Engaged coworker confused me

[All OutParticipant 87]

I’m asking here cause I know anywhere else I won’t get a true answer as to why a girl I work with confessed to me that she really liked me. I few details that will set the stage, when she was new I was her supervisor and we worked quite well together. She was married at the time and I was engaged. We got along very well and occasionally had drinks after work with other coworkers. Now I am single and she is engaged to a guy I used to work with. (same place just different division) She called me at 1am on a Monday morning last week to tell me how much she liked me. I really want nothing to do with girl so I played it off as nothing happened and acted normally at work, and didn’t tell anyone at work this happened. She seemed to do the same and work was normal. Then I get a call very late last night from her asking why I was ignoring her and she gave this incredibly long speech about how that is really not how she felt and how I was somehow being a dick for ignoring her.

I have no idea what is going on here and don’t want my workplace getting s~~~ty. What is going on with this girl and how do I proceed at work?

[PistolPeteParticipant 27143]

She is “gaming” the system. Advice: Tell her to confine her comments to work subjects and during work hours. Anything else is dangerous. (How does she have your home phone number?)

[All OutParticipant 87]

PistolPete wrote:

(How does she have your home phone number?)

Sadly I only have a cell phone and because the type of work I do my personal phone is also my work phone.

PistolPete wrote:

Advice: Tell her to confine her comments to work subjects and during work hours.

I have done so in the past, and it has not worked. She has tried to get me to go out to clubs and my answer was always the same, NO. I have ignored phone calls from her in the past only to have her bitch and complain at work cause I did not take them.

[Elric GreenstoneParticipant 1637]

If she calls, don’t pick up the phone. Let her leave messages, instead. Zero reason to be talking to her outside of working hours. None whatsoever.

You already know she’s disloyal – what more do you need to know about her. Also: Never, ever, ever dip your pen in the company ink. Ever.

"You can either love women, or understand women. You can't do both. Because once you understand women, you realize that there is really nothing to love."

[ExecrationParticipant 1496]

Ask yourself this and set your ego to the side.

She WAS married- her husband must have been so horrible-sarcasm

She was engaged-Something horrible about him

You-she ‘likes’ you! Out of nowhere(how much more did she like you more than her previous husband and fiance when you knew her throughout that time frame–well– she didnt and they didnt work for her) but dont worry she likes you now, but but, why?

Stay the f~~~ away from her and document everything. Keep everything on a professional level onward

[SheNoheartParticipant 144]

My freind… extremely dangerous those one’s… to the highest f~~~ing level. This can be extremely toxic.
As a fellow war veteran of pussy… please keep away from that. I will tell you exactly what shes doing..
She’s decided to take the nesting path…probably cause shes sick of close ones pushing her.. however her feathers are atill way too bright.. she wants to see how many companions she can accomodate and attract. Possibly while flying under the radar of her current partner.
This is very smart play at its best desinged to do one thing, to try and make you feel that if she leaves him & picks you… that you are somewhat the leader of the pack. You start to feel inferior and powerful, important wanted all these things mess with your head. Do not have sex with her… i repeat do not have sex with her… If she had half a f~~~ing brain she would have just stayed single and made good choices by learning her options including you.. if she did not be upfront from the beggining then chances are shes only in it for one thing… MONEYYYYYY!
Stay away bro and do it in a stealthy manner too.

[Anonymous 54]

Shes stroking her own ego at your expense. You come in handy for that. Tell her to act like a woman who is engaged.If she causes troble, threaten to tell her stupied fiance.Dont be as stupid as him.

[Freeman_KParticipant 3524]

I have no idea what is going on here and don’t want my workplace getting s~~~ty. What is going on with this girl and how do I proceed at work?

Stop all communication outside business hours and stop talking with her anything unrelated to work. She is working on you to later shred your guts.

The choices we make, not the chances we take, determine our destiny

[All OutParticipant 87]

SheNoheart wrote:

Do not have sex with her… i repeat do not have sex with her…

I am not even tempted in slightest! She is really not my type and I live by the golden rule of don’t s~~~ were you eat. I really don’t want my work life f~~~ed up by this girl. I never instigated anything, never invited her to anything or went out with her without fellow coworkers and never even contacted her outside of work.

Might be time to get a second phone so I have a work and a personal and keep them completely separate.

[PistolPeteParticipant 27143]

So the big question is really how do you tell her to take a walk out of life without causing blow-back at work.

