Dorm Drama- How should I have handled this?

[AncientwisdomParticipant 6089]

what I said about her not belonging in a men’s room was a consequence of patriarchy and violent oppression, defining her sex and her space, etc. etc.

I couldnt even read past this sentence. Honestly, I saw the title of this thread and passed it 15x because I knew I couldnt relate and it was going to p~~~ me off.

I have no idea how guys your age are dealing with this utter BS. Im not even that much older than you, probably a decade or so, but my God how things have changed so quickly!

I didnt read any other replies and I honestly dont know what to tell you. I dont think I could put up with University the way you have to deal with it today.

Sorry man. That f~~~ing sucks. Im so p~~~ed just reading what you have to experience I cant imagine being in your shoes. Its utter BS.

Resident cynic.

[Cipher HighwindParticipant 1144]

I beg your pardon for misinterpreting your initial post. I saw “shared dorm” and assumed “room mate”.

In either event, do take care that no harm befalls you in this lion’s den you now reside. Doctors take a lot of student loans, and should you not earn the diploma, you will still be stuck with the debt.

Oneforfreedom wrote:

Whoa whoa- he’s not my roommate. He has his own room but it is in the same building/dorm. Does that make sense?

I agree that apologizing sets a horrible precedent.

In response to your advice:
1) Not my roommate
2) Good advice- I am doing that right now but I’ll step it up and spend even more time further from the dorm.
3) Understood.
4) Can’t transfer to a different med school, and definitely don’t want to live out of a van.
5) Medicine has its drawbacks, but it also has its benefits. That includes 1) fulfillment from the work 2) Portability of skills 3) High, never-ending, recession-proof demand of skills and 4) High income. But I can see where you’re coming from and if I had to do it again, I’d be more open to considering other courses of study. I’m too far in now to turn back though. Plus I want to practice Medicine.

[Anonymous 3]

You were in a bad spot but you learned some good lessons. Honestly probably there was no perfect response, the best thing you could have done was to not dorm. Actually you should still look into that, for the next semester. It’s usually more expensive to dorm actually.

One of the best lessons is to report and then if questioned just deny and pass the buck. “Can’t believe someone reported you! What a jackass.” Realistically speaking most people will say that while secretly wishing they’d had reported sooner themselves. But that’s part of the political game you have to play in the modern West. Men can’t act openly because you get punished for it, and it’s always best to maintain good relations in case. But the relations are never actually “good” and can fray at any political misstep, so you have to play PC and put on a face.

I’ve complained about having to put on a face for a long time. I like sites like this because it lets me drop that. There are very few people I know in person that let me drop my face too and I can actually connect with. They are usually incredibly busy themselves so I rarely get the pleasure, but that bond endures no matter the time between. Very, very rare to have that, I’m not sure most people ever have any people like that.

Good luck, just get through it. It gets better, especially after residency. Outside of the pay though, I don’t think medicine is really worth doing these days and hasn’t been for a decade or two. It’s best to be an entrepreneur these days if at all possible. Keep debt low and stay mobile.

[Mr. SpockParticipant 10920]

Sir you handled it right right up until the apology. Apologizing means that you admit guilt.
I would’ve pointed out that the gender specific bathrooms are the rules that were set by the college and not you. I also would’ve pointed out that the bathrooms are clearly labeled as well. When he started his feminist tirade I would’ve asked him if he’d feel comfortable finishing the conversation in the girls bathroom. (This would’ve been a bluff) He would’ve said “no” and I would’ve asked why and when he spouted about the rules I would’ve said “Exactly my point”. I would’ve also reported this because even though no one likes a snitch, you have to protect yourself. Picture the poor guy going in there not even aware that she’s in there and her having a bad day and all of a sudden deciding that she was feeling uncomfortable and threatened by this man’s unknown actions/behavior in his own assigned bathroom.

Feminism isn't about equality with men, it's about leverage over men.

[tripvanParticipant 193]

Come on man, stand up for yourself. Stand up for your rights as a man. Most women wouldn´t put up with s~~~ like that. Your chance to privately institutionalize this is over – it is very likely he will know it was you. Go with Lucifer´s advice on this one, you´re at school ffs you´re practically expected to act like a kid. Don´t start a fight. Deny everything. When you´re a doctor living on your own in the real world then you won´t have to deal with stuff like this and can act as mature as you want.

[bobphiloParticipant 1772]

Oneforfreedom,

I didn’t confront her directly since I foolishly initially agreed to let her move in, but then I came to my senses, I did what turned out to be more effective . I was already lobbying with the Dean to get my own place since living in a crowded apartment was bad for my allergies and I was getting a lot of infections. I happened to mention that my roommate had moved his girlfriend in. I immediately went to the top of the waiting list for my own studio and she was forced to move back to her own place.. My roommate was p~~~ed but too bad for him as I quickly had my own place that I could enjoy in peace.
P.S they later got married so now they can live in their own place without imposing on others..

[OneforfreedomParticipant 930]

SOS

SOS

SOS

2 MORE, NEW WOMEN SPOTTED IN MEN’S ROOM THIS EVENING.
OneForFreedom REQUEST MGTOW ADVICE.
HOW TO DEAL?

OPTION 1) E-mail to Resident Staff requesting them to e-mail all residents and let them know their female guests are not welcome in Men’s Room
OPTION 2) GHOST/STAY SILENT AND GET IN AND GET OUT QUICKLY.

I’M LEANING TOWARDS OPTION 2 ESPECIALLY SINCE THE MANGINA KNOWS I HAVE A PROBLEM WITH WOMEN IN MEN’S ROOMS.

THOUGHTS?

