Ex has really irritated me over the smallest thing

[Once bitten twice shyParticipant 78]

Its been irritating me for hours now and I need to vent on here.

My many months of ghost mode towards my ex has been working well for me up until this evening where I feel I slipped up and allowed her back into my head temporarily.

It was our childs parents evening this evening, I got to school first, spoke with the teachers, read the reports, etc, you get the idea.

Ex turns up, late, as per usual, so as soon as she arrives we are both called into the main room to discuss how our child is getting on. I haven’t said a word nor looked at her. The chat with the teachers lasts 5 mins. All is good. It ends and I say thanks shake hands with the teachers and get up and walk off to leave. All the while having completely ghosted ex.

So as I’m just walking out the door my ex asks if she can ask me something. At this point I should have carried on walking and not looked back but seeing as were at school I thought it might of been about our childs well-being. She asks if I went out last night for Halloween (implying have I taken our child out trick or treating). I reply no. She replies why not. I reply because I was busy (I genuinely was). She then does her usual smirk/fake laugh/huff sound and walks off. I just left it at that and went home.

Its p~~~ed me off for hours now and I can’t sleep unless I got that off my chest. I never question her time and what she does with our child. She can f~~~ right off questioning me. I wish I’d thought of something witty but the question was so off the scale random I had no quick retort.

[Anonymous 6]

When they get like that, it’s best to walk away. It’s a bigger problem than she is letting on, and every time she gets mad at you, she’s not mad at the little thing you did, she’s mad at the big thing in her head that you did. For example, if she gets mad that you left the cap off the toothpaste……The problem is much much bigger than toothpaste.

Walk away now!

[Secret Agent MGTOWParticipant 22507]

Yup, always walk away.

Women want everything, but want responsibility and accountability for nothing.

[Anonymous 42]

Thank God you’re not still living with her! Even after divorce they try to keep you on their invisible leash! F~~~ that! Take off and drag her through some invisible leash MUD, ROCKS, STICKS, and STONES!

They’re not wives yet they want you to honor being the husband they destroyed!

There’s no working with modern women! The sooner you flee the better off you are!

[KaidoParticipant 2395]

Shes trying to get information off you. Stay away from that evil bitch!

What people call "love" is just a chemical reaction that compels animals to breed. It hits hard, then it slowly fades, leaving you stranded in a failing marriage. Your parents are gonna do it. Break the cycle. Rise above. Focus on science.

[xanthineParticipant 4903]

Honestly, probably the only reason she did that is because she was trying to start a fight with you or p~~~ you off. Women never stop being petty and vindictive, they only get worse.

So by allowing her to p~~~ you off, you basically gave her exactly what she wanted. The worst thing you can do to her is be completely indifferent to her, which you were doing in f~~~ing spades until she pulled that childish bulls~~~ on you.

Honestly man, just keep doing what you’re doing. It sounds like you are right where you need to be if she has to try that hard to get a rise out of you.

[bladeParticipant]

Once bitten twice shy wrote:

wish I’d thought of something witty but the question was so off the scale random I had no quick retort.

Less said the better let her speak and play . F~~~ her .

Play s~~~ cool and bide your time . The day will come .

HERE IS A TIP I FIND VERY EFFECTIVE

TREAT YOUR EX AS A C~~~ SISTER .

Takes a bit to get them in this frame of mind and it is also works well with my kids because thats showing to them that there parents dislike for each other is minimized in there minds because they will be relating differently in a positive way .

Remind ya ex from time to time thats how you look at her is like a sister .

Then on top of that if she knows there’s no more women going to be in your life because your monk that takes another threat to her out of the picture .

Woman f~~~in get so jealous of other women with there kids .

Let her think she is in control and your a brother .

She will really open up so even when s~~~ is going sweet in her eyes keep a f~~~in diary . Cant stress that enough . EVIDENCE

Use words like . Would you like me to . If you need me too .

Try playing this way and in time like i did yesterday i got to enjoy telling wonder c~~~ what a f~~~ing failure as a mother and woman it is .

GIVE THEM NO GAME TO PLAY

BIG NFG

Show her no f~~~s given even if she calls you a deadbeat c~~~ . No reaction no expression .

You are wise for thinking brother before opening your mouth . (Much respect )

Remember it is all about staying in your childs life .

THE PLANTATION HAS NOW TURNED INTO THE KILLING FIELDS . WOMAN ARE NOW ROLLING CAMBODIAN STYLE .

[GregB0Participant]

I agree with Blade, write the things down that irritate you.

This “resolves” the issue and you will stop worrying/processing it.

If needed you have history/evidence if you ever begin to question yourself about an issue.

Do not however start reading it routinely as this will only cause you frustration and allow you to fixate on her instead of focusing on yourself and your child/children.

Venting is good and an acceptable act on MGTOW.com.

Thanks for sharing.

​"​My father didn't tell me how to live; he lived, and let me watch him do it.​" - Clarence Buddinton Kelland

[Sky-OParticipant 18934]

The smirk / fake laugh / huff followed by walk off.

She’s a mental terrorist bro.

She planted a roadside bomb in your head with that. And hours later it went off.

You were mind f~~~ed.

She’s still laughing about it.

In Sky-0 world earlier today, I was triggered.

Driving in my Jeep with the CD player on. And right during the guitar solo of a song by one of my favorite bands, I remembered something from eight years ago that a pumpkin said while at my house about the same band that I was listening to when she came over. She said ‘You know, they are really not that good. . .’ And she laughed.

And as I was driving down the freeway today, eight years later and the epic, shred fest solo continued during the song ‘Holy Wars’, I completely freaked and yelled out

‘F~~~ you!! You stupid bitch!! Megadeth rules!!’