Frankly, I don’t know. If you tell her you are seeing another woman that will simply cause her to re-double her efforts since a woman always wants what another woman has…You could tell her you’re gay but then she might believe she can “turn” you. You could tell her you’re into some kind of really bizarre fetish–but instead of turner her off it may be something she is into. As a woman she is only interested in money–you could tell her you lost a bundle at a casino, ad you’re broke. Nothing quells a woman’s interest like an empty wallet.

I leave it up to the more experienced and imaginative of our brothers to answer this question.

[Anonymous 54]

Eat beans. Cough without covering. Sniffle, wipe your nose on your sleeve…ect..

[Psl47Participant 678]

If you have good male friends there ,
And if there will be good time and topic ( about girls ) to speak about just try to “mention” , or just give not important hint like: “meh… that one tryes to chase me … gets me p~~~ed off already…<and continue on a football topic here or what ever you were talking about>” so they kind of will subconciously have this information in their heads. And if s~~~ hits the fan , you will have some “backup”.
And someone above saied: stay professional.

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[ExecrationParticipant 1496]

PistolPete wrote:

So the big question is really how do you tell her to take a walk out of life without causing blow-back at work.

Frankly, I don’t know. If you tell her you are seeing another woman that will simply cause her to re-double her efforts since a woman always wants what another woman has…You could tell her you’re gay but then she might believe she can “turn” you. You could tell her you’re into some kind of really bizarre fetish–but instead of turner her off it may be something she is into. As a woman she is only interested in money–you could tell her you lost a bundle at a casino, ad you’re broke. Nothing quells a woman’s interest like an empty wallet.

I leave it up to the more experienced and imaginative of our brothers to answer this question.

Nice!

you were engaged, tell her you got married and fancy some story about how you have no money.

[ExecrationParticipant 1496]

Tell her you have herpes. Expect it to travel. Can you get fired if you have an STD pete?

[Psl47Participant 678]

Execration wrote:

PistolPete wrote:

So the big question is really how do you tell her to take a walk out of life without causing blow-back at work.

Frankly, I don’t know. If you tell her you are seeing another woman that will simply cause her to re-double her efforts since a woman always wants what another woman has…You could tell her you’re gay but then she might believe she can “turn” you. You could tell her you’re into some kind of really bizarre fetish–but instead of turner her off it may be something she is into. As a woman she is only interested in money–you could tell her you lost a bundle at a casino, ad you’re broke. Nothing quells a woman’s interest like an empty wallet.

I leave it up to the more experienced and imaginative of our brothers to answer this question.

Nice!

you were engaged, tell her you got married and fancy some story about how you have no money.

Well this one sounds brilliant , “i have no money” sorted.

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[PistolPeteParticipant 27143]

Actually Old Sage and Execration may be on to something here.

Next time she is in the restroom you go into the guys head and pretend you are taking the biggest crap of your life–moan, wail, yell, grunt then say AAahhhhh—then in a loud voice say “Great mother mother all creatures big and small—did that just come out of me?!” then invite some of the lads to to view it. “Hey you guys check out this epic mud monkey I just laid!”

She will hear this banter and write you off hands down!

[All OutParticipant 87]

Anonymous wrote:

Eat beans. Cough without covering. Sniffle, wipe your nose on your sleeve…ect..

I am known at work to be that asshole, I am not polite and I’m not one to sugar coat or lie about people or problem. This has kept most away.

Psl47 wrote:

Well this one sounds brilliant , “i have no money” sorted.

She knows about the demise of my engagement and the ridiculous amount of money that cost me, which I still haven’t fully recovered from. I have tried my best to be repulsive and undesirable. Did I mention very confrontational as well.

PistolPete wrote:

You could tell her you’re into some kind of really bizarre fetish–but instead of turner her off it may be something she is into

Yea she is not a normal girl so this I think this would backfire.

The place I work is worse than high school when it comes to gossip due to about 30% being women. Rumors and underhanded comments will make it through the entire place in a day.

[Anonymous 43]

[SolidusXParticipant 854]

This chick is trouble, stay away from her at all costs. Set her straight right away and tell her you want nothing to do with her outside of work, and you will only communicate with her on work items. Tell her nothing non work related and if possible do not go for drinks with co-workers if she is there. Start recording every call you have with her and any other contact, if she still presses you go straight to management and file sexual harassment charges on her. With your evidence she will get canned and you will not have to worry about her anything… Don’t get mad get even.

Knowledge is power..... Don't waste your brain on bullshit

[bigboy83Participant 11312]

The c~~~ cure!

Ignore them.

Shit Tested, Cunt Approved.

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