[Cipher HighwindParticipant 1144]

Said females are likely in violation of state law. I’d suggest getting in and out as quickly as possible as filing complaints about this to agents of the university may backfire.

For how much longer are you in that cesspit?

[tripvanParticipant 193]

Oneforfreedom wrote:

OPTION 1) E-mail to Resident Staff requesting them to e-mail all residents and let them know their female guests are not welcome in Men’s Room
OPTION 2) GHOST/STAY SILENT AND GET IN AND GET OUT QUICKLY.

I´m sure you´re not the only guy who is getting p~~~ed off with this. If there were two more spotted, I reckon you could reasonably bring this up, f~~~ the mangina. I´m sure he doesn´t have three girlfriends. Let the housing administration know about this and see what they are willing to do about it. Let them know IN PERSON. Email is laughable. Do not email, don´t hide, if there are women in the office who read that email they will LAUGH and your request will not be taken seriously. If you´re sick of living in a leftist commune, there might be free legal help on your campus to help you get out of the housing contract. God spede,

[OneforfreedomParticipant 930]

Cipher Highwind wrote:

Said females are likely in violation of state law. I’d suggest getting in and out as quickly as possible as filing complaints about this to agents of the university may backfire.

For how much longer are you in that cesspit?

Not too long. The year ends in 24 weeks (there is a 4 week recess in between there where I won’t be living in dorms so that’s good).
I believe risk of backfire is high. To know why, look at my response to the post below:

tripvan wrote:

I´m sure you´re not the only guy who is getting p~~~ed off with this. If there were two more spotted, I reckon you could reasonably bring this up, f~~~ the mangina. I´m sure he doesn´t have three girlfriends. Let the housing administration know about this and see what they are willing to do about it. Let them know IN PERSON. Email is laughable. Do not email, don´t hide, if there are women in the office who read that email they will LAUGH and your request will not be taken seriously. If you´re sick of living in a leftist commune, there might be free legal help on your campus to help you get out of the housing contract. God spede,

I think I might be the only guy- Keep in mind this is happening in the men’s wing. So those females were guests of some male neighbors. I have no idea who they were guests of.

Also keep in mind that this is a university setting with a heavy Feminist bias. I don’t want to risk another toxic situation developing like that which happened with the Mangina.

The housing administration is dominated by women- the head of housing is a woman too.
I don’t feel comfortable taking legal action to get out of the housing contract- everything is good about the dorm except for this issue. The dorm offers me convenient access to my school, lower cost than neighboring residential housing, etc.

I think I will stick to the strategy of ghosting but being completely comfortable in the men’s room, even with them there.

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Oneforfreedom wrote:

He immediately launches into a speech about how what I said about her not belonging in a men’s room was a consequence of patriarchy and violent oppression, defining her sex and her space, etc. etc.

I read it all very intently until that line, and just busted out laughing. SO classic.

I wouldn’t have apologized under any circumstances. Not ever. Especially not for this. When you’re not sure, flip the sexes and see if it’s acceptable. Everyone knows perfectly well it;s not. You were much too polite here – and care too much if he likes you.. Its simply NOT F~~~ING ACCEPTABLE for a woman to be in the men’s room…. just like it’s NOT F~~~ING ACCEPTABLE for you to be in the ladies room. Whether she goes to the school (or not) is not even the point.

“Sexist patriarchy of violent oppression” go f~~~ yourself. I would have not been able to contain the laughter when he delivered that line and told him to SACK UP AND GROW A PAIR. Would have shamed his ass like the pansy vagina-licking white knight tosser he is….. and then handed him a tampon.

Not kidding. I would have. “Here you go buddy. That’s for your ass. “.
I don’t know how were able to take him seriously.

If you wanted to get serious….. you could asked him like Samuel Jackson: “Is it acceptable for me or you to waltz into the ladies room while there are women in there taking a s~~~”??? Is it acceptable for me or you to waltz into the ladies room while there are women in there taking a s~~~”??? Then it’s not acceptable for her to be in here. Ever. Make sure I never see her in here again. ..”

And then exit.

You’re a little too concerned about whether or not he likes you and you’ll get along. You did “the right thing”….. and you’re being nice about …… but its’ not a WIN. When you’re not sure how to handle something….. LAUGH.

Like Tom Cruise. He’s a master at it. When he’s uncomfortable, he laughs. When he doesn’t know what to say, he laughs. When he’s thinking of something to say, he flashes a s~~~-eating grin. I actually trained myself to do the same instead of letting something bother me. It buys you time too.. Take the seriousness out of it and throw it away. What the other guy said should have been a hilarious joke. “YOU’RE KIDDING RIGHT?? TEL:L ME YOU”RE KIDDING. THAT”S A GOOD ONE!!!! BWAH AHA HAAAAAAA!” …… end then exit.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[Anonymous 42]

Make sure when she cums in the men’s room it’s from the insertion of the Oneforfreedom pole! (latex painted of course).
Any female that goes into a men’s room has ZERO f~~~ing class! She’s a pig, and her bf is a fool! That relationship will last about as long as a loaf of bread! Get a rubber dispenser JUST FOR HER! And tell her so!

Hey everyone, there’s a new cum toilet under the condom dispenser! A dollar for the rubber, the suppository is warm and FREE!

Throw a weight bench in there, and modify the bar holders with ankle stirrups! I’m sure she’ll make her bf watch, then make him thank you for satisfying her, that’s the feminist way!

Trust me, any chick that would go in a men’s room, would also bend over and get plowed behind a filthy garbage dumpster!

They say I have no respect for women, what they don’t say or understand themselves is that respect is earned!!!

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