Right there today going 65mph on the freeway. Eight years later. Triggered during the blisteringly insane guitar solo in the middle of ‘Holy Wars’

It’s because they plant terrorist bombs in your head. Set to blow at a later date.

[AttonParticipant]

Play video games they can consume your entire mind quite well.

A MGTOW is a man who is not a woman's bitch!

[bladeParticipant]

Sleep with a radio on .

THE PLANTATION HAS NOW TURNED INTO THE KILLING FIELDS . WOMAN ARE NOW ROLLING CAMBODIAN STYLE .

[Once bitten twice shyParticipant 78]

Thanks for the replies guys, I eventually got to sleep.

She’s now just messaged me, pressing me for an answer as to why I was too busy.

Engage or ignore, advice please?

[bladeParticipant]

Answer her but keep it short and sweet then leave it at that . Goal is keeping your contact with your child . Your doing it for your child

THE PLANTATION HAS NOW TURNED INTO THE KILLING FIELDS . WOMAN ARE NOW ROLLING CAMBODIAN STYLE .

[bladeParticipant]

If she calls you a c~~~ after that dont argue . If she loses her s~~~ after that its her problem .

If she goes to guns saying you cant see your kid dont go loosing your s~~~ with texting .

If you feal that way turn ya f~~~in phone of .

Always think with a clear head before acting .

THE PLANTATION HAS NOW TURNED INTO THE KILLING FIELDS . WOMAN ARE NOW ROLLING CAMBODIAN STYLE .

[Solo MAN’S WisdomParticipant]

Once bitten twice shy wrote:

She then does her usual smirk/fake laugh/huff sound and walks off. I just left it at that and went home.

This was the perfect reaction. She thinks she can still s~~~ test you. She will continue to ask because you shut her down.

NEVER explain yourself to a woman — especially one that has already showed you she was unqualified to be your mate.

When women lead, destruction is the destination. -- Me.

[Once bitten twice shyParticipant 78]

Thanks again for the solid advice.

I should of mentioned that I have a court order in place to see our child so she can’t stop contact unnecessarily.

I’m just going to ignore her message and any further messages. Least said soonest mended.

[TaxGuyParticipant]

OK, let me just say this. How old is your child? Did he/she want to go Trick-or-Treating and you couldn’t take them? I guess my point being, maybe the child is complaining to mom about not getting to go.

I would ask if the child said something to her about it. If yes, then I’ll talk to child about it, thanks for letting me know. Sounds to me like she is trying to take the child’s place in the conversation that you and child should have. Because then she gets to be a bitch about it. She then gets to tell the hive what an asshole you are, how you don’t make time for the child even though she has them almost all the time. MARTYR status!! JACKPOT! Poor, poor Judy.

If you cut her out of the process, you will be denying her martyr status. I don’t know that I have a great answer but think this one through. She’s been waiting for this opportunity to pounce.

I would start with telling her that if the child is complaining to her about you, she should direct the child to have the conversation with you. It will make the two of you closer in the long run. Plus, one of the keys to co-parenting is not letting the child play the two of you against each other. Hard for her to argue that point.

If that’s not it, then none of her business. I didn’t ask whose dick was in your mouth last night did I?

Order the good wine

[Once bitten twice shyParticipant 78]

TaxGuy wrote:

OK, let me just say this. How old is your child? Did he/she want to go Trick-or-Treating and you couldn’t take them? I guess my point being, maybe the child is complaining to mom about not getting to go.

I would ask if the child said something to her about it. If yes, then I’ll talk to child about it, thanks for letting me know. Sounds to me like she is trying to take the child’s place in the conversation that you and child should have. Because then she gets to be a bitch about it. She then gets to tell the hive what an asshole you are, how you don’t make time for the child even though she has them almost all the time. MARTYR status!! JACKPOT! Poor, poor Judy.

If you cut her out of the process, you will be denying her martyr status. I don’t know that I have a great answer but think this one through. She’s been waiting for this opportunity to pounce.

I would start with telling her that if the child is complaining to her about you, she should direct the child to have the conversation with you. It will make the two of you closer in the long run. Plus, one of the keys to co-parenting is not letting the child play the two of you against each other. Hard for her to argue that point.

If that’s not it, then none of her business. I didn’t ask whose dick was in your mouth last night did I?

He’s 5. I left him with my mum for a couple of hours whilst I popped out. Prior to that he hadn’t mentioned going out at all to me, I don’t think he even realised nor cared it was Halloween. He was happy playing and being himself. We even read a book together and did some maths puzzles and he was content.

I suspect she’s made it an issue by making him feel like he’s missed out, planting words into him such as “did dad take you out last night” and when he told her no, she probably made me out to be a terrible person for not doing so “aww you didn’t get to have lots of sweets then”

Poisonous c~~~.

[RafaelParticipant 115]

Smirk/fake laugh/huff, this stuff really annoy most men, and they take advantage of it to make us step out of our resilient zone.

Don't look back, you're not going that way.

[RomulusParticipant 4667]

TREAT YOUR EX AS A C~~~ SISTER

Oh damn, I soooo freaking wish I had seen this advise years ago. That’s such a simple and powerful concept and can be used like the north star, a way to orientate yourself when the little flower is mind f~~~ing you over some s~~~. Remember…treat your ex like your c~~~ sister. If you get a little disorientated, this will help get you head strait, perform a quick reality check and re-orientation, now with a handy dandy guide on the proper way to act toward her. Good stuff Blade. Very good advise.

How can a woman be expected to be happy with a man who insists on treating her as if she were a perfectly normal human being.

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