, that little girl is your daughter, too. I remember being 8. I remember being 12 a lot better. So will she. Mommy may not be playing with a full deck.

"Don't follow in my footsteps...I stepped in something."

[Chaff/FlareParticipant 3235]

singledad984 wrote:

My daughter is about to turn 8 and she informed me the other day that her mom told her that when she turns 12 she going to make her go tell the judge that she wants to live with her mom and then move about an hour away…I currently have her half the month and my ex wife pays me $100 a month in child support…I went and talked to an attorney and he confirmed my fears by saying she could have my daughter talk to a judge and if my daughter says she wants to leave it would be hard to stop and then I’d have to start paying $1200 a month in child support…I have 4 years to prepare for this and the impression I got from my daughter is she doesn’t want to move away from me so that a big plus but I know her mom is coaching her and will bribe her to get that $1200 in child support! Any advice or thoughts would be appreciated

Listen to me and relax. I mean it, relax. You burn all that bulls~~~ that you put on to the pages and listen to me for a couple of sentences.

You be the best dad you can possibly be. I know you are because you fought for 50%. Teach your girl her times tables, fishing, camping. Teach her how to cook, take care of herself. Teach her that if she tells you anything,anything, anything, before you find out from somewhere else, she cannot get in trouble. Open up your heart and be the dad they are trying to stop you from being.

You do that, and never talk badly about her mother, your worst fears are an impossibility. Done it, trust me, relax and be a dad.

When you find yourself in the majority, it's time to reflect.

[Chaff/FlareParticipant 3235]

Stay up with her at night and talk silly stuff, and also about God. HELP her do the things she is interested in…music, dance, crazy hair… whatever. Never never never never never talk bad about her mom no matter how mutch you want to. ALWAYS take the high road. Do not think of what you cannot control. I beg you to listen to me. Kids will chime in with s~~~, but i have been through this. Ok, Chaff out

When you find yourself in the majority, it's time to reflect.

[HitmanParticipant]

listen to chaff/flare..
be there and do what you already do.
be the great dad you are.
kids are very smart!
they can see through the coaching of the mother.
trust in God and in yourself.
this is going to go in your favor..
don’t let a 4 year guillotine hang over your head !!!
.
f~~~ that .
be the dad you already are .
the ex aint getting this one .

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Heartbreaking.

Realize that women play a different kind of warfare with social manipulation and backstabbing……. but they are only MANIPULATIONS , and you can beat them quite easily by just being a good dad to your daughter. Calmer. Relaxed. MORE FUN. and FUNNY.

Kids really appreciate that, and they often really only remember how you make them FEEL. So you may not need to work as hard as you think to win here, just be the best Dad you can be. In order to turn your daughter against you, her mom has to become ugly and play nasty. She’s going to be no fun to be around and use all kinds of tactics. Kids are very intuitive too, so they have an idea when someone is trying to influence them.

My nieces LOVE me actually more than their own parents (in a way). I see them once every year or two and they can’t wait for me to come back for a visit, because I am way more fun than their stiff / stuck-up parents who are always disciplining and scolding them. A while back, the eldest asked if she could come and live with me right in front of her own parents. I didn’t need to spoil her or buy her anything, I just told a funny joke that made her fall to the floor laughing and she actually peed her pants.

singledad984 wrote:

the impression I got from my daughter is she doesn’t want to move away from me

This video is a classic example of a power-tripping controlling bossy c~~~, and her 14 year old son would rather stay with his dad. It’s pretty clear why…. and almost immediately after she pretends she’s all high and mighty, she turns into a little f~~~ing cry baby. The transformation is remarkable.

An interesting example to say the least.
I wish you every success with keeping your daughter.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[Truthseeker82Participant 6406]

Stay focused on your little girl. Her c~~~ of a mother cannot stop her from loving you. Most 12 year olds today are mature enough to know what they want. No matter how much “coaching” that bitch does, when the time comes your daughter will likely confirm her desire to have her Dad in her life.
My divorce was 20 years ago. Amazingly, my ex was very supportive of my relationship with my son and made a decent effort to support that. She made a good living and did not seek to rip my b~~~~ out through my wallet. Unfortunately, finding that attitude in today’s f~~~ed up society, especially among the average western influenced c~~~ is the ultimate enigma. Good luck, my man. We’re here for you – keep us posted.

[joetechParticipant]

Why do you suppose your daughter told you? Was she gloating when she told you this or did she look concerned?

"Don't follow in my footsteps...I stepped in something."

[bigboy83Participant 11312]

Im glad i dont have one of these creatures from the black lagoon called ex wives.

She needs the money, thats why. The kid is used for the excuse.

Shit Tested, Cunt Approved.

[RhettParticipant 637]

Chaff/Flare wrote:

singledad984 wrote:

My daughter is about to turn 8 and she informed me the other day that her mom told her that when she turns 12 she going to make her go tell the judge that she wants to live with her mom and then move about an hour away…I currently have her half the month and my ex wife pays me $100 a month in child support…I went and talked to an attorney and he confirmed my fears by saying she could have my daughter talk to a judge and if my daughter says she wants to leave it would be hard to stop and then I’d have to start paying $1200 a month in child support…I have 4 years to prepare for this and the impression I got from my daughter is she doesn’t want to move away from me so that a big plus but I know her mom is coaching her and will bribe her to get that $1200 in child support! Any advice or thoughts would be appreciated

Listen to me and relax. I mean it, relax. You burn all that bulls~~~ that you put on to the pages and listen to me for a couple of sentences.

You be the best dad you can possibly be. I know you are because you fought for 50%. Teach your girl her times tables, fishing, camping. Teach her how to cook, take care of herself. Teach her that if she tells you anything,anything, anything, before you find out from somewhere else, she cannot get in trouble. Open up your heart and be the dad they are trying to stop you from being.

You do that, and never talk badly about her mother, your worst fears are an impossibility. Done it, trust me, relax and be a dad.

Best advice yet. Sounds like she’s not all there. Play it calm and love your child only like a father can. This is the tried and proven method.

Single guys come home, look at what’s in the fridge, and go to bed. Married guys come home, look at what’s in bed, and go to the fridge.......But the best representative of MGTOW is…………… an empty chair,.

[WarratahParticipant 895]

I agree with Bigboy – it’s not about custody, it’s about $$$$$$$
If your ex was so concerned about the wellbeing of your daughter she’d continue with the situation as it stands. But no, she’s using her as a lever, a lever to pry your wallet open.
But don’t worry, it happens to the huge majority of us. So long as you can see the truth – women will destroy EVERYTHING and EVERYONE to get $$$$

...And in our own despair, against our will, Comes wisdom to us by the awful grace of God. - Agamemnon; by Aeschylus

[Deadly RaverParticipant]

If that’s the case, launch the first blow. Take full custody of her or reduce her mother’s visits to only a few days a month. If you win, it can only help and at least you KNOW that you will treat her and the child fairly. Get on the horn to your lawyers and launch the strike as soon as you can.

Learn from the past, Control the present, and you will know the Future.